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Weekend Quote: Unapologetically Myself

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I’ve been getting a little slack for yesterdays post and even though I’ve been planning on writing this quote since BlogHer the timing couldn’t be more appropriate.

The amazing MizFit has a saying…

Unapologetically Myself

Ever since I saw those words on her blog it struck a cord with me. It’s SO empowering. I find myself thinking about it every time I’ve been insecure our unsure of myself.

People have mentioned my blog "has changed" or that that the focus as been "all about me." Well I hate to burst everyones bubble it IS all about me. I started this blog for me. I had no intention or goal of becoming a professional weight loss blogger. It was simply a way for me to stay accountable on my own weight loss journey. For that it served it’s purpose. I feel so strongly that blogging helped me face personal issues when it came to food and body image that I started BlogToLose to try to create the same space for others and now I’m planning FitBloggin’.

That being said my focus has morphed and changed over these last 4 years (thankfully, I mean, I have reached some goals, I’ve changed, I learned, I’ve gotten older.) I write what I’m inspired to write. I share when I’m inspired to share. I have no master plan or high hopes of becoming some A-lister blogger. I do what comes natural. Amy C said it best in her comment yesterday…

"[your blog is] part therapy, part experiment, part work in progress, but always honest and always forthright."

That’s pretty much my intention. And those of you that follow along on my crazy journey have no idea how much you have inspired me. When I blogged about considering exercising or that I completed my first 5K, you were there. When I posted a video of my pull up and cried that all my data was lost, you were there. Funny thing is when I reached goal and became a lifetime member only some of you were there. I had a lot less readers back then when I was just tracking points and sharing weigh ins. It seems so long ago.

So if you think the blog has changed it really hasn’t. It’s still a means for me archiving and journalling my journey. Where I will end up I have no idea but I committed to this blog July 27, 2005 and I have no intention on stopping. And if I feel like venting I’m going to vent. If I feel like celebrating I’m going to celebrate. I may not have to lose weight anymore but I want to keep it off. I find balance as I figure out how to live the healthiest life I can while sharing with you along the way.

*phew* I feel better getting that all off my chest but this wasn’t my initial intention for the Weekend Quote. I really just wanted to share MizFit’s fabulous life philosophy. I hope you find it as empowering as I do.



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Discussion

There are 47 comments so far.

    Nicole

    July 31, 2009

    Hi Roni –

    I just want to say that you have truly been a blessing to me. I really enjoy reading your blog. You inspire me and others more than you know. I love that you keep it real and post about your ups and downs. I noticed people were also giving Shanti a hard time at http://www.youtube.com/antishay about “changing” since she lost weight. It’s so ridiculous! Those people are just jealous. Anyone who follows your blog can tell that you have only changed for the better. Of course you’re going to change when you are feeling better about yourself and reaching goals you never imagined. Thank you for sharing and being “unapologetically” you! You go girl! :)

    Dana

    July 31, 2009

    Roni – The weekend is here, yeah!!

    I know there are days I’m whining about personal things because at the time it is a BIG deal to me. And then I try to sit back and be thankful for my job, ‘this’ old house, family, etc. Sometimes you just have to get it off your chest no matter how big or small the issue.

    Kudos to you for standing your ground ….. after following you for quite some time…I would expect nothing less …LOL =)

    On another note, I’m still looking for the Chiquita frozen drink mix that you tried and can’t find it around here yet….but I won’t give up!

    Sarah

    July 31, 2009

    Yikes, I dont think I read the messages that got so critical, but I have to say that I for one enjoy the evolving Roni! ALL of us get annoyed about stuff. I spent 6 months living in a rental while my house was renovated. I don’t regret one minute (you will LOVE the new house!), but it was very, very frustrating at times.

    Part of the great things about blogging is you can be yourself. Just who YOU really are. And that’s why people love you, follow you, and get wonderful inspiration from. No need to apologize for being yourself…your authentic self. Continue to let it shine, like you always do.

    And glad you got inspired by MizFit — she has a wonderful philosophy not just on fitness, food & fun…but on life. She’s the real deal. And so are you…

    So keep on being authentically you, and let her shine! And you’ll keep attracting those people who you were meant to serve, and their lives will forever be change — for the better.

    Pam

    July 31, 2009

    You tell ’em, sister. EVERYONE has license to get cranky and let it all hang out on their blog – that’s why people blog in the first place! Argh.

    You being you, unapologetically, is why I LOVE this blog. Why I just keep on reading and coming back for more. You’re real. Realistic. And all Roni all the time. Keep on keepin’ on, as they say. We love you!

