One Mom’s Journey from Fat to Skinny to Confident


What to Blog About? What to Blog About?

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Don’t get me wrong I have TONS too blog about. That’s the blessing and the curse of a "talker". I love to talk therefore I love to blog. It’s just the way I’m wired. What I meant by "What to Blog About?" is sort of the opposite. I have so much swimming in my head that I’m not sure what to share and in some cases, if I should share.

Let me start with the food journal stuff as you may have noticed I started counting points again. No I’m not trying to LOSE weight I just need to check in with myself. I want to take a step back and see how many points I was averaging on a daily bases.

I’m not sure how long I’ll do it but we are in holiday season people and you know how easy it is too "give up" and "wait till new years" or "start after Thanksgiving" or whatever other irrational "I’ll start on tomorrow" mentality that we come up with. Everyday is a new day where we can take the time to make a healthier decision. It’s as simple as that.

So let’s see.. What else? There’s been so much going on and even though I’m busier then I’ve ever been, I’m happy. Really happy.

  • Things are moving with the FitBloggin’ Conference. I wish I had more time to work on it but I’m doing what I can when I can and that’s just gonna have to be good enough.
  • My job is going great! I’m having fun working on the SpeakHealth project and teaching everyone about blogging and social media. Sometimes I suffer from a confidence issue when it comes to my skill set and frankly, my new job is giving me a big confidence boost. I’m working. I’m working hard. But I love every minute of it and I’m good at what I do and I swear that helps me feel happy and content. I’m sure some psychologist out there could have a field day with me.
  • The new house REALLY feels like home now. Why? cause it’s nice and messy. I’m only joking… or am I? ;~P The husband finished the garage last weekend which was really the last "room" that needed organizing since the move.
  • I’m also doing better on the workout front! Got a run in this morning and I’ve come to the conclusion that I must workout in the morning. My current schedule just has me so exhausted by the end of the day and I value my family time after work too much to do it then. Am I gonna wake up everyday and get an hour workout in? Never. I’m gonna take it slow and try to get a run in 2 days a week and maybe a gym session on the weekends. Again with the attitude of do what I can when I can.
  • OK, finally the news I’m not sure I should share but I will. Vaguely, but I will. ;~) Does anyone remember this is ancient video? Geesh! I looked like a baby back then! I really aged in the last year and half! Anyway… there’s a question back then I was asked that I may be reconsidering my answer to. Just reconsidering and that’s all your’ getting on that subject. Thank you very much!

OK, I’m off. I need a snack (hence the scoops below) and I want to get a good night sleep. That’s another area I’m working on. :)

Food Units
~*~*~*~thursday journal~*~*~*~
started my day with a run! about 2.5 miles feel fantastic
bowl of grapenuts with frozen blueberries and light choc soy milk 5
just had the roasted red pepper soup… with some triscuits… so so so yummy! 4
off to have a vitatop… tell you about my dinner later.. i’m posting a video of it! :) 1
quick sausage and pepper dinner idea – estimating…. 7
baked scoops and some salsa 5
a couple of tootsie rolls 2
Total: 24

Table provided by Roni’s Food Tweet, Eat, Post Generator.

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There are 35 comments so far.


    November 6, 2009

    I’m pretty sure I know what you are reconsidering. I will just say that the little guy is super cute, so I think another addition wouldn’t be too bad? Or…maybe you are going to become a WW leader? Lol!


    November 6, 2009

    OMG!!! Are U reconsidering another tummy tuck??? Just kidding, I know what you meant. And I’m not going to give my whole opinion about it, because even if I “know you” since the last three years, you can never get to *really know” someone just from their blogging…

    But I think all of us are going to be happy for you, either desicion you take. It’s your body, your family, and your life. It is a big step, so it’s your call.

