Comments on: Ask Roni: Accepting Yourself

By: Laurie Ann

Laurie Ann — Tue, 17 Feb 2009 19:57:05 +0000

I understand this sentiment so much. I’m fat (big shock there) and I know I’m fat. However before I can lose this weight am just trying to learn to love me for me and maybe when I do that I can learn to love myself kwim?

By: Camevil

Camevil — Wed, 21 Jan 2009 18:33:29 +0000

Four pounds in one month is actually pretty good. That’s a pound a week. She should congratulate herself for a job well-done.

Unfortunately, infomercials and internet ads sell young women on the idea that weight loss can be had in a pill or shake. Implied in that business model is the idea that women who don’t lose “36 pounds” in a month are doing something wrong, that losing weight is easy. This in turn preys upon a woman’s already low self-esteem, reinforcing the idea that fat people must be really lazy because there are so many “fast and easy” weight loss techniques.

She needs to just keep chugging ahead and congratulate herself for a fabulous accomplishment. She’s 4 lbs lighter this month. Next month, she’ll be close to 10 lbs lighter. And so on. And she did it the right way. Good for her!

By: Matt

Matt — Wed, 21 Jan 2009 04:18:17 +0000

4 pounds in a month isn’t bad. That seems like a nice, sustainable pace that puts you on track for a lifetime of health. I was really struck by Roni’s earlier post about loving the process, not just the end result. You have a great start, just keep working to figure out what works for you and what doesn’t and you will eventually reach your goal.

By: Amanda

Amanda — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 20:46:03 +0000

Maddie–I bet you are beautiful!!! Don’t be so hard on yourself. I am 5’3″ and my goal weight is 140. I wish I could be 18 again and have the knowledge that I do now…love yourself for you. You have to fix what’s inside before everything comes together. It also sounds like you may not be eating enough. Take Roni’s advice–she knows what she’s talking about.

By: Annette

Annette — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 20:29:17 +0000

Maddie……….could I suggest visiting Oprah’s website about acceptance and embracing the body you have at this moment? It really hit home with me and I have been a lot easier on myself since I saw the show ;)

By: Melissa

Melissa — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 20:10:18 +0000

Another thing to keep in mind is at 5’3 and 140, Maddie is not at an unhealthy weight … this is where disordered eating/eating disorders can begin … tread with caution. Remember, Rome wasn’t bult in a day!! Good luck, Maddie– you’ve gotten great advice here.

By: Natalia Burleson

Natalia Burleson — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 18:25:22 +0000

Aw Maddie, Roni is right please don’t be so hard on yourself. Thanks Roni for answering her question immediately!

By: Julie

Julie — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 17:19:45 +0000

Maddie- take up runnning – couch to 5K http://www.coolrunning.com and get the free podcasts from itunes search: podcasts for running Make running your empowerment journey to feeling good about you and getting strong, eat healthy, and you will feel 200% better before you know it…I wish I had started doing it at 18 instead of 42…its doable, intervals to get you to running 30 min. straight…do it girl!! Get those free podcasts and go! It only takes 35 min 3 times a week. It will help you feel good mentally!!

By: Mark

Mark — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 17:17:08 +0000

You are on quite the journey!

By: Biz

Biz — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:52:53 +0000

It’s so sad that young women today are so hard on themselves. But I do remember when I played field hockey in college, they put us on a weight lifting routine and I gained 5 pounds of muscle, but when I stepped on the scale and saw 125 I nearly freaked out!

Learn to love yourself Maddie! Hang in there and hugs!