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Ask Roni: Early Discouragement

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Hi Roni — your story gives me hope. I have struggled with my weight for years. I am on my second week with WW now. I started at 223 lbs. I lost 5 pounds my first week. It’s been 4 days into my second week and the scales haven’t budged. I’m starting to lose hope again. How did you stay encouraged?
Joanne

Joanne,

I’m moving you to the top of the queue as I think your question is time sensitive!

PLEASE do NOT give up. You can’t scale watch this early, it will drive you nuts. At this point you have to have FAITH in the plan. Look at my first 2 weeks. The second week I barely lost a half a pound and I was distraught…

Weight Watchers Week 2 – July 13, 2005
Ok, not good but not bad news either, at least I didn’t gain anything. I was really disappointed at my second week weigh in, only down .4 points, that’s right, POINT 4. That’s like a pair of socks, isn’t it? Anyway, I thought the whole breastfeeding things would "melt the pounds away", that’s what everyone said. Hopefully next week will go better, wish me luck.

That was the post I wrote on my family blog that day of my second weigh-in (pre-RonisWeigh). I made a promise to myself that I was going to stick with it. That I was going to take it day by day. I was going to have faith. I needed to make these changes for me regardless of what the scale said. I had to learn how to eat. I had to get control.

Guess what… I did!

Any point on the journey I could have given up like I’ve done countless times before. But this time, I didn’t. This time, I did one little thing different that I didn’t do before. I STUCK WITH IT. I fought through the negative self talk, the hopelessness and simply followed the plan.

DO NOT let the scale derail your efforts. It will catch up, it WILL!

-Roni



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Discussion

There are 31 comments so far.

    Biz319

    January 9, 2009

    Kudos Roni! It’s a journey, and i don’t know any journeys that take only two weeks!

    I think most of us didn’t gain the weight in two weeks, why should we expect it to go away in two weeks!

    Slow and steady wins the race!

    Elaine

    January 9, 2009

    I can’t agree with Roni more – you just have to stick with it. The scale will move when it’s ready. I know, I know – that’s easier said than done. Stick with it and you will get rewarded – more self-confidence, knowledge that you are treating your body better, clothes will fit better, and, yes, the scale will eventually move.

    Susan

    January 9, 2009

    Stick with it! Take a popsicle stick and write “stick with it” on it and put it somewhere where you will see it!

    I started at 225.6 on July 21, 2008. I am know at 187. At the time I didn’t think it was possible to lose weight – but it is. Take each day at a time. If one day isn’t great – you can always try again the next!

    S

    Susan

    January 9, 2009

    now not know….haha….grammar! ;)

    Stephanie

    January 9, 2009

    Joanne,

    Roni is right! Don’t watch the scale this early. Do the best you can and don’t give up. I am on the same journey and I’m not giving up until I WIN!!!!!!!!!!!!

    DaleK

    January 9, 2009

    If you give up now, where will you be 6 months from now? What if you kept at it – where might you be in 6 months?

    I started at 213.6. It took me 1.5 years to lose 45lbs. So, I know how you feel, trust me on that!

    I hated every minute of my 1/2 lb average per week rate of loss. I had a 5 month plateau. I’m stubborn, so I kept it up. I kept it up and I lost 75lbs. If I had given up? I’d weight 213 or more right now.

    2 weeks is not enough time to get an accurate gauge on your progress. And, this is about progress over time. You will have weeks where you do everything right and the scale numbers move up. You will have weeks where you feel like you messed up and you’ll see (relatively) huge losses.

    The scale is actually not a great way to measure progress. There are just too many variables that effect the number it spews out at you. And in my personal experience, most of the time the numbers are just that…spew!!

    I’ve seen my number go up by as much as 5lbs over night simply from a high carb meal the day before. And no, it’s not fat weight, it’s water weight. And it goes away. The scale won’t tell you body composition – fat weight vs water weight vs muscle weight.

    You might want to check out Tom Venuto’s new book, “The Body Fat Solution”. I’ve read it and it sounds to me like it’s just what you need!

    I’ve heard the nursing melts pounds away thing. I don’t know if there is a scientific basis for that? Here’s the results of a quick google:

    http://parenting.ivillage.com/newborn/nbreastfeed/0,,3ws8,00.html

    Jess's food coma

    January 9, 2009

    Take measurements you will be amazed! My third week I gained 1.2 but I am still pushing on because I took my measurements I know I am moving in the right direction. Also watch your sodium intake, retaining water will make it look like a gain too.

    sherijung

    January 9, 2009

    The body does what it does–the weight will definitely come off if you are in calorie deficit. I lost 65 lbs on WW in 2007, and it did came off in chunks. I would lose a pound and a half to two pounds, then waver back and forth for a couple of weeks, then lose another chunk. I weighed daily and tracked it in FitDay. The graph looks like a set of stairs with uneven treads. The important issue is the downward trend, and keeping smaller more manageable weight goals (like 5-10 pounds) in your mind.

