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20s vs. 30s

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Today is my birthday. My 6th 29th birthday to be exact. Who was it that said…

"Don’t trust anyone over 30"?

That always cracked me up, even when I was in my 20s. Don’t younger people realize they WILL be 30 one day. I mean, if they are lucky enough to live that long.

I think being in my 30s is AWESOME! Some may hold on to their youth but I’m a completely different person then my younger self…

That’s me on my 25th birthday in 2001 (I could not find one birthday photo of myself from 2000, I was at my heaviest then and not really into getting photographed) and me last night showing off a new dress I bought at the beach for facebook.

Besides the weight differences I see two completely different people in those pictures. My mid 20s were filled with self-doubt, insecurities, low self esteem, and self pity. I was preoccupied with trying to lower the number on the scale but not really willing to make the necessary lifestyle changes to sustain a weight loss. I took extreme unhealthy measures to try to lose weight. I wore nothing but oversized t-shirts and mens jeans to hide my body. I didn’t really DO anything except watch TV, go to the movies and eat out. Frankly, I was miserable.

My life is completely different now most notably in the DOing department. Now I DO things all the time. I run. I play. I dance. I take walks. I dabble in photography. I blog. I even fly kites. ;) I live an active lifestyle that maintains my weight and I try real hard to disconnect myself from some stupid number on some stupid scale. I’m all about living consciously and balanced. I may still have a smidgen of self-doubt but with every passing year is gets smaller and smaller. I am happy. Actually….. I’m happier then happy. I am content with who I am. <--- wow.. it took me a long time to get there.

I let my 20s fly right by me wasting too much time feeling sorry for myself. I refuse to do the same in my 30s. I’m four years in and taking life by the horns. Who’s with me?



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    jen (@jeninRL)

    July 24, 2010

    Happy Birthday!!!
    You are beautiful in both pictures but in the first picture your eyes are screaming “hurry up and take the damn picture!” and in the second you are all, “hello, I am here and I am Roni!”

    You look great (inside & out)!!

    much love, XOX

    Stacy Reno

    July 24, 2010

    Love it! I am 6 yrs into my 30’s & well on my way to being more satisfied & content. Sure would like to tell the 20 something me a thing or 2! Happy Birthday!

    Suzanne

    July 24, 2010

    Happy Birthday!! You’re fabulous at any age!

    Jan

    July 24, 2010

    Awesome post! Happy Birthday!

    Alicia at Poise in Parma

    July 24, 2010

    Wow, this post makes me want to turn 30 now! You wrote that your 20s were filled with “self-doubt, insecurities, low self esteem, and self pity” – I’ve been steeped in those lately. I just turned 27, just made my first appointment to see an therapist specializing in ED (it’s Monday – AHH!), and am refusing to live in those emotions any longer.

    BTW that dress is fab. Enjoy your day!

    Marisa @Loser for Life

    July 24, 2010

    Happy Birthday, Roni!!! You look fantastic!!!

    Becky

    July 24, 2010

    This blog hit me in the heart hard! I’ll be 32 in Sept and i’m 25 lbs over my ideal weight. In my 20’s i always wanted to loose weight and i got to my ideal weight for a while, and even looked gorgeous for a friends wedding, but then i put the weight back on, and haven’t really been able to loose it since. I know what i have to do, but i never get motivated to do it. Now i’ m in the process of moving cross country, changing positions at my job, going from a work at home to a work in the office type of position. My son will be 1 in a few weeks and i wants to enjoy taking pictures with him, which i do NOT at this weight. I always said i wanted to get healthy/stay in my 30’s and not spend all the years i did in my 20’s wanting to be thin, but actually being it, or i will just be satisfied with my size 12/14 self, but i’m just dont’ want to be this weight anymore. Heavy heart!

    Emily

    July 24, 2010

    I’m there with you! and HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
    I’m 33 (and a half – haha) and if I look back at 23 or 25- I was so lost. I was REALLY unhealthy (I’ve got a long way to go now, but I’m 300x more healthy now then I was then) between the weight, drinking, unhealthy eating- lazy lifestyle and depression.

