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Does this Bother You?

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As you guys may know, I wrote a few Guest Posts for Diets In Review. They are an awesome bunch and I love the site (more info on any diet plan then you will ever need to know!) However, there was a recent post on their blog about "Getting Jennifer Aniston’s ‘Sleek Yoga Arms.’" For some reason this outraged me. That’s a strong word and I may be using it because I’ve been TRYING to get Jennifer Aniston style arms for over a year. Working my butt of at the gym. I can easily do 25 push ups. I recently accomplished my pull up goal. I can bench more then half my body weight and my trainer calls me "diesel" for God’s sake. I am strong, fit and confident. I’m active and I love it. So why in the hell do I need to compare myself to anyone. Jennifer Aniston isn’t me. I am me, my arms are fine and that’s O…K…

When will I learn that?

I realize women have constantly been trying to become someone else’s idea of an "ideal" body. Even our concept of our own "ideal" body is shaped and morphed by our culture and what we, ourselves find attractive. Do I find Jennifer Anniston attractive? Of course. But that doesn’t mean I have to compare myself to her. Why do we find the need to do this?

How many young women see that article or similar ones, look at their own arms and then get depressed? I don’t want to be a drama queen here but this is the type of stuff that leads to eating disorders and a warped sense of self.

I know. It happened to me.

I’ve always wanted "Jennifer Anniston arms". I remember being self-selconscious of my arms as a preteen. I spent 20 years of my life staying away from tank tops when I had nothing to be ashamed of in the first place. And as I got fatter and fatter because I was unhappy with not only my arms but my entire body, I was making it worse. Instead of being the best person I could be, I spent my time feeling sorry for myself and eating because I didn’t look like someone else. Sad, isn’t it?

So this weeks question is a bit more opinionated then most. I want to know if this type of article bothers you? Am I being overly sensitive? (That’s never been known happen, has it?) I just think the article could have passed on the great information about strengthening your arms without the comparison to a possibly unattainable body image.

Thoughts?





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    Rachel

    February 3, 2009

    Oh yes, they bother me in a big way. Our society puts unbelieveable and unfair pressure on women and as the mother of a two-year-old beauty I want to keep her head clear of it all.

    Take, for example, Jessica Simpson who recently dared to become a size 8 – oh the horror. The media has used words like “full-figured,” “chubby,” and “ample” to describe a size 8!

    My daughter was in the room when a news broadcast about this was on TV the other day. She looked up and said, “She pretty momma.”

    Yes, she is.

    So is she, so am I – we need to ignore crap like this. Truely. It is highly messed up.

    Lily

    February 3, 2009

    Yeah..it does bother me a bit. But then I realise that this is the best way to sell their magazine or article. They know that people DO want their arms or whatever body parts to look like celebrities’.
    I tend to react the same way too, so now I only try to admire celebs that have a similar body type to mine.
    I’m not long and slender like Nicole Kidman, I don’t have legs up to there and Yoga arms, so even if I stop eating and lose 40 pounds and work out every day, I won’t look like her, never.
    So now I look at girls like Kate Winslet instead, and Scarlett Johansson, who have some curves, “larger” hips, less linear bodies, and it makes me much more confident in myself and gives me an attainable fitness goal.

    fitforfree

    February 3, 2009

    You are not overly sensitive at all!! This is why I love magazines like OUTSIDE—I always feel inspired by reading about how strong and capable the featured athletes are—but it’s rarely phrased in a way that idealizes the athletes’ bodies. SO FRUSTRATING.

    I used to base my body image completely on how I compared to the people around me (particularly one roommate—if I weighed less than her I felt way better about myself than if I weighed more than her, regardless of the fact that i was WAY more physically fit than her!) It took a LONG time to undo that habit and start to form my own habits for my own health. Articles like the one you posted about just make it harder.

    Erin

    February 3, 2009

    I think I have been wanting to be GI Jane for way too ling. I remember researching Demi Moore’s diet when preparing to film GI Jane and then years later as I got more comfortable with my body she went and totally changed her body for that Charlie’s Angels movie. I realized then that trying to be soemone else and keep up with someone else was WAYYYYY beyond impossible, it was INSANE!!!

    Christie

    February 3, 2009

    I usually breeze past those type of articles because I realize that most of them are all the same stuff over and over again. I also realize that a lot of other people may not think the same way – especially young impressionable girls.