    BigTickles

    August 1, 2009

    Go Roni, Go Roni, Go Roni!

    I was with you back at the old blog site and I still with you now. Of course, this blog is about you — duh! That IS why it is called RONI’S weigh. *sigh* People can be so silly sometimes. Keep doing what you do and we will keep reading, cheering you on, laughing and crying with you. This lifestyle is a journey, not a snapshot. Of course you are going to change, evolve, go around in a circle, etc… We all do. Brush off the haters and keep it moving.

    P.S.
    I will state my hint again …. I am looking forward to you recreating the chicago pizza pie on greenlitebites! hee hee I know, I know…. let it go ;-)

    roni

    August 1, 2009

    LMAO – I caught that hint the first time! I may have to wait until I’m in the new place but I’m on it! A big.. veggie filled Chicago style pizza! :)

    lunzy

    August 1, 2009

    sing it sista! This is your blog and if they don’t like it, why in the world would they continue to visit? We love you for being YOU! If you wanted to start posting LOL Cats, that would be your choice for YOUR blog. Please don’t btw, but just sayin’! ;)

    Christie

    August 1, 2009

    I like the Roni who is unapologetically herself. I have been reading for a long time (sometime before GLB started) and I have always been a fan. Bad days, good days — I mean, I have them too. Good reminder that it doesn’t matter what other people think, you just have to keep on being unapologetically yourself :)

    Rebeca

    August 1, 2009

    1. Duuuuude Love the Miz… she’s so wise! Love her :)
    2. WTF on the comments, I just read them- I thought the whole point of blogging was to express yourself, be yourself, etc. and it was supposed to be your thoughts, feelings, opinons not anyone else’s or catered to their desires either… must have missed that memo
    3. That being said… I l-o-v-e Roni’s Weigh because you’re honest and that means more to me than any amount of “advice” that I could get from any and everywhere else with the click of my mouse… We all struggle, we all have off days (weeks, months, years) but we can all rise above those moments and keep moving forward, being better today than we were yesterday… At least that’s how I feel after reading your posts! You inspire me regularly- even when it’s just “Note to self: Doritos aren’t the answer” because I have those nights too and they used to turn into days and weeks, but watching you turn those things off, helps me do the same!

    Brilliantly said Roni. I am relatively new to your blog (and to blogging in general), but I truly admire people (not just bloggers, obviously) who stay true to themselves. I think the biggest favor any of us can do is to lead by example in being strong and confident in who we are and who we are becoming. Part of being intelligent beings is evolving. Thanks for sharing your journey — without apology.

    – Annabel

    Arlene

    August 1, 2009

    I don’t think you’ve changed all that much … my blog is WAY more up and down than yours, I’d say. My main complaint is that you seem to be doing less blogging these days … but with everything going on in your life right now, I can certainly understand why. (I’ve been blogging less myself lately, just because work stress is getting to me.)

    Keep on keepin’ on, and keep being exactly who you are. People may not love every post, but each one is bound to speak to SOMEONE … and reaching even one person can change the world. :D

    Love your blog exactly the way it is (and I am sure I would love whatever it becomes as it evolves with you) as I visit it to hear about YOUR life and its’ ups/downs/everything in between and how you deal with them.

    Laine

    August 1, 2009

    Good for you! I love reading your blog and am not going to stop because your old routine has changed. I guess people who are jealous of your very hard work and success can’t stand it when they see you aren’t perfect but still manage to course-correct as life goes on rather than just giving up.

    And I never understand that whole “well, at least you aren’t [poor, fired, foreclosed on, living in a slum in a third world country, in a bad marriage, etc.] you should be grateful.” You can’t walk around being grateful for a state of being that you don’t live in. It doesn’t work that way. We each live in our own reality.

    And like you said, when you get haters, you know you”ve hit the big time.

    Johnna

    August 1, 2009

    When you can be who you are, you are truly free. Keep doing what you’re doing. I love your blog!

    MizFit

    August 1, 2009

    Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.

    xo xo,

    Shannon

    August 1, 2009

    Geez, did MizFit just have another great quote moment commenting to your blog quoting her? I think she did. lol. I had never heard either of them before and love them both.

