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How Much Credit Do You Give the Scale?

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Question of the weekWARNING: I’m going to be talking about scale numbers. Specifically what the scale has told me recently. I am not you. We are not the same person, nor do we have the same body. So please, PLEASE, do not compare numbers.

Confession time. I haven’t gotten on the scale in, ohhhhhhh, about 2 months. Well that’s not really true, over Thanksgiving break we set up the Wii Fit and (ok, wait a minute. . . THAT was 2 months ago. HOLY CRAP time is flying!) Anyway, I went through the whole body test thing in the game and I was surprised when it declared me 139lbs. Now, I knew and know for a fact there was NO WAY IN FREAKING hell I weighed 139 lbs.

How?

Well even though I don’t weigh every day like I used to, I’m very aware of my size. By Thanksgiving time my jeans were already getting snug. I was indulging in the candy with the little guy more and more. I wasn’t working out as much. I figured I was up 2-3 lbs, not down 5. (My average weight this year has been around 145)

Thanksgiving came and went. The holiday parties were in full swing. The trip to Atlantic city. The alcohol. The carb loaded Christmas Eve dinner. The cookies. I can go on and on but I think you get it.

Jeans still tight but my routine is returning so I’m not worried about.

I’m not.

Really.

I swear. :)

Anyway, Monday I decided it was time to hop on the scale. There’s a difference between not needing the scale and avoiding it. I’ve been skirting that line. It was time to take a peak.

151

Ouch! That’s over my Weight Watchers goal by 2 pounds. I haven’t see a number over 150 since January 2006.

Now I have a choice. . .

Do I get depressed about some stupid number on a scale or do I keep making the best choices I can to live a healthy balanced life?

I choose the choices! :)

The next morning I decided to wake up a little early and hop on the Wii Fit before work. It reported my weight at 144. That makes sense. In my estimates it’s about 5 pounds off. I think nothing of it and continue to make my choices.

Today I wake up and decide to hop on the scale again for $hits and giggles (sorry I had to say it, it’s one of my favorite expressions) and it says 147.

That’s 4lbs down on the same scale in 2 days. I weighed at the same time of day with the same clothes, or there lack of. ;)

Now I’m not saying I lost 4lbs in 2 days. That’s absurd. Let me repeat. . . There’s no way I lost 4 lbs of fat in 2 days! There’s just no way.

No, the lesson here for me is simple. The scale is joke. Don’t get me wrong, it’s a tool. One form of measurement that we can use to track our progress over time (Key words there… OVER TIME) but it, by no means should be given the power we give it. It’s just a number. Simple as that.

Ok. That was a REALLY long introduction to the Question of the Week. . .

How much credit do you give the scale? Are you able to objectively look at the number or do you let it affect your mood? Do you even look at all?



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Discussion

There are 71 comments so far.

    Sagan

    January 6, 2010

    Amen to the healthy choices!

    And yes. The scale IS a joke. But that doesn’t stop me from hopping on it every morning. I like having the reference, but I don’t live by it… I prefer to go by how my pants fit and how I FEEL.

    Dawn

    January 7, 2010

    Yes, I think even that one pound means something. I’ve lost 25 pounds and shooting for another 40. So when it’s not comming off the scale does effect my mood

    Arlene

    January 7, 2010

    I, unfortunately let the little metal box dictate my mood. When I jump on it and it’s down, I feel good … when it’s up, I tend to be in a crappy mood. (That’s why I’ve been in a pretty crappy mood for a month now. I can’t seem to stop the upward creep.)

    I don’t want to do that … I wish I didn’t. But it’s especially bad when I’ve been making the healthy choices and the scale does not reflect said choices.

    anna

    January 7, 2010

    since i STOPPED going to WW i only weigh once a week MAX. i was once a daily weigher BECAUSE of WW ( my opinion). i have at least 25lbs more to goal and have already lost 50. but it will come off WHEN it does due to my positive lifestyle changes and my healthy relationship with myself, with food and with the scale. the scale really hinders me in a way and i shall not depend in it to define my mood or be a REAL barometer of my progress.

    Kelly

    January 7, 2010

    Used to weigh every day. It affected my moods too much. I put it away. Out of sight out of mind right!?! Between normal hormone shifts, salty foods, & tons of water weight it just had to go. I even made the hubby hide it for awhile. :)

    KatieP

    January 7, 2010

    Used to weigh myself first thing in the morning, when I got home from work, and before bed.

    Drove myself completely mad. I have wasted days crying over that stupid number.

    I had an abusive relationship with Mr Scales, so I did what any intelligent woman would do — I got rid of him permanently. And if anyone asks, it wasn’t murder, it was self defence!

