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FIGHTING THE FUNK

Fighting the Funk: The Morning After

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I don’t know WHAT is wrong with me. I’m heading into Funkville and I hate it. This happens now and then. I’m not sure why, probably a combination of things…

  • Every Day Life Stresses
  • Lack of Sleep
  • Change of Season
  • Feeling Overwhelmed
  • HORMONES

Pick and choose or add your own, we all have our own reasons for being in a funk. We also all have our own ways of dealing. For me it seems to be…

  • Eating
  • Staying up late
  • Getting Lazy

Those are the things that I tend to do when in the funk. Funny thing is I should be doing the opposite to get out of the funk. It’s a vicious cycle as doing them actually sends me deeper into Funkville.

Case in point… Yesterday I skipped the gym and last night after dinner I ate. And ate. And ate. It was a mindless, constant pacifier for my funk. It started with a bit of peach sorbet. When I say "a bit", I mean the ENTIRE pint. Then a handful (more like 2 handfuls) of peanut M & M’s grabbed from the pantry on my way to bathroom. On my way back I picked up the bag of pretzel sticks and proceeded to stuff them in my mouth handfuls at a time to the point of uncomfortable fullness. Finally I said "ENOUGH" and as I headed to bed early I had to fight the urge to bring something with me. I was totally ready to search the pantry for another snack.

Needless to say, this morning I feel poo poo. It’s the morning after. Part of me wants to skip breakfast. Fast away the mindless calories I ate last night. But I know where that road leads. That’s the wrong move. It continues the cycle. No No No Instead I’m going to face the funk head on…

  • Poured BIG glass of water
  • Shared an orange with the toddler
  • Read my own Fighting the Funk Posts
  • Wrote this post (writing is totally therapeutic for me)
  • About to make a healthy breakfast
  • Accomplishing something off the "to do"
  • Going to the GYM!

That’s my morning plan. I’m halfway thru and I’m starting to feel a little better. These are the kinds of days that can turn in weeks or months if you let them. The most important thing I learned about the weight loss and maintenance thing is you keep trucking. The only way you fail is by giving up. Even though I want to veg in front of the TV all day I know from experience that making the harder choices in life have a greater reward.




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There are 27 comments so far.

    Michelle

    April 7, 2009

    Roni….I TOTALLY HEAR YOU. I call it the binge biotch…and I am learning to silence her. I’ve been in a funk all day today and honestly I don’t know what it is. Just eating crap all day long. It happens..as you told me once–‘one day at a time’. You’ve done so great–it’s only one day…head up, shoulder back–it’s about what is today not what as. forgive yourself and move on. :)

    Janice

    April 7, 2009

    I ate an entire bag of soy crisps driving home from work last night….This was after I decided not to go to the gym because I was tired…Talk about a funk. You will get out of it Roni…

    gharkness

    April 7, 2009

    Roni, this is totally predictable. In fact, I am astonished you didn’t think of it yourself! You just came off a big race (congrats, by the way) and you have been building up to it for some time.

    Now that huge motivator is OVER. You haven’t found the next one yet. This is NORMAL. You WILL get over it :-)

    Realize that this is only temporary, DO continue to fight it, but don’t be so hard on yourself because you are doing what the human animal tends to do. It’s very depressing to finish a goal, because then….what to do?

    You’ll figure out what you want to do next, and you’ll overcome the funk. Go play with the Toddler :-) and relax a while.

    roni

    April 7, 2009

    You are SO right. Although I do have my next goal coming down from the high of accomplishing does get me every time. it’s why I keep setting new ones. It wards off these feelings and keeps it fresh! Thanks for bringing that to my attention!

    WannaBeSkinny

    April 7, 2009

    The story of my life. It’s like one day on track, 2 days eating everything in site. It’s horrible. I don’t know how to pull myself out of this. What works for you?

    roni

    April 7, 2009

    WannaBeSkinny – Trying not to be sarcastic, I swear…. I just wrote what works for me. It’s up there… my “plan”…. THAT is what works… facing it head on, setting a plan and following it.