    I, for one, just started reading your blog a few weeks ago and love it just where it is today and where it was (I read a lot of previous posts too). It is YOUR blog–you are changing the world with it and with all of your other websites that people like me get to take advantage of. I am GRATEFUL to you for giving us that opportunity to see into your life (the ups AND downs) and to share in your ideas. THANK YOU!

    diana

    August 1, 2009

    You became “them” once you reached goal. “Them” who is no longer “us” who struggle. It’s sad, but people always have a hard time with people who have attained what they so desperately want. For some you no longer struggle with them so they have a hard time identifying.
    But, it’s your blog, your journey (as you said) and you will and have gained new friends :)

    Kath

    August 1, 2009

    Right on Roni! (or should I say “write” on?!)

    For someone to criticize you for writing about YOURself on YOUR blog is just absurd!! Keep up the good work :)

    Tammy

    August 1, 2009

    Good for you Roni! It IS all about YOU! And, likewise, our personal blogs are all about US! You proudly continue on with your blog just the way YOU want to. Those folks that don’t like it will have to get over it and move on. I’m sure there’s another blogger somewhere out there more to their liking.

    For me, your blog is a testimonial that I can make the changes I want and evolve into what I want. Get that? “I” me, myself and I. Because, honestly, that’s who’s important in MY blog.

    Well, I know YOU get it. Just try to ignore those that don’t. Quite honestly, in many ways, your lifestyle is SO different from mine, what could I possibly find to relate to in your blogs? I’m old enough to be your mom, I have 3 daughters the youngest of which is 16 and the oldest is getting married next summer, I don’t have a college education, a full time job, I don’t run, and I am totally computer illiterate! LOL And, yet, there is something in your blog that speaks to me! I find pieces of me throughout your entries. Hope, promise, humor, reality, but never defeat! Even when you write a “downer” it is NOT a defeatist blog! Simply, a young woman, speaking her heart and talking her way through her thoughts. And, that’s okay. Keep on keepin’ on Roni!

    Kerry

    August 1, 2009

    You should never need to apologize for being yourself and expressing it! That’s exactly why I come here – to read the real stuff. And thank you for that.

    I also wanted to share something regarding marathon training struggles. I started training for my first marathon in 2005, inspired by a half I had run. I had a lot going on in my life, the runs just started to feel terrible, I was fighting injuries, and finally realized that maybe that just wasn’t my year for a marathon. I then went on to run marathons in 2006 and 2007, and had much better training experiences, both physically and mentally. And here I am in 2009, fighting a chronic injury and a pain-free 5k is a more realistic goal! If you do need to postpone your marathon, it is not giving up – it’s just changing the plan. And of course I will cheer you on here either way!

    allijag

    August 1, 2009

    you go roni! :) that was all VERY well said – and from a novice blogger – to a major A list blogger in my mind – I’ll always read, no matter what :)

    Patty

    August 1, 2009

    I haven’t commented on your blog in a while but I’m still a faithful reader, just super busy too!

    I have to say that I think jealousy is at the root of the negative comments. Some people have a hard time seeing other people succeed. Your new job, new home, running successes, vacation, and opportunity to attend conferences etc are all YOUR achievements, you’ve worked for them and you shouldn’t have to apologize for them, and you have every right in the world to write about them on YOUR blog. Some people can’t handle it. They want to be able to identify with you on every level, and when they compare themselves to you (we all do it even though we know we shouldn’t–I think you posted on this recently) the feel as if they come up short and then want to lash out and bring you down. DON”T LET THEM!

    Yes you are going through a stressful period, but that’s all it is, it won’t be this way forever. Some things will suffer, hopefully not the things that truly matter; take care of yourself, your marriage, your son first. Everything else can wait. So what if your posts are less frequent, and if you need to rant I for one am willing to listen. You still have a lot of readers, even if we don’t always comment ;)

    Zandria

    August 1, 2009

    Being “unapologetically yourself” is sometimes easier said than done, but it’s basically the best thing you can strive for. This is the attitude I’ve been moving toward for the past few years myself, even though I haven’t been calling it by those exact words.

    I’m glad that your website has evolved over the years as your goals have changed and as you’ve become a different person. So has mine! It’s inevitable. And some people won’t like that, and may stop reading, but at the same time you’ll pick up new readers. This has definitely happened to me over the past seven years I’ve been blogging. And I’ve done the same thing — I went through Google Reader last night and unsubscribed to quite a few people that I just wasn’t reading anymore. I don’t have time to keep up with everyone; I need to be more picky. :)

    Bottom line: be true to yourself. Be unapologetically yourself. It’ll all work out from there.

    gharkness

    August 1, 2009

    Hmmmm. When your blog comes up, it says: “Roni’s Weigh.”

    It doesn’t say “Roni and everybody else that wants to be considered’s Weigh.”

