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WEEKLY QUESTIONS

What did you achieve in 2008?

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Question of the weekI’ve been avoiding the New Years Resolution hoopla. Have you noticed? It’s not that I think there is anything wrong with resolutions. I just think we (and this is going to be a gross generalization) make them too frivolously. Every year I, for as long as I can remember, was "going to lose the weight once for all". I was going to get into a size whatever. Exercise everyday. Only eat vegetables. Drink nothing but water. Yada yada.

I was really good at making resolutions, just not so good at keeping them. :) Mostly because they were un-keepable.

Last year I talked a bit about the difference between unrealistic resolutions and attainable goals. I set a few goals for myself in 08. Some I reached some I didn’t but in the end it doesn’t matter. The journey was the most important part. It wasn’t about reaching a certain size or unrealistic body image. It was about me feeling strong and in control. I enjoyed the journey and have no regrets.

So instead of asking what your resolutions are this year I wanted to wait a bit, let the glow of the New Year die down, and ask not about your 2009 resolutions but your 2008 achievements. They could be as small as "I reduced my soda consumption" or "I walked once a week". Maybe you changed your diet? Ran a marathon? Lost a significant amount of weight?

I know you did something you are proud of last year, I just know it. Now BRAG! Brag away. :)



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    Rita

    January 7, 2009

    I became an aerobics instructor! After a long battle with the bulge (losing 100 pounds) I became an avid fan of group fitness classes. I loved it so much I wanted to give back something and now I teach! I love love love it! I am so proud of myself for coming so far. If you had told me at 280 pounds that one day I would become an aerobics instructor, I would have died of a heart attack just at the mere thought.

    That is what I have to be proud of in 2008 :)

    sherijung

    January 7, 2009

    I maintained my 65 pound weight loss from 2007, and ran 1100 miles. I ran a half marathon and set a new PR for the 5K of 27:27.

    I never ran more than a few steps before 2007, and used to say that I hated exercise because I don’t like to sweat. Good riddance to that woman!

    Beccca

    January 7, 2009

    After spending 2007 losing 40 pounds and getting into what was probably the best shape of my life, I found out I was pregnant with my second child in early January 2008– two weeks after signing up to run a half marathon scheduled in February. I was excited about the pregnancy but a little disappointed that I’d have to give up my goal of running my first half marathon- it was what I’d been working toward the entire previous year. But after talking with my doctor (and being very careful to monitor my heart rate during the run) I did it! 14 weeks pregnant I ran my very first half marathon- and it wasn’t even that hard!

    I gave birth to my 10 pound, 1 ounce, son on September 2nd. I did end up gaining quite a bit of weight once the marathon was over, but now that I know what I am capable of it is only a matter of time before I get back to where I was. I’m definitely hoping to run another half marathon in 2009!

    Rachel

    January 7, 2009

    What an awesome idea! I lost about 25 pounds, jogged a mile straight for the first time in four years, jogged three miles straight for the first time in my LIFE, and became a bonafide gym rat! It’s blogs like yours that inspire me and help me every step of the way – THAT should go on your accomplishments list, because I know I’m not alone in saying so!

    Pubsgal

    January 7, 2009

    Wow, these are some amazing accomplishments! (Great idea, Roni!)

    2008 was the year of my mid-life crisis: I turned 40 (which was actually pretty fun) and was diagnosed with type 2 diabetes (NOT fun). But it’s also the year I (finally) turned my health around: I got my blood glucose levels under control, I greatly improved my cholesterol readings & blood pressure, I lost 69 pounds, and I worked my way into the best shape I’ve been in for over 13 years. I even ran a 5K! I still have a ways to go, but 2008 was a good start.

    Yes, like Rachel said, Roni: please add “inspired many to improve their health” to your accomplishments. Your blog (and the others I follow) have helped me every step of the way. Thanks VERY much! :-)

    Ellen

    January 7, 2009

    What a brilliant idea!

    Near the end of the year I came to the realization that I am awesome. Ok, maybe that sounds silly. Let me put it this way. No matter what I have or haven’t done about my weight, it doesn’t matter. I let that baggage go and decided I would never again let it control my thoughts. I learned to truly love myself after years of disatisfaction.

    Maybe that’s not exactly a tangible “accomplishment,” but it means a lot to me!

