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Pregnancy and Weight Gain and the Secret to Weight Loss

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A friend asked me over the weekend if I was afraid of regaining back all the weight now that I’m pregnant. I actually surprised myself with the answer.

I immediately said, "No."

Sure I’m going to gain weight. I’m pregnant! I already have gained weight. You are suppose to gain weight. My body is going to change and grow and stretch and support a new life. It’s an amazingly wonderful miracle and I don’t think you truly understand it until you have a child of you own.

The way I see it, I have a choice. I can stress and obsesses about every little thing I put in my mouth and every little ounce the scale goes up OR I can embrace the fact that my body has a higher purpose at the moment. It’s not about me or how I look in a bathing suit. It’s about bringing a new, amazing life into the world.

So I’m going to do what I’ve been doing for the last 5 years. I’m going to live the life I want to live. Nourish my body and soul the best way I know how. Eat good healthy food. Enjoy the little things. And give this little being the best chance I can. After all, it didn’t ask to come into this world. I made that conscious decision and I owe it to him/her to do so.

As for the weight I will gain. I have no doubt that after the baby is born I’ll lose it because just like Jasmine, I know the Secret to Weight Loss. ;)



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There are 26 comments so far.

    Sana

    August 30, 2010

    You are amazing :) Being a mom has to be the best job ever!

    Elaine Huckabay

    August 30, 2010

    Amen! I hope that you will continue to support the healthy pregnancy/weight gain/body image many, many times on your blog over the next 7 months. It’s so important for women to know that the baby comes first – being pregnant is the very definition of “sexy”…..because, well, it’s the result of sex, lol! Our culture is too harsh on women (remember when Britney got called all sorts of names with her 2nd boy?). The more you can give a message of healthy body image during pregnancy, the better!!

    Tiger G

    August 30, 2010

    When I think of the amazing thing my body has done through being pregnant, I feel a little guilty hating how my skin hangs, how my boobs droop, all the stretch marks. It’s like a battle wound but I wouldn’t trade any of it for the beautiful boys I have. I’m pregnant again and really trying to be mindful. It’s too easy to just say “Oh, I’m pregnant” and binge. And it doesn’t help that everyone around justifies it. I’m trying my best to avoid another 70-80 lb gestational diabetic weight gain. I remind myself “if I eat that ice cream bar, that I REALLY don’t need, it’s just 300 calories I’m gonna have to work off after I have the baby.” I love your attitude Roni and I’m SO happy for you!!!

    Bridget@PavementandPlants

    August 30, 2010

    I love this!! My sister was so self conscious when she was pregnant and it was so sad. She missed out on the beauty of it all.
    You will not regret one minute of it!

    Jasmine @ Eat Move Write

    August 30, 2010

    I love what you said about your baby not asking to come into this world. I struggle with the idea of gaining weight in pregnancy. (My hubby and I are trying to get pregnant.) You have such a good point. Gaining weight for the sake of creating a child is really a very small price to pay. Thanks for the shout-out, too. :)

    Lissa

    August 30, 2010

    Love this post and I’ve been blogging about this same topic since I announced my pregnancy, and I’m 24 weeks now and sonce i gainedc a littje pre-pg, I’m getting closer to my pre WW weight and you know what?? I’m ok with it!! Go you!

    Josie- Skinny Way Of Life

    August 30, 2010

    Amen to that sister!

    Krista S.

    August 30, 2010

    LOVE LOVE!!

    abby

    August 31, 2010

    you have so evolved so much for the positive that is over the last several years. thanks for sharing and for setting down some stepping stones for allowing my own evolution!!!!

    Heather

    August 31, 2010

    Hi Roni,

    I was on WW for almost a year and half before I got pregnant with my daughter (now 2) and when I went back (about 5 weeks or so after her birth) I had only gained 30 lbs (due to learning all the tips from WW sure I went out to eat and got whatever I wanted but I didn’t go crazy!) :) I am about 6lbs from my goal now and I am psyched…all I gotta say is it is very tough to lose the last 10 lbs especially now with have a 2 year old in the house! Not sure if you could say the same with Ryan (when he was much younger or not)…have a great pregnancy and good luck! :)

    Karen

    August 31, 2010

    I craved some horribly unhealthy food during my pregnancies. Like those little packaged donuts with sugar on them, and Funyons, and bologna sandwiches! Yuck.

    Pegi

    August 31, 2010

    Praying for good health for you and your new little one.
    Blessings to you…

    MaryB

    August 31, 2010

    Love love love this post!

    liz

    August 31, 2010

    i love your attitude and am so happy for you!

    Jen @ KUrunner

    August 31, 2010

    Word.

    With my first baby, I took eating for two literally. I didn’t work out. I indulged in every single craving I had. I gained 49 lbs. With baby #2, I said not again. I’m going to run. I’m going to eat right. I gained 49 lbs.

    WTF?

    But, it’s just weight. It took 6 months, but I lost it. Now that we are trying for Baby #3, I’m sure I’ll gain yet another 49 lbs. And you know what? I’ll lose that too!