    Also, the first two weeks were the hardest for me, from a food standpoint. It does get easier to do the portion control and to make better food choices. It all becomes less overwhelming when things start to become a habit.

    Laura

    January 9, 2009

    My best advice is do not weigh yourself. Only get on the scale at WW. So many variables can affect your day to day weight. I’ve had weeks where the scale won’t budge for days but the by the time my weigh in rolls around, I’m down a pound or two. I swear sometimes your body holds onto that weight for most of the week. Please don’t give up, I’ve been there and I know it SUCKS but I promise you the great weeks far outweigh the crummy ones. Diligence and consistency are huge factors in WW success and even though you may not see the fruits of your labor right now, all of the good choices you are making will still affect your future weight loss. Good luck!

    Lyn

    January 9, 2009

    I agree. If you always respond to the scale, you’ll be bouncing around not only with your weight and eating habits but also with your emotions. A scale is just a tool. Try to kee the overall big picture in mind. A week is such a short time. Aim for building healthy habits, and in a month’s time or a year’s time you’ll be so happy you stuck with it!

    Geri

    January 9, 2009

    I agree with Laura and Lynn – it’s best not to weigh yourself at home in the early stages. It will mean you have to go to class to get weighed – an added incentive to actually go (it can be difficult when you’re not feeling the best). The scales will drive you crazy at home. I’d go as far as to say get rid of them – or at least give them to a friend, neighbor or family member to hold until you are well into the plan, at least a couple of months. The temptation to weigh every day is just too much and Roni’s right, you need to have faith in the plan at the start.

    Deb

    January 9, 2009

    Listen to RONI!

    Only weight-in ONCE A WEEK ON THE SAME SCALE!! Your weight can fluctuate daily and all scales are different. If you stick with the plan and listen to RONI, you will succeed!! I did!

    pam

    January 9, 2009

    JoANN, Just remember you are DOING something!!!!! By giving up, you are doing nothing. Your life will change for your new baby and you will be the active mom who they look at when they are making their food choices. You can do this because it is possible. You can do it for you! Take one day at a time. And….don’t hop on that scale until the ww meeting. Hugs and best wishes.

    MaryB

    January 9, 2009

    Let me get this straight….you’re only 9 or 10 days into the plan and you’re already discouraged? For some reason this makes me really angry. Did you think you would lose 20 or 30 pounds?? You do not weigh enough to lose huge amounts of weight. This is what you need to do – kick that scale to the curb! ONLY weigh in at your meeting OR the gym. You ARE exercising, right? Even if it’s just taking a walk or taking the stairs. Roni has shown me that exercise is the key to losing weight. Throw your shoulders back, stand up straight and say I CAN DO THIS. Because you can. Follow the plan and it will work
    Lord help me, I sound like Jillian :O

    Charlie Hills

    January 9, 2009

    At the risk of leaving another “me too”-like comment, I have to say, “me too!” That is, I agree with the above 14 or so people. You have to think past today. You have to think, “Will I feel better if I stick with this or if I just give up?” Let’s say you only lose 0.2 pounds a week. Well, it sucks that isn’t 1 or 2 pounds a week but it’s infinitely better than continuing to gain, gain, gain. Hide the scale, stick to the plan (I like the Popsicle stick idea) and it WILL work.

    Joanne

    January 9, 2009

    Thanks for all your wonderful words of support. I will not give up. This early in the game, it’s hard to see the “long run”, but I will stick with it. I look at Roni and her story gives me hope. That’s were I want to be! I want to be healthy. I want to be free of this ball and chain I have been carrying around. I will do it this time — for me. Thanks again.

    momyshaver

    January 9, 2009

    This is so much what I needed this week as I have been consistant in exercise and lower calorie and *gaining* WHILE BREASTFEEDING like a madwoman.. LOL.. thanks for the sensible reminder that it will pay off. I feel so much better physically and I have faith that in time it will pay off by the weight coming off. Good Luck everyone!

