One Mom’s Journey from Fat to Skinny to Confident


Weekend Quote: Live the Life You Want

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I’m so glad I saw this quote today. (for the life of me I can’t remember where. I just copied and pasted when it caught my attention.) I don’t know who said it. A quick google search reveals many variations and no authors. Regardless, it grabbed me…

Live the life you want to live. Be the person you want to remember. Make decisions. Make mistakes. If you fall, at least you tried.

It’s fitting for me at the moment. Confident and decisive are two things I’m getting more and more comfortable with but it wasn’t always that way.

Not too long ago I wasn’t living the live I wanted to live. I was forgettable. Indecisive. And afraid to make mistakes.

Interesting enough, confidence didn’t come with the weight loss. Weight loss came with the confidence.

I used to think “dieting” would get me thin and thin would get me the life I wanted. I focused on what I COULDN’T eat, what I COULDN’T wear, what I COULDN’T do UNTIL “thin” happened.

Funny thing… all I needed to do was start. No more waiting. No more wishing I was thin. I just needed to live my damn life. The life I wanted, not the one I thought I was stuck with because I was fat.

It’s amazing how opposite my thinking was.

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    Melissa (@MelGetsFit)

    August 13, 2010

    Words cannot express just how much I *love* this post! It was exactly what I needed to hear right now.


    August 13, 2010

    Before you posted this, about 20 minutes ago I googled ‘how to get motivated to exercise’ and ‘how to get motivated to lose weight.’ I am tired, just plain tired of feeling like crap mentally and physically. I lost 75 lbs. 7 years ago and have put back on 50 of it. I hate this fact about myself that I couldn’t keep it off. I hate failure.

    Maybe what I really needed to read was your quote. It’s got me thinking now….I’m grabbing a notebook an writing down what type of life I want and how I’m gonna get there.

    Thanks, I needed that. :)


    August 13, 2010

    Roni, this quote came at EXACTLY the right time! i’ve been unemployed since I graduated about 8 months ago and down in the dumps. So i decided to open my own little jewelry business and sell on (check out etsy guys, its awesome!) anyway, I have little nagging doubts in my head as I try to start this journey (while I also stay motivated to keep looking for work and to try to lose weight for my wedding next year!). Anyway… thanks Roni.. i’m gonna put this on my cell phone’s screensaver :)


    August 13, 2010

    Beatiful thought. I’m gonna quote Tom Venuto, who said (well, wrote) something like this: “There is no shame in trying a way to accomplish your goals and failing. You just learned a way that doesn’t work. So try a different approach, don’t keep doing the same non-working way”.


    August 13, 2010

    Thanks for this timely post, Roni. I have been sitting here tonight thinking about what kind of a crash diet I could do for a few days. Dumb idea–it always backfires! I have always heard that it’s all about changing your lifestyle. This was a good reminder.


    August 14, 2010

    This quote just inspired me to do something that scares me…I have always told myself that because I am so fat (which isn’t really true; I am not actually fat, but that is a whole other issue) I do not deserve to be loved. It takes me so long to open up to people — I have a few close, wonderful female friends, but have never been able to open up to or get close to men.

    But now I feel inspired to stand up for myself, assert myself, and just say hello a bit more. I don’t need to be that girl hiding in the corner at every single event. My therapist once said to me, “and how exactly will you be different when you weigh ten pounds less?” So true. I am who I am now, and quite frankly, I kinda like me.

    Thanks for this post!

    I second these other comments: Just what I needed to hear. I’m going to try to work on cultivating that attitude: Live the life you want and everything else will fall into place.


    August 14, 2010

    Good advice Roni! I like to focus on what I can eat, how I can exercise, what I can do. The “I can do” list far out weighs the I can’t list!

    Julie - Big Girl Bombshell

    August 14, 2010

    Yep…Yep…Live the Life you want…that confidence slowly builds as you DISCOVER what it is you want! Thanks Roni

    Cynthia (It All Changes)

    August 14, 2010

    I hated the constant feeling of I couldn’t eat this and that. This quote sums up my new mentality. I eat for me and to enjoy life. And it is so much better now.

    I love how you wrote —

    ‘Interesting enough, confidence didn’t come with the weight loss. Weight loss came with the confidence.’

    Don’t you just love stepping in to your authentic self?


    August 14, 2010

    Great quote. Very timely and very true.


    August 14, 2010

    Some seriously good thoughts. So much truth. I myself have finally realized how much time I’ve lost waiting until I reached that goal. Now I live and continue toward my goal. This time things are really working out for me. I think I will be successful.


    August 15, 2010

    Do you think what allowed your weight loss was that you dove in with a few activities, despite low-ish self-esteem, and the accomplishments that resulted from those early activities boosted your self-esteem, which helped you to keep going? I’m kind of thinking that a person cannot will herself into self-esteem or confidence, but that those things come with accomplishments.


    August 16, 2010

    Katherine… Yes yes yes. a million times YES!! It’s actually something I talk about all the time.

    I made the decision that the weight needed to come on MY terms. At that time I didn’t work out and that was OK. I didn’t try to be someone I wasn’t and I relieved myself of the pressure of being perfect in all areas. Small goals… small changes and I’ll say this to my dying say… goal achievement is contagious. Not to mention confidence building.

    Jenn @ Watch My Butt Shrink

    August 16, 2010

    Thank you – I LOVE this!!!

    Yum Yucky

    August 16, 2010

    yes Yes YES! I love this perspective. I’m going to get some poster board and put that quote on my bedroom wall. Funny thing, I’m loving my life more NOW than when I was in my twenties, gorgeous-thin and could eat whatever I wanted. :)

    Kim (Imperfectly Perfect)

    August 18, 2010

    Roni- I’ve had your posts e-mailed to me daily for what seems like…forever, yet I’ve never commented. I can’t tell you how much this post struck such a chord with me that I just couldn’t stay quiet. I feel the exact same way.

    I wasted so many years of my life waiting for things to be just right so that I could live my life. I too have found that once I started “living” my weight naturally came more into balance. Yes, I still have struggles and I most likely will for the rest of my life, but at least I can say that I’m finally enjoying life and I can see all the wonderful that surrounds us on a daily basis, instead of always focusing on the negative or waiting to be able to enjoy what I see others enjoying.

    I’m so happy that you gave yourself that initial push to start living. You are such an inspiration and I wish you much happiness and good health always.

    Amy Reinecke

    August 20, 2010

    Thanks for this post, truly amazing! I even posted the quote as my facebook status because I love it so much. I think we all need a reminder at times to be appreciative of the life we’ve been given instead of always wishing for something else!


    August 21, 2010

    Wow. I have no words. But I needed to here this. Thank you SO MUCH.


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