    Emily

    January 7, 2009

    I FINALLY visited Montreal like I’ve always wanted. :)

    s

    January 7, 2009

    i got into grad school last year. woohoo!
    i also lost some weight, but i hadn’t resolved to do so, necessarily.
    i guess i also started running more regularly last year.
    cool.

    Sally

    January 7, 2009

    I made my first resolution.. to make 2009 better than 2008 lol.. Im not a resolution type of person but i think i needed one this year.. =]

    Arlene

    January 7, 2009

    After about a year and 1/4 doing WW, I hit the 50 pounds lost mark in October — and I’m fitting into a size 12 again.

    I also became the newsletter editor for the Northern Arizona Romance Writers of America’s newsletter, which comes out 6 times a year.

    crazylady

    January 7, 2009

    I started running and then ran a 7k race which is the furthest I’ve ever run ever! I have let the running slip a bit since though. I started blogging. I started making real changes with my relationship with food and while I didn’t lose greatly I also didn’t gain and I am much, much, much fitter. I now have real hope for myself in the future!

    Christy

    January 7, 2009

    I became a serious blogger, lost 12 pounds and finished my bachelor’s degree :-)

    Good job to everyone! These are great accomplishments.

    Laura

    January 7, 2009

    Ohhhh! I am in the mood to brag!!!

    I hit rock bottom…yep, I am proud of that…you see, I started to realize I needed to get in control. And I did. I joined a weight management program and last night, I hit 60 pounds lost! Yep, I am proud I hit rock bottom and was able to realize it, and then work hard to do something about it! Not only that, but along with eating better and being motivated I have started working out and running. My goals for 2009 are to run a 5k in March, a 10k in May and a half marathon in September. YA ME!!!!!

    Another thing to brag about is the blogging community of new friends I have made who all share my food, fitness and for-me attitude. It is helping keep me motivated and on track to hit my goals! YA US!!!!!

    MizFit

    January 7, 2009

    starting something new and STICKING WITH IT (MizFitOnline) and QUITTING more than a few things which were bringing me down

    Nina

    January 7, 2009

    Finally, after 18 years of falling unhappily in and out of love, I got hold of a wonderful boyfriend. It’s been a month since yesterday, and it couldn’t be better. And the best thing about it: I always believed that I would never get a good boyfriend with my weight and that I would have to lose it first. Guess what? He already told me a thousand times he loves me for who I am and that he doesn’t have the right to tell me how I should look, and that he will support me no matter which step I take. I think I’ll keep him. ;)

    There, I BRAGGED, happy now?! ;)))

    Janice

    January 7, 2009

    I ate better, I exercised more and I felt better about myself. I am much more confident in my body even though I am not at the “ideal” weight for my height. And I started buying clothes that fit vs. baggy or too tight.

    Melissa

    January 7, 2009

    I looked back on my 2008 year on NYE and felt very pleased. I started running, lost weight did a 5K, trained for a 1/2 marathon (due to injury I wasn’t able to go past 5 miles) but overall I was pleased. So this year I tweaked and mafe resolutions in the areas I wasn’t pleased. One biggy was allowing other peoples problems and issues burden me. I felt that held me back alot! So 2009 HERE I COME!

    michelle

    January 7, 2009

    I ran my first race – 5 miles. Then I ran 3 more races after that! I started weight lifting and am the healthiest I’ve ever been. I stepped OFF the scale and realized the numbers are not important. I feel good about who I am for the first time in my life!

    MaryB

    January 7, 2009

    In 2008, I found Roni’s website. After months of reading about how she loved the gym, her enthusiasm pushed me off the sofa and out the door. I joined our local YMCA, and words can’t describe the joy I feel when I go. I go every day, and love everything about it from aerobics to zumba!
    I know it sounds unbelievable but I would never have joined if it were not for Roni’s example.
    Thanks Roni!

    Charlie Hills

    January 7, 2009

    I suppose my most visible accomplishment was starting my blog. Felt good to finally do something that two hundred million people before me had already done. A real pioneer, I am!

    Brandi

    January 7, 2009

    I graduated with a Masters Degree in May :) It was the biggest day of my life thus far!

    Chris

    January 7, 2009

    We rock!

    I lost 20 lbs. in 2008 and said “no” more than I ever have in my life. It felt GREAT.