    Yes, your call. But I can’t help imaging your videos with Ryan and… you know…

    Tiger G

    November 6, 2009

    Baby fever is hell. I’m not quite as good as you at planning- Both my (unplanned) pregnancies were preceded by a few months of baby fever and then a “What was I thinking?! I’m so glad I didn’t follow through with that” moment of clarity, then a positive pregnancy test. I was so afraid to have my 2nd because I couldn’t imagine him fitting in my life, and I thought I’d be a terrible mom to it because I loved my 1st so much, I couldn’t imagine how I could love another. Now I can’t imagine not having the baby. I have days where I just wander around, completely exhausted as I utter “I just looove my family!” And I actually mean it. But you do what you do. There’s nothing selfish in wanting to get things done in your life. You don’t want to live a life regretting why you never did something.


    November 6, 2009

    Love the “news” not news, yet.
    I ended up watching the whole video and wanted to tell you that it seemed like a right decision to be a leader of your own thing. (It seem so “meant to be”.) instead of a WW one.

    I first ‘met your blog’ when living in NY. Now I’m back to Brazil (and back struggling with 20 pounds) and i keep visiting your blog. Anyway, so for you to know that your motivation is international. Yes, you travel overseas.

    Good morning!


    November 6, 2009

    I say yes….so I can be an friendAUNT :)

    sign me,

    Done at One

    Marisa (Trim The Fat)

    November 6, 2009

    Oooh, I like even numbers ;P If that is the un-news, I will say it’s a decision you’ll never regret :)

    You’re doing so great with your eats, too!


    November 6, 2009

    What is it about new houses and new babies? I always think of the child being alone as one. Cousins are great but not always the same as a sibling. But, obviously, a big decision for you and your hubby. I would love to see the new Roni go through a pregnancy and the choices she’ll make.


    November 6, 2009

    I almost NEVER leave comments, but this one hit too close to home for me to pass that by. I am 30 years old and I have 3 kids, they are not quite what some would call “Irish twins”—please don’t get offended, anyone!!! But I did have 3 kids under 3. I work full time and spend almost 3 hours a day on my commute. Having said that I can honestly tell you that my kids are the best, the most rewarding wonderful thing in my life. Yes, it’s hard. Yes, it’s a lot of work (and anyone who will tell you otherwise is not being 100% truthful). But there is nothing better than family. And I totally agree that a single child is lonely (you also run a risk of him growing up slightly spoiled—again, totally NOT saying that Ryan is spoiled, but life “conditions” us in some funny ways. So, what I am trying to say is that while the decision is totally yours (OBVIOUSLY), I think it would be wonderful to give Ryan a little brother or sister. I get tears in my eyes every time my 3 year old demand to hold the baby and claims “But he is MY little brother and I MUST hold him” And also my mentality has been that you want them to have someone close other than a spouse when we are no longer here. Life is uncertain and as much as we wish to be with our kids forever and ever, you never know how things might play out. Giving your child a sibling basically means that they will always have someone to talk to, to get advice from, to confide in. And that, at least to me, is extremely important.
    Best of luck to you.


    November 6, 2009

    So mysterious! But knowing you, Roni, I could see you leading us off in another direction only to make the surprise something totally random! :D


    November 6, 2009

    P.S. thanks for confirming me as an FB friend! Love to see your status updates!

    Bonnie Richmond

    November 6, 2009

    Wow…I loved Irina’s post….so profound and exactly my way of thinking. My 2 sons are so close to each other…and my sister and I were close too, before she passed away 11 years ago, and I miss her so! I still have a brother, which is “not quite” the same as a sister, but oh so much better than having no one once my Mom passes, that knew me as a child. I vote YES…siblings are GREAT!


    November 6, 2009

    Good luck with your decision!


    November 6, 2009

    Ok…I have to put my two cents in too. We’re all guess what the “un-news” may be. Whatever you decide we’ll be thrilled (cuz we love you) but I did want to say that I’m very close with 2 only children and neither of them have ever been lonely. I think you don’t what you’re missing if you’ve never had it. And also having a great family is what makes the difference (whether it’s siblings or just Mom and Dad). Also I have a sister and although I love her very much there have been many times in my life when I have been much closer with friends…so again whatever you decide if it’s meant to be it will be! Either way we’ll keep reading! :)


    November 6, 2009

    JMO, but I am an adult only child and still wish I had a sibling . . . someone else that shares my frame of reference AND someone to help with the ‘rents now that they’re getting up there!


