Comments on: TV Does Not Equal WEB

By: JavaChick

JavaChick — Tue, 23 Dec 2008 14:00:40 +0000

A few years back I was chatting with a friend who was going through a rough time career-wise, trying to figure out what to do with her life. She commented that it was so easy for me because I was so confident about my job and what I was doing. I was shocked because that was not how I felt at all. I was just trying to to do the best I could and hoping that it was good enough. Funny how other people can see us so differently though.

I think that trying new things is good. Some things will work, some things won’t. But if you don’t try, you’ll never get anywhere. So kudos to you for jumping in and giving it a shot. And recognizing that if you are not the right fit for this particular opportunity, it’s not the end of the world. You’ve got plenty going for you right now and no doubt there will be other exciting opportunities in the future!

By: SMK

SMK — Mon, 22 Dec 2008 17:03:27 +0000

I am catching up on your blog entries since I was out of town this weekend and I really relate to this post.

I also struggle with insecure feelings although I am definitely seen as a very confident and motivated person by most people. However lately, in the last year or so I have really been struggling with my own fear and insecurities particularly in my career. It is so easy to let those feelings develop into negative feelings which result in feeling crappy about ourselves and telling ourselves we aren’t good enough. For me, when I experience insecure feelings, I most likely lose my motivation because it is easier to not even try when you don’t think you can do it, right? With some help from a lifecoach, I have begun to recognize these patterns in my behavior and I have developed some amazing strategies to get myself out of that horrible cycle.

When I see my insecurities getting the best of me, I have a talk with myself and say, ‘Hey this isn’t YOU! You aren’t frightened by what life throws at you. You can handle anything that comes your way. You have accomplished alot already. Just take the next step and you’ll see that its not that hard to keep moving.’ Pep talks totally work for me lol!

Another interesting observation I have is the reaction I get from my husband when I am down and out having a pity party. He’s still always so surprised when it happens because he knows how strong and confident I can be yet still this hopeless little person reveals themselves sometimes and he wonders where his wife went.

Thanks for the posts Roni! You really know how to strike a chord in us.

By: Zandria

Zandria — Mon, 22 Dec 2008 15:52:38 +0000

Arrrggghhh. That sucks. You’re right, it would be nice for them to choose someone with “real world” experience, rather than just an actor. But I’m very impressed that you went through all this and gave it a go — there’s a TON of people who wouldn’t have had the nerve (including myself). :)

By: Sandi

Sandi — Sun, 21 Dec 2008 08:22:44 +0000

I’m sorry you didn’t get the tv gig, but I’m so glad you will keep up with your blogs. I love coming here and seeing what’s new with you. You are so inspiring, besides I love the recipe’s! There’s no shame in being turned down, only in not trying!

By: Vivi

Vivi — Sat, 20 Dec 2008 01:11:30 +0000

Sweet, sweet girl. You will never know the people you have reached through this blog and through your story. In the end, success is not what matters. Significance matters. I think you’ve established your siginificance in this world quite clearly.

By: Julie

Julie — Sat, 20 Dec 2008 00:45:11 +0000

Bummer! I would have loved you to get that slot. Then I could say I “knew” you…ha ha!

Anyhoo, I get it. When you appear confident people often confuse that for ego. What everyone needs to remember is that we are all unsure of our selves at least some of the time.

Glad we won’t lose our blog though…

By: bernie

bernie — Fri, 19 