    Jac

    January 9, 2009

    I needed to see this today. I REALLY needed to see this today. I’ve had a bad week (only on week two!) but I am determined NOT to give up. And this post has inspired me, that it’s ok and I need to just stick with it.

    Thank you for your constant motivation and inspiration!

    Brianne

    January 9, 2009

    Thank you for sharing this today. I was feeling particularly discouraged but this is helping me. thanks!

    Chris

    January 9, 2009

    Roni: Love your answer and approach.

    Joanne: I lost 20 lbs. from April to December 2008. My goal was/is to lose 50 in a year, but I might not hit that exactly…it’s OK! There were weeks and months that the scale stayed the same. I think by focusing on how I FELT as opposted to THE NUMBER, I was better able to stay on the path. I have 30 more to go this year and will follow the same philosophy.

    So, keep on keeping on. YOU can do it!

    Foodiegymmie

    January 9, 2009

    I think you shouldn’t be too concerned with the scale and get stressed over it.

    just exercise and make it part of your lifestyle… soon… weight loss will set in and take it as “side effect”. This is how i see it. Just learn to enjoy every workout, and soon you will be loving it!

    Jennifer

    January 9, 2009

    Also, you’ve only been at this for two weeks… while I’m sure that feels like an eternity to you, don’t expect too much too soon. Instead concentrate on the better choices you’ll make. The scale ALWAYS catches up to what you’re doing.

    Leslie

    January 9, 2009

    I needed this today. I get so hung up on the scale. When I don’t see the numbers go down I just give up! Thanks for this!!!

    Shannon

    January 9, 2009

    I also needed this today. I’m very frustrated that I am not seeing results fast enough but I need to give my body more time to adjust to the changes I am making.

    gottahavefaith

    January 9, 2009

    You will always be able to find a discouraging data point if you’re looking for it. You will always, always, always be able to find a reason to think that it’s all hopeless. The only way I ever got anywhere was to stop looking for reasons to doubt and to just trust my body and my plan. My username on this site was my weight loss motto, and it worked. Of course you will feel discouraged sometimes, but if you stop overthinking it, have faith, and just do what you know you need to, things will work out.

    On another note, thank you so much for answering all of these questions Roni. You pour so much time into answering these questions well and we all really appreciate it!

    Maureen

    January 9, 2009

    Joanne,

    Forget about time, what finally worked for me after many years of coming and going to WW, was promising myself to attend meetings no matter if I lost or gained, just keep going. Sometimes I was up, sometimes down, I got down 40lbs, have gained back 13 and will continue going to meetings. I love my leader, go out of my way extra half hour to be with her, she motivates me and believes I can do it, when I have trouble believing. May ’09 will be two years and I will be at goal 50lbs down! I’m committing to my leader, my family, New Years, but most of all I’m committing to myself. I’m done waking up wishing, hoping and dreaming of doing it…I’m doing it now! Enough wasting time, life is too short and I want to look good in shorts this summer!

    Annalisa

    January 9, 2009

    Joanne — every person is right to say stick with it. My second piece of advice is that you can always start over. I used to binge eat when I was discouraged and then think “I’ll start over on Monday….” and I wouldn’t. Now when I slip up, I treat as such and move on — the very next meal! I don’t wait for tomorrow or Monday — I try to make good choices ASAP. Good luck in journey!

    Kathy

    January 9, 2009

    I may not be where I want to be,
    I may not even be where I should be
    but thank God I’m not where I was……

    Don’t compare yourself today from yesterday…..
    Compare yourself today from the start of your journey…
    and then my friend…you have still lost 5 lbs!

    Nothing changes if nothing changes.

    fitforfree

    January 9, 2009

    Roni, you are wonderful. Thank you for your insight and for sticking with it yourself! you inspired me to “come clean” about my history (and ww) on my own blog.

    SMK

    January 9, 2009

    Oh Man the evil scale!! It seems like it likes you some weeks and not so much other weeks.

    After awhile though, I think that you start to see your body’s patterns. For example, before my ‘time of the month’ I retain water like a crazy person and my weight is several pounds higher than usual. This was totally annoying when I began my weightloss journey. But now since I’ve been at this so long, I come to expect it.

    Sticking with it has been the best thing ever. Slow and steady wins the race.

    Adriana

    January 9, 2009

    Stick with it Joanne! It’s a long journey and you don’t always see the scale budge the way you want it to. But remember, some of the changes that you might not see are the ones that are going on inside. By sticking with WW, you are becoming healthier, creating healthy habits and probably already feel better. Keep up the good work and before you know it, you’ll be seeing the results you want!