    Rachel

    January 7, 2009

    I lost 55.5 pounds and completely changed my diet. I hope to lose 55 more in 2009! :)

    Beth

    January 7, 2009

    I lost nearly 25 lbs and ran my first 5K! (and become a little obsessed/addicted to running since!)

    Chantal

    January 7, 2009

    I did so much things I’m proud of in 2008… I started spinning classes and I love it. I started running un March and although I thought I would never run in my life I just love it and I’m still running.

    I did the New-York bike Tour in May with some friends and I also did a Metropolitan Bike Challenge (105 Km) in Montreal.

    I ran a few 5 Km and a 8 Km. And my plan is to run a half-marathon in 2009.

    I ate better, lost some weights.

    What a great year I had.

    Lola Fierce

    January 7, 2009

    I completely changed some core habits that I had that were not good for my health. I began seriously to focus on losing weight and lost 10% of my weight in Q4. I am cooking and eating homemade foods more and really, really loving it.

    Just_Kelly

    January 7, 2009

    ~ I got a job I love.
    ~ I resolved and achieved my goal of strengthening social connections and friendships.
    ~ I got straight A’s in graduate school.
    ~ I began coaching for Special Olympics.
    ~ I finally got serious about getting healthy and set myself on the right track for future success. Looking forward to getting fit and healthy (while staying sane!) in 2009!

    sarahbb

    January 7, 2009

    I honestly feel that my life changed in 2008. I lost weight, but the big change is exercise. I started last January with walking (very slowly) on a treadmill and gradually made exercise part of life vs. just something to do to lose weight. I’m happy about the weight loss, but I’m much happier about the fitness progress.

    Maren

    January 7, 2009

    2008 was one incredible year! I accomplished things that I didnt think I could ever do. First off…….I lost 40 pounds after having my second child and am keeping it off. I also became a runner…..ran a 5k, a 10 k (by myself, which was HUGE for me)and I completed my first half marathon. I never ran before in my life until last year and now I am a total running addict. My goal for 2009 is to complete the Salt Lake City Marathon in April.

    Im 32 and have never felt better in my life! Not only have I gotten fit physically, I have also gotten fit spiritually and am very happy on the inside as well.

    Roni…..I read your blog everyday and you have really motivated me on this journey. I tell alot of people about you. As a matter of fact, at the gym today, a woman gave me a compliment and asked me how I did it. She was looking for some good advice. I gave her some advice and after she walked away I thought about your blog. When I see her tomorrow at the gym, I am going to give her your website info. I know you can motivate her like you motivate me.

    Your friend,
    Maren

    Chrissy

    January 7, 2009

    I dumped a bad fiancee, lost 20 lbs. of the 30 I had gained back, quit smoking and ran my first 10k.

    For 2009, a half marathon in Februaury And the last 10 lbs.

    LaShawn

    January 7, 2009

    – Got a job!
    – Made appointments with a dietician
    – joined a gym AND started going regularly (carrying that one into ’09)
    – started eating a lot healthier & tracking everything

    Michele Dochat

    January 7, 2009

    Hmmm, where to start? I continued on with my weight loss program and lost about 70 pounds so far! Some of that in 07′, some last year. I am still working on that, so when 2010 rolls around that number will be different!

    I have been learning to eat properly, listen to my body, pay attention to true hunger, vs cravings…and began drinking more water. It actually makes a big difference!

    I forgave myself for my imperfections, ALL of them. That was a big one!

    I also worked harder at work. Sounds like a no brainer I guess, but I’ve been pretty down about my job for a while….trying to get beyond that has been difficult but I’m working on it. One other thing -READ MORE….I love to read and was not allowing myself time to do so…but I find that my weekly “long” workout is a perfect time to read a good book because my target heart rate is btw 107 – 125 for 85 minutes, with only 5 minutes at 126 or above. I got a couple of good books for Christmas and will be starting one tonight!

    Lynn C

    January 7, 2009

    I changed my life. Almost entirely.

    My family went on a healthy lifestyle eating plan. We added exercise to our otherwise computer-chair eclair lives. Between the two of us, we have lost almost 150 pounds. My husband is thin for the first time in his life. We have walked over 500 miles. I learned I can run, even with 7 pieces of titanium holding my ankle together.

