Comments on: Weekend Quote: Fall in Love with the Process

By: Misti

Misti — Mon, 12 Apr 2010 02:38:33 +0000

This was written over a year ago & I so needed it today! Thank you! Not only has it changed how I’m thinking about my weight loss journey, but it’s changing how I’m thinking about other things. For example, I really like having a clean/uncluttered house, but I really dis-like the cleaning part of the equation. If I can figure out a way to “fall in love with the process” things would be really different around here. You’ve given me a lot to think about.

By: Ami

Ami — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 21:26:38 +0000

Love this quote and I’ve been thinking about it all weekend. I would love to see this as a question of the week. What, specifically, are you loving about the process right now?

By: Laura

Laura — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 20:27:22 +0000

Thank you so much for this. I get so focused on the end result. If I’m not doing everything it takes to get there, I give up on the process and then I am more miserable than before. I need to remember to enjoy the way I feel right now at this very moment.

By: Abby

Abby — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 04:19:15 +0000

You comment on being good all weekend and still seeing the same body.
I got divorced 18 months ago, and have since then slowly worked on improving my lifestyle.

Fortunately, through continuous hard work…the little train that could, I have lost over 30 pounds. This in my 5’2” body is a lot of weight. I still need to drop another 20 to be a BMI 25.

The point is that, when I look in the mirror, I have to really focus on what I see, to not see the same person that carried the extra 30 lbs. But the reason I have been able to lose the weight is two fold.

One…I worked on first embracing myself fat. I looked in the mirror and took pictures and embraced what I saw then, I loved me, fat and respected every cottage cheese dimple on my thighs!!!

Two…this has been and continues to be a very slow, long, process, with lots of ups and downs, with continues struggles, and “successes” and “failures”.
WHat I have come to appreciate and conclude after all these months, is that unless I die, I will still be here, with or without the weight, I see older women,(i’m 35) who are continuously on diets, not willing or able to accept themselves, and I saw myself on that path. and realized that either I need to accept who I am, and see me for me regardless, or live a life of constant battle with weight loss and weight gain, and fat etc.

Now, I know that once I accepted myself the battle ended, the struggle ended, and so I was no longer depriving myself when I decided not to have the chocolate, I am more focused on the now, and choose not to have the chocolate, however, it has taken me 18 months to lose 30 lbs. That is on average 2 pounds a month, very slow, very slow, so guess what most of the time, I have said yes to the chocolate, sometimes no, the loss has been slow, but the gain, the strength I have achieved from my journey has been all valuable. I still need to lose 20 lbs. But this is not overwhelming at all. I know it will happen, probably in two years from now, but so what I will be 37 adn 38, and 50 and 60, so either i could lose the weight fast, whcih I could if i so chose to, but then I believe it will coem back because I am not changing my life, I am on a diet. This way, it will take 2 more years, but when I reach my goal, I will already know how to maintain, because I am evolving as I am losing!!

Love yourself for your choices, that is who we are, not the body in the mirror…that is the outside world looking in, but how you see yourself is key to how much you will appreciate or sabotage you!!!

By: Michelle

Michelle — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 03:22:49 +0000

Words of wisdom definitely!!!

By: Bethany

Bethany — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 02:02:44 +0000

Roni, I just joined Blog 2 Lose and I love it. I was skeptical at first, but I was surprised at how soon and often people leave comments and support. Thank you for creating it. I am very excited to get started.

By: Annette

Annette — Sun, 18 Jan 2009 19:00:07 +0000

if there was a magic pill……………how many years I searched!

The process has taught me so much and I in turn, am teaching my kids so the ugly cycle can stop :)

By: Sue

Sue — Sun, 18 Jan 2009 16:44:04 +0000

it’s like an ah ha moment!

By: Sherri

Sherri — Sun, 18 Jan 2009 16:38:34 +0000

Nothing could be more true! When I started my weight loss journey in November of 2007 by joining Weight Watchers I told myself that I don’t care how long it takes I’m sticking with this. Even if I lose just 1lb. a month I’ll be happy. I’ve been stuck at 40lbs. down for the last 6 months with 20 lbs. still to go but what’s kept me on this journey is enjoying the process, enjoying the meetings and realizing that as long as I stay the course I will eventually reach my goal. I’ve seen many friends race to their goal and then almost as quickly gain the weight back. I did not want that to be me so I allow myself to mess up and struggle and since I knew from the beginning that this was going to be a long, long journey I don’t let it get me down.

By: Donna

Donna — Sun, 18 Jan 2009 14:30:55 +0000

I’m there this time — and it was a relief. Once I came to that conclusion, it made the journey part of the process for me – my energy was spent on my day which has helped me stay on track (8lbs in 3 weeks), not on worrying about tomorrow… thanks for sharing and for the confirmation – so true and an important philosphy to live by. He’s a smart man!!