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Quick AskRoni: Weight Not Coming off Fast Enough?!?

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I got this email from LeeAnn today and I had to answer real quick. Yes I realize I have not answered about a BILLION AskRoni’s yet (I will.. I promise… you’ll just have to give me more time, I hope to do a podcast next week) but there was something about this one that struck me as I know many people have this motivated gung-ho feeling in the beginning and then something happens. The weight loss is too slow, for example like with LeeAnn. . .

RONI! I am SO thankful for you and your site – you inspired me to get back OP!! I started WW last Friday weighed in at 169.5 – it’s ALMOST a week later (tomorrow) I am only at 167.0 :( I have been counting my points went over 1 day (used 8 flex), and running (i’m a runner) all week. 3-4 miles a day. I know when I did this before the 1st weigh in was like 5 lbs. I guess I was expecting a lot more than 2.5 – do you think running has something to do with it? I am finally back on track and sticking with it. I don’t want to let a 2.5 weight loss discourage me, just because I thought it would be more. I am almost 30 too so MAYBE now it’s going to take longer to lose. My lowest weight was 130, I’m 5’7 .. so I am desperate to get this weight off. Please give me any insisted.

Thanks!

Hi LeeAnn!

Only? ONLY?!? God do I hate that word. Don’t do that you yourself and don’t get discouraged! Let the weight come off in its own time and it will more then likely stay that way! Just keep reminding yourself of that.

Remember.. even though you want "the weight gone" this is a lifestyle change FOREVER. It can’t just be about getting to a number on the scale… it HAS to be more then that.

Congrats on the loss but don’t depend on that scale too too much. Keep up the healthy choices and don’t consider dipping into your weekly flex as “going over.” Use the points to teach you how to balance your meals, especially since you are running so much.

One day at a time, make the best choices you can without guilt or shame and stay active. That’s been my philosophy for almost 5 years now and it’s serving me quite well. ;)

Does anyone else have advice for LeeAnn? She’s expressed feeling I know I’ve had and many of you may have experienced as well. How do we get past the number on the scale and adopt that healthy lifestyle, stateless dieting mentality without getting discouraged?



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    Nicole P

    March 11, 2010

    Ok- when you are at a lower weight closer to your ideal weight (as you are i’m assuming you are probably anywhere from 10-40 lbs away depending on your bmi and all) the weight comes off slower, it’s just a fact of life. I also think that running is probably helping your body get stronger and when this happens weight loss slows too- however what I would watch if I were you is how my clothes were fitting. Sometimes your body changes when the number on the scale doesn’t. If you are eating right and exercising then the weight has no choice but to come off of you- it is science. So I wouldn’t worry so much about the number as I would about making sure I kept going. One day you will put on a pair of pants to realize that as you are walking through the grocery store they are falling lower and lower and then you’ll get to reward yourself with a shopping spree! I would say 2 lbs. in one week is superb! Keep it up.

    Jen (aka KUrunner)

    March 11, 2010

    First, losing 5 lbs in a week isn’t the same as losing 5 lbs of fat in a week. The recommended weight loss is no more than 2 lbs a week because much more than that and you are losing water and muscle, not fat. Any loss is great, but as you said, it has to be about more than just the scale.

    She doesn’t say if she’s eating her activity points, but if she’s running that much, she needs to be refueling her body. Maybe she’s not eating enough, especially if she only used 8 flex points.

    Michelle @ H.E.R.

    March 11, 2010

    geez, it’s only been one week!!! LeeAnn, Get serious about being healthy for the long term. throw out the scale. Eat less, move more, be positive and reduce stress. Enjoy being healthy and your weight will normalize slowly and forever.

    Mari Larkin

    March 11, 2010

    I would love to lose 2 pounds in a week. I have been stuck at the same weight for almost a month. It just won’t budge…but I am losing inches. ???

    Kim

    March 12, 2010

    Just remember that 2.5 pounds lost is taking you in the right direction and is better than 0 pounds lost and a heck of a lot betther than 2.5 pounds gained ;-) I have been doing WW since last April and reached my goal a couple of months ago. I lost 84 pounds and trust me I had some good weeks and I had some bad weeks…lol. I made the decision early on that I was NOT on a diet. I was changing my eating habits and it really didn’t matter how fast I lost the weight because I was going to stay OP for the rest of my life. This change in the way I thought about weight loss really helped me put things in perspective and not get discouraged when I didn’t lose as much as I thought I should have. The point is that you are closer than you were and next week you will be closer still. Don’t beat yourself up……2.5 pounds is AWESOME!!!!!!