    Julie - Big Girl Bombshell

    January 7, 2010

    I am now able to look at it objectively – for the most part. My tagline on my blog is It’s about the Attitude, Not the Scale. We put so much weight on the numbers, instead of the positive steps we take to change our lives. I go to WW and struggled for awhile because of my beliefs in non-scale progress but I keep going because of why I originally signed up….FOR SUPPORT… I measure my success by showing up. It;s an action devoted to me.

    So the scale……..its just a box, it is about how much weight I give its opinion of the day…….

    liz

    January 7, 2010

    i used to live and die by the scale. even when i was gaining weight (alot these last few years) i would weigh myself every morning. but for some reason since i started ww in november i hardly ever weigh myself. i weigh in at my wednesday meetings and i might check it once or twice during the week to see the trend, but that’s about it.

    Tracie

    January 7, 2010

    In the beginning I was obsessive about the number. Lately I’ve relaxed about it. I’ve seen the scale do some freaky things like huge gains or losses in a short period of time. I’ve learned that there are too many factors affecting that number to rely on it solely. Now I can tell by the way I look or feel. I still check weekly (and sometimes daily). I still get a thrill at the number going down, but I try to not let it have a negative effect on me.

    In getting relaxed though, I think it can go a bit too far. Over the holidays I knew I had gained weight. I felt it and could see it. Getting on ghe scale was a true wake up call to get back on track.

    Allison

    January 7, 2010

    I admit that I am a scale junkie … for now the numbers are my obsession! Most days I probably get on the scale and curse if I am up for the day more so than getting totally cranky. If I gain 2 pounds from one day to the next I just assume that I have had too much sodium and not enough water (my kryptonite) and try to do better the next day. That said, when I am not doing well…I don’t weigh myself AT ALL.

    The WiiFit is interesting. I used to chart my progress daily on mine. She totally gives you attitude when you skip a day …so you feel compelled to weigh daily as to not be nagged.

    One day I hope to break my dependency on the scale as a positive move, not out of necessity for hiding bad behavior!

    Nikki Moon

    January 7, 2010

    I weigh several times a week and I would say I have a classic Love/Hate relationship with the scale. My scale has not really moved in months just yoyo-ing within the same 4 dang pounds. But I have set changes in place to break the pattern, My scale either gets a F you or an I love you. That just how we roll , hopefully real soon the scale will see more love.

    Andrea

    January 7, 2010

    Good question Roni!! I started weighing everyday a few months back. My goal is not number based, but more to have made a lifestyle change and to feel good. I’m tired of hating myself. I don’t think I’ve become obsessed with numbers except that I LOVE graphing it, seeing the trend over time. It has helped me learn a LOT. I know how certain foods affect me, like white bread or sugar or salty foods. I can even tell now how eating at different times of day affect me. But I’m not obsessed with the number in the usual way. If I gain a few pounds, I have learned it’s so much easier to not get stressed out. I just kinda shrug my shoulders and go graph my weight and go over what I’ve been doing differently in the last few weeks. I do have to add that if I have had a good monthly trend, like lost a few pounds in a month, I do feel encouraged. I just try to not get dissapointed in a gain. I’m learning and the lessons I learn are more important to me in the long run.

    crazylady

    January 7, 2010

    I’ve banned my scale to the attic and haven’t gone near it in a few months now. I do however hear you when you say “there’s a difference between not needing the scale and avoiding it”. I think about that often. I do get weighed every few weeks by my trainer but I don’t always look then either. I’ll know by him of course if I’m going in the right direction but not knowing the exact number forces me to focus on how I actually feel in my skin.

    At the end of the day I think the scale does me more harm than good. Yes many times I can be sensible and say it’s just a number but also depending on my mood/hormones etc that number can be utterly devastating and that’s not how I want to live my life.

    Rina

    January 7, 2010

    Just like you said – I love how the number changes over time. It used to be in the high 180s, now it’s in the mid 170s – that’s a definite sign of progress. But from day to day, it’s more how I feel. I can feel lighter or heavier, better or worse, and the scale doesn’t always correspond.

    But I am addicted to the scale. I want it SO BAD to go down into the next numbers and I think, maybe today I’ll see that number. When it’s a lower number, I’m much more pumped to eat well and exercise, although I am committed to it and do that every day, it adds a certain bounce to my step, this external confirmation that my efforts are paying off.

    I’m glad you asked this question. Answering it has made me analyze my thinking and learn something new about myself. Thanks!

    Nadine

    January 7, 2010

    I am a daily weigher when I am at maintenance & a weekly weigher when I am trying to lose. BUT, I have learned, much like you say, the scale is just FEEDBACK. I may be disappointed by what I see there sometimes, but I definitely don’t let it impact my day. Life is too short to beat yourself up about what you weigh. It is however, something that you CAN change if you don’t like it. So, then, it IS all about choices from that point!