    I have changed my housekeeping, so that my house is actually clean almost all the time, and can certainly get cleaned in 15 minutes if I’m expecting guests.

    Our financial situation is still a bit hand-to-mouth, but we’re no longer in debt.

    It’s been a fantastic year!

    Mrs. Evil

    January 7, 2009

    What a great year it was! Such a year of achievements for me!

    ~Vowed to lose 40 pounds and lost 41 pounds!
    ~Learned to accept my body the way it was and I am now VERY proud of it
    ~Started training for my first 10K in 09′

    Cathy

    January 7, 2009

    I survived a tough year for us financially, and fought my way back into having a full time job in my career during budget cuts, despite wanting to continue staying home with my 3 yr. old son. I started a home-based business. I started my plans to lose weight this year on December 28, BEFORE the holidays were over! 2009 is going to be great!

    SMK

    January 7, 2009

    It was a rough year professionally for me and I am still working to find my way in my career but I did accomplish alot of non-career things this year!

    – I got married to an amazing man who makes me laugh all the time. We had an awesome destination wedding that was not very traditional but it suited us perfectly.
    – I lost and kept off 10 lbs this year on WW. Although I still have 10 very stubborn pounds to go before I reach goal, I am eating healthier and I look and feel better than I have in years.
    – After rockclimbing indoors for the past 2 years, I finally went climbing outdoors. It was a little frightening but I’m glad I finally did it LOL!
    – I have maintained amazing friendships with people that I really care about.
    – I have traveled with my husband, family and friends and have loved every moment of it.
    – I have begun to save money so that my husband and I can buy a home soon.

    Congrats to everyone’s achievements. I am definitely ready to kick butt in 2009!

    Rachel

    January 7, 2009

    2008 had a lot of ups and downs – I think I’m most proud of these things…
    – I lost and gained some weight for a net loss of 13 pounds
    – I finished my ESL (English as a Second Language) teaching endorsement at my local college (took a year) and made straight A’s
    – I started my 2nd master’s program and finished the first semester with a 4.0
    – I did a lot in my classroom to make it adorable and functional and filled with great children’s books
    – I started my blog to make my food journal public and hold me accountable
    – I made some good efforts to tone down my anxiety ‘issues’

    Good job, everyone! There are some amazing accomplishments posted here and I hope we don’t forget them.

    Jeri

    January 7, 2009

    Hi Roni,

    I’ve never commented before to any of your e-mails, this is my first time & actually I find myself a little nervous. I think you are great & that maybe we are very similar. I have battled my weight most my life & was able to lose approx. 75lbs about 4 years ago. I completed my first marathon in 2008 & let me tell you it’s addictive. My only problem is that i gained approx. 15-20lbs in my 5 months of training. I think I made the mistake of listening to others & the bad person inside my head telling me, “you can eat anything now that your training for a marathon”. BIG MISTAKE!! I haven’t been on the scale for a while, but I think i’m maintaining, not losing not gaining. I’m trying to find the strength within myself to say “I’m strong & I won’t let this beat me”. I love your blogs, e-mails & Green Lite Bites. Any encouragment or suggestions you could give me would be great. I am actually shaking as i’m typing this e-mail, I can’t believe I allowed myself to gain so much, I really want to cry. Anyways also if there are any helps or encouragement I can give you regarding your marathon or 1/2 marathon I would be delighted. This year i’m already scheduled to do a 1/2 marathon on Feb. 1 & a full marathon in Seattle on June 27. Again thank you for being you & being so honest about your life & your struggles.

    Jeri (from Southern California)

    Noel

    January 7, 2009

    I worked a TON on posture in 2008. I lost about 30 lbs with weight watchers, and then in February of 2008 gained 15 lbs back. I am proud to say that I just finished re-losing that weight and have completely changed my lifestyle and the way that I think about fueling my body. I am going to complete my 12th marathon next week, and for too long I was a fat runner. I am finally more connected to the food I put in my face, and the decisions I make. There are still challenging moments, but I feel more in control. So 2008 was a big year for my body — nutrition, posture. I feel like I made great progress, and am keeping at it. One day at a time is the way to go. I love this site and green lite bites — Keep up the great work Roni!