    I lost 58 pounds in two years, recenlty a friend lost 30 pounds in less than 12 weeks. I was perplexed, discouraged, and even a little jealous – how does that happen? I worked hard, shaved 2 minutes off my mile, and and and and and…. and I realized that WHO CARES. I lost 58 pounds the way it worked for me, and my life. Some weeks I am dominated by the scale and other weeks I don’t care. Don’t get discouraged and do what works for you- 2.5 is a fantastic weight loss, some months that’s ALL I lost. The scale is just a hunk of metal (stole that from MizFits) it doesnt measure success, inches lost, or your positive momentum, don’t let it take all that away!

    Carolyn @ lovinlosing.com

    March 12, 2010

    2.5 lbs in less than a week is a fantastic weight loss! In order to make this a lifestyle change you need to be more focused on eating healthier and less on the scale. The weight loss will follow.

    I lost 30 lbs on weight watchers and kept it off for a long time. I think WW is a GREAT program, but after a while I got tired of counting points and it became a mental block. I gained back nearly 20 lbs. Now I’m losing it VERY gradually by just learning as I go. I’m nearly down 10 lbs so I’m halfway there. I feel more confident about this weight loss because I’m losing while just living my life normally.

    Amanda

    March 12, 2010

    As a veteran ww attendee, I have been on and off program more times than I care to say. Part of the problem is we are bombarded with images/ stories of extreme successes and then expect the same results. The Biggest Loser girl lost 9 pounds in a week…why can’t I? The celebrity who had twins yesterday looks better a week post-partum and I still have 40 pounds to lose.

    It is a set-up for disaster for the average jane who works, has kids etc.

    This time I walked through the door to meeting number 1 with one goal in mind. To lose 1-2 pounds a week. Funny thing about ww…that’s exactly what they say they can help you do ;)

    don’t allow the numbers to drive your success. Try to step back and look at the positive changes you made this week. And be proud of those. Great job on 2.5 pounds!!

    Paula

    March 12, 2010

    I’m with Amanda! I’ve lost count how many times I’ve joined ww. I’m 45 now and probably have 100 lbs to lose. I started following the program again on January 16, on my own, I know the program like the back of my hand by now. I decided, like Amanda, that 1 – 2 lbs was perfectly fine. That this was how I was going to eat now whether I’m losing weight or not, because I FEEL better when I’m eating healthy. I’m not groggy or lethargic. I don’t feel bloated, I’m sleeping great. It’s been 2 months. I’ve lost 20 lbs. That’s awesome, but, what’s even more awesome is how I feel from eating healthy. It will probably take me 2 – 3 years to get 100 lbs off. In fact, I’m ‘planning’ on it taking me 2 – 3 years. I’m not going to set myself up for losing 100 lbs in 6 months, then be disappointed when I don’t and start eating unhealthily again. So, I guess my advice is, pay attention to how you feel eating healthy. Don’t you feel better waking up after not overeating the night before? Didn’t you sleep better? Don’t you have more energy? It’s not even a choice anymore for me! And it’s only been 2 months! ps…Roni you ROCK and greenlitebites SAVED my life!

    Every time you mess up (and if you’re like me, you’ll mess up a lot) realize that you have a chance to learn something about yourself. Make it a quest to do everything that will make the weight come off, and then just worry about doing that. Not how much weight you actually lost.

    BeckyF

    March 12, 2010

    LeeAnn,

    First of all congrats on your 2.5 pounds! Be proud of it, it’s in the right direction, and it’s a great amount!

    Be proud of your running, too! There are people that can’t or won’t. 20 miles per week (mpw) is a lot, you have much going for you in fitness! I’m the about same height/weight and I average about 10mpw – and look forward to when I can do 20. Way to go!

    To be honest… if you’re eating minimum points, no FP, and no AP, you’re starving your hard-working body, and I’m surprised you got the 2.5 off. There are weeks – and I’ve read this with Roni, too – where I’ve eaten all my flex. I still lost. Roni still lost. You will still lose, too, if you eat more than just minimum points. Might seem scary at first, but you will be ok! Some people actually lose faster when bumping up their FP usage, there was a girl in my WW group that was that way. What you don’t want is your body going into survival mode because you’re not fueling it properly for burning so much… that can backfire in a lot of ways.

