One Mom’s Journey from Fat to Skinny to Confident


Weekend Quote: I Wish

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Have you seen The Daily Motivator? It’s a daily site/email written by Ralph Marston meant to inspire and motivate. I don’t subscribe but I usually stumble across it every few months. His writings are short, concise and normally get me thinking. As a blogger I also find him to be completely inspirational. He’s been publishing his content online way before the word “blog” even existed. A man way ahead of his time.

I was perusing his archives and I came across "I wish…" As someone who spent 15 years wishing she was thin, this really spoke to me…

I wish I was… I wish I had… I wish I could… I wish I knew…

Do you ever wish? What do you wish for? What happens when you wish? Not much, except that you remind yourself of the desirable things you do not have. Unless you have a magic genie in a lamp, wishing does not make anything happen.

In fact, wishing often prevents us from getting our wish. "I wish I could lose weight," we think, as we scoop out another bowl full of ice cream. "I wish I could afford a new car" we think, as we waste another ten dollars on lottery tickets. To the degree that "wishing" makes our current undesirable situation more tolerable, it prevents us from taking the actions necessary to improve things.

Stop wishing and start living. Do your dream. Make the specific plans, and take the effective actions necessary to achieve the life you desire. The next time you find yourself wishing, stop and think, "What can I do right now that will begin to make it so?" Wishing won’t make it happen. However, YOU can make it happen.

— Ralph Marston

LOVE that!

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    June 18, 2010

    That is such a great quote! I used to say, “I wish I was skinny” and “I’d be happy if I lost weight”. After way too many years of saying “I wish” I did something about it! Now “I wish” it hadn’t taken me so long to do!

    Mad Woman

    June 19, 2010

    LOVE IT! And I’m definitely going to try and stop saying “I Wish” and start saying “I’m going to…..”


    June 19, 2010

    I felt lucky after reading that. I get the “I wish” thing, but for me it was more like “I bet it could better if would be *fill the blank*. Skinnier, more muscular, more anything. Thanksfully I got to all those things, as I was, but I still thought the “I bet i could be better if..”. I guess I’ll never know.


    June 19, 2010

    Now that is something to think on. It is so true. Waiting for things to happen or making them happen. I have wished to be thin so often that if I had a penny….but I have taken control and am finally making it happen. It is not happening overnight, but I am on my way. Reading this just motivates me even more.


    June 19, 2010

    So true! I love this, I’m so glad you posted it:)


    June 19, 2010

    Great quote. I spend way too much time worrying about the future. And although I am taking steps towards the future I want, I am still worrying, but learning to love the journey too.


    June 20, 2010

    I like to change “I wish…” to “I strongly prefer to…” That tends to take the edge off the message my brain receives when I say “I wish…” which is, of course, that somehow I am not enough right now. I would take his idea one step further and say that the goal is to love and appreciate and value what I have right now, which is the only way I will be free to get the things I “strongly prefer”. :) Easier said than done.


    June 20, 2010

    Love this. I especially love how he said “Do your dream.” What a concrete and real way to think about it.


    June 23, 2010

    This is such a powerful message put so simply. I copied it down into my journal and when my hand copied the sentence “To the degree that ‘wishing’ makes our current undesirable situation more tolerable, it prevents us from taking the actions necessary to improve things” it resonated with me so strongly that I got goosebumps. I have been putting my energy into the wrong place and, indeed, it is time to stop wishing and start doing. This has blessed me today; thank you so much for sharing it! :)