    November 6, 2009

    Let me clarify as I have let the cat out of the bag. :)

    Many of you don’t know I have a brother and we couldn’t be any more distant then if he was a stranger passing me on the street. It saddens me and I think about him a lot but our relationship is what it is.

    That being said Ryan being an only child was never about him. It was about me and my desire to bring another child into this world, whether or not I was ready to do such a thing. I look at it like this… that child isn’t asking to be born so I better know darn well it’s what I want and that it’s right for my family before I decide to do so.

    Up until know I didn’t think it was. I wasn’t ready. The husband wasn’t ready. I’m starting to feel otherwise now. Maybe it’s age?? Maybe it’s where I am in my life?? I don’t know but I have to admit the thoughts have been swimming around in my head and I’m not sure anymore that my family is complete.


    November 6, 2009

    Roni, as always I commend your honesty and willingness to share. I have one son who will be three in December. I never gave much thought to how many children I wanted. I just knew that I wanted a child. My husband and I waited until the time was as right as it could be. Now people are always asking when I will have another, if I will have another or telling me that if I want another I better get going. I am 36 years old. I work full time at night as an RN and I am home with my son during the day. I absolutely love my child. I am privileged to be his mom. However, I honestly don’t know if I will have another. Right now I am leaning towards no. We are thinkers, planners, organizers. Along with our everyday expenses, my husband’s family is overseas and we have to plan for expensive trips every couple of years. There are other considerations as well besides finances. I do reserve the right to change my mind on the subject but at the moment I am so content and blessed with what I have.

    All the best to you no matter what you decide. I love your blogs. You have inspired me to bake with my son, continue my weight loss journey and begin running. I ran my first 5K last month. It was such an incredible feeling. Thank you for your constant motivation.


    November 6, 2009

    Speaking as a women who hasn’t yet chosen to start a family, I totally know what you mean about really evaluating the decision before you decide to bring another life into the picture–it’s such an overwhelming responsibility. Whatever you decide, it’s great that you’re thinking all these things through. My mother also has a terrible relationship with her sister, and seeing my brother and I be so close has meant the world to her. She constantly tells us to hold on to each other and never let go, since we’ll have each other long after she and my dad are gone.


    November 6, 2009

    Roni – again, we are so similar that it is crazy. Ryan and my eldest are just a couple of weeks apart. My youngest is now 9 months. My husband is an only child and I have an older brother that I am not close to AT ALL. My brother has never seen his youngest neice and I can count on one hand how many times he’s seen the eldest. After the birth of the eldest, my husband was adamant about only having one child. I was leaning toward only having one as well but didn’t want to completely rule out the option. What a difference 3 years make! A sibling is the oldest relationship a human being will have. Thankfully, when it came down to the decision of TTC baby #2, we agreed that it would be in best interest for all of us. I’m so happy that we have both of our wonderful daughters. Many blessings to your family, whatever you decide.


    November 6, 2009

    Roni, I love your websites! You seem like you are a great wife and mother, so I think it would be sooooooo exciting if you added on to your family! Plus, I am certain that Ryan would be a great big brother, and I think kids love to grow up with a sibling. Best of luck on whatever you decide to do. :)

    Renee Potloff

    November 6, 2009

    Roni, I had 3 children and in the back of my mind always wanted a fourth. Finally at 38 my baby urge hit big time and we had our baby girl when the others were 18, 16 and 11. She is the joy and light of my life, especially since my husband died 2 years ago and my older 3 are out and married.