    There are safeties built into the WW system, and especially since you’re running respectable mileage like you are, you need to eat more. Even if you’re in the 11:00/mile range (that’s a 5.4 on the dreadmill), you’re burning about 100 calories/mile. WW will give you 1AP instead of 2. So even if you ate all your FP and all your AP, you will still be burning more than you’re eating, you will still lose weight.

    IOW, you could be adding 55+ points/week to your eating, and still lose. (20mpw+35FP)

    I like watching Biggest Loser; it’s crazy when people are losing 5-15 a week! But they also have dieticians and doctors that stand behind the camera monitoring every calorie in and out, blood work, and a ton of other factors. There have been contestants that haven’t lost weight because they’re not fueling, even though they’re moving so much all day, so even they have to worry about eating enough.

    If you’re nervous about adding too much in, at least eat your AP, and give yourself a break when you use your FP. You’ve earned more than all of those combined.

    Keep up the awesome work, and love your body!

    -Becky

    Beth

    March 12, 2010

    Congrats on the 2.5 lb weight loss! The problem is probably that the first time you did weight watchers, you were eating badly and not getting enough fluids/water. When you went off plan you were probably still conscious of drinking more and eating slightly better foods than you were before even though you were eating more. When you originally join…..that big whopping weight loss is water weight….it’s not real (well, it is but it isn’t).

    Your body has adjusted now and the weight loss will be healthy and normal. Be proud of those 2.5 lbs and anything that is a loss or maintanance!

    just my thoughts.

    March 12, 2010

    It is the “Biggest Loser” mentality. Everyone has to realize that it is unsafe and unreasonable to expect those kinds of loses. 2.5lbs is a fantastic number, but you see other people losing so much more, and it’s hard to be stoked by what they preceive as a minor weight loss. 2.5 is awesome! You might beat that some weeks, but i wouldn’t even expect that much every time. Keep at it. I think i read somewhere on this site, or somewhere else over my travels… you didn’t gain it over it night, so you really can’t expect to lose it over night!!!

    Alison

    March 12, 2010

    I also thought about “biggest loser”. I saw one last week where one of the guys was being grumpy about losing 5 pounds in a week. I was watching it while on my treadmill and had to LOL for real!

    Leann, try not to overanalyze anything. Doing that will get you into trouble. Do your best to focus on the lifestyle and not the numbers. Numbers are not under your control. What you eat, how you exercise, and the positive attitude are what you can control so focus on those.

    All this is easier said than done, I know! Hang in there :)

    Annalisa

    March 13, 2010

    LeAnn — hang in there! I think I spent last April and May working on a single pound. I lost inches but, no weight. It was extremely frustrating since I was getting married in August!

    I think when we first start/re-start weight loss, a 2 – 5 pound loss happens week 1. Then, the remaining weeks are likely between .5 and 1.5 pounds. It sucks. BUT — I’m guessing it took you longer than a week to gain the weight you want to lose?

    I think Roni said a while ago to “enjoy the process”. You run! You’re eating better! You probably felt better and slept better this week. Stay with it, give yourself room to live, and keep in mind it’s a marathon and not a sprint.

    Sancho

    March 13, 2010

    LeAnn, I’m going to join the chorus here. First, 2.5 lbs in the first week is excellent! You can’t start out being disappointed by this number, because there will be weeks when you’ll lose less than that.

    Long-term weight loss really is all about “Slow and Steady Wins the Race.” Setting unrealistic goals will only discourage you. I’ve learned this the hard way in previous diets. This time around I’m trying to lose 100 lbs, and like Paula (#9), I’ve allotted myself 2 years to do it. 100 lbs. in 24 months means that I need to average 4.2 lbs/month, only a little over 1 lb/week – and there are months when even that doesn’t happen, though there are also months when I do better. Right now I’m on track (56 lbs. so far), and I think that’s partly because of keeping a realistic attitude.

    Give yourself and your body time to make this kind of adjustment. After all, if you’re looking to go from 169.5 back to 130 lbs, that’s 23% of your starting weight! Taking off nearly a quarter of your weight is a big challenge and a huge change for your body, so you’ll have a better chance of success if you don’t try to rush it due to unrealistic expectations. Just make each day a healthy day and the rest will work itself out over time.

    Jody - Fit at 52

    March 14, 2010

    This is the question most ask.. I always say over & over that Patience & consistency need to be part of the plan. It took time to put that weight on & it is going to take even longer for it to come off, unfortunately. BUT, ya got to have patience! And yes, use clothes & how they fit as an indicator too. Just stick with it & don’t give up!

