One Mom’s Journey from Fat to Skinny to Confident

WEEKLY QUESTIONS

What do you love about the process?

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If you missed this weekend quote click here to check it out. It was about falling in love with the process not just the end result.

Such a power statement, right? One we can learn so much from. The interesting thing… we are all at different points in this "process". Some of us are just beginning, some maintaining, some plateauing, and maybe some just considering when to start.

So I’m taking Ami’s suggestion and using this idea for the question of the week.

Love this quote and I’ve been thinking about it all weekend. I would love to see this as a question of the week. What, specifically, are you loving about the process right now?

For me? Right now I’m loving the time running gives to me. Especially in this stressful time of house building/selling. I’m loving that I have a built in sense of accountability when I’m about to stress eat. But most importantly I’m loving how far I’ve come. I would have never imagined IN A MILLION YEARS I would be training for a 1/2 and full marathon this year. And yes I had to scream that. I started this process with a simple commitment of "follow the plan", "do something active every day" and "stay true to this blog". Now, three and half years later my process is the same just at much different level. I run where I used to walk. I blog daily where I used blog weekly and I still food journal and stay aware of my eating habits. So I guess you can say I specifically like where these commitments have taken me by not giving up on the process. I also appreciate the fact "the process" doesn’t "end". I’m in this for life and that’s actually a comforting feeling, no matter my size or what the scale says.

So how about you? What are you loving about the process right now?



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Discussion

There are 39 comments so far.

    Michelle

    January 21, 2009

    I actually am at a plateau right now. But I love the fact that I have gotten here. I am healthier, my hubby is healthier, and my kids know the difference between and healthy/unhealthy choices. This WW process has given me freedom to occasionally make bad choices and still be on plan. That is what I love about this process, the freedom. Thanks Roni, and finding you has also made the process easier.

    Charlie Hills

    January 21, 2009

    To be honest, I love nothing about this process, so it’s amazing I’ve kept at it for nigh on twenty years now. I want to go on a diet, lose the weight, and be done with it. Just get on with my life. Yes, yes, I completely realize this is a fantasy. It does not work like this. But I want it too, and that’s why I’m doomed.

    But if I had to pick something I love about the process it’s the way I drool over all the food I can’t have every single day. Wait, no. That’s not a good thing either.

    Um… well, the only thing I get out of it is watching the little number go down. I’m pathetic that way.

    But after so many years of this I’m having a mid-life diet crisis: what’s the point of obsessing over this one thing year after year after year? Do you diet to live or live to diet? It’s enough to make one do some serious soul searching…

    Joanne

    January 21, 2009

    I love that I am healthier, happier and finally feel in control of my life. I love the sense of accomplishment that exercising gives me. Even if I do nothing else all day, I know that going to the gym or for a run has made me productive. I love that the process has shown me how much a love to cook and also how good eating healthier foods has been for me – my skin has cleared up and I haven’t gotten sick in ages. I also love the confidence that all of this has given me in that it has shown me that I can do anything, as cheesy as that sounds. Like you said Roni, the process is for life, and so I also love that I intend to be a part of the process forever.

    Suzyn

    January 21, 2009

    I’m struggling a bit right now, I’ve come so far, I guess you could say I’m plateauing… When I take fear that I won’t succeed out of the equation, then what I love about where I am right now is how much I’m learning about myself, about the emotional stuff behind the weight. About what constitutes a “going off program” vs. what it meant when I started, i.e. more of the same good food, vs a pint of Ben & Jerry’s followed by a bag of Doritos followed by chocolate – nightly!!

    I also love where I am with moving my body – I run 3 miles, 3 times a week – I mean, wow, ME, doing that! It gives me such confidence in my body, in what my body can do!

    Lastly, what I love about the process is that every new day on the planet, every new meal for that matter IS A CHANCE TO DO IT RIGHT!!! That choice by choice renewal is empowering. It also makes me accountable for each of those choices. Hmm… all of a sudden not feeling so stuck after all :-)

    Keri

    January 21, 2009

    I love the cooking. Cooking in and of itself is a form of meditation and is also artistic. I show my love for my family through cooking. I also think of it as a game and a science. How healthy can I make this recipe and still have it taste good and look great? How can I let my kids help me cook it so they will actually eat it? What new ingredient should I try this week? Can I make it easier for my busy life? What expensive ingredients can I swap out with affordable ingredients? If I could quit my job and go to culinary school, I would totally do it. Not as a career route, but just for fun.

    I love walking/jogging outside. I live in rural Minnesota, so it is very pretty and fresh outside. I work on a computer 40-50 hours per week, so that makes it all the better to get outside. Now in winter, I’m stuck on the treadmill, which I don’t love so much.