    So, to answer you question, no that type of article doesn’t normally bother me but I can totally see why it would bother a lot of people. In fact, maybe I should be bothered…

    Shawnda

    February 3, 2009

    what bothers me are the airbrushed. computer enhanced cover pictures on women magazines. As if these women are not pretty enough, even the magazine is not happy with them and has to make their looks, figures even more unattainable. I remember several years ago on good morning america was Cindy Crawford talking about a pic of her on a cover of a magazine. her waist was not small enough so by computer they cut away at her waist to make it smaller. Sigh….and yet it is always the fat men on tv who get the beautiful women……men have no wheres near the pressure to “look perfect” as we women

    Sheri

    February 3, 2009

    That is a good question. Sometimes these types of articles bother me, but those are generally within those times when I am frustrated by people invoking their opinions about my body against me, or wishing a man would accept me for who I am – allllll!!!!! of me without question, concern or bias. Those are the more sour days, but in my generally humorous self, fi someone were to propose to me a way fo getting Jennifer Aniston ‘s Sleek Yoga Arms, I would take one look at them, look down at my arm, back at them, and (pointing at the arm) ask, “Before you tell me how to get it into a sleek Yoga arm, can you first tell me how to remove the extra couple Aniston sized arms that are trapped in there?”

    I love to see people’s jaws fall on the floor! LOL

    Kelly

    February 3, 2009

    I agree that the media fosters a comparison that can be very unhealthy, especially for a young girl who hasn’t really formed an identity.
    But i also think that this constant assertion that we want to aspire to be beautiful and perfect in ways that are defined by the media is part of a larger, less defined image of perfection that pervades our self images to a degree we may not always be aware of.
    Just this morning I complimented a coworker as I passed her in the hall- she just looked healthy, rested, and very pulled together. She immediately responded to my casual “you look great” with “I haven’t lost any weight”! As if that fact cancelled out any compliment.
    How sad.

    Ami

    February 3, 2009

    I usually just tune these articles out because they do bother me. I’ve come to appreciate how healthy and strong I am. As I get older (I’m 29) I like how I look more all the time and I just want to look the best I can. Not comparing to anyone else, I just want to look my best. Which translates for me to looking healthy. So I say healthy is beautiful!

    I have a 3 year old little girl with a clean slate when it comes to body image. I want to train her to love how God made her body, in His image! How can anything be more beautiful? I hope that gets thoroughly ingrained in her mind before all the adds and articles and magazine covers start getting through to her.

    Hey, the people who write the articles have body issues, too. Why do we do this to ourselves?

    Alex Quintana

    February 3, 2009

    Roni… simple mathematical expression.

    you >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> jennifer aniston

    like seriously, and your arms couldn’t get any sleeker.

    Annette

    February 3, 2009

    yes it does bother me………but more that “we” are wanting to be “someone” we are not. If we have learned ANYTHING, it’s to love ourself as is……..sure, work on being healthier and stronger, but without the self -love and acceptance, the rest of it is just a shallow pool of nothingness.

    Jennie

    February 3, 2009

    It outrages me that the media is so caught up in an unhealthy view of beauty. Getting in shape shouldn’t be all about the way it looks. It should be about shedding limits. Each pound of fat that I loose and pound of muscle I gain has the advantage of freeing me! That pound less of fat makes my jeans fit better and makes me feel good about trying on a new shirt. That pound of muscle will free me up to pick up something a little heavier. Maybe its the full trash can, the case of water bottles, maybe for you it is picking up the toddler and dancing for half an hour. The extra energy that comes with it will get you up off the couch and moving. Ask the question does this free me? IF it is imprisoning it is not beauty, the models who haven’t eaten in 3 weeks for a photo shoot can’t run and jump and do a pull up they are the ones who are limited. Your arms are perfect for you right now. They will change as you lift more and push yourself, they will adapt to what you need, and they are beautiful for that.

    Carla

    February 3, 2009

    These articles definitely bother me. If I had Jennifer Aniston’s arms I’d look a bit like a potato with two toothpicks sticking out of it. Jen’s (because we’re on a nickname basis) arms are not an attainable goal for me. Her arms will always be sleeker and thinner than mine. But that doesn’t mean I won’t have kick-butt arms too one day. I don’t need to be encouraged to compare them to someone that I will never be able to compete with.