    Mandi

    January 7, 2010

    I am guilty! I give the scale A LOT of power! I am getting better, however! I used to weigh myself 2-3 times a day…then I was able to get it down to once a day, now I am about at once a week..maybe sometimes a little less….BUT…that scale has the same power over me that it always has…it has the power to make my mood good or bad, to make me cry or smile…to make me love or hate myself….I give it that power. Thanks for the post…maybe, one day, I will take that power back for myself! :)

    Emily

    January 7, 2010

    The scale can GREATLY effect my mood. But as one of my new year’s resolutions, I vowed to not be so obsessed with the numbers, and only use it as a guide. This year I am only weighing once a month in addition to taking measurements. The number from the scale is only used to help calculate my body fat % which I am trying to focus more on than the overall number.

    A perfect example of this is I own a GoWear Fit so I know how much I’m burning a day. According to my calculations, over the past week and a half I should have lost 3/4 lbs. But I stepped on the scale yesterday outa curiosity, and I was actually UP 3 lbs. I have been exercising more recently, so I’m trying to chalk it up to water retention in the muscles. Trying to… lol

    MrsFatass

    January 7, 2010

    I actually do love the scale – as ONE tool I use to measure my progress. Sometimes it means more to me than other times – not so much when I KNOW I’m not making great choices, but more when I feel like I’m doing the right things but can’t seem to make the scale reflect that.

    And, I like to weigh every day. I did a challenge and agreed to weigh once a week, and it was really hard for me. Because I don’t like surprises. When I weigh daily I kind of know when I’m retaining water, when I’m allowing myself too many “bites” or “handfulls” of what I’m feeding the kids, stuff like that. It snaps me back to reality, helps me go into a weekend knowing exactly what I need to do.

    So, I don’t know if it makes me a scale JUNKIE. But it is a tool I use often. And while there are those times when I let it get to me, more often then not I can keep it in perspective.

    nic.

    January 7, 2010

    This is a timely post for me! I used to be able to look at the scale as a measurement tool only, but in December I realized I was letting it effect how I ate and what I did.

    If I lost, I’d “reward” myself that week by having a cheat day (5x) and if I gained (because of those cheat days) I would freak out and start bingeing.

    I’m about 2 weeks in to a 6 week scale fast. It feels really powerful to simply be staying the course and not knowing what it’s effect is. It will probably also be rewarding to see what can happen over 6 weeks!

    Kerry

    January 7, 2010

    I weigh myself almost daily, but don’t let it affect my mood. It’s just one piece of information at one point in time. I do track the trends on paper, and that helps me to see what kind of progress I am making over the long term.

    I saw the highest number I had seen in a long time right after the holidays, and also said “Ouch!”. But I already knew the reason I was feeling yucky was that I wasn’t eating well or exercising. I made a meal plan, put my workouts in the calendar, and am on my way back.

    Laurie

    January 7, 2010

    I too just got back on the scale for the first time in many (not sure how many) months. I was once a daily weigher but stopped when I started feeling less in control of my eating. The scale proved me right. For now, I am back to a being a daily weigher..it keeps my accountable. I don’t feel obsessed about the number…I know by making better choices (EATING LESS) I can get the number to where I like to see it and my pants to where I will dig further into the closet than just to those that fit OK right now.

    love2eatinpa

    January 7, 2010

    yes, i do get on the scale every morning. i can almost predict the fluctuations with af, or if i drank a lot of fluids the night before. it doesn’t affect my mood, i just like to ‘know.’ when i’n away on a trip with no access to a scale, i don’t go into withdrawal, so i could probably not get on it at home, i just chose to go on.

    Eve

    January 7, 2010

    Hi Roni – this is a fabulous post. I agree you cannot lose 4 pounds of fat in 2 days. However, this teaches a great lesson – you cannot get down by the number you see on the scale. While I think the scale can be extremely beneficial for staying on track, it can fluctuate quite a bit from day to day. I tell my clients they should have a 3-5 pound range for those normal fluctuations. I love your attitude, about seeing the number and not getting depressed and doing something about it! Good for you!

    McLauren84

    January 7, 2010

    Oh man, what a loaded question! But those are always the best ones! :)

    On one hand, how I feel is really the most important thing to me. Since losing about 40 lbs three years ago, I’ve fluctuated around 10 lbs, but have kept it all off. I feel good when I’m working out and eating pretty well, but the scale hasn’t moved much in years and I’m still 50 lbs overweight, so…on the other hand, is it really working to just judge how I’m feeling if all this time has passed and I’m still 50 lbs overweight? It seems like the scale should have been creeping downward the past three years, but it really hasn’t. I feel good, but I know I need to lose this weight, so I’m often confused about the approach to take with the scale.

