Comments on: Just Pondering the Things People Told Me http://ronisweigh.com/2009/08/just-pondering-the-things-people-told-me.html One Mom's Journey from Fat to Skinny to Healthy. Fri, 10 Feb 2012 01:50:31 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Tina http://ronisweigh.com/2009/08/just-pondering-the-things-people-told-me.html/comment-page-2#comment-45813 Tina Wed, 15 Jun 2011 11:31:25 +0000 http://ronisweigh.com/?p=3853#comment-45813 I stumbled across this post today. I think it's a great one. I too have received the same comment "You could be a model IF you just lost weight" from countless number of people - even my best friend's parents one time. In high school my dad once told me that I "would be SO pretty if..." and my step mom jumped in and asked him "Why can't you tell her she's pretty now?" My face turns red and I smile like an idiot, as though they just gave me a compliment. Later I always bawl my eyes out - it angers and saddens me that all these people have no idea how their words remain with us years later. It took meeting my wonderful boyfriend at age 22 (now my hubby) to believe I was beautiful just as I am. Again, excellent post and excellent reminder to believe in ourselves. I stumbled across this post today. I think it’s a great one. I too have received the same comment “You could be a model IF you just lost weight” from countless number of people – even my best friend’s parents one time. In high school my dad once told me that I “would be SO pretty if…” and my step mom jumped in and asked him “Why can’t you tell her she’s pretty now?” My face turns red and I smile like an idiot, as though they just gave me a compliment. Later I always bawl my eyes out – it angers and saddens me that all these people have no idea how their words remain with us years later. It took meeting my wonderful boyfriend at age 22 (now my hubby) to believe I was beautiful just as I am. Again, excellent post and excellent reminder to believe in ourselves.

]]> By: Sunny http://ronisweigh.com/2009/08/just-pondering-the-things-people-told-me.html/comment-page-2#comment-31763 Sunny Sat, 03 Jul 2010 16:49:45 +0000 http://ronisweigh.com/?p=3853#comment-31763 Oops, meant to click on the subscribe box:) Oops, meant to click on the subscribe box:)

]]> By: Sunny http://ronisweigh.com/2009/08/just-pondering-the-things-people-told-me.html/comment-page-2#comment-31762 Sunny Sat, 03 Jul 2010 16:49:05 +0000 http://ronisweigh.com/?p=3853#comment-31762 Glad to be reading these posts on "I can't" and this memory/self esteem post. I too had a very similar experience in high school when in PE class. In tenth grade I started at a new school in January. This meant new friends and new teachers. My gym class teacher was an overweight, middle-aged man. He too laughed at me when I began to run and stated something like, "girl, hasn't anybody ever taught you to run?" I was not only embarrassed, but decided from that point on, not to run because I 'couldn't' do it right. Go figure. I'm now in my thirties, looking to lose weight, and continually tell my "runner" friends that "I can't run". My dad even makes comments about my 6 yr old being 'just like her momma' (running funny). Thanks for the reminder that we can believe in ourselves, even if no one else does:) I think I may just give it a try, one step at a time. That's all anyone can do, right? Glad to be reading these posts on “I can’t” and this memory/self esteem post. I too had a very similar experience in high school when in PE class. In tenth grade I started at a new school in January. This meant new friends and new teachers. My gym class teacher was an overweight, middle-aged man. He too laughed at me when I began to run and stated something like, “girl, hasn’t anybody ever taught you to run?” I was not only embarrassed, but decided from that point on, not to run because I ‘couldn’t’ do it right. Go figure. I’m now in my thirties, looking to lose weight, and continually tell my “runner” friends that “I can’t run”. My dad even makes comments about my 6 yr old being ‘just like her momma’ (running funny).
Thanks for the reminder that we can believe in ourselves, even if no one else does:) I think I may just give it a try, one step at a time. That’s all anyone can do, right?