    Valerie

    February 3, 2009

    Just this weekend, I was flipping through a magazine and there was a picture of Jessica Simpson. The media is calling her “Jumbo Jessica”. Jumbo. How ridiculous is that??? Some say it is her “job” to look good (as a celebrity) but other than the horrible jeans she chose to wear, she certainly didn’t look “jumbo”. And what about Britney Spears at the VMA’s last year or the year before when “they” called her fat. It’s crazy. Why do we feel the need to judge people based on their outer shells????

    Cookie

    February 3, 2009

    Well, now that you put it like that, it can be somewhat bothersome, unfortunately, I am one of those girls that frequently says that I would love to have so and so’s legs, and so and so’s abs… While it does do a good job motivating me, it can also get discouraging. It’s one of the things I’m working on with myself. I need to look at myself as motivation, not others. Great post!

    Lynn

    February 3, 2009

    Yeah, Roni, I get it, too. Too well. I want Jennifer Aniston’s arms, Shakira’s belly, Tina Turner’s thighs…sigh. BUT, I have Lynn arms and Lynn belly and Lynn thighs and that, I need to always remind myself, is OK, too :)

    Cory

    February 3, 2009

    It bothers me because it leads people to think that if they follow the plan, they WILL look like that. However, they might not since every person is different.
    However, I think it does get more people to look at some fitness plans and actually think about them. So, it has its pluses and missues…

    Randi

    February 3, 2009

    I do find that I’m desensitized to them. But when I notice them I do get upset. But I think a bit different than you do. Usually these workouts or diets are NOTHING at all like whatever celebrity does. Sometimes they need to work out hours a day for a certain look (and even if it’s their “trainer” doing the article, they might have trained them once, or worked at the gym they work out at or something), and sometimes they don’t do anything but were just genetically blessed. You never will look like somebody else, and it’s usually the parts of you that you wish did the most (your problem area will never be somebody else’s best feature.)

    Pubsgal

    February 3, 2009

    My MizFit motivation buddy, SeaBreeze, had an interesting post on the body image topic. http://thegymismynewbf.blogspot.com/2009/02/unrealistic-standards.html

    I think that articles like that are why I tend to not follow the celebrity media. I’m now very comfortable with a “never have been my standards, never will be” stance regarding media standards for body image. I spent way too many of my hot-young-thing years feeling like the “fat girl” compared to my friends of different body types, when we all had very nice figures and all had healthy weights for our respective heights. (Several of these friends confessed later to having the same feelings!)

    Like Ami, though, I worry about my kids getting caught up in this. So far, they are small and not into this. I often tell them how beautiful/handsome they are, and describe it in terms of their strong bodies that can do so many awesome things. Hope-hope-hoping that (and setting an example with exercising) will stick with them for the long haul.

    Laura Jane

    February 3, 2009

    Yes, this does bother me. I usually try to avoid those articles if possible (although I know sometimes it’s not.) It’s just not encouraging. My arms would probably never look like’s Jennifer Aniston’s no matter what I did. Often, those articles imply that they did something very easy to achieve that, when in reality they had to work much harder. I find reading your blog to be so much more inspiring than reading articles about celebs.

    Janet

    February 3, 2009

    I was also going to say the Jessica Simpson stuff bugs me. In the latest Us Weekly they mention that she is about 135 lbs now. The horror! (rolling eyes). It’s just ridiculous that it’s even an issue. The cartoons surrounding the topic were mean-spirited and disgusting, too.

    Though, I do think she is going to be on the cover of Us Weekly in a few weeks with the headline “How I lost 10 lbs in 6 weeks!” or something like that, which is part of the problem!

    MaryBe

    February 3, 2009

    I am pretty sure that Jennifer Aniston wants MY arms ;)

    Michelle in CA

    February 3, 2009

    Those articles don’t bother me because I understand it’s what makes people buy the magazines, click through, etc. The photo-shopping is the WORST!!! That *really* bothers me.

    A note about Jessica Simpson and her slight weight gain: doesn’t that just show how HARD weight loss/maintenance is if the mental mindset isn’t there? Goodness, she can afford to have someone knocking on her door to take her to workout and have a chef to cook her the yummiest healthy food every day. Same with Oprah. Us mortals have to reach even deeper lol and *big sigh*

    Ashley

    February 3, 2009

    First of all, I had to look up Jessica Simpson and see what all the fuss was about. She’s totally not fat, just in a hedious pair of high-waisted jeans. Now, onto the real question at hand. Yes, Roni, it does upset me when I see these articles. Mostly, because of my daughter. I figure I’m a lost cause, but she’s not. Pictures and articles like this are going to make her question her body way too much and way too early. Not to mention that all the other little girls her age will be bombarded by the same material, so even if I save her from the media, then I have to save her from the other girls on the playground?!? What’s a mommy to do?