    Some days I can interpret it as feedback and not get emotionally worked up, but if I’ve been working really hard for a couple weeks and see almost no pay off on the scale, that’s when I get so frustrated that I consider giving up. That’s been my pattern for the most part–work really hard for a couple weeks, only see a two pound difference, give up and put the two pounds back on, and the cycle repeats from there!

    I would give anything for surefire consistent losses on the scale. To me, the absolute biggest challenge is pushing past those times when the scale doesn’t reflect your efforts or how you feel. That’s obviously when I need to give the scale a break and just keep it up, but for some reason that’s when the number seems to matter the most to me.

    I’m really working on not giving the scale power over me. Little by little, it’s working! This was such a great post, and I definitely needed to read it this morning.

    Lisa

    January 7, 2010

    I don’t like to be a daily or even a weekly weigh-in person, but I find that if I go too long without weighing I gain weight. When I do weigh in, I assume that the weight gain is maybe temporary and don’t make changes and next thing I know I’ve gained 5 pounds. Or worse. I’m now 10 pounds over where I was in September and 15-20 pounds over where I really want to be. At least with more frequen weigh-ins I can see if the weight is creeping up, going down, or just fluctuating.

    Jaye

    January 7, 2010

    I use to weight my self every single morning. This was when I was losing weight but it “didn’t count” until my weigh in day. Then I moved this summer and my scale – my personal scale that I spend over $100 and that I specially bought as a weight lose tool. It was so scary to be without my scale for 2 months. The second I unpacked that scale, I weighed myself and to my surprise I didn’t gain weight. I was able to go without weighing myself every single day and maintain.

    So now I weight myself about once a week, but I have noticed that when I am gaining I avoid the scale. I don’t think it effects my mood too much. Also personally, when I make good food choices I do see the results in the scale. If the scale is giving me a number I don’t like, I know why and it is reality check that if I drink Dr. Pepper and eat pizza for dinner two or three times a week then SURPRISE I will gain weight.

    BigTickles

    January 7, 2010

    Right now I have no choice but to use the scale weekly. The hubby and I want to get cheaper life insurance rates and they are looking for that “number”!
    My hubby was scheduled for foot surgery today and they only told us yesterday that his BMI is too high so he cannot get it. So unfortunately, the scale is something we use every week. It does not affect our mood a lot because we know once we hit that “number” the health providers are looking for we can use it once a month…or throw it out the window!

    Good question but a multifaceted one.

    Karla

    January 7, 2010

    As MrsFatass stated – the scale is ONE tool I use to maintain my weight loss. It’s my motivator to stop the snacking when the number is unacceptable. I have gotten over the need to weigh every day. Right now I’m happy weighing myself 2-3 times per week. Having kept the weight off for over two years, I have learned the right way to eat, particularly at mealtime, but snacking is [and always will be] my weakness. Journaling helps me keep that in check.

    Great post, Roni!

    Brandi

    January 7, 2010

    The scale is a very dangerous place for me. I do get on one every now and again but ONLY if I

    1) Feel strong that day
    2) Do not feel as though I have gained weight
    3) Can honestly tell myself that the number doesn’t matter.

    I’ve lived with me for my whole life and I know when I’m lying to myself :)

    My brain and will power are not strong enough most of the time to handle the number. That number has a tendency to control my whole outlook. If it’s a bad number it’s a bad day and I usually spend that whole day in a panic and planning ways to skip meals and get in extra workouts. (dangerous)

    If it’s a good number I’m walking on air and happy about life. Which is good…but I should be like that simply because I AM happy about life…not the scale number.

    SO most of the time I don’t get on a scale. In the beginning I did…way back when I started this journey. But now I mostly use my scale I bought that was referenced here (the scale that doesn’t tell you how much you weigh) and I only do that about once every 2 months.

    Anonymous Fat Girl

    January 7, 2010

    Roni you are right the scale is a freaking joke. I still have to stop myself from giving it too much credit. I’m glad I take measurements monthly. The scale hasn’t moved much for me this week, but I can feel my clothes getting loser. It’s taken 10 years of yo-yo dieting for me to finally not get depressed about lack of movement on the scale!

    MM

    January 7, 2010

    I think it’s important to weigh yourself once or twice a month to keep yourself in check (and not when you have PMS when the scale can jump five pounds easily from retained water!). The scale fluctuates so much, so you can’t take it too seriously on a daily basis, BUT I once threw away my scale permanently and gained A LOT of weight – I thought I would go by my pants fitting, but then I made excuses that the pants must have shrunk in the wash. Next thing I knew I had gained 40 pounds.