    Anyway, seeing the older three grow up together and her more as an ‘only child’, my biggest regret is not having another one close to her age. She misses out on the fighting, fort building, “let’s pretend..”, all the special things and memeories my older three had together. While she and I are very close and play, travel and have lots of fun together, it is just not the same. She also says about 2 – 3 times a week, “I hate being the only kid in this house!” So, just my 2 cents, I think you will never regret giving Ryan a sibling and he will love having that bond.


    November 6, 2009

    :-) That is all.

    Mary McLain

    November 6, 2009

    I am a MOO (Mother Of One). Although I would have liked to have had one more, that was not in the grand plan for me. At 46, I recently had to have an emergency hysterectomy and found out the reason I only have one child (16 years old). She is my miracle baby. I asked her if she is upset that she has no siblings close to her age (she has a stepbrother that is 35) and she said no because she doesn’t know any different and she has been very lucky to do things that otherwise wouldn’t have been feasible. Many of her friends are only children also.

    Go for it, because you never know what the grand plan is for you and you don’t want to get to be my age and look back with regrets. If it doesn’t happen, Ryan will be OK, if it does happen, he will be an awesome big brother.


    November 6, 2009

    Good for you! I knew what you were talking about before I even read the comments :-) (I am an long time reader and only very occasional poster). I have 2 little girls and though it is busy, I wouldn’t change it. Keep us posted!


    November 6, 2009

    :) :) :) ( That’s all I got! I’m no wordsmith!)


    November 6, 2009

    The best piece of advice I was given when I was debating whether or not to go for #3 was this, “You will never regret having a child, but you might regret not having one.” Now that #3 is here, I am SO glad I took the leap of faith. He is such a blessing to our family and I can’t imagine life without him. Good luck with your decision!


    November 6, 2009

    And here I thought it was going to be a WW leader announcement (j/k). I don’t have any children (yet) but I’m starting to feel that “urge” like I might be ready. So scary!

    PS I totally love your comments about how deciding how many children to have was because of you and not so much because of Ryan.


    November 7, 2009

    Roni–I love you! :) I’ve been reading your blog since Ryan was born (before that, I ‘followed’ you on the WW message boards). You have always been very adamant about being done and I commend you on that. So what if your views have changed? I think it would be GREAT!!! But I have to warn you…going from a perfect family of 3 to a perfect family of 4 is ROUGH! My #2 is 18 months old now and I just now feel like I have a grasp on life w/ 2 kids. I was TERRIFIED to have baby #2. I always knew I wanted at least 2 kids but going from 1 to 2 terrified me more than having my first. I was worried about my firstborn–how would he handle it? how would be react? They were so far apart in age (4 days shy of being EXACTLY 4 years apart) would they be close? What about the cost of 2 in daycare? Then…you have that 2nd one and he (in my case) melts your heart the moment you lay eyes on him and you know everything is going to be okay. My oldest ADORES his little brother…they adore each other. Hugs are given to each other every morning and multiple times throughout the day. You will make the decision that is best for you and your family. You will NOT regret it one bit–no matter what your decision turns out to be. It’s your life and your family. :)

    But what is it about new houses that spur up these feelings? When we moved into our new house 3.5 years ago, that’s when baby fever started for me. :) We had all this room….no sense in letting it go to waste on ‘only’ 1 child. LOL!!!!


    November 7, 2009

    doooooo it! i watch those videos and see you and ryan and think you’re a fab mom… and “dog” would be such a good big bro!


    November 7, 2009

    I have to throw my two cents in too! I was an only child for 13 years before my sister came along. I was a perfectly happy, didn’t miss a thing, only child. Didn’t bug my parents for a sibling at all. I am sure I would have grown up to be a perfectly happy only child. You don’t miss what you don’t know. However, now I’m 42 and my sister is 30 and I can’t imagine not having her around. We talk and see each other almost every day. She’s someone I can talk to about anything, We can even grouse to each other about mom when she drives us nuts ;-) It’s someone that when ( I hate to say this!) our parents are gone knows the family stories, the inside jokes, knows our history, someone that’s been there, someone I can recall the good times and bad time with and she KNOWS! I think I would feel incredibly alone if I didn’t have my sister at that time. Again, having said that, until she came along I was a perfectly happy only child. You don’t miss what you don’t know. But if I had the choice, I would want to provide a sibling for my child.
    It’s a tough decision. but it’s your life and out collective commenting two cents are worth just about that! I am sure Ryan will be happy with or without siblings.