    Yes, it’s all about you, and FROM THAT those of us who read your words take those words and use them to make it about us in the ways that are meaningful to us.

    Duh :-)

    Jessica

    August 1, 2009

    Roni! First, let me say that I love you and your blogs. I remember on CAM on the WWs boards when you very first made Lifetime. (Ryan and my eldest were born just a couple of weeks apart.)
    Do not let anyone get you down. You do what you need to do and the rest of us will just tag along for the ride, ok?
    My youngest is 6 months and I’m ashamed to admit how much weight I gained. I, one day, hope to say that I have maintained my weight loss for over 2 years. As I told you almost 3 years ago, if Roni can do it, so can I! And I believe that you (and I) can do anything.

    Kim

    August 1, 2009

    Roni,

    Keep up the great work! I have been with you almost from the beginning and you continue to be an inspiration. I’m at the point of maintaing and keeping it off too. You’re always insightful, funny and honest!

    Have a wonderful day!

    Janice

    August 1, 2009

    Isn’t a blog supposed to be about yourself and what you like or are doing? I mean, whose blog isn’t?!?!? Yes, yours has changed a bit but so have you. You are my morning fix Roni. Yours is the third website I visit after Facebook and CNN.com. Thanks for staying with us even though you are so busy. I enjoy seeing how your life changes and progresses and how you adapt your eating and exercising/training to accomodate those changes. We all do that everday!

    Joplin

    August 1, 2009

    Roni, I soo wanted this today. Last night I was at a get together and got into a discussion about a social cause I am very passionate about, but couple of people in the group looked all bored. Since then I have been thinking if I should have kept quiet for their sake. But now, after reading your post, I want to say, “this is me…unapologetically.” Thanks to you and MizFit for lifting my spirits. :)

    lainb

    August 1, 2009

    Roni – you’re so awesome and such an inspiration. Even your venting posts are such a help just knowing that someone successful like you still experiences struggles. Sure, positive & upbeat posts have their place…but it’s also comforting being able to relate to and empathize with those not-so-great days. And realizing that life keeps ticking…we just have to keep making the best choices. Your writing inspires and motivates…please don’t ever doubt you are anything less than amazing! =)

    Julie

    August 1, 2009

    Roni: I just read all 62 comments, finally, and there is such an aura of jealousy and discontent in those negative comments. YOU are the reason I joined WW and lost 30# and started reading food blogs! Keep doing everything you’re doing!!

    diana

    August 1, 2009

    I hope you don’t mind Roni, but I posted a link on my blog post to your blog. I was really ticked off by the people who commented in the last post and needed my own venting about it :) I’ve seen this happen to several bloggers and it’s just rediculous!
    I’m impressed that you kept those comments. Especially the annonymous one that was really cruel and ignorant, but then again if you took it off your wonderful reply would have not made any sense :)
    Stay strong.

    Kimberly

    August 1, 2009

    Blogs are personal spaces – graphic representations of the things rambling around in our hearts and our brains. We share what we are.

    You are one of my go-to blogs. I love your writing and if I could just will you to a video blog every day that would be just fantastic. I love watching your vidcasts. They are always genuinely thoughtful and quite helpful. I don’t spend much bandwidth on videos, but I always check yours out.

    Continue to tell YOUR story without even the thought of apologizing or explaining. You are amazing in your style and your successes.

    She-Fit

    August 1, 2009

    Roni,
    I love reading every one of your posts and I am so glad that they are all about you. While I just started following your blog, I know that you have inspired me in the short amount of time that I have been reading, so I know that you have inspired those that have been following you through this fit journey. I’m so happy for you!

    Cynthia (it all changes)

    August 1, 2009

    I totally agree with you that Blogging is an outlet for you to just be you. We all change over time and even if it is slightly different the blog is for you and I like how you don’t waver from that. It is a good source of inspiration for me as I work to get to goal. Thank you for being unapologetically you :-)

    Michelle

    August 2, 2009

    The blogging world is a funny one. What I admire and love about your blog and you–although I haven’t actually met you–is that you are human. You have days when you eat too many doritos, enough a meal out, discuss the trials of raising a little one, dealing with everything that is going on. You’re not glossed over, fitness obessed, dirt eating crazy. For that I appreciate it. You’re actually one of the blogs which I read where I feel like I can identify with you..I am never going to climb 3,000 mountains and make sure that I only eat sugar free frozen yogurt with carob chips–although great. It’s just who I am all the time. I think what you blog has given me, and the other people who read it, is an inspiration to change our lives, deal with stuff, but still have a sense of normal about it all.

    Thank you.