    Stacey

    January 7, 2010

    Sometimes, I have a reverse relationship with the scale. Like in the last week: after the holidays I havent been feeling great about my weight (not the number on the scale, I just notice a little extra and know that I havent been eating the best or exercising as much). I estimated that I must have gained a few pounds and when I got on the scale it was much less than what I thought it would be. So then there’s this relief that I didnt “gain” weight. So then I feel like I can slack. I am giving too much credit to the scale here because I know I am not where I want to be, and the number shouldnt matter. I certainly didnt get healthier over the last few weeks no matter what the scale says. I had to force myself to step back and despite being happy with the scale, keep myself focused on eating healthy and staying active.

    Tyra

    January 7, 2010

    The Scale…
    I have discovered that my scale is not always accurate but – I love it. As I approach my WW goal to become a “lifetimer” (only 5 ish more lbs to go) I have realized that the number I read every day or week or whenever is a guide for me. I use it to help me stay on track but NOT to determine how I feel. I have also discovered that no matter what number it says I am – there will ALWAYS be “heavy” days and “light” days. Some days I am shocked at the number because I am feeling way lighter than it reads and vice verse. So, the number is just a check point for me now. A guide to whether I should make a pot of cabbage soup to keep on hand for a few days to counter act the few over indulgences I may have every now and then. I am living my life and I don’t need a holiday or party to have an indulgence. I allow myself those every week and in the process of allowance and acceptance I am learning how to live with them and fit them into my life the healthy way. The scale helps me to do that but not by the exact number it reads, its more of a healthy range of numbers where I feel good, where I learn and where I am becoming accepting of my body, weight and feelings about myself.

    Tonyne

    January 7, 2010

    I give it some credit, but not as much as I used to. I took measurements recently for the first time, arms, legs, waist, etc. to try and be more focused on that instead of the scale. It’s amazing how much it hops around.

    Alisha

    January 7, 2010

    I have to weigh at least once a week, because I can be in a size and not tell any difference for 20 lbs and I am afraid to let my clothes tell me because by then I would be 20 lbs in the hole….scary…but I have to weigh in once a month working for WW, too and it really helps me!

    Andrea

    January 7, 2010

    i weigh myself many times a week. not every day. not multiple times a day. i still weigh-in once a week at WW. sometimes depending on the # or what i’ve eaten the day before i get depressed about the #. if i know i’ve been eating right & exercising and see a scary # on the scale i tend not to worry, because i know that what i’m doing will work over time.

    my clothes lie to me & so does my mirror, so i have to weigh myself regularly to keep track!

    Laura

    January 7, 2010

    I wouldn’t say that I’m an obsessed weigher. I weigh usually 2-3 times per week (in the process of losing, when I reach my goal I’m sure it will be less). That said though, I think we should put some stock in the scale. It’s a tool of measurement, and with our heads sometimes being so convoluted by emotions and self-image, the scale is sometimes the only sane thing around to let us know what’s actually happening to our bodies. For you, Roni, it was a shock that you’d gained some weight, and that will help you keep living healthily like you have been recently, and you know the scale will represent that change in time. I’ve been thinking about scale issues this week as well, just posted a blog about it at lauralovinglife.com.

    Shannon Fab Fattie

    January 7, 2010

    I cannot believe you just posted this! I did not see it before I asked you on twitter, lol. Divine inspiration!!!
    I have major issues with the dang scale. I am at the point that I may get it out of my house and weigh in once every month or two. I can be going along perfect feel good clothes feel good getting compliments inches leaving and then get on the scale and have a melt down.
    Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this I feel like I am a crazy person. I also really think that we need to stay aware of avoiding the scale and having an unhealthy relationship with it. Big difference.
    Thanks!!!

    Lorri

    January 7, 2010

    KatieP – I just posted your line about Mr. Scale as my status update on FB. Very cathardic. Now hopefully I can follow through!!

    Nichole

    January 7, 2010

    This post “spoke to me” as I have been “stalking” your site for a couple of years – always reading and never posting. Today, I felt compelled to post a reply. I am not sure how many times I have stepped on the scale in such a good mood and ready for a good number, only to be knocked down by what number pops up. I went (returned) to my first WW meeting last night after having my daughter 19 months ago and swearing I am going to start “tomorrow” Well today is yesterday’s tomorrow and I am never going to say “tomorrow” again – it is all about “today” and the choices that I make TODAY. Thank you for your years of inspiration and now I am no longer a “stalker” but a “poster” :)))

    tj

    January 7, 2010

    I WI once a week at my weight watchers meeting and yeah it can make or break my mood, but I think FINALLY after 2+ years I am OK with a slight up or down without freaking out. I know the changes I have made in my life are going to stick with me forever and I will never been that 232lb girl I once was. :)

    Rachel

    January 7, 2010

    I recently wrote a post about this and why people really shouldn’t weight daily. It is a great measurement tool, but it can’t be the ONLY tool you use or you’ll drive yourself crazy! Great post!

