Comments on: Just Pondering the Things People Told Me

By: chicken soup

chicken soup — Wed, 07 Oct 2009 16:12:15 +0000

Thank you so much for this blog

By: chicken soup

chicken soup — Wed, 07 Oct 2009 16:11:27 +0000

I loved this post because I could REALLY relate to it. The sad thing is, I am your age, and unlike you, I really still have not come to terms with some of these sorts of comments from others, as well as my own ideas about my lack of abilities. They have become like permanent “tattoos” in my brain, and I just don’t know how to get rid of them.
I feel helpless, because there are many things I want to do and I just feel like I “can’t” and I have no idea how to shake that feeling.

By: Tabitha

Tabitha — Sat, 05 Sep 2009 03:38:06 +0000

Thanks for the post Roni. You really can never take back a hurtful word. I try to specifically praise my students every day. I’m glad u broke out of the “stereotypes” people put on you in your life!

By: roni

roni — Fri, 21 Aug 2009 19:54:32 +0000

Such good questions.. but alas I haven’t the answers. :)

I think just by being aware that your words really do affect people is a huge start.

By: chris brown

chris brown — Fri, 21 Aug 2009 11:24:01 +0000

So how can we avoid making those mistakes? I try to help, and then say the wrong thing.

And I remember when people would say the wrong thing to me and I vowed never to do it to someone else.

How is it that this happens? How to break the cycle??

By: Jenny

Jenny — Tue, 18 Aug 2009 17:39:23 +0000

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You both motivate me to keep trying.

Thank you

By: Deborah

Deborah — Tue, 18 Aug 2009 17:14:29 +0000

2 things stick in my mind.. My mom referring to my hips as saddlebags.. I still to this day look at myself in the mirror and see huge hips.. no matter what size I am..
and a friend once told my I was a blender.. I asked her what she meant and she said I always blend in.. I took it as nothing special about me.. But I believe she is so wrong and she was trying to bring me down… Took a few years but I overcame that one.. okay I still think about it sometimes..
Great post

By: Helen

Helen — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 19:09:13 +0000

Hi Roni,
I have been a silent observer of your site ( by the way I love your sites). But, I just wanted to say thank you for this blog. I grew up in an environment where I was constantly told I was stupid, and that I would look prettier it I would just loose some weight. These are the thing that at age 35 I still believe, today! It is sad what peoples word can do to a person– these were my own parents. I still am trying to work on my weight, I loose some then have kids and regain. I never did good in high school because I never applied myself. I just went on proving what I was told. I am now going back to college. I am married, work full-time and have three kids. Last term I made Honor Roll. I am sadly now realizing that I am not stupid. Your blog brought me to happy tears of realization. Thank you!!! I have a wonderful husband that has helped my esteem a lot but sometimes it takes the words of someone you don’t know to move you a bit further.

By: Hil

Hil — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 06:09:07 +0000

It’s amazing the things that I’ve just unquestioningly absorbed. I was just talking with someone about the fact that I absorbed the idea in high school that I couldn’t do math, which, based on all outside indicators, was completely untrue.

By: Jackie

Jackie — Thu, 13 Aug 2009 20:35:43 +0000

This speaks to me. I believe all to often I let what other people think affect me. I am at the beginning of what I hope is a weight loss journey. Reading about your own experience (and wild success) has helped. You are an inspiration to many. Thank you for sharing.

I also wanted to be a writer as I grew up. People told me that it was no way to earn a living….and I gave up on that dream. I never write anymore. Maybe I should give that another shot…….:)