    Jessica

    February 3, 2009

    I agree with Ashley. If she would wear more flattering clothes (in the RIGHT SIZE!) she would look better. But, then again it IS the responsibility of the tabloid media to catch everyone at their worst and scream it to the world about what a disgusting fatbody so-and-so has become. No wonder everyone has a distorted body image! To heck with Jennifer Aniston arms. I’m working on “Roni Arms!” (like the ones in the pic of you and the Toddler, you have him flipped upside down. It may have been on the old site) I’m sure you hear it a million times a day, but I look at your pictures for support ( not really the word I’m looking for) Sometimes I need a nudge and seeing how much you’ve achieved really helps. Thanks again for all this great work!

    Token Fat Girl

    February 3, 2009

    I think on some level they do bother me because they are basically selling a caption, rather than reality. On the other hand, I don’t take it seriously at all and tend to ignore articles like that because I will never have her arms, or your arms or anyone else’s arms. I don’t think you’re being sensitive, but this stuff is everywhere. Do you see whats happening to jessica simpson? Apparently she is “fat” now.

    Also, I’m pretty aware of the website dietsinreview.com it is an internet marketing website made to look like a review website. I know this because I am an internet marketer too and am familiar with a lot of the ebooks that he sells (among other things). With that said, I take that website with a grain of salt.

    Susan

    February 3, 2009

    I haven’t read the article, by I can totally relate. Last week, I was participating in a sculpt class. The instructor is totally ripped (she works out in a sports bra and shorts). I am self conscious of my (bat) arms. Half way through our 100 (10 at a time) push ups, the instructor mentions an interview that she was watching where they highlighted bat arms as the “new” body problem. (maybe I am a trend setter I thought) No, I actually became super self conscious when she yelled out! No one in my class has bat arms. I felt like crawling under a rock (a complete 180 from the high I had from my workout), because I do have bat arms. I felt like everyone was looking around for ppl with bat arms – I am sure they were not, but that’s the paranoia that set in after the fact. But, as I remind myself now, I am me, and I am working on things piece by piece. Even if I never have Jennifer arms, I need to focus on me and the positive aspects of me. Like my calves that are becoming more and more defined! ;)

    Melanie

    February 3, 2009

    I don’t know, it doesn’t bother me so much. I think it’s good to have an ideal in mind, something to work towards…..WHILE appreciating the wonderful body you have been given. The whole time I was losing weight, I was really into the TV show Alias on DVD, and I found myself really seeing Jennifer Garner as a fitness role model. I am pleased to say that now I LOVE my JACKED arms and sleek (if I do say so myself!) abs, and I feel that somehow her character motivated me towards that………

    I think there’s a big difference between aspiring towards a certain fitness level/ideal body and comparing yourself with someone. If you wanna talk something that makes me BURN, let’s talk about the media’s hounding on Jessica Simpson’s weight gain!!

    Jen

    February 4, 2009

    The article doesn’t make me mad, because I can see what they were trying to do. They were trying to give a visual of lean, toned, arms. Maybe they thought that saying Jennifer Aniston arms was more effective than describing arms like that. I don’t know.

    However, that said, it is always discouraging, depressing, and downright wrong to compare ourselves to other people. I did it today, as a matter of fact. A friend of mine dropped something off at my house, and she has a body just as great as Jennifer Aniston, without the trainers and chefs. I definitely fell short- in my mind. As we always will when comparing ourselves to others.

    Jill

    February 4, 2009

    The thing I find funny is I never think about wanting someone else’s arms until I see an article like that. Why must the media point out so-called “ideal” body types 24/7? Oi, we’d all be so much happier if we just thought about our body rather than becoming like someone else.

    Svanhvit

    February 4, 2009

    Oh, yes, it bothers me. While I realize they need something to write about, it still makes me mad. I am who I am and nobody else. I don’t have the same things going on in my life. I have two little children (three if you count DH), a full time job, a home to care for and last but certainly not least (proud of this) myself. I take the time to exercise, but I can’t do it all the time! And I can’t afford a personal trainer and a cook and whatever.