    I love music and how it can help me be more in the moment and focus. Nickleback makes me want to run faster. Ballads tell me when to cool down. It also drowns out the gasping for air. :)

    I love that I’m not dieting. I’m not trying to take the easy way out. I’m laying a foundation to build on for myself and my kids. I’m not cheating or letting my love of instant gratification take over. I’m learning patience and self acceptance for who I am in the moment.

    I love that I’m not going to have open heart surgery at 44 like my mom did, angioplasties at 45 like my dad, or die of a heart attack at 39 like my uncle.

    Alisha

    January 21, 2009

    it works

    justrun

    January 21, 2009

    Great question, Roni.
    I would have to say what I love about this process is that it’s teaching me to love myself. It’s teaching me to be grateful for my body and to be grateful that I have both the knowledge and the tools to take care of myself. As I get older I realize there’s not much more to ask for than that. It’s a long, slow process but every day I learn a little better how to love myself and translate that into the choices I make. I’m so grateful for my health now, and I wasn’t always like that. I love that I know better than to take it for granted.

    Geri

    January 21, 2009

    I love how much I am learning. I learn something new almost every day – about nutrition, about health, and in particular about myself. I find that journalling and updating my blog helps me learn, it’s where I reflect and look for the messages in the choices I make on a daily basis. Learning is my thing, it’s what I do.

    I love my mother, but she was uneducated about health, food or nutrition, and had her own hangups about weight (she was the ‘heavy’ one – a size 16 – in a bunch of size 8 sisters, and has been on a diet for as long as I remember). And so I love that I am educating myself and living a healthy lifestyle that I can pass onto my future family – a legacy of healthy living. I love that I am getting fitter, that I am more in tune with my body than ever before, I love that I am finally being adult enough to take care of myself and my body with the respect I deserve.

    mary

    January 21, 2009

    hmmmmm. well first I thought that I loved the fact that you are in control. then as i thought more, I realized that I loved the part of this process that allows you to fail. So many “diets” are do or die, this way not that way, pass or fail. But if you are changing your life, learning to balance reality with what you should do, then what you are really doing is changing your relationship with food. We learn to recognize what our body needs vs our taste buds wants. We learn to eat what we enjoy, in moderation. We re-learn how to celebrate milestones and special occasions. We are learning to not let food rule our lives. Instead we are learning to enjoy our lives and that there is more to fill it up than the next plate of spaghetti or slice of chocolate cake.

    So, I am enjoying my failures.

    I am enjoying the forgiveness that I learn to give myself, and I am enjoying the strength that I gain from receiving it.

    Marisa (trim the fat)

    January 21, 2009

    I love that during this process, I have really changed my mindset with respect to how I view myself, what I can accomplish and how healthy eating CAN be a part of my lifestyle. I have daily struggles with the eating part, and am only about 15 lbs. from my goal (have lost 68 lbs. so far). I love that I can see my eating habits are so different than they used to be and that exercise has become an inherent part of my life. I think that because this has been a PROCESS instead of a quick fix weight loss, I have had the time to make all these changes.

    Julie

    January 21, 2009

    I have a muscle…a real one. One that you can feel. You can’t really see it right now…sigh…still too much chub, but I can actually for real feel it!
    I feel totally powerful. I am committed to exercising right now and that is waht I am focusing on (tho I still am making good food choices) and you know, I actually am craving things that are healthy and good for me. I love that too!

    Sabrina

    January 21, 2009

    Right now I’m loving that I’ve got my focus back. I know that I have the willpower in me and I’m finding it again.

    Jenn

    January 21, 2009

    This whole concept of learning to love the process is so radical to me. I’ve been on diets since I was 13. (I am now 41!) But, I think learning to love the process is where I have missed the mark all these years. In addition to some of the things others have said, like being in control, learning new things about self, feeling powerful after evercise, I also am enjoying some new freedoms. I can be free to fail without guilt, to try new things and foods. I have given myself permission to take some time to explore and find out what works for me, rather than fit myself into a one-fits-all diet plan. And I thank you for asking the hard questions!

    Brandi

    January 21, 2009

    I like you am LOVING having the built in accountability and the support that comes with it. The people that follow me are amazing. I also love being able to support others in their journey too.

    Another thing I love about the process is learning about myself. What foods trigger bad habits. What thoughts should I avoid? What triggers negative thinking? AND especially my physical limits. I never would have been able to mentally push myself to be on an elliptical machine for 60 minutes. I just did that on Monday night though!! I never would have thought running 4 miles was a NORMAL day. Tomorrow is a 4 mile day :) I never would have had the guts (or confidence) to stand up in front of men and women and teach a kickboxing class before ‘the process’. Now I teach a few times a week and I LOVE IT!