    I know who *I* am now- and that makes enjoying life so much easier. I’m actually looking forward to my 40s for that exact reason- and reaping the benefits of the healthy lifestyle I’m creating now.

    Nicole

    July 24, 2010

    Happy Birthday Roni!
    I couldn’t have written this better myself! Go and live your BEST life! You are truly an inspiration to all of us!

    Sunny

    July 24, 2010

    Happy Birthday Ron! You are wonderful.

    Skinny Sushi

    July 24, 2010

    Happy Birthday!!! I love the new dress, so pretty.

    Carla

    July 24, 2010

    Happy Birthday, Roni!! I will be 34 next month and I feel like I have finally turned that corner too (definitely not there yet…but headed in the right direction). Your post is a perfect reminder not to spend another decade unhappy…and that I need to claim happiness today! Thanks and have a great day!

    Cynthia (It All Changes)

    July 24, 2010

    First off Happy Birthday!

    Secondly did you reach into my head and write my post. I’m not quite 30 but honestly at 28.75 I am more me than I was at 20 and I only see that getting better. Who says getting older has to be bad?

    Happy Birthday Roni! My 30’s are long over…but each decade gets better and better!

    Marilou

    July 24, 2010

    Happy Birthday Roni! You are a fabulous woman who deserves to be happy and proud about who she is, and who she’d become!

    If 40 is the new 20 anyway, aren’t you just a puppy? :)

    Have a blast!

    Courtney

    July 24, 2010

    Happy Birthday! I think you look fabulous in both photos but I understand what you mean in your post. Love the new dress!

    MizFit

    July 24, 2010

    happy happy happy

    both birthday and HOW YOU LOOK from the inside out.

    xo xo

    Reese

    July 24, 2010

    “I may still have a smidgen” Roni I read the first part of this sentence and had to laugh..before I continued on to read the whole sentence.. I was thinking about the Smidgens..yes the chocolate ones w/ peanut butter..that you so kindly introduced me to a year + ago..But like you, I can have one or two and be satisfied..and like you I am so happy, content and thankful for where I am today. HAPPY BIRTHDAY..I’m right behind you fellow Leo! Have a WONDERFUL birthday with the husband and the kid..:)

    Paula

    July 24, 2010

    HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!
    You look wonderful & happy. I am finally getting that too. At least you learned it so you can enjoy life longer.

    Jean

    July 24, 2010

    happy birthday!!! what an awesome entry. it gets me to reflect on my own life.. damn, i love your honesty.

    you look fantastic, by the way.

    steph k

    July 24, 2010

    Happy Birthday!! I am just barely into my 30s (only 30 to be exact!) and I already love it so much more than my 20s! It’s taken me this long to decide that I CAN take control of my life! Hooray!

    Elaine Huckabay

    July 24, 2010

    Happy birthday!!!

    tj

    July 24, 2010

    I am with ya! I am older but WAY better now! :)

    HAPPY BIRTHDAY! :)

    Kim

    July 24, 2010

    Happy Birthday Roni! You look so cute in the dress! My 30’s totally rocked! I felt I really came into my own, felt more comfortable in my own skin, cared less what other thought, etc., well let me tell you now, it continues to get better in your 40’s! Who’s with ME??

    Jim

    July 24, 2010

    Happy Birthday! Things only continue t0 improve in your 30’s, I promise. I’ll let you know about the 40’s. ;)

    Michelle

    July 24, 2010

    Happy birthday! I hope I have the same outlook when I reach the big 3-0 next year. My twenties have been a bit insecure and I hope I can reach that level peace that you have. :)

    Lynette S

    July 24, 2010

    Happy Birthday Roni ~ you have been such an inspiration and i truly hope you have a wonderful day! I agree with you whole heartedly, i love my 30’s!!