    Emily

    January 7, 2009

    Wow, I feel all warm and fuzzy just reading about all the positive things we as a community have accomplished this year! Mine are pretty traditional:
    ~ Started exercising regularly, have now run 4 organized 5k races and many more on my own
    ~ Accepted that health is not just a number and focued on being healthy instead of skinny
    ~ Curbed my excessive drinking and the resulting binge eating
    ~ Made it through another year!
    Thanks as always for the forum you provide us with here. I’m looking forward to cheering you on as you train for the marathon!

    Keri

    January 7, 2009

    – I fell in love with walking outside.
    – I fell in love with blogging.
    – I took steps to open myself up to having deep friendships with other women and to let them be a positive force in my life. This involved trusting them, being myself, and allowing myself to need other people. SCARY!
    – I took steps to prioritize my own needs more and not just always take care of everybody else at my own expense.
    – I had my 10-year wedding anniversary and am still happily married. With the current divorce rate, that is an accomplishment to me!! :)
    – I learned to recognize when I’m triggered so I can stop the resulting self-sabotage.
    – I loved myself more in 2008 than I had in any other year of my life.

    Ami

    January 7, 2009

    I only gained 25 pounds during my pregnancy this year!

    Roni, thanks for all you do!I’ve been lurking here for a year. Sorry! One of my new resolutions is to stop lurking and start commenting!

    Carol

    January 7, 2009

    I love reading all the wonderful things everyone has done. For me, 2008 was the year that I “got it”. I realized that my life would have to change for me to reach the goals I had set for myself. I continued on my WW journey and have lost 56 pounds (about 40 in 2008). I made a committment to exercise starting in Sept. and I’m very proud to say the I have exercised 5 days a week with very few exceptions for the past 4 months. I’ve changed my relationship to food. I still enjoy it, but it no longer rules my life.

    All these changes contributed to 2008 being one of the happiest of my life. I still have a bunch of weight to lose to get into my healthy range, but now I’m certain that I can do it and more importantly, sustain the loss.

    Amanda

    January 7, 2009

    I gave birth to my 2nd child–a boy in April. I am still breastfeeding him and that is one goal/achievement I thought I would NEVER meet!

    In October, I decided I needed to get off all artificial sweeteners–specifically diet coke. I haven’t had a drop of soda since Halloween! That’s 2 full months! WOO HOO!!!

    I am not back to my pre-pregnancy weight, but I am w/in 5# and that is HUGE for me! I did NOT gain a ton of weight with my son and that I am very proud of. However, I am down 15# and 15 inches so I am thrilled with the progress I have made.

    What a great idea for a question of the week!

    Amy

    January 8, 2009

    For 2008 I resolved to lose weight by becoming more active and eating better. I joined the local Y and now, one year later, I weigh within 5 pounds of my starting weight.

    But– One of my friends had to point this out because I didn’t see it in me… I have succeeded in making going to the Y and working out a part of my nearly daily routine. I lug my 2 kids (2&4) to the child care, work out hard and then take them into the gym or racketball court to play. I am much stronger and am seeing some body changes even if the scale isn’t moving much.

    So resolving to lose weight in 2009 doesn’t seem nearly that hard as I’ll only be trying to maintain my working out habit and then adding the attempt to really eat better.

    Oh, and I lost 7 pounds since Dec. 7!! That’s an accomplishment.

    Lyn

    January 8, 2009

    This is a great thread!
    I lost 35 pounds, and ran 2 10k races, despite having never run before. I started a serious weight-training programme and deadlifted 200 lbs.

    Sandy

    January 8, 2009

    I lost 7 pounds and found your blog which I really enjoy following. I am training for a half marathon this year and my motto for my son’s wedding in June in Frumpy or Fabulous. I am already leaving frumpy behind. I really need to give up Diet Coke in 2009. Amanda or anyone else have some suggestions for dropping it and what to replace it with when I am away from home. Bottled water is not always that interesting!

    Foodiegymmie

    January 9, 2009

    my concern wasn’t losing weight.

    but in 2008 i managed to gain 8kg of lean mass :) tts my achievement.

    for 2009 i hope to complete a midnight marathon within 5 hours!

    more good days ahead in 2009 for everyone!

    roni

    January 10, 2009

    wow… seriously…. WOW You guys are an amazing bunch! I’m totally speechless!