    Jen

    January 21, 2009

    Wow! I think I’ve been inspired to learn to love the process. Thanks everybody!

    Geri

    January 21, 2009

    Mary, what your wrote is powerful. Learning to forgive yourself, to move on, to move beyond the pass/fail scenario. I’m printing it out and putting it on my wall!

    Jennifer

    January 21, 2009

    I think when I am really OP, and writing things down and planning is when I feel best. I like the feeling I am in control and I love when I can say no to something that I normally would not think twice about eating.

    I know for me this will be a lifelong process and it will never be over, but I am okay with that. I’m having fun in the process and know I will get to where I want to be, and if it takes a while, that’s okay too!

    We all can’t lose 50 pounds in 3 weeks like the Biggest Loser!

    rebekah

    January 21, 2009

    I think I love the realization that it is ABSOLUTELY POSSIBLE for anyone to lose weight. It’s like a gift that anyone can give themselves if they so chose. It’s hard work, probably the hardest thing in the lives of all who are doing it, but it is possible and nobody can deny it. That realization trumps all excuses for me. I’m having a difficult time believing that I will do it, but I hope that knowing that I can and doing what I can at this moment will eventually lead me to believing and eventually, to actually being there in the moment of having done it. Gosh, wouldn’t that be an out of body experience – literally!

    debby

    January 21, 2009

    I LOVE the new delicious foods that I get to eat and cook and bake (thanks Roni for so many delish recipes!) and I love being strong and energetic and having muscles (that no one else knows about) and not being tired after some hard work.

    Arlene

    January 21, 2009

    I’m with Debbie. I love the fact that I’ve discovered “healthy” can taste good. (It’s something I thought I’d discovered on Atkins, but is cooking with butter and heavy cream really healthy? I don’t think so!) I love trying new recipes, whether they’re from GreenLiteBites, Blog to Lose, Weight Watchers, Hungry Girl or SparkPeople, and finding out that whatever it is I’m making is really delicious. It’s always a bit of a surpise to me, the girl who used to eat a lot of fried chicken and burgers and fries, that something good for me actually tastes good, too.

    I also love getting support from my friends at WW and especially overon Blog to Lose. Your comments often perk me right up when I’m having a bad day.

    I haven’t yet learned to love exercise … but I’m trying!

    Arlene

    January 21, 2009

    Oops — my link didn’t work because I mistyped the address for by blog. This one should work, if anyone cares!

    fitforfree

    January 21, 2009

    I love that the process is making me who I am — I’m not covering it up anymore. And when I reach my goal weight and learn how to maintain it I will have such an appreciation for it because it took A LONG TIME to begin to accept myself for who I am!!

    Rachel

    January 21, 2009

    I love that I am doing something for myself. I love that I can smile when I look in the mirror, I have more energy and I enjoy eating healthy foods.

    Michelle in CA

    January 21, 2009

    Right now I am loving the fact that I can “fall off track” one day (or many!) and then rationally put the pieces back together again and continue on. I have been struggling the last several days and in the past, I might have given up, but now I realize it’s just “part of the process” :-)

    Jen

    January 21, 2009

    There are many things I am loving about this process. I love that I physically feel better. I love that I feel better about myself and have more self-esteem. I love that I have more energy. I love that I am respecting the body that I was blessed with. I love that it is ok that I make mistakes, and that I am able to bounce right back. I love that I have recognized the importance of treating this body right for the rest of my life. That is the most important one. We are given only one body, and taking good care of it is the right thing to do.

    deanna

    January 21, 2009

    A few things I am loving…

    1) That I actually CAN do it that I AM doing it
    2) I LOVE discovering new veggies, I limited myself to the staples “broccoli, spinanch, lettuce, tomato” now I try most anything…right now I am all about the spaghetti squash & butternut squash
    3) Being realistic about the approach…it may of taken me 1 year to take off 23 pounds and I have about 18 more to go but I am still at it, and I am living and enjoying life
    4) That I am training to run in a 12-person relay with 12 other team members – 175 miles in 24 hours!!!

    Lynn C

    January 21, 2009

    I’m pretty pleased with myself for working on the 100 push up challenge. Even though my weight isn’t dropping as quickly as I would like (does anyone’s? seriously? heh…)

    Anyway, I feel strong when I do pushups, and i can now do 45+ pushups in a single session (5 sets with rest breaks in between)

    I’m noticing that I’m building up muscle in my arm, which impresses me, too. Aside from enjoying feeling strong and hard core, being able to do my pushups is helping me with this slowing down of the weight loss because I have something else to measure my improvements with aside from just the scale…

    Susan

    January 21, 2009

    Mary – that really resonates with me as well. Learning to fail and get back up. Before, I would attempt to diet. The first inkling of a failure, and I would jump ship, ashamed, frustrated, and discouraged. Now, I know that is okay, as long as I get back up again.