    Karen@WaistingTime

    July 24, 2010

    Happy birthday! I’m with you, but since I am older, I am thinking that the late 40s are going to be great. And, like Oprah, I am planning (in a few years yet) to be fabulous at 50!

    Patty

    July 24, 2010

    Happy Birthday! You sound so totally together. I turned 40 this past winter and felt a certain freedom, I really no longer care what other people think, life is way too short for that. Glad you got there sooner. Have a great day.

    Michelle @Eatingjourney

    July 24, 2010

    Happy Birthday Lovely!

    Sandy

    July 24, 2010

    So glad you are living life now! I am mid 50s! and as fit and happy as I have ever been. I am walking, biking, weight lifiting, doing yoga and pilates and dancing like a fool at jazzercise 3X a week. I am down to my high school weight and much more fit and healthy. I am planning to live like this into my 90s. I dreaded the empty nest for years and now that I have one I have time to make playing and working out my full time job. I’ve got 4 out of town friends coming for a pool party and girl’s week at my house this week. Keep up the good work and enjoy every passing year.

    Happy Birthday!!!! :) I just turned 30 this year, I’m in the best shape of my life and all my friends say that I make 30 look good. I say, bring it on! :)

    mary

    July 24, 2010

    hoping you have a wonderful birthday! and honestly, i am glad that you lived the life you did and achieved all the things you did and didn’t…they all add up to a wonderful you who came into my life at the right time…thank you for your inspiration, unintentional guidance, and acceptance (even tho we’ve never met). it’s funny how someone you have NO relationship with can become such an integral part of your life. but your blog is like home to me, and i am very grateful to have it in my life. celebrate today with abandon Roni…you truly are a wonder to behold!

    Krista S.

    July 24, 2010

    Happy Birthday, Roni!!! ♥

    HAPPY HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!! I am a few months away from 40 and I feel the exact same way…

    Melissa

    July 24, 2010

    Happy Birthday! I was told by my sister that 40 was the hardest birthday. That it would make me feel miserable! I am 41 and honestly I feel and act like I am 28. I too am much more content now than when I was in my 20’s and I am pretty weird because I look forward to tomorrow. I do look forward to getting older and I try to do the “right” things to make sure that I will be in good health to enjoy it. Age is just a number that people use to limit themselves anyway! I just choose not to do that.

    Kath

    July 24, 2010

    Happy Birthday Roni!

    Lori

    July 24, 2010

    Happy Birthday!!

    I am in total agreement with you. I am so much more comfortable in my skin in my 30s than I ever was in my 20s. I don’t worry about what everyone else sees when they look at me; I like the way I feel about myself. I am doing things now I never though I could do and it feels wonderful.

    Tanya

    July 24, 2010

    Happy happy birthday my internet friend!

    Thank you for everything you do and for all your support and love!

    Amy

    July 24, 2010

    Happy Birthday Roni!!
    Thank-you so much for all that you do!
    Love ya,
    Amy

    Thea @ I'm a Drama Mama

    July 24, 2010

    A very happy birthday to you! and you’re right, being 34 is going to rock our socks off!

    GO LEO!

    Dee

    July 24, 2010

    Hey…sounds like you’ve had a super-great day and you deserve it!!! I’m celebrating my 2nd 40th birthday in a few weeks…
    Thanks for all you do to help remind us all that a number does not define who we are or what we’re worth! Happy, happy birthday!

    Aimee

    July 24, 2010

    Happy Birthday Roni! Your attitude and positive outlook are contagious. Have a wonderful birthday.

    Melissa

    July 24, 2010

    I’M WITH YA!!!! Happy Birthday:) In a few weeks it’ll be my 5 annual 29th Birthday.

    Jenn (GH)

    July 25, 2010

    LOVED this post! Happy Birthday Roni!!!!

    Arlene

    July 25, 2010

    Happy birthday … so inspiring, as usual. I turn 39 in October. Started Atkins (my first sustained weight loss) at 32. Been battling since I fell off the low-carb wagon at 34.