    Sam

    April 7, 2009

    I’m so glad I found this blog. It’s like I’m reading my own thoughts. I seem to be in a constant funk anymore. I’m not sure if it’s the stress of school, money issues, or a slew of other things, but all I want to do when I get home from work at 6:00 is sit on the couch and eat. Reading this has given me a little bit of hope that I can overcome this. Hopefully sooner rather than later.

    Justrun

    April 7, 2009

    Oh my gosh have I been there. I think your strategy is great, though. You are right on, the best way to get out of it is to leave it in the past. A clean slate is availabe at any moment you decide to create it. Thanks for the motivation!

    Katie

    April 7, 2009

    Oh Roni! Your post is just want I needed to read this morning! I have been in a serious funk the past week or so and therefore seem to inhale everything in sight and want to just hibernate. It’s a vicious cycle as you mentioned. Thank you for putting yourself “out there” for all of us to share in your experiences and make it easier to get over our own hurdles. I recently found your blog and I love it. You really speak to me and I have found a lot of motivation in your site. I even want to take up running now! I just have to buy one of those Nike+ – I-POD dealies. :-)
    Keep your chin up and as you said – one day at a time…this too shall pass!
    -Katie

    maggie

    April 7, 2009

    It’s strange how the funk has us eating nothing but junk. We’re hungry to no end. And instead of just eating a meal, we prefer small, sometimes big bites of anything but an actual meal. For me, most of the time, when I get like this, I know whos coming to visit me soon.

    It is a vicious cycle. One that is doable if gotten under control before you hit the second day. lol

    Good for you, for getting control of the funk.

    Cath

    April 7, 2009

    The timing of this post is perfect…sounds like there are many of us out there in the same position. I just wrote on my WW board that I need to get a handle on mindless snacking. The last couple of days I have been horrible, grabbing a handful of cereal or trail mix or chocolate chips everytime I walk into the kitchen. I am not measuring, not necessarily recording all these points (or giving it an approximation) and to top it all off, I am not even hungry when I am doing this!! I need to get this under control. Think I will put my plan together for snacking. Thanks for the idea.

    Good luck with your day today, Roni. Hopefully you will meet your goals.

    LeeAnn

    April 7, 2009

    Wow, I needed to hear all of that! I had one of those days yesterday. Actually, I overate all weekend, and then went to Funkville yesterday. And today, I am detoxing! So, I ran this morning ( I should have plenty of energy from yesterday to sustain!). Now, I am filling up on water!

    Susan

    April 7, 2009

    My middle name is funkmaster. ;)

    Paige

    April 7, 2009

    I was heading into a funk yesterday as well. I had been a boring meeting all day long, and wanted to go home, get on the couch, and stay on the couch! I allowed myself about an hour of lying there feeling sorry for myself, and then I forced myself to go to the gym. I ended up having an awesome workout. Sometimes when I am the most tired, I have the best workout. I think a lot of times, I have being tired confused with being stressed out. Once I get the “stress” out with a good strength training session, I am usually good to go! That’s what happened yesterday!

    When I feel the “binge monster” about to attack, I try to sit there and figure out what I really want to eat. Instead of having carrots or an apple (if that’s not what I really want), I will go ahead and have the oatmeal and peanut butter or rice cakes and peanut butter that I am really craving. I don’t go overboard, but I have what I want. I figure that way, at least I am eliminating all of the empty calories that came between what I thought I “should have” and what I really wanted all along!

    Valerie

    April 7, 2009

    My friend and I were talking about this the other… Once you complete your goal, you have the, “Uh… now what?” feeling and go through a sort of depression… funk is a great word for it until you find your next goal. Even if you decide to do just (just, as if!) a 5K. Or focus on the half mary next month! :)

    Robin

    April 7, 2009

    This post came at such a great time for me and was so helpful. Thank you so much. You are such a great motivation for me!!

    kat

    April 7, 2009

    I don’t remember what you ate on Saturday after the race or even Sunday, but you ran a nice long distance – and you are probably burning through calories like you don’t believe. That can last a while after a big run/race. So if you don’t get the right types of foods in, it can play with your hunger. That, and I agree that you just accomplished something big and you are faced with “now what?” Sounds like you have a good plan in place and will get outta the funk in no time!

