Comments on: Ask Roni _v21s3 – A Vegetable Hater, Loving Yourself, What I Find Hard

By: Christine (2)

Christine (2) — Thu, 19 Mar 2009 18:51:18 +0000

Just wanted to say you are beautiful! Thanks for the emotional bit. I am with what Maria commented. Totally going to try to get out of my comfort zone a bit more this week! Thanks for your great example!

By: Julie

Julie — Thu, 19 Mar 2009 01:18:59 +0000

Roni, although I check in on your blog often this is the first video I’ve watched. And I’m hooked! I was feeling a little lonely tonight, and when I’m lonely I have a HUGE tendency to eat, so having this on while I cut up veggies in the kitchen was just what I needed. Please keep it up!

By: Christine

Christine — Wed, 18 Mar 2009 20:06:42 +0000

McLauren84

Totally agree… My special area is my chin. If my hubby touches it I used to freak out. Now, I freak out in my head and say, “Hunny please don’t do that it pisses me off”. (with a smile on my face) So we laugh because he forgets. I think he is just showing affection and teasing me but I am trying.

I am working on self-love every day.

By: McLauren84

McLauren84 — Wed, 18 Mar 2009 18:51:09 +0000

Christine, I know exactly how you feel with the “unwanted male attention.” Even when I was single, I was incredibly uncomfortable with guys trying to flirt with me. I think it’s because I never think I’m pretty, so I always assume they must be making fun of me or something. It’s a self confidence issue. I don’t believe I’m attractive, so why would anyone else? That’s why I fight with my boyfriend when he tells me how pretty I am or how good I look. When he tries to touch my stomach, I flip out and get mad at him, even though I know he loves every inch of me.

Like so many things, it’s something we have to work on! :D

By: Christine

Christine — Wed, 18 Mar 2009 18:04:55 +0000

Roni

I love this. I too teared up because we I had these feelings too.

Wearing baggy clothes and being overweight I was just some “fat chick” and I was invisible. When I asked for help at a department store I was ignored. Now when I ask for help (it seems in my little mind) people are more willing to help a person who is a more accetable weight.

It was also easy for me to hide being a woman and not getting “unwanted male attention”. I am happily married and feel very uncomfortable with men giving me the, “How you doin’?” look. I also have my body issues. ;0) I am working on it and I am making progress! Thank you for the insipring post. I love how you put yourself out there and are fearless (to me)!!!

By: McLauren84

McLauren84 — Wed, 18 Mar 2009 17:08:42 +0000

Hi Roni! Great stuff! I’m so grateful you’re willing to be so open with us about the issues you’ve struggled. I know so many of us have struggled with the same issues. Your stretch pants and maternity top story reminded me of a time when I was supposed to go out with friends and I realized I didn’t have a single pair of jeans that fit. I knew all my cute, thin friends would look fantastic and I would feel terrible about myself all night. I pull on some jeans so tight that I couldn’t even button them and thought they might burst. I wore my boyfriend’s oversized sweatshirt to hide everything. I was so miserable and embarrassed the whole night. I still have a ways to go, but thankfully the days of nothing fitting are safely behind me!

I like how you touched on the “What the Hell” complex. I already ate the cheeseburger, so what the hell, I might as eat the large fries. I heard an interested analogy from Jillian Michaels along these lines. She said something like, “If you had a flat tire, you wouldn’t give up and slash the other three. You’d fix the problem and move on. Just because you have one small set back with your diet or exercise doesn’t mean you have to sabotage everything.”

Thanks as always for your inspiration! Again, your openness means so much to me.

By: Bonnie

Bonnie — Wed, 18 Mar 2009 13:12:27 +0000

Jessica–I know what you mean about the mirror/picture thing. It’s always been that way for me too. Both when I was overweight and I didn’t “feel” that fat, and for some reason, in my “own” mirrors anyway, I could look in them and fool myself. But if someone took a picture of me, I ALWAYS looked fatter than I felt. And another thing, when I looked in a “strange” mirror (which is any mirror not in my own house that I was used to looking at myself in), I could see the same thing, basically, that I saw in the photo.

And now that I’ve lost 95 pounds, I have the opposite problem, nearly. Sometimes I’ll see myself in a picture or a strange mirror, and I’m shocked that that’s me! Whoa…..I look like THAT now??? I don’t FEEL that much different. Although, actually, I DO feel different…a LOT different. I feel 20 years younger (I’m 53…until next Wednesday anyway), and fabulous. And at my age, what I feel like is so much more important to me than what I look like….although that’s a fringe benefit.

By: Maria

Maria — Tue, 17 Mar 2009 19:24:24 +0000

Roni – as always you are terrific!!! Don’t apologize for getting emotional – those emotional moments and personal stories and experience are what really hit home for me and bring tears to my eyes. I am always inspired by you and will make my focus this week to “get out of my comfort zone”. Thanks for being here Roni!

By: laurieann

laurieann — Tue, 17 Mar 2009 14:32:58 +0000

I have been struggling with loving myself for 14 years now. Weight is just weight. If I can’t love myself fat then surely I won’t love myself just because I’m skinny. I need to work on the inner package before the outer package. Does any of this make sense to anyone else? Anyways- I totally relate to how emotional you got about this. I get the same way.

By: AlliJag

AlliJag — Tue, 17 Mar 2009 14:19:53 +0000

LOL – I love how you go “where are you” (as you are trying to find Ryan with the camera) – and he’s like “I’m right here” – in the DUH mommy – can’t you see me – sort of voice! Made me smile :)