Comments on: What to Blog About? What to Blog About?

By: Cheri

Cheri — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 17:44:30 +0000

My 2 cents is this: no one ever wishes they didn’t have one of their children, but they do regret not having another. And when it’s too late, it’s too late. Do you know what I mean? I’m biased because I struggled to have the 3 I have and would probably have another if I could, except I would go crazy. But I am crazy, that’s why I would have another!!

I also think age does something to a woman. You are younger than me by 2 or 3 years and I know that something just happens when you start to realize your time is running out. Not that you’re old, but you know what I’m sayin’!

By: Julie from France

Julie from France — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 11:50:51 +0000

Thanx Jennie for the explanation now i’ll use it knowing what it means.

Roni on CNN i’ll have a look!

By: Kristi

Kristi — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 00:08:58 +0000

Roni!!!!!You’re on CNN!!!! I opened CNN and thought I was on the wrong website!! That’s awesome!! You Rock!

By: Jennie

Jennie — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 23:14:51 +0000

Bonjour Julie! I loved reading your post, my major in college was French. Your English is very good. I can see your accent :)
XOXO means “hugs and kisses” O’s are usually the kisses and the X’ are hugs. You used it perfectly in context.

By: Julie from France

Julie from France — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 20:56:05 +0000

Hi Roni,
I follow you for months and this topic make me give u my opinion.
My elder son is 4years old and his brother is 23months. I never make a second child because i wanted it (i was so happy and full of love with my first). I did it because :
- i didn’t want to have a child alone
- i didn’t want them to have lots of years between because i have so much years between my sisters and i
- i wanted a “friend or bro” to play with my love boy.
That wasn’t good. As my second delieverey was worst and it took my second child 4 months ((only) but ) to make his night (which was horrible for me who needs my 8hrs of sleeping) it’s hard to say but i felt depressed (baby blues my doctors told me). It took me a month to get rid of it and finally be “normal”. It took me more than a year to love him (my lovely adorable, too cute great, awesome boy) as much as my elder. I always gave him love but i was able to graduate my love for my first and my second. Which wasn’t good but as i told u i didn’t “make” him because i wanted him. And the more difficult for me was to accept that he was DIFFERENT from his brother. In the caracter, the way he grows etc… As soon as i understood that (he’s my rebel ; he loves “motorcycle” i hate them – since we’ve been to the french seaworld and got a fake tatoo on the hand everytime we draw he’s doing one – oh gosh i’m not that way!!!). Well as soon as i understood that life has been so great with him.
Now i can’t graduate. I love them both and equal. And seing them playing together, laughing together, doing naughty staff together (like jumping in the water with sunday clothers…), jumping on our bed the morning to hung us is UNDESCRIPTABLE. It’s so GREAT.
I finally understood that love can be multiplied and not divied (* and not /) as u have children.
Now that he is almost 2 and understand everything and start talking i’m thinking “oh no, he’s getting to “old” and i miss having a baby who needs me”. But i won’t have ANYMORE 2 years between it was so hard (if u have a busy job and not the family around to help u + a husband who travel a lot – u do all by yourself!!)

So if u have this feeling about having another kid GO GO GO it will be wonderfull!!

Ok, i never wrote to u before and i’ll stop until a long time or u’ll hate me to have written this much. But the topic is so good. Kids are fun. And the more your family grows the more love increase!!!!It’s magical!!

xoxo (i don’t know what this mean but i listen to it in one of your us show)
Julie

By: Jen (aka KUrunner)

Jen (aka KUrunner) — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 19:44:59 +0000

My oldest was 7 when we decided that our family wasn’t complete with just one kid. If you decide to go for more, make sure to join us over in the Having a Healthy Pregnancy group.

I also had a tummy tuck after losing 75 lbs almost 5 years ago, so I’ll let you know how that turns out after I pop this baby out in a couple months. ;)

By: Nancy

Nancy — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 14:34:10 +0000

I have to throw my two cents in too! I was an only child for 13 years before my sister came along. I was a perfectly happy, didn’t miss a thing, only child. Didn’t bug my parents for a sibling at all. I am sure I would have grown up to be a perfectly happy only child. You don’t miss what you don’t know. However, now I’m 42 and my sister is 30 and I can’t imagine not having her around. We talk and see each other almost every day. She’s someone I can talk to about anything, We can even grouse to each other about mom when she drives us nuts ;-) It’s someone that when ( I hate to say this!) our parents are gone knows the family stories, the inside jokes, knows our history, someone that’s been there, someone I can recall the good times and bad time with and she KNOWS! I think I would feel incredibly alone if I didn’t have my sister at that time. Again, having said that, until she came along I was a perfectly happy only child. You don’t miss what you don’t know. But if I had the choice, I would want to provide a sibling for my child.
It’s a tough decision. but it’s your life and out collective commenting two cents are worth just about that! I am sure Ryan will be happy with or without siblings.

By: Rebeca

Rebeca — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 04:21:07 +0000

doooooo it! i watch those videos and see you and ryan and think you’re a fab mom… and “dog” would be such a good big bro!

By: Amanda

Amanda — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 04:18:19 +0000

Roni–I love you! :) I’ve been reading your blog since Ryan was born (before that, I ‘followed’ you on the WW message boards). You have always been very adamant about being done and I commend you on that. So what if your views have changed? I think it would be GREAT!!! But I have to warn you…going from a perfect family of 3 to a perfect family of 4 is ROUGH! My #2 is 18 months old now and I just now feel like I have a grasp on life w/ 2 kids. I was TERRIFIED to have baby #2. I always knew I wanted at least 2 kids but going from 1 to 2 terrified me more than having my first. I was worried about my firstborn–how would he handle it? how would be react? They were so far apart in age (4 days shy of being EXACTLY 4 years apart) would they be close? What about the cost of 2 in daycare? Then…you have that 2nd one and he (in my case) melts your heart the moment you lay eyes on him and you know everything is going to be okay. My oldest ADORES his little brother…they adore each other. Hugs are given to each other every morning and multiple times throughout the day. You will make the decision that is best for you and your family. You will NOT regret it one bit–no matter what your decision turns out to be. It’s your life and your family. :)

But what is it about new houses that spur up these feelings? When we moved into our new house 3.5 years ago, that’s when baby fever started for me. :) We had all this room….no sense in letting it go to waste on ‘only’ 1 child. LOL!!!!

By: Christie

Christie — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 02:54:46 +0000

And here I thought it was going to be a WW leader announcement (j/k). I don’t have any children (yet) but I’m starting to feel that “urge” like I might be ready. So scary!

PS I totally love your comments about how deciding how many children to have was because of you and not so much because of Ryan.