    Melissa

    August 2, 2009

    Beautifully said, Roni. The beauty of blogging is the primary audience is indeed you — the blogger. The rest of your readers are there because they choose to stop by, and while sometimes we deliver content with specific readers/audiences in mind, we’re being authentically “us” when we’re honest and open and share what we’re thinking/feeling — no holds barred. Unfortunately, there will always be trolls and negative people who want to voice their opinions. Sometimes they can show us another side of things, or we can dismiss them and walk away — because it’s our own blog!

    Seriously, I love your comments back to all those negative posters–you stayed true to MizFit’s “Unapologetically Myself” mantra and I love it.

    Clearly you have a ton on your plate — and yea, ok, sure– everyone does. But you’re brave enough to put it out there and share your triumphs and tribulations. And you do a kick-ass job of it!! LOVE the house by the way, it looks gorgeous!

    A loyal reader who is also unapologetically myself …
    Melissa

    Jennifer

    August 2, 2009

    You go girl! Don’t stop what you are doing and don’t bother with those silly people! This is your ‘baby’ and no one can tell you how to take care of it! We are just thrilled that you let us have a chance to be a part if it!

    Diane, Fit to the Finish

    August 2, 2009

    Roni – It’s your blog, and you can do with it whatever you want to! I enjoy reading about the life of someone else who also lost a lot of weight.

    Keep up the good work!

    Amy

    August 2, 2009

    Great post. Also Roni, I wouldn’t respond to these trolls. They just want your attention – don’t give it to them!

    Nina

    August 3, 2009

    Good for you, Roni, just develop the way you want to! It’s your blog and it should stay that way. And it’s exactly what many of us need for inspiration: someone who not only tells success stories, but every inch of the way. I think it’s brave and something genuinely positive.

    About those people who react negatively on your site: leave them out or, if they get really rude, block them. It’s their personal dirt they are trying to lose and it should belong in their private diary or on their own website. They are constantly harming themselves by thinking negative thoughts, and they cannot stand being alone in their own misery. As your blog is a kind of publication, it is also open to those people, unfortunately.

    Lots of love!

    Nina

    Danielle

    August 3, 2009

    Hi Roni –

    I found your blog not too long ago and tobe honest I don’t even know how I got here but Iam telling you this I AM NOT LEAVING!!

    I find your posts empowering, honest and truly uplifting. I have a daughter who is 4.5 years old and a son who is 7 months – I am also a WW member – I had just lost 75 lbs whenI found out I was preggo with #2 and wound up gaining 55 of it back with my pregnancy – I am back on the road to losing and thanks to you have signed up for my first 5K – Sept 13th – I have been following the C25K program and am starting Week 5 today!!!

    Keep writing and I will keep reading.

    Best of luck with everything – including your AMAZING new HOME!!

    Much Love
    Danielle

    Amanda

    August 3, 2009

    Roni,

    I don’t usually post but read regularly. A friend of mine showed me your site a little over a year ago. I have used your blog in my weight loss journey as a reassurance that it can be done even if we don’t always feel the greatest about things. I have lost 100 pounds in 15 months. I now love to exercise. That being said….. I still have my days when I see the fat girl in the mirror and life is stressful. It’s nice to know that someone else has a stressful time but still makes good choices for the most part.

    Thank you.

    KK @ Running Through Life

    August 3, 2009

    Roni, I read your blog because it IS all about YOU! You are an inspiration! You have done so much and are a great example on how you can get healthy and fit. So, thank you for venting, for sharing, for inspiring, for struggling (since your struggles reaffirm to me that it is okay that some days are hard), and for being you! Cheers!

    Tanya

    August 3, 2009

    Thanks for always being you!!! :)

    Sabrina

    August 4, 2009

    Roni- I love that you talk about yourself and your family and everything that is going on in your life, not just about the weight. I feel like I know you, like you are friend. A friend that truly knows what I’ve been through and what I’m going through because you have been there yourself. So I just wanted to say thank you for sharing your life me. I love reading your blog!

    Renee B.

    August 4, 2009

    Hi Roni –

    I’ve been a loyal reader since forever… Back when you were featured on MSN! I don’t comment often, but felt compelled to show my support this time.

    What can I say that literally dozens of others have already said? I can’t stand those people out there who get their kicks JUST by being confrontational!! They’re obviously jealous of your successes and (dare I say??) “celebrity status”. On the positive side, look at how many readers come out of the woodwork just to show their support. See… “potstirers” CAN be good for something! :o)

    Carry on! We’re still listening. :o)