Comments on: What are you REALLY afraid of?

By: Lou

Lou — Sat, 04 Apr 2009 13:03:51 +0000

Roni, I love this post/QotW. How you keep this so fresh all the time is just amazing to me.

As for the QotW goes, from my perspective it is a matter or what you value which is what you are afraid of losing. I personally value my integrity, my humility and my morals most. Now that is what I am afraid of losing most sometimes. I hate it when I start to talk as if I have all the answers. I don’t I have to always take a step back from myself to keep an honest perspective. I said something on my facebook page that kind of floored me after I read it. I was talking about training others to do a 5k race and there were two choices a early race and a late summer race. I boldly said something like, heck I might just do both they are “only” 5ks. ONLY 5Ks…? Up until August I could not even “a single” 5k never mind contemplate running two of them in as many days.

So my fear is not losing my place with my peers but losing my place in my heart. I have to be true to me and who I am first. That is what I fear the most I guess.

By: marymaybe

marymaybe — Fri, 03 Apr 2009 14:01:15 +0000

this is an awesome post and i am struggling with myself. this came at a perfect time. thank you Roni

By: Mary @ A Merry Life

Mary @ A Merry Life — Fri, 03 Apr 2009 04:58:38 +0000

I’m afraid of being where you are. I’m afraid of succeeding and being in a situation where everything is unfamiliar. Eh.

By: Jill

Jill — Thu, 02 Apr 2009 18:02:32 +0000

oops! I meant 10 weeks not months!

By: Jill

Jill — Thu, 02 Apr 2009 18:01:18 +0000

What a great post! I’ve been following your blog for a couple of months. I too am on a weightloss journey. I started weight watchers this past August. After 10 months I had only lost 10 lbs and was very discouraged.
One of my best friends had recently lost weight by doing weight watchers and running. I told her I would love to run, but I never been able to run. I couldn’t even run for 3 mins straight without dying. She told me that any one could become a runner. She inspired me and I decided to try running. I rejoined WW in December and started running in January. I made the goal to run a half marathon in June.

Since rejoining, I’ve lost 25 more lbs. Running is becoming easier and a couple of weeks ago I hit 8.5 miles. In the past couple of weeks I have been getting a lot of compliments on my running and weightloss. I feel that my running and weightloss are the topic of conversation everywhere I go. I have always been somewhat overweight and I really don’t like attention. This recent attention has been making me very uncomfortable and I am beginning to see Tall Poppy syndrome. I don’t like talking about my success, but at the same time it bothers me when people don’t notice it. Does that make sense? I have a sister who I am really close to and she is also battling weightloss. I am very uncomfortable around her. I feel like I can’t celebrate my success because it will hurt her feelings. I still have 20-25 more lbs to lose and I hope that I will be able to maintain and stay at a healthy weight. I think when it all comes down to it…maintaince is my biggest fear! Thanks for the post!

By: Amy

Amy — Thu, 02 Apr 2009 01:49:03 +0000

I think I’ve been hiding behind the fat, therefore not living the life I want or putting myself out there. Too much rejection over the years that I associated with my weight. I am afraid of not knowing the thin me, as Lynne said, discovering the real me. Who’s hiding inside there, ready to get out? She’s got to be different than the one sitting here. Am I ready to face her/meet her? It’s also easier to be this way, than to do the work.

By: Lynne

Lynne — Thu, 02 Apr 2009 00:15:46 +0000

I fear not knowing who I really am, or who I will be when I reach my weight goal. I know who I “created” when I was at my highest weigh, but I don’t think I need that crutch anymore. One of the scariest parts of my journey is discovering the real me.

By: Nina

Nina — Wed, 01 Apr 2009 19:21:38 +0000

Hi Roni,

I’ve been an avid reader (and fan) of your blogs for almost three years now. I’ve done WW twice in my life. Once before I got married, and once when I started a new job. Both times I was successful…I lost 24 pounds each time, but never met the healthy weight range that WW says is appropriate for my body. I got stuck. I hit a plateau. I got discouraged. I stopped. Both times I gained all the weight back and I felt like a failure. So….my fear is working hard, working out, feeling deprived, and NEVER getting there. Someone commented that they had a perfectionist side to them…if they do something, they have to be perfect. I feel like that with WW. I decided to go back to WW (for the third time) a couple weeks ago. Is this time going to be different? Do I have the will to stay committed to a life change, rather than a short change?

I know what success feels like, so why am I so resistant to start?

By: Deb

Deb — Wed, 01 Apr 2009 18:56:58 +0000

Wow. It’s so weird that you posted this today. I’ve been having some weird, uncomfortable feelings lately, when people have commented on my weight loss. I’m down 58 pounds and still have another 55 to go, and people are just recently starting to comment more. I was enjoying it, but lately it’s started to feel weird. I couldn’t put my finger on why, though, until reading your post just now. I’m almost embarassed of my weight loss, as crazy as that sounds. It’s like a love/hate thing, I think. I love that the weight is coming off, but with so much more to go, I wonder how I’ll feel as I get closer to goal, and get more comments. A couple of people have even asked me how much more I want to lose, and I feel really uncomfortable telling them. Somebody said, “oh you must be really close to goal…” 55 pounds is not close, and it’s not my goal, it’s the WW goal. When I told somebody how much more I had to go they were saying I couldn’t possibly lose that much more, I didn’t need to. Nuts. I know my body, I’m short, and I know I need to lose a bunch more to be at a healthy BMI, but I think I carry my weight well, if that makes sense. Anyway, sorry to ramble. It’s just that when I see people I haven’t seen in a while it makes me nervous about what they’re going to say. You have definitely helped me figure out what it is. Thanks.

By: deanna

deanna — Wed, 01 Apr 2009 18:45:32 +0000

…of facing my demons or my true self when I get to goal…