    LeeAnn

    March 14, 2010

    HI All – Thanks Roni and everyone for ALL your positive advice. I am so proud to say that I am still OP :) When I get frusterated I tend to fall off the wagon, thankfully because of all of your wonderful advice, I am going strong.. 1 day I did have a few more girlscout cookies then I should have. :) but next day I was right back to it. Everyone is so great on here. I love this site! Thanks so much!

    Have a great week
    LeeAnn

    Jenn@slim-shoppin

    March 14, 2010

    Roni, I was going to say the same thing. 2.5 pounds is AWESOME! I think when people are sitting on their couch watching Biggest Loser, they want to see 7 -10 pounds gone in a week, which we know in real life is not possible!

    I keep thinking that each day I eat better and exercise, every day will be better than the last and time goes by so fast anyway, before you know it you will be there!

    Rebekah

    March 14, 2010

    LeeAnn… I’m 19 years old and when I started weight watchers for the millionth time I finally decided that it was going to be the LAST time I “started”. I’m 5′ 4″ and when i started i weighed 166 lbs I’ve lost 27 lbs and now weigh 139. I’m not done but I’m SO proud of myself for accomplishing this much. 2.5 lbs in a week is AMAZING and even if you only lose .5 lbs in a week you should be extremely proud of yourself. Someone once told me once that your body doesn’t know when you are going to weigh yourself…so just because after a week you aren’t losing as much as you hoped it doesn’t mean your body isn’t working on it. As long as you are following your daily points and exercising, know that you are doing a lot more than other people. At least you are CHANGING your life instead of just thinking about it and never succeeding. It might take longer than you hope but it’s a good idea to not put a time limit on your weight loss, it will just discourage you and cause you to lose focus. YOU CAN DO IT! don’t let anyone (or the scale) tell you otherwise!

    Pilbara Pink

    March 15, 2010

    I would like to add my two cents worth – I agree with other posters that your loss is great LeeAnn and congratulations for staying OP despite your personal disappointment. That may be more important than whatever you lost on the scales. I try and view my weight loss as a side-effect of my healthy lifestyle – eating well and exercising is my focus and primarily for my health. That I lose weight as well is a bonus. This is a huge mindset change for me, as it would probably be for most people who have struggled with their weight for many years. I yo-yoed for more than 30 years and now at 47 have maintained a 136lb loss for three years. As I work on making my diet (and I use that word to simply mean my total intake of food) healthier and fine-tune my exercise plan to fit the fitter me and the time I have available I find I am again losing weight. As I say I see that as a side-effect and am curious to see where I end up. I stay within my points but have found being selective about the quality of food I eat – more protein, unrefined carbs, loads of veges – has made a difference to what I weigh. Hang in there LeeAnn, you are in for the long haul not short term quick fix, right?

    Christine

    March 15, 2010

    2 lbs = 7,000 calories!! That is a lot of excess calories your body burned!! woohoo!

    Mary

    March 16, 2010

    Thank you all for being so inspirational. It’s nice to come here and feel so normal. Everyone is right~slow and steady is the way to go. I lost 30lbs. 2+ years ago and am happy that I have kept it off. I am now gearing up to lose one more pound at a time until I reach where I feel comfortable~not where the scale or society says I should be~being/making healthy choices and moving everyday is very important both mentally and physically. Thank you all again for being so inspirational and supportive.

    Leah

    March 19, 2010

    Im so glad I read this post today! Started at 222 & I lost 23 lbs in 8 weeks by counting points. I got to onderland (199 to be exact) & the scale stuck at 199 for 3 weeks. Wow did I get discouraged. I had several days of binge eating (falling off the wagon) because I was majorily frustrated. Then I had a wake up call & realized that even though the scale wasnt moving, my clothes felt different & I realized I was still losing (inches).

    That gave me a little push to keep going & get back on track! It feels like at times our bodies do whatever they want to even if we are doing everything according to Plan. It is a lifestyle change & I need to remind myself of that often!

    Graham

    October 26, 2011

    @Michelle: I agree with your opinion!
    In my opinion, lose weight can not be instant because it requires a process and people who want to lose weight should be disciplined include regular exercise, eating lots of vegetables, drink plenty of water and reduce stress. I am sure, you can drop the weight slowly and your face also looks bright.