    Karlene

    January 7, 2010

    Roni,

    To be totally honest, the numbers freak me out! I hate getting on scales…at the doctor’s office, at home, at WW meetings. I hate it.

    I use to weigh myself everyday (a bit nuts, right). When I was faithfully following the WW plan and exercising at least 5 days a week, I was a lot more comfortable stepping on the scale because I knew I was living a healthy life. The number didn’t really matter, because I knew I was doing what i needed to do. I was happy and healthy…body, mind, and soul.

    BUT! As I slowly became lax with regards to my healthy, smart eating habits and cut my work out regime down to almost nothing, I was afraid to hop on the scale….GUILT, FEAR, AND NOW HATRED!

    Poor little scale…all it was doing was it’s job. LOL!

    Carolyn

    January 7, 2010

    I’m with you. I’ve deemed Januray “No Weigh-In Month” so I don’t freak out from the inevitable (let’s no argue about it…it is pretty inevitable) holiday weight gain. I’ll start back to weekly at-home weigh-ins on February 1st.

    Beth M.

    January 7, 2010

    I’ve kind of stopped looking at the scale….I look at how my clothes are fitting….I have a lot of clothes and I refuse to go out and buy an entire new wardrobe so I have to stay in the ones I have! They’ve gotten snug since I started marathon training…and then the holidays came and went….and half of my winter clothes just don’t fit at all. I haven’t been on a scale in weeks (and don’t plan on looking at one…I will go to WW and let them weigh me but not look at it…and focus on how I feel). I know I’m up b/c my clothes are tight….I don’t need a metal piece of equipment to tell me that :-)

    Cynthia (It All Changes)

    January 7, 2010

    I’ll admit that in the past I’ve given the scale way too much control over my life. I would step on it at the beginning of the day and if I didn’t like what I saw I would beat myself up all day and weigh several more times to just prove how worthless I was.

    Now I see it more as feedback. Thank you weight watchers for teaching me that just because it is higher one day I am not worthless. I just use it as a way to tell me to get in more water and healthy foods and less of the crap. I can’t let a little machine run my life. I am a happy person with or without it.

    Heather

    January 7, 2010

    Since I just got back to WW and trying to reclaim my health, I weigh myself once a week to help keep me motivated.

    Alison

    January 7, 2010

    I confess I weigh every day, mostly to remind me that the scale is not reliable, it will show trends sure but what I ate the day before plays a big part. That said weighing every day helps remind me when I have a “Bad” weigh in that it could be nothing and usually i know from weighing myself every day that it will show that I ate out and it was salty the night before. This week alone I was down 4 pounds then up 3 etc.
    I am actively losing still so the scale still tells me some truth, but I look more at the big picture and how my clothes fit. I went through a 3 month plateau but I lost a size, that matters more in the end.

    Marie

    January 7, 2010

    This morning at the gym I walked past a lady on the scale. She says, ‘Man, this scale is way off. It says I’m about one hundred pounds less!” Me, “Um, I think it’s set on kilos instead of pounds.”

    As far as the scale goes, I’m a once a weeker.

    Lisa

    January 7, 2010

    I weigh myself at LEAST once a day. First thing in the morning as soon as I get up, I weigh myself. If I shower immediately after weighing, I’ll weigh myself again. If I work out before I shower, I will weigh myself after I work out and again after I shower. Obsessed a little? Maybe. It seems to help keep my 50-lb weight loss in check for the last 7 years.
    I do take monthly measurements as well. Like a previous commenter said, I can’t wait until my clothes feel tight, that could be more than just a few pounds of weight change.
    Does the scale make me nuts and effect my mood? Unfortunately, yes.

    jessica

    January 7, 2010

    None! man that feels good to be able to honestly “Say”. I had lots of eating issues until my early 20’s. I’d let the scale make or break my days. I’d get so down over a 2lb “gain” and on the flip, get so happy over a loss, that I thought it meant a free pass to eat whatever I wanted for a period of time. But then in my early 20’s I got tired of it. got tired of a number dictating how I felt, got tired of dreading seeing numbers, just got tired of all the dumb numbers that didn’t really indicate anythign about ME as a person – just my weight. So, I did something I didn’t want to do…I threw ou the scale. then I started eating better and exercising more. according to my doctor’s office scale I lost about 30lbs over 18months. sure, I was happy about the number, but what I was really happy about was how I felt on the inside (won’t lie – knowing I looked better on the outisde DID help some, too). I KNOW if I had kept a scale around during my weight-loss process, I would have given up becasue the numbers wouldn’t be moving fast enough for me. But not having it, and letting my clothes tell me, man, that was the biggest motivator for me.