]]> By: chicken soup http://ronisweigh.com/2009/08/just-pondering-the-things-people-told-me.html/comment-page-2#comment-22734 chicken soup Wed, 07 Oct 2009 16:12:15 +0000 http://ronisweigh.com/?p=3853#comment-22734 Thank you so much for this blog Thank you so much for this blog

]]> By: chicken soup http://ronisweigh.com/2009/08/just-pondering-the-things-people-told-me.html/comment-page-2#comment-22733 chicken soup Wed, 07 Oct 2009 16:11:27 +0000 http://ronisweigh.com/?p=3853#comment-22733 I loved this post because I could REALLY relate to it. The sad thing is, I am your age, and unlike you, I really still have not come to terms with some of these sorts of comments from others, as well as my own ideas about my lack of abilities. They have become like permanent "tattoos" in my brain, and I just don't know how to get rid of them. I feel helpless, because there are many things I want to do and I just feel like I "can't" and I have no idea how to shake that feeling. I loved this post because I could REALLY relate to it. The sad thing is, I am your age, and unlike you, I really still have not come to terms with some of these sorts of comments from others, as well as my own ideas about my lack of abilities. They have become like permanent “tattoos” in my brain, and I just don’t know how to get rid of them.
I feel helpless, because there are many things I want to do and I just feel like I “can’t” and I have no idea how to shake that feeling.

]]> By: Tabitha http://ronisweigh.com/2009/08/just-pondering-the-things-people-told-me.html/comment-page-2#comment-22007 Tabitha Sat, 05 Sep 2009 03:38:06 +0000 http://ronisweigh.com/?p=3853#comment-22007 Thanks for the post Roni. You really can never take back a hurtful word. I try to specifically praise my students every day. I'm glad u broke out of the "stereotypes" people put on you in your life! Thanks for the post Roni. You really can never take back a hurtful word. I try to specifically praise my students every day. I’m glad u broke out of the “stereotypes” people put on you in your life!

]]> By: roni http://ronisweigh.com/2009/08/just-pondering-the-things-people-told-me.html/comment-page-2#comment-21478 roni Fri, 21 Aug 2009 19:54:32 +0000 http://ronisweigh.com/?p=3853#comment-21478 Such good questions.. but alas I haven't the answers. :) I think just by being aware that your words really do affect people is a huge start. Such good questions.. but alas I haven’t the answers. :)

I think just by being aware that your words really do affect people is a huge start.

]]> By: chris brown http://ronisweigh.com/2009/08/just-pondering-the-things-people-told-me.html/comment-page-1#comment-21458 chris brown Fri, 21 Aug 2009 11:24:01 +0000 http://ronisweigh.com/?p=3853#comment-21458 So how can we avoid making those mistakes? I try to help, and then say the wrong thing. And I remember when people would say the wrong thing to me and I vowed never to do it to someone else. How is it that this happens? How to break the cycle?? So how can we avoid making those mistakes? I try to help, and then say the wrong thing.

And I remember when people would say the wrong thing to me and I vowed never to do it to someone else.

How is it that this happens? How to break the cycle??

]]> By: Jenny http://ronisweigh.com/2009/08/just-pondering-the-things-people-told-me.html/comment-page-1#comment-21385 Jenny Tue, 18 Aug 2009 17:39:23 +0000 http://ronisweigh.com/?p=3853#comment-21385 I love going between your blog and another ladies blog who I love. both of you give me hope. I have struggled for years with wanting to lose weight. Thank you for keeping up with your blog. Visit www.getupandgetmoving.net You both motivate me to keep trying. Thank you I love going between your blog and another ladies blog who I love. both of you give me hope. I have struggled for years with wanting to lose weight. Thank you for keeping up with your blog.
Visit http://www.getupandgetmoving.net
You both motivate me to keep trying.

Thank you

]]> By: Deborah http://ronisweigh.com/2009/08/just-pondering-the-things-people-told-me.html/comment-page-1#comment-21384 Deborah Tue, 18 Aug 2009 17:14:29 +0000 http://ronisweigh.com/?p=3853#comment-21384 2 things stick in my mind.. My mom referring to my hips as saddlebags.. I still to this day look at myself in the mirror and see huge hips.. no matter what size I am.. and a friend once told my I was a blender.. I asked her what she meant and she said I always blend in.. I took it as nothing special about me.. But I believe she is so wrong and she was trying to bring me down... Took a few years but I overcame that one.. okay I still think about it sometimes.. Great post 2 things stick in my mind.. My mom referring to my hips as saddlebags.. I still to this day look at myself in the mirror and see huge hips.. no matter what size I am..
and a friend once told my I was a blender.. I asked her what she meant and she said I always blend in.. I took it as nothing special about me.. But I believe she is so wrong and she was trying to bring me down… Took a few years but I overcame that one.. okay I still think about it sometimes..
Great post

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