I was digging in my archives today. Partly because I needed inspiration and partly because I needed a lift. I’ve been a little out of sorts but that’s whole other story.
Anyway, I came across an old question of the week that struck a cord with me. Especially considering the new site I’m involved in that’s all about body image and spreading a message of self love. Since joining, I’ve been contemplating my relationship with my body and reflecting a lot on how far I’ve come.
The question I came across was What do you love about your body? It’s a tough question to answer and although many did, some comments reveal a lack of self-esteem.
"The only part of my body that I like is…"
"That’s a hard question. Guess I’d have to say…"
"This is a tough one for me as I’ve been stuck…"
The best one was..
"Hmmm…this is actually a really hard question for me to answer. Which is incredibly revealing about my self-confidence level right now. So, although I don’t have an answer for you just yet, thanks for giving me something to think about."
I totally get that and I still struggle with the body image thing. Then today something hit me like a ton of bricks. Self-love doesn’t have to start with what we see in the mirror. Why do we hinge so much of our happiness on that? Let’s focus on non-appearance accomplishments for a change.
One thing I’ve always been upset with my father about was his focus on my appearance all the time. He never recognized any of my other accomplishments. It was only about how I looked or how much I weighed.
I believe confidence is the key to many things in life, including weight loss. But does confidence have to be tied to the way we look? I don’t think it should be. So let’s do this. Let’s really think of all the things we are most proud of in our lives. Have you ever paused to really think about it before? Or do you hinge all your happiness on some magical number or the "perfect" size jeans like I used to?
Ok, so I’ll start. :)
- I’m proud of my degrees. I don’t come from a privileged family by any means. I not only had to pay for the majority of my college education, I’m STILL paying for it. ;) I’m the product of a hard working single mom who taught me very early that education is important.
- I’m proud of my marriage. It’s not perfect. I’m not perfect. The husband isn’t perfect. But we have a great relationship. Why? Because we work hard on it. We compromise. Staying married isn’t easy. Staying happily married is even harder but I’m proud of the work I (we) put into it.
- I’m proud of the son I am raising. I’m doing the best I can teaching him how to be an empathetic, caring, healthy, active person.
- I’m proud of my sites. I work hard on these sites. I’ve developed them myself. I designed them. I write them. I produce all the content. It’s so ingrained in my routine sometimes I forget all that I have built.
- I’m proud to be a person who takes chances. It’s easy to talk the talk but I try my best to walk the walk. It was hard to take a chance in this housing market but I did it. It was hard to start my own company but I did it. I try hard to follow my dreams.
There’s a combination of pride and gratitude in my list. Some of those things are out of my control (being blessed with an amazing mom for example) and I’m thankful for them but I’m also proud I recognize that fact. Does that make sense?!? :)
Not one of those accomplishment have anything to do with my size. It’s important for me to recognize that.
Ok, don’t leave me hanging… it’s your turn… What accomplishments are you most proud of?