    Jen (aka KUrunner)

    November 7, 2009

    My oldest was 7 when we decided that our family wasn’t complete with just one kid. If you decide to go for more, make sure to join us over in the Having a Healthy Pregnancy group.

    I also had a tummy tuck after losing 75 lbs almost 5 years ago, so I’ll let you know how that turns out after I pop this baby out in a couple months. ;)

    Julie from France

    November 7, 2009

    Hi Roni,
    I follow you for months and this topic make me give u my opinion.
    My elder son is 4years old and his brother is 23months. I never make a second child because i wanted it (i was so happy and full of love with my first). I did it because :
    – i didn’t want to have a child alone
    – i didn’t want them to have lots of years between because i have so much years between my sisters and i
    – i wanted a “friend or bro” to play with my love boy.
    That wasn’t good. As my second delieverey was worst and it took my second child 4 months ((only) but ) to make his night (which was horrible for me who needs my 8hrs of sleeping) it’s hard to say but i felt depressed (baby blues my doctors told me). It took me a month to get rid of it and finally be “normal”. It took me more than a year to love him (my lovely adorable, too cute great, awesome boy) as much as my elder. I always gave him love but i was able to graduate my love for my first and my second. Which wasn’t good but as i told u i didn’t “make” him because i wanted him. And the more difficult for me was to accept that he was DIFFERENT from his brother. In the caracter, the way he grows etc… As soon as i understood that (he’s my rebel ; he loves “motorcycle” i hate them – since we’ve been to the french seaworld and got a fake tatoo on the hand everytime we draw he’s doing one – oh gosh i’m not that way!!!). Well as soon as i understood that life has been so great with him.
    Now i can’t graduate. I love them both and equal. And seing them playing together, laughing together, doing naughty staff together (like jumping in the water with sunday clothers…), jumping on our bed the morning to hung us is UNDESCRIPTABLE. It’s so GREAT.
    I finally understood that love can be multiplied and not divied (* and not /) as u have children.
    Now that he is almost 2 and understand everything and start talking i’m thinking “oh no, he’s getting to “old” and i miss having a baby who needs me”. But i won’t have ANYMORE 2 years between it was so hard (if u have a busy job and not the family around to help u + a husband who travel a lot – u do all by yourself!!)

    So if u have this feeling about having another kid GO GO GO it will be wonderfull!!

    Ok, i never wrote to u before and i’ll stop until a long time or u’ll hate me to have written this much. But the topic is so good. Kids are fun. And the more your family grows the more love increase!!!!It’s magical!!

    xoxo (i don’t know what this mean but i listen to it in one of your us show)


    November 7, 2009

    Bonjour Julie! I loved reading your post, my major in college was French. Your English is very good. I can see your accent :)
    XOXO means “hugs and kisses” O’s are usually the kisses and the X’ are hugs. You used it perfectly in context.


    November 7, 2009

    Roni!!!!!You’re on CNN!!!! I opened CNN and thought I was on the wrong website!! That’s awesome!! You Rock!

    Julie from France

    November 8, 2009

    Thanx Jennie for the explanation now i’ll use it knowing what it means.

    Roni on CNN i’ll have a look!


    November 11, 2009

    My 2 cents is this: no one ever wishes they didn’t have one of their children, but they do regret not having another. And when it’s too late, it’s too late. Do you know what I mean? I’m biased because I struggled to have the 3 I have and would probably have another if I could, except I would go crazy. But I am crazy, that’s why I would have another!!

    I also think age does something to a woman. You are younger than me by 2 or 3 years and I know that something just happens when you start to realize your time is running out. Not that you’re old, but you know what I’m sayin’!