    Now we’ve been scale free for about 10 years and I will NEVER go back to having one in my home. Sure, I get curious from time to time, but then I check myself and say “hey! your pants fit. you feel good, why do you CARE?!” or on the flip sidfe “Ugh, i’;m feeling sluggish, and my pants are causing muffin-top…time to look at my diet and exercise regime!” and then I remember, “Oh, I don’t! need a number to tell me what I already know” I really can’t tell you enough how liberating it has been to live scale-free, espeically after letting it dictate so much about me for so long.

    Kelly

    January 7, 2010

    Roni, you’ve done it again- posted just the thing I need just when I need to read it! How do you do that!?
    I too had been skirting the line between not needing to weigh myself and just plain avoiding it after the holidays. This a.m. I jumped on and saw a number I haven’t seen since last January!
    I know being back in my routine and utilizing all I have learned and continue to learn about my body and mind will guarantee my trip into that particular number set is temporary. STILL… I have to admit fighting of a funk all day over that NUMBER!
    Thanks for being there Roni! I have come to really look forward to checking in with you a few times a week- I ALWAYS leave with something I can use!
    Happy New Year :)

    amanda

    January 7, 2010

    I don’t do the whole scale thing anymore. I judge everything on how I eat, what I drink, and how my clothes fit. Your weight was probably up due to many things like salt intake, ate too much, drank alcohol, etc Good luck on maintaining your weight…I swear since I lost my weight that has been the hardest thing and I working on 4 plus years!

    I hate the fucking scale, it effects my mood and I should just avoid it. I eat if it’s down, get depressed and eat when it’s up. It totally screws with my mind, and I am trying hard to be rational and logical, like your post. I so needed to read this. With that being said, I go on often because I avoided it for a long long time – almost 3 years and when I finally jumped on it I was 218, two years ago this week. Today I am 168 and still losing. I need the scale as a gauge however it sometimes controls me, MizFit said at one time – it’s just a hunk of metal, and she is so right!!

    Laura Jane

    January 7, 2010

    Interesting post. I am still in losing mode, and I weigh every day. I have tried several methods (not weighing for weeks, weighing daily, and weighing weekly), and I have found this to work the best for me by far. Weighing weekly was the worst for me! Because of those natural weight fluctuations you talked about, I could easily have the scale show me up a pounds or two or the same from one week to the next, when I actually lost fat. So I do really well and work really hard all week with this big suspense about how much I lost, only to find that I lost nothing or gained (on the scale, anyway). It would freak me out and make me worry that I was doing something wrong. When I weigh daily, I actually put less stock in the number I see each day, because I see it as more one little piece of the overall puzzle, rather then the one number that validates or invalidates my efforts. And I also know that I didn’t lose or gain 3-4 pounds of actual fat overnight, so it doesn’t bother me. I actually look more at the overall trend. I put the daily numbers in excel and plot them, and do fun things like extrapolate where my weight will be at a certain date in the future if it continues at the same rate. And I average my overall rate of weight loss, etc. (I’m totally a numbers person, in case you couldn’t tell.)

    Charlie Hills

    January 8, 2010

    The weigh-every-day thing works for me because I treat it what it is: data. I know I’m a guy and a very geeky one at that, but let’s face it: it’s a number. You don’t step on the scale and see, “Gosh, You’re Ugly.” I doubt it’s ever actually said, “GRRRR…PLEASE GET OFF ME…NOW.” And I’d be very surprised if the scale ever said, “Just Give Up Loser and Go Eat a Birthday Cake.”

    It’s funny, then–and not always in a good way–how many times we believe it says these things. Don’t listen to it. Just look at the number, write it down, and carry on.

    thin100

    January 8, 2010

    My scale is all powerful and all knowing. Okay not really, but some days it does feel like that! I really have to make an effort not to base my attitude for the day on what the scale says.

    All Women Stalker

    January 8, 2010

    I used to weigh myself twice every day! Isn’t that ridiculous?! That was when I was struggling with eating disorders. Now I’m happy to have reached a point where I am no longer a slave to the scale. It’s very liberating! I now rely on measuring my waist every 2 weeks or so at the same time. It helps to keep me in check without being too paranoid. I like the system and I’m sticking to it.

    Gemfit

    January 8, 2010

    I used to live by the scale more than I do now. I weigh myself on average once a week but mainly as an indication of where I am. I prefer to use my clothes as a guide. But I know the fine line between not needing to know and avoiding the scale!