    So I have decided to just look away. I don’t care. Great if she has such lovely arms. But mine are getting better. In small steps but they are. And the best I can be is all I can be right??

    I think you are right, articles like those are stuff that make teens go crazy. I let enough of them get me down through time. NO more!

    MizFit

    February 4, 2009

    hmmmm. devils advocate here. LOATHE THE TITLE. Like the way that they show/say you dont need a trainer or a fancy gym to do the yoga. but, again, that snippet is hidden near the end.

    I like the piece better than the YOU TOO CAN LOOK LIKE MEGAN FOX!!! articles where we learn that she has a trainer and does pilates using only the reformer and they still insist it’s a workout for the masses.

    had the article been titled: Jen Stays Fit Through Yoga would you have disliked the piece?

    I dont think I would have.
    the word SLEEK however would have made me skip the article if you hadnt written about it..

    Courtney

    February 4, 2009

    I definitely agree with MizFit here, in saying that the title SUCKS. But it’s so right that if the title had been more fitness-oriented than being-like-Jennifer-oriented, it wouldn’t be anywhere near as bad.

    I would love to have Jennifer Aniston’s arms [or anyone else who has toned arms, for that matter!], although I don’t think that we as women should compare ourselves to anyone else for our perfect image of ‘beauty’.

    Honestly, as cliche as it sounds, real beauty comes from within, and while I know that I’m trying to achieve weight loss for SOME selfish and appearance-related reasons, I really do want to be happier and healthier ALL OVER. I’m taking steps to renew my mind as well as my body, and I’ve never felt better about myself — even though my goal weight is still 30 lbs away.

    Charlie Hills

    February 4, 2009

    To be honest, Jennifer Aniston has never struck me as ‘sleek’. I understand the general outrage over the media obsession with “unhealthy body images” but we’re not exactly talking about Kate Moss here. Jennifer seems rather average to me (and I actually mean that in a good way) and there’s probably nothing wrong with a publication using her as a reference point.

    How about this? What if the article was talking about Jane Q. McWorkout, a complete nobody, someone we’d never heard of, but also had Jennifer Aniston’s ‘sleek’ arms. We’d probably be saying, “Yes! You go girl! You’re such an inspiration.” But if it’s a celebrity, we’re angered that we’re being held to unrealistic ideals?

    Just a thought!

    roni

    February 4, 2009

    I’m so glad I asked this question! What great opinions.

    1.) I agree with MzFit and that’s what I meant by the ….

    “I just think the article could have passed on the great information about strengthening your arms without the comparison to a possibly unattainable body image.”

    2.) I really think my issue comes with the fact that I KNOW I CAN’T get those arms (let’s take poor Jen out of as she is an innocent bystander). I just have too much skin from my years of yo-yo dieting. So I’m wondering if those that aren’t offended actually are people who can/or never had a weight issue.

    3.) Charlie – I disagree. It could have said.. “Get the sleek arms of MaryJane Nobody” and I still would have been pissed. My point is that you are setting up some of your readers who may want those arms (or whatever) but it’s just not physically possible for them.

    Again, I liked the actual post. The thing I wanted to bring attention to was the comparison. Why can’t we sell magazines (or whatever) with titles like…

    “Do these Yoga moves for Sleeker Arms” – Sleeker as defined by the reader

    OR

    “Want to strengthen you arms, Try these Yoga Moves”

    The intent is the same without blatantly ignoring the fact that not all of us are build like who ever they are using for comparison.

    Just my thoughts.

    I think the root of my point is the comparison thing. Like Jen said above. Someone we have to stop that. Not sure how tough.

    AS for Jessica… I haven’t gone there on the blog. It made me so mad I couldn’t even post about it. All I can do is nod my head in disbelief.

    Charlie Hills

    February 4, 2009

    Well, who wouldn’t get pissed reading about MaryJane Nobody. She drives me crazy!

    Still, I think we can’t help but have comparisons: you’re railing against human nature. Saying, “If you work out you could possibly look like this,” is, in effect, no different from a cookbook showing a picture of the final dish as prepared by a professional. Just because yours doesn’t look exactly like that doesn’t mean you failed. But I think most people at least like having a model to look at.

    roni

    February 4, 2009

    Hmmmmm interesting. Now I must ponder this. :)

    I may have to admit it’s just a jealously thing that has me outraged.

    DAMN YOU CHARLIE!