    Sarah (Fat Little Legs)

    August 31, 2010

    I want to say thank you for writing this. I have just recently made it to my Weight Watchers goal weight, after taking the past 2 years to lose 106.4 pounds! I am so excited, but I am scared too, as now that I’m to my goal our next step is trying to have another baby. It is one of the main reasons I lost all this weight in the first place. I am so so scared though… scared of gaining weight when I’m pregnant even though I know I have to. Scared of eating out of control, scared of not have the weight watchers meetings to support me (they toss you out once they know you are pregnant). But you know what? After reading your post I realized that I know how to treat my body, I know how to eat healthy, and there is no reason for me to be so afraid.

    Tiger G

    August 31, 2010

    @ Sarah – I got a note from my doctor saying I could follow the WW plan while pregnant so the WW people let me stay and go to meetings. I weigh in but just to see how much I gained. I set a weight gain goal and am just tracking it. You should ask your doctor about it.

    Angie All The Way

    August 31, 2010

    Great attitude Roni, it’s that attitude that will keep your pregnancy weight gain healthy and in check. I think I let the worry of it drive the scale up wayyyy higher than it would have been otherwise. Now that my beautiful son is finally here, I realize the worrying about weight gain actually was the thing that sabotaged my initial good intentions and was not only my worst enemy that was the root cause of letting it happen but it seems now so trivial in the grand scheme which is a huge surprise to me considering my weight loss and weight loss success truly was “the” thing in my life until now.

    I am ready to lose weight again once I hit 6 wks post partum and while I know it will be more challenging with a little one, I’m really excited about incorporating both into my life – just like you did! ;-) I already feel like if I was able to lose 130 lbs “before” I already “know how” so it’s just a matter of adapting it to involve my son and while it will be difficult to balance both, I have a new perspective as to whom my audience is and to whom exactly I am setting the example makes it seem that much more important.

    Said like a well-rounded, confident gal, I like it, I like it!

    Michelle Arnesen

    August 31, 2010

    Hi Roni!

    I’m a big fan. Thanks for all you do and best of luck to you in your new personal and professional adventures!

    I’m 14 weeks now. I am the “health nut” of my family and at work. I’m sure if this is happening to me, this is happening or soon will happen to you as well. You can think of these people as the diet saboteurs of the pregnancy world.

    I plan on gaining the recommended 25-35 pounds during pregnancy in a healthy, active way. I have given in to some of my pregnancy cravings more quickly now than I have in the past. But, when I overindulge, I just do not feel well. My body is not used to processed chemical-laden junk like it used to be. However, several people have told me that I need to be more relaxed, enjoy this time in my life when I don’t have to watch what I eat and I should give myself permission to overindulge. That is exactly the line of reasoning that I do not want to fall into! Being pregnant does not give me an excuse to eat crap and get fat and unhealthy again. Doing so would not make me feel happy or content. In fact, it would make me feel unhealthy and lethargic. Not exactly the way I want my pregnant — and postpartum — life to be! I plan on being healthy and active throughout my pregnancy, postpartum period, and my children’s entire lives. Not because I’m forcing myself to do so, but because it makes me feel good and it’s the right thing to do!

    And, yes, it is healthy to train for and run a marathon while pregnant! You go girl!!!

    roni

    August 31, 2010

    Thanks Michelle!! :)

    Jen (Mama Rocks)

    August 31, 2010

    I gained 65 lbs with my first 2 pregnancies. I was very scared to gain the weight back when I was pregnant with #3. But I decided to handle like you are. I gained the 65 lbs. But I also lost it again. (and a tummy tuck!) :) It came off much slower this time, but it still came off.

    Danielle S

    August 31, 2010

    Funny I came here to post exactely what Jen (Mama Rocks) above me JUST typed. When I got preggo with my 1st 6 years ago I was working out, etc and then got the whole I am pregannt I can eat that mentality and gained 65lbs – I took off 75lbs 3 years later and then found out I was preggo with #2 – this time I stayed the path and worked out throughout the pregnancy, ate hrealrthy and like you said enjoyed the little things and STILL gained 65lbs – I think your bodsy will do what it wants and what it has to so dont worry – you will gain and you will take it off.

    My 2nd will be 2 the end of December and I am 17lbs away from my pre-pregnancy weight! It is slower this time around but hey its healhty and its happening!!

    Much luck and happiness!

    Danielle

    Tina

    August 31, 2010

    That attitude is what every pregnant woman needs to adopt. I firmly believe that bodies will gain what they need during pregnancy and we shouldn’t stress over it. And it DOES come off. I know I got in better shape than ever after my daughter and plan on getting back there after giving birth to my son. I know what it takes and know I will do it, so i don’t fret the pregnancy weight now. It’s about a healthy baby!

    D

    August 31, 2010

    Yah Roni, good for you! Be aware and be prepared but not anxious about it all. Enjoy your pregnancy! D

    Jenn@slim-shoppin

    September 2, 2010

    I made the mistake after losing 60 pounds at weight watchers and keeping it off for a year, that once I got pregnant with my 3rd baby, I went CRAZY! I was like, “I don’t have to count points, I can have a bag of M & M’s, a second helping, I’m pregnant!” Long story short, I gained it ALL back and she’s about to turn 9 and I still have only lost half!

    I know you can do it Ronni, because you’ve been living that lifestyle a LONG time! I’m so happy for you and your family!