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An Update from the Amazing Celeste!

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About a month ago I posted an email from one amazing young women. Celeste gave us her take on Body Image and Happiness. Her insight was so inspiring and full of wisdom I just had to share. Well she’s back with an update and again I feel compelled…

Hello Again Roni!

Wow! It’s a good thing I’m typing this, otherwise I would just be speechless. When I wrote my first letter I was hoping that perhaps you would read it and smile, maybe post it on your website and let a few others smile as well. I never expected the overwhelmingly positive response my words actually received from so many readers! By inspiring others I, in turn, have been inspired to not only continue with my own journey of healing and self-discovery, but to write this follow-up message.

I’ve been occupying this new mindset for about five months now and, well, you know the saying “turned over a new leaf”? In my case it might be more appropriate to use the phrase “turned over the whole dang forest.” I’m so happy all the time now, even on what I used to call bad days, and now just refer to as relaxation days. As time progresses, I continue to find new ways of looking at things, as well as new forms of inspiration.

About a year ago, when I was still bouncing around from one weight-loss fad to the next, I heard someone say “The second you look in the mirror and like what you see, you’ve already lost the battle.” When I first heard it I tried to mimic the quote, automatically assuming that just because someone else said it, they must be right. Looking in the mirror and hating what I saw wasn’t that much of a stretch back then, but all that self-dislike simply caused my state of mind to plummet into an even deeper depression, causing me to eat more, ect. You’ve all been there, I’m sure.

Today I read that quote and am nothing but disgusted by it. How can people still promote that type of thinking when, for the large majority of us, it is nothing but destructive? In my own weight loss travels I’ve developed almost the exact opposite mindset. In my first letter I talked about finding your own, personal ‘remedy.’ This is what happened to me, and it tends to develop all by itself! I didn’t consciously settle down into my routine, I just felt my way forward and naturally continued my actions that were most productive. I think the most obvious current example of this is that I haven’t stepped on a scale for over five months!

First off, let me stress once again that this is my personal path; it may not be right for everyone. But I have completely abandoned that final boss (for you video gamers out there), that oh-so-right but oh-so-wrong addiction, that inanimate object which still somehow manages to reign over our happiness and determine our self-esteem from one day to the next. Simply put: the Scale. I know when I’ve had a healthy day. I know when I haven’t. I don’t need some clunky machine to tell me what to feel. I guess what I’m trying to say is this: even if your method is rather unconventional, who cares? If it works for you, then let none stand in your way!

Anyways, I’ve got a huge summer ahead of me, starting off with high school graduation, then moving on to a roadtrip with my friends, and ending with college orientation! I’ve never been in a better place emotionally and physically to handle the enormous amount of excitement (and fair bit of stress) all these activities will bring. I’ll try to be in contact again in August :)

I wish everyone the best of luck on their individual journeys! Remember: the big picture isn’t about the weight-loss, it’s about the freedom to FORGET about the weight and discover the world.

Girl power!
Celeste

Celeste, You did it again. Simply amazing. You should give us an update every month! What do you think guys?



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Discussion

There are 19 comments so far.

    Valerie

    June 22, 2009

    Are you sure she’s only 18??? She is so mature! I wish I had seen the light at 18 and not struggling with my weight issues 20 years later. UGH.

    abby

    June 22, 2009

    keep up the good thoughts! I’m with you, but it did take a bit longer to get here! so please, use your positive thought to influence others into loving their body, no matter what. that’s how i started to lose weight, it was the day, i looked in the mirror, adn started finding a thing or two i thoguht was special.

    Now, i am thankful for my legs and arms and everything about my body no matter what it looks like, when it’s hot and i sweat, i’m thankful for my pores and the ability to sweat. Loving all aspects of my body is what has given me the strength to lose weight, never about hate…it’s about love!!!

    Nathalie

    June 22, 2009

    Celeste, you’re such an inspiration to us all!!

    My new mantra will now be “forget about the weightloss and discover the world”

    Thank you for sharing xx

    Mandi

    June 22, 2009

    Thank you, Roni, for sharing such an inspirational email…once again…from such a wise-beyond-her-years lady! I needed this today…just as it seems that I needed the last email you posted from her…perfect timing.
    Celeste—thank you for making me remember what is important…and for, maybe, helping me take one more step AWAY from the scale…and one more step TOWARDS loving ME!