    LOL

    Tania

    February 4, 2009

    How do we really know how her arms look? All we see is the airbrushed product. Yes, I am tired of all the pressure society puts on women, in particular, to look a certain way. We are all individuals; we have different body types. If we would all try to become the best person we can be instead of looking at an unrealistic goal (like celebrities), I think we would be more happier .. and calmer

    Dana

    February 4, 2009

    Well kind of upset. Outraged, no. People are suckersfor a celebrity. The All Mighty Dollar, you know. The outrage here is that WE let ourself fall for that shit. Then we pass it along to our kids. Why oh why do we compare. I want to have the best “ME” arms. or whatever. Thank you for your honesty.

    fatinah

    February 4, 2009

    they are going to put a picture of a model’s arms there regardless to attract people to the article – visuals are what make us stop and read. I don’t know that it makes a difference that we know the model’s name.

    Jen

    February 4, 2009

    Ok I know this isn’t a Jessica Simpson post but I HAVE to vent about what was on the radio this morning. So for any of you in the Boston area, “Matty in the Morning” is a popular radio show to listen to while commuting into work. Today they start talking about how Jessica was supposed to be on the cover of Self magazine, but that Self has said they “couldn’t work out a date and it’s not happening”.

    So the 3 hosts (2 males, 1 female) go on and ON about how RIDICULOUS it would be if she were on the cover. Sadly, I can expect this from men. But the kicker was that the female on the show AGREED! She was like “yeah, definitely not a good time for her”. What the heck!? This is a public figure saying a size 8 woman is far too fat to be on the cover of a magazine – and Self is supposed to promote HEALTHY women, not twigs! I can see if maybe it were Shape, or Fitness magazine, but Self?

    People are so warped in this country!

    ::stepping off soap box…::

    Sheri

    February 4, 2009

    I was just blogging about this today, not the radio show, but the reaction to Jessica Simpson. Trust me, it’s not just the US that’s got this image issue.

    Ami

    February 4, 2009

    Sorry to turn this into a whole Jessica Simpson thing, but I just looked up those pictures and I think she looks great! I’m 5’7″, and my goal weight is 135, so if I was her size I’d say, Yippee, I reached my goal! I was that size and weight after my first baby and I felt great and looked pretty good too. Why does anyone need to be thinner than that? I’m baffled!

    I commented earilier that healthy is beautiful. Too skinny isn’t healthy.

    Brandi

    February 4, 2009

    Yes, they bother me. Simply because you’re right. Comparison is pointless. You are You are You are You. No one else can be you and you don’t get to be someone else.

    But I’m also guilty of it. Big time. I want Jessica Biel’s athletically amazing body. From arm tone to leg strength.

    But I’m learning to accept that I am me. And all I can work on is ME.

    :)

    Dawn

    February 5, 2009

    You are not alone, and the media makes a huge hype from ANY woman in the “biz” if they have a shape that’s not deemed perfection. Look at Jessica Simpson, she’s curvy and healthy and because she no longer looks like Daisy Duke from that Dukes of Hazzard movie, she is being ridiculed.

    You are gorgeous, you of all people should know this, and you are working your butt off!!! If ONLY I could be where you are right now, but everyone has a pace, everyone has a body type, we’re all different for a reason and that’s what makes us special…Jennifer Aniston has NOTHING on you, sweetie! Plus I’m sure you could kick her butt in a fight! I’d take that over sleek arms anyday.

    Sarah

    February 5, 2009

    This is more than infuriating to me. I just posted on Jessica Simpson yesterday. That poor girl is taking a huge hit when she’s not even “fat” or “overweight”, she actually probably where her body needs to be to be healthy and she’s getting slammed for it.
    Sure I would love Jennifer Aniston’s arm, Jessica Biel’s abs, and Angelina Jolie’s legs – but that’s not me. We are talking about three very different and unique women, three that don’t have the same genetic make up. I may try my whole life to get those abs, but it might not be in the cards for me for many reasons.
    Our society today causes mainly young women (sometimes men too) to have complexes about themselves and the self esteme goes crashing. It starts messing with your head and slowly it begins to take control over every aspect of your life. I know, because I’ve been there! I know it’s hard not to compare to someone else, but it’s vitally important when you’re trying to be you!

    Zandria

    February 5, 2009

    Comparisons suck. Especially you can probably do a ton of stuff better than Jen An can (could SHE do a pull-up?).

    Ben Combs

    March 25, 2009

    jessica still rox so hate on haters!!