    Tammy

    July 25, 2010

    I am 20 years into my 30’s and just went into my first bouncy house with my teenage daughter and her friends yesterday. Life is meant to be lived and I will not waste the second half of mine! No matter my shape right now! Happy Birthday Roni! Thank you for sharing your beautiful self with us!

    Jenn@slim-shoppin

    July 25, 2010

    Happy Birthday Roni!!! I love the new dress you got, so cute!!!

    I’m in my early 40’s and still feel like I’m in my 20’s, so I think age is all relative!

    Mary (A Merry Life)

    July 25, 2010

    I’m like you. I’m in no way scared to be in my thirties like some people my age (24). I think it’s weird because the 30s sound like the best time!

    Glad you had a great birthday! :)

    HAPPY BIRTH DAY!!!!!!!!!
    you looks gorgeous in that suit

    Martha

    July 25, 2010

    Happy Birthday! You look vibrant and gorgeous. When you are eating well, taking care of yourself, and loving life, it just keeps getting better! I am 47 and this is the best time of my life :-)

    irina

    July 25, 2010

    Happy birthday and all the best in the years to come… I like my 30’s too :-).

    dixie

    July 25, 2010

    Happy Birthday!! You are beautiful. I too am taking the bull by the horns. The last 30 years have passed me by. No more! Today, the last day of year 52 I will stop feeling sorry for myself and begin to change my outlook so I can become who I was created to be. Just who that is, I don’t know. I do know it’s not the person I am today.

    Ortal

    July 26, 2010

    happy belated birthday :) This is a really cute artical, and really keeps me motivated. Im 23 and Id really like to not spend these prime years worried about my weight. Im 40# down, 20# to go, and I want to reach that soon so i can live my life to the fullest. Thanks again Roni!

    roni

    July 26, 2010

    AAAACK! Ortal! You are missing the point!! And I don’t mean to pick on your or make fun.

    You need live life to the fullest NOW not after you lose 20lbs. Putting off your happiness for some number on some stupid scale is part of the problem. There is nothing wrong with having weight loss goals but there is everything wrong with letting your current weight dictate your self worth and prevent you from living the life you want to live.

    I’m not DOing things now because I lost the weight. I starting DOing things first and the weight loss was a bi-product. Does that make sense?

    Kelly

    July 26, 2010

    Happy birthday! I am with you- in my 5th decade now and loving life more every year :)

    SeattleRunnerGirl

    July 26, 2010

    From one 34-year-old to another…AMEN, sister! Happy birthday and happy you!

    Me! I’m in! I turned 31 in May and I’m loving my 30s. Aside from losing weight and getting healthier, I am really and truly having more fun!

    Happy Birthday!!

    Rachelino

    July 28, 2010

    Happy Birthday Roni!! I haven’t been in a while and stopped by, and your hair is totally adorable! Love it! And you are one hot mama in that dress. I almost got a little misty because I also “let my 20s fly right by me wasting too much time feeling sorry for myself” but I am taking life by the horns now, and won’t waste any more time.

    Rachelino

    July 28, 2010

    P.S. I am 32~

    BigTickles

    July 29, 2010

    O-M-G!!!! I missed your birthday….bad bad bad girl (as I slap my hand). I hope it was everything you dreamed of.

    I swear you are my soul sista … I see myself in you. You are such an inspiration — sigh…

    BTW – I am 35.

    Sara

    August 2, 2010

    I really needed to read this right now. I’m 28 years old and the exact description of yourself when you were in your 20s. I hate it. Although I’m getting married in, uh, 34 days I’m not happy with m-e. My fiance is wonderful, I’m excited to marry the man I love, continue working on the house that we purchased almost a year ago and eventually have children, but me, myself, it stinks. I actually just wrote a small blurb on my other blog about this feeling I’m having: http://www.theycallmecurlysue.wordpress.com
    But I just wanted to say thank you and I’m saving this in my Google Reader—p.s. that dress looks fabulous!!