    Susan

    June 22, 2009

    Hi Ronie,

    I would like to speak you in PM :)
    I would be glad if you could contact me on brownsusan@live.com

    Thanks :)

    Diane, fit to the finish

    June 22, 2009

    She is amazing for being so young. I waited until I was 31 until I lost my 150 pounds and wish, wish, wish I would have done it sooner. I think she has so many insightful things to say about choice and body image! Go girl!

    Maureen

    June 22, 2009

    Hey Celeste,
    I agree with you 100%, when you look in the mirror and see something you like, you have already won the battle! That is the first thing I had to do to begin this journey, I had to find something I liked so that I could feel worth something to begin loving myself which is o easy to say, but so difficult to really believe or put into practice. I am so impressed with you, your parents must be very proud of you. A strong young woman with good self-esteem, wow! That’s hard to find in this society which likes to create women who are only worthy if they look like super models! When I began this process in May of 2007 all I prayed for was that weight would no longer be an issue for me, I was sick to death of constantly thinking about how I looked in every situation and always coming up short. I was so exhausted being my own punching bag for so long and for so many years was not even aware I was doing it. Now I still am not where I want to be, but I do care for myself and I’m willing to do what I need to to get there, but I don’t blame myself anymore. When I start to berate myself, I just do something positive immediately, even if it’s just getting a cold glass of water. I’m becoming my own best friend at 47. Looks like your there already at 18. Thank you for sharing, God bless you and good luck at college!

    Maureen

    June 22, 2009

    I got this in my email as soon as I finished writing my post! Coincidence? I think not:
    Patience with ourselves is a duty and the only real humility. For it means patience with a growing creature whom God has taken in hand and whose completion he will effect in his own time and way.

    Evelyn Underhill

    Dana

    June 22, 2009

    I wish I would have been that smart at 18!

    Girl Power indeed!

    Sophy

    June 22, 2009

    Yay, Celeste! Love this girl! Thanks for the update!

    Emily

    June 22, 2009

    Thanks Celeste! :-)

    Sheila

    June 22, 2009

    Celeste is wise beyond her years…I wish that I would have had that mindset at 18…would have saved me years of disappointment!!

    GIRL POWER!! =)

    McLauren84

    June 22, 2009

    “The second you look in the mirror and like what you see, you’ve already lost the battle.” That quote sums up EVERYTHING that’s wrong with our society and how we view beauty. Life is too short for toxic self hate! I really needed this reminder today. Thanks to Celeste and Roni.

    Diana (Soap & Chocolate)

    June 22, 2009

    WOW, words to live by! That quote about losing the battle when you like what you see in the mirror is truly horrendous. I think it’s exactly the opposite! You’ve not only won the battle, you’ve practically won a new life! Not many women are able to achieve that!

    Chris

    June 22, 2009

    Wow she is amazing! I wish I could have been that wise at her age. She has an amazing future ahead of her if she has been able to reach this emotional aha. I am truly inspired to live and discover life and not focus on all the other stuff. She not only inpires, but men alike to embrace life and forget everything else that may keep you in the hate yourself mentality.

    Jane Thorn

    June 22, 2009

    I enjoyed Celeste’s first email to you so much that I was incredibly excited to see this update, Roni! Thanks for sharing, and I do hope Celeste will agree to keep us all regularly updated on how she’s doing.

    Evilwoman

    June 22, 2009

    Celeste your awesome!!
    Can’t wait to hear more!

    Berni

    June 23, 2009

    Wooo hoo Celeste. “Remember: the big picture isn’t about the weight-loss, it’s about the freedom to FORGET about the weight and discover the world” I lovelovelove LOVE this, such an inspiration. Thanks for sharing Roni.

    Melynda

    July 1, 2009

    Wow! This concept of “liking what I see” used to torment me, too. I actually would stand in front of the mirror and practice negative self-talk in hopes that I would become disgusted with myself and do something about it (I know, how sick is that?!). Well, what do you know–it never worked! Finally at 30, I’ve figured it out. But I wish I had channelled my (burdensome) positive energy into “re-creating” instead of obsessing bout “losing” for all that time. Celeste, you are wise beyond your years!