I am seriously having a hard time getting into the groove of weight lose! I start my day with good intentions, mostly my only goal is to stay within my points but I have been failing horribly at it. I often will over eat and give up and then eat more. When you were losing weight did you ever have days like this? When you just stopped counting because you lost track and knew the points were too high? It really throws me off because I then don’t know where I am at with flex points. I am sure they are all gone, but the next day I just try to start fresh, with the flex points I start fresh again too. Does this make any sense? I am stuck and need to get past this phase… HELP!!
It make PERFECT SENSE! and yes, yes, yes I had days exactly as you describe and sometimes still do *cough* like yesterday. I’m not trying to lose but I still woke up with good intentions and before I knew it I was scoffing down double cheeseburgers and M&M McFlurries. It happens to the best of us, I don’t care how motivated you are to lose weight.
Here’s the only way I know how to combat this cycle.
Face it. Own it. Move on.
Too much of the weight loss process involves shame. Depending on your own personal situation you may even have a history of sneaking or hiding food, like I did. The only thing that helped me get over this and stop the "I’ll start Monday" insanity was by facing it, owning it and moving on.
When I had a day like you described I’d force myself to count. Yes.. force. It’s really easy to walk away and pretend it didn’t happen. I know, I did that for years. It didn’t really teach me anything or give me the skills needed maintain a weight loss.
Pretending it didn’t happen doesn’t make it go away. You did it. You ate it. Who cares! I mean, I know you care, but you have to start to change your mentality about the situation. By turning your back on the binge you are continuing the cycle. By facing it, you are showing it who’s boss. You are in control, not the food.
I found out a couple things by doing this…
- Sometimes it’s not as bad as you think. I had days where I faced my binge only to discover I didn’t even come close to using all my weekly points. If I would have thrown my hands up and stopped counting I would have given up for no reason at all.
- Even if it was as bad as I thought, counting it and knowing that my weekly points were gone but I could still could start fresh tomorrow with my daily allowance kept me on track. Isn’t this better then the alternative of just giving up completely? Which one will get you to your goal quicker?
All of this comes back to the concept of stateless dieting. The sooner we get over the on plan/off plan mentality the sooner we can stop self sabotaging. I know I pigged out more times then not in the name of being "off plan" simply because "on plan" didn’t start until Monday.
So Jillian, my advice to you is to not stop counting. Face it. Own it. Move on.