Have you seen The Daily Motivator? It’s a daily site/email written by Ralph Marston meant to inspire and motivate. I don’t subscribe but I usually stumble across it every few months. His writings are short, concise and normally get me thinking. As a blogger I also find him to be completely inspirational. He’s been publishing his content online way before the word “blog” even existed. A man way ahead of his time.
I was perusing his archives and I came across "I wish…" As someone who spent 15 years wishing she was thin, this really spoke to me…
I wish I was… I wish I had… I wish I could… I wish I knew…
Do you ever wish? What do you wish for? What happens when you wish? Not much, except that you remind yourself of the desirable things you do not have. Unless you have a magic genie in a lamp, wishing does not make anything happen.
In fact, wishing often prevents us from getting our wish. "I wish I could lose weight," we think, as we scoop out another bowl full of ice cream. "I wish I could afford a new car" we think, as we waste another ten dollars on lottery tickets. To the degree that "wishing" makes our current undesirable situation more tolerable, it prevents us from taking the actions necessary to improve things.
Stop wishing and start living. Do your dream. Make the specific plans, and take the effective actions necessary to achieve the life you desire. The next time you find yourself wishing, stop and think, "What can I do right now that will begin to make it so?" Wishing won’t make it happen. However, YOU can make it happen.
— Ralph Marston