Comments on: Do you compare yourself to others?

By: Yvonne

Yvonne — Mon, 11 Apr 2011 18:20:13 +0000

I tend to compare myself to others as well. This is one of my downfalls.

By: Toni

Toni — Tue, 30 Jun 2009 15:01:06 +0000

I compare myself all the time…it make me feel like”crap”. I recently saw someone who I new had it worse than me..in terms of finances, housing, car, etc….I compared myself to that person….I knew I had it better in all categories…….I felt like “crap” again….but I learned that looking for validation using these methods does not work. In other words I had it better than this other person and still had this emptiness. It proved to me that it has to come from within yourself…..

By: Dana

Dana — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 05:45:13 +0000

First I’d like to say that I love this article! Ok well yes I compare myself to others, too much. I’m 15 so I’m still growing up and still brain damaged; but I need to stop comparing. On the outside I try to appear confident, but on the inside I’m insecure, and I’m always comparing myself to others. I think I compare myself to ones I love the most, like sisters and friends. I hate to say it, but my confidence is very low. I’m working on it though! That’s why I wanted to read this article and I’d like to thank all who posted a comment and Roni for posting this article, THANKS!

By: Rollercoaster

Rollercoaster — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 05:01:39 +0000

I had a last thought on this, I started thinking about how much we see things being compared in society. Does anyone read US Weekly…Who Wore It Better? Okay, they are comparing two and sometimes three women who are being PAID to look good and saying which of them looks better….how crazy is that?!?! Or how about those little cartoons where you have to compare the two and find differences? Quizzes in magazines to qualify how much of a perfectionist you are? Really anything that quantifies something asks you to compare. My point is that I think this is an engrained habit we all have so it’s totally normal to compare and yet so much healthier not to because comparing how much two different people improve their running time over a year is like comparing apples and oranges and sometimes deflates a great accomplishment.

By: Dani

Dani — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 02:21:58 +0000

I try to refrain from making comparisons but it’s inevitable. I’m human and naturally flawed and sometimes those flaws eat at me. It doesn’t mean I can’t continue daily to rise above the constant comparisons though as I do realize those flaws make me who I am. Beyond that, the changes I make in my life, including being kinder to myself, are making me who I am slowly becoming.

I don’t think that made sense to anyone but me! =P Love the Nido Qubein quote, for sure … added it to my own blog. Thank you!

By: Karen

Karen — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 15:53:01 +0000

I don’t usually, but just yesterday a friend and I were talking—she’s lost 100 pounds and I’ve lost 37 in the last year. We are just curious—what size *are* we?!! I have no idea what I really look like—I’ve gone from a 14 to a size 6 but have no idea what that looks like. I still feel big–so we decided we’d ask each other instead of our spouses who we look like! lol

I’m in my 50′s and am not obsessed with my appearance any more, but I am loving being smaller—it’s been a long time since I was this weight. Comparing position, possesions, and stuff like that doesn’t interest me. Like I said, I am just curious about how I look—what I see in the mirror is probably different from what I actually am. So I think this is just a temporary mentality. :-)

“They that compare themselves among themselves are not wise…” I want to be wise!

By: lunzy

lunzy — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 11:20:27 +0000

I think we all do, unfortunately. But I have gotten a lot better. Mainly because a) I don’t have enough time to obsess about it and b) being a mom I’ve learned you can only so much. I also think I’m much better about not comparing when I’m actually working on my goals. I see that I’m in the process and feel okay about not measuring up. If I’m THINKING/wanting to doing something (workout, save money, etc.) I’m more likely to have a pity party if I’m not already taking action.

That makes sense in my head, hope it does in the comments too ;) Thanks for the great post!

By: Inny

Inny — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 02:02:01 +0000

I do! Sadly, I compare myself with others all the time, and it’s not just my physical appearance. People who are smarter, more beautiful, richer, really anything upset me sometimes. I try to focus on what I have, although it’s not easy for me.

By: Tracy

Tracy — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 14:49:06 +0000

I work at a University and exercise at the gym on campus. There is an influx of new 17 year olds every year. I used to try to live up to that standard, but now at 35 I realize that I look great and all those 17 year olds are probably insecure and worried that their thighs look fat. I know I still compare in my mind, but I try not to verbalize it.

By: Emily

Emily — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 14:22:43 +0000

Roni I can’t thank you enough for understanding where I was coming from with my comment. And it blows my mind to see just how many of us struggle with comparing ourselves to others. I guess it is just one of those human nature things that we have to consciously resist (or make your self sound like a bitter old woman like me LOL!)

Kelly- I totally feel you! I had a GREAT run yesterday- I ran longer (time wise) than I normally do. When I mapped my run this morning I was disappointed to see that I had gone only 3.2 miles in 34:28…I just KNEW yesterday I’d run at least 3.5 miles!! But I’m trying not to get discouraged. I know realistically that the weather is putting a damper on my progress (do you know anything about the humidity in Georgia?!?)

Roni I hope you don’t mind but because my website is private I’d like to leave my e-mail in case anyone wants to be “invited” to read my blog. It’s only private because I work for a rather large company & don’t want anyone digging up dirt on me from my archives! My e-mail is gahendersons at yahoo dot com