About a month ago I posted an email from one amazing young women. Celeste gave us her take on Body Image and Happiness. Her insight was so inspiring and full of wisdom I just had to share. Well she’s back with an update and again I feel compelled…
Hello Again Roni!
Wow! It’s a good thing I’m typing this, otherwise I would just be speechless. When I wrote my first letter I was hoping that perhaps you would read it and smile, maybe post it on your website and let a few others smile as well. I never expected the overwhelmingly positive response my words actually received from so many readers! By inspiring others I, in turn, have been inspired to not only continue with my own journey of healing and self-discovery, but to write this follow-up message.
I’ve been occupying this new mindset for about five months now and, well, you know the saying “turned over a new leaf”? In my case it might be more appropriate to use the phrase “turned over the whole dang forest.” I’m so happy all the time now, even on what I used to call bad days, and now just refer to as relaxation days. As time progresses, I continue to find new ways of looking at things, as well as new forms of inspiration.
About a year ago, when I was still bouncing around from one weight-loss fad to the next, I heard someone say “The second you look in the mirror and like what you see, you’ve already lost the battle.” When I first heard it I tried to mimic the quote, automatically assuming that just because someone else said it, they must be right. Looking in the mirror and hating what I saw wasn’t that much of a stretch back then, but all that self-dislike simply caused my state of mind to plummet into an even deeper depression, causing me to eat more, ect. You’ve all been there, I’m sure.
Today I read that quote and am nothing but disgusted by it. How can people still promote that type of thinking when, for the large majority of us, it is nothing but destructive? In my own weight loss travels I’ve developed almost the exact opposite mindset. In my first letter I talked about finding your own, personal ‘remedy.’ This is what happened to me, and it tends to develop all by itself! I didn’t consciously settle down into my routine, I just felt my way forward and naturally continued my actions that were most productive. I think the most obvious current example of this is that I haven’t stepped on a scale for over five months!
First off, let me stress once again that this is my personal path; it may not be right for everyone. But I have completely abandoned that final boss (for you video gamers out there), that oh-so-right but oh-so-wrong addiction, that inanimate object which still somehow manages to reign over our happiness and determine our self-esteem from one day to the next. Simply put: the Scale. I know when I’ve had a healthy day. I know when I haven’t. I don’t need some clunky machine to tell me what to feel. I guess what I’m trying to say is this: even if your method is rather unconventional, who cares? If it works for you, then let none stand in your way!
Anyways, I’ve got a huge summer ahead of me, starting off with high school graduation, then moving on to a roadtrip with my friends, and ending with college orientation! I’ve never been in a better place emotionally and physically to handle the enormous amount of excitement (and fair bit of stress) all these activities will bring. I’ll try to be in contact again in August :)
I wish everyone the best of luck on their individual journeys! Remember: the big picture isn’t about the weight-loss, it’s about the freedom to FORGET about the weight and discover the world.
Celeste, You did it again. Simply amazing. You should give us an update every month! What do you think guys?