    I love many aspects of the process. My new body, endurance, and lower numbers on the scale.

    Jac

    January 21, 2009

    This is such a wonderful way to put this!! I need to love the process…

    Right now? I love the “me time” I get when writing in my blog. I am also loving the small hint of success I feel when my wedding bands slip around because they are too loose!

    Ami

    January 21, 2009

    Thanks for asking this question, Roni! I think all these comments will help me be aware of all the great aspects of a healthy lifestyle.

    I’ve just started working out again consistently in the past couple months and I love how I can feel my muscles after a good workout, like when I’m going up stairs and I feel it in the back of my legs. Just a tiny thing but it reminds me that I have a healthy, strong body that responds to being taken care of.

    This is weird, but I also like how my stomach feels after a healthy, appropriately sized meal. Actually, I don’t feel my stomach at all then. Not hungry, not overly full. Just right!

    Katie

    January 21, 2009

    I’m the kind of person who would rather spend all of my time doing for others rather than for myself. The process reminds me every single day that I’M WORTH IT! I’m worth taking some extra time to sit down and plan my meals ahead. I’m worth scheduling time to workout and not compromising when someone else asks for that time slot. I’m worth asking for special accommodations when I dine out, even if it is a slight inconvenience to the waiter or chef. I’m worth putting myself first.

    andrea.

    January 21, 2009

    Great question! I’m loving the responses! For me, I love that I’m learning to actually listen to my body. Like when I’m really hungry and when I’m not, what I’m actually hungry for and whether I’m just choosing stuff because it’s convenient or because someone else is eating it too. Like before I used to sometimes get this big salad for lunch, but it wasn’t ‘enough’ in my mind so I would always have to get something to go with it. Now I know how to really listen to myself and I find most times, it IS enough, and some days, I don’t even finish it!

    I know that in my visions of my ‘future healthy self’, I would be the kind of person who could eat a little bit of something and then stop. I’m not there yet, but I’m realizing now how fun it can be to play ‘detective’ with your body/brain and really get familiar with all the cues and clues (and sometimes false leads) it gives you. So that’s one way I’m learning to love the process.

    Brianne

    January 21, 2009

    Since you’ve started this “love the process” movement, I’ve really been trying to take inventory of my thoughts/feelings on this. I’ll be blogging on it myself later….

    But for today, i love that I can feel a muscle on my shoulder/back area that I never knew was there before.

    Jill

    January 21, 2009

    I love meeting others who are in the same boat as me. They know what it’s like to go to a restaurant and try to figure out the ‘healthy choices’, the disappointment of the scale not budging (or going in the wrong direction!), the sense of accomplishment after a good workout, and the satisfaction of being in control of food choices

    Colette

    January 22, 2009

    I LOVE that quote!! Think I will borrow it for a while and post it on my blog to remind me everyday what I NEED to do to reach my goals!!

    :-)

    jennscookin

    January 22, 2009

    I guess my answer would be “learning”. At this point I am enjoying the new information I am learning, about my body and myself, in my weight loss journey. However, I must say this… for the first time in my life I am enjoying “the journey”. I’ve always been so…. focused on the destination that I would try to get there as fast as I could. Like the kid in the back seat saying, “Are we there yet?” over and over. I think that if I just enjoy the “road trip”, I will enjoy the destination even more. (At least that’s the hope for right now).
    Jenn

    Nina

    January 22, 2009

    For me it is the growing trust in a process which works and doesn’t harm. And because of this trust I do not feel like in a gerbil wheel while losing weight. We all know there are so many diets and products etc. out there, and 90% do not generate trust but distrust and feeling of failure in the end.

    The right programmes don’t do that to you. They help you every step of the way, motivate you, and distract you from thinking that it’s still such a long way to go – which it isn’t compared to what we have gone through before. And they help you to re-discover your own rhythms and empower you. And while you’re at it, you still have time to cherish other positive side-effects like more confidence, e.g.

    These are the things I love most about the process. Thanks for the great question!

    Jan

    January 22, 2009

    Like so many other people before me – I love that the process has taught me how to be in control of my own body. About half way through my process of losing I realized that I was in control. As soon as that clicked in my head I felt great and I swear I started walking taller and with more pride!

    Shanna

    January 23, 2009

    What I love about the process? Well I have learned to love me again. I lost all my self esteem when I was fat. I did not love myself. Now I can look in the mirror and see the girl that I once was and I know that this is who I was supposed to be. Happy and energetic. I love everything that I have learned about myself through the process. I learned that I can lose weight, I can run a 5k, I can play with my kids. I feel alive again. I love to make good choices and be proud of my accomplishments.