    Katie

    April 7, 2009

    Great post! We all have those days. The key is not letting them consume you. In my experience, eating well and getting in some movement boost my mood. Easier said than done? Absolutely.

    Rollercoaster

    April 7, 2009

    I think it helps to try to figure out why I’m in the funk. If it’s because I have a lot to do and I am avoiding it, then I should get active and start making things happen!

    But if it’s because I have been overworked and not getting my relaxation time, I need to do the opposite. So I go out into nature, take a calming walk, breath in the fresh air, feel the sun on my face, maybe do a meditation, go to the botanical gardens (which I imagine is beautiful where you are) and get myself centered again. Give myself permission to take a day off.

    I just took a day off work last week and it was just what I needed.

    By the way, I have been reading your blog for years and I admire your candor and dedication. Reading your blog is like watching baseball, it just feels good :)

    Arlene

    April 7, 2009

    I’m on vacation this week, and coming off a 1.2-pound gain at WI (my 2nd 1.2-pound gain in two weeks …) so I really needed this post today. Thanks.

    Kudret

    April 7, 2009

    My fighting the funk cure is a big big glass of water, cup of tea (herbal or non) and a fruit smoothie. I keep my breakfast somewhat low carbs in terms of starch and stick to a smoothie, with a side of light vegetables like baby carrots, cucumber slices and tomato. It makes me feel refreshed and clean and the previous night’s eats seem so far away.

    Amanda

    April 7, 2009

    You are so right! Good for you for going to the gym, even though you want to be lazy.

    WHen I don’t want to run, I have to FORCE myself because I know its better and I feel better!

    I started BTL yesterday, I’m hoping it gives me the support I’m looking for! Thank you!

    Jill

    April 8, 2009

    I really needed this post. Thank-you!

    jessica

    April 8, 2009

    Roni – I acutally found your blog(s) through Twitter, and I just have to say, I’ve really been enjoying reading them. I love greenlitebites, and this website really has been helping me stay focused, on track and motivated in my quest to fitness. I’ve found that loosing my pregnancy weight was easy in comparison to KEEPING it off for good, becoming FIT – not just skinnier, and leading a healthier lifestyle. Reading your website helps me see there’s plenty of other people out there going through the same thing, and I don’t know, knowing that there’s plenty of others out there, kind of makes it easier to stick with my “plan” – make sense?. Anyway – I just wanted to take a minute to thank you for being an inspiration and help with this quest :)

    Tonya

    April 8, 2009

    I think the funk was contagious. I was definitely fighting it too. Sometimes the “funk” is a sign to go within and do a bit of cleaning, but sometimes it’s a sign to just get some sleep. For me, a little siesta did the trick. Not always so easy though.

    Michelle in CA

    April 9, 2009

    lol I call it a “funk” too when I feel myself slipping … Love your honesty about what you are experiencing. It really does keep me coming back. Also when I feel *myself* in a funk, I come here to read your past posts to motivate myself out of it (and confirm I’m not the only one out there that goes this this :-)

    Sara

    April 9, 2009

    Hey Roni! I just thought I’d give my 2 cents… when I saw the “heading into funkville” the first thing I thought of was maybe it is because you just finished your 10 mile race. You’ve spent months training and preparing for it… and it is all over in one day. I fell into the worst funk after my wedding this past August. I had no motivation to do anything… I was just kinda blah, kinda depressed. After thinking about it I came to the conclusion that it must be because I had spent the last year planning this ONE day. Once it was over I was bummed. I told myself to focus on other things (work, school, my new marriage… duh!) and hopped outta that funk pretty fast!

    Just remember… these funks are only temporary… they only last as long as we let them :)