    I know that having only 5lbs to lose, it’s not going to drop off and the number often doesn’t move but my clothes fit better so I try remember that instead.

    Jill

    January 8, 2010

    Roni,
    I am in the same boat as you.. only I have not gathered the courage to step on the scale yet! I am pretty sure it is hovering around 155 though. I honestly just stopped caring over the holidays. I would still exercise occasionally, but really not enough (5K run every 2-3 weeks). Now I am still not sure that I want to step on it. I am considering just making healthy choices and counting points until my jeans are not so tight THEN stepping on. If I get on now and see a really high number I am worried I will give up before I even get started.

    Jen

    January 8, 2010

    Unfortunately, I give the scale too much credit. It will ruin or make my entire day. When it ruins my day, it usually started a downward spiral of beating myself up. Luckily, in my case, it is somewhat better after lots of therapy, but it still effects my mood. I HATE IT.

    I am only weighing in once a month to take motivation away from the number.

    Linda

    January 8, 2010

    I have a love/hate relationship w/ the scale also. Obviously, I love it when it tells me I am down and I hate it when it tells me I am up. One thing that has helped me is to have someone weigh me (or use the “hidden” form on the WII) just to have the info and a starting point, I will get back on my healthy plan (WW) and then I look at my weight a week later. So I am looking at a week-old weight and I am not emotionally attached to it b/c (hopefully) I have had a better week and am weighing less when I look at it. Assessing my weight a week old helps w/ my emotional state and doesn’t make me as crazy. Thanks for all you post, I really enjoy reading. It really is nice to know that I am not the only one who does all these kooky things w/ food and body issues.

    Emily

    January 8, 2010

    I use the scale to give myself a reality check. At my preferred weight range (its a several pound range) I am between sizes, so I have clothes that range in size in my closet. When I tend towards choosing the larger sizes more and more often, I know it’s time to hop on the scale and look at a number to give myself a kick in the pants.

    Kara

    January 8, 2010

    Hi Roni! I totally agree that there is too much credit given to the scale. I weigh in once/twice a week – only on Wednesday. I weigh myself each Wednesday morning, first thing, and then each Wednesday night at my WW meeting to maintain my lifetime member status. I don’t really pay much attention to the night number, though, since it fluctuates greatly based on what I eat that day.

    I used to weigh every day and it was much too stressful! I like how I do it now. :)

    Amberly

    January 9, 2010

    I normally do weigh in everyday. Sometimes the number does affect my mood. But to me it’s not the scale… it’s me… I get upset/disappointed in myself because I know that I’m the one making the mistakes and hopes that the scale doesn’t catch it. Now if I’m on track and have been good… when the number happens to maybe go up a pound or two, I don’t sweat it. I know that I’m doing things right…. it only affects me when I have a guilty conscience. So I don’t think I personally give the scale too much credit… but I know of people who let it lead their entire lives.
    Thanks for your post, I will choose choices with you from now on!
    ~Amberly

    Deborah

    January 9, 2010

    I lost 40 pounds 3 years ago. before that I was up and down with the scale as my enemy and best friend, but could never get the numbers out of my head, and it did effect my head. But 3 years ago I put away the scale and lost 40 pounds. Did not even know how much I lost until a year later I went to gyno appt. and they always weigh me.. I was down 43 pounds from the year before.. I always go by how my clothes fit me and now know when I need to get my butt in gear again.. which I am doing right now after all the HOLIDAYS!!!!

    dawne

    January 10, 2010

    i like how you say it is ONE form of measurement…I give the scale WAY TO much power. Thanks Roni!!!

    Tom Kopff

    January 12, 2010

    I hop on the scale every morning at work, and the Wii Fit every Saturday (this is my ‘official’ weight). At work, to avoid getting bummed out, I set the scale to the weight I started at in April (about 244 lbs.) and then count down in 2 pound increments. So even if, like after Christmas, I was up 5 pounds from what I was in November, pre-Thanksgiving, I can see that I have still made a lot of progress, 35 pounds worth. I find that weighing in every morning helps keep me on the straight and narrow.

    Cynthia

    January 13, 2010

    I hop on the scale most mornings, though I’m not obsessive about it and sometimes I just plain forget, but I never let it freak me. I find that if I don’t weigh regularly, the weight just creeps upward and upward. I need that little reality check. Otherwise, it’s just a number and a routine.

    Darlene Hulse

    January 31, 2015

    I would like to know why Weight Watchers weigh the clients at the weekly meetings on a completely different scale than the ones they sell you at the meetings? Why can’t they use the same scale they sell? I would really appreciate an answer to my question please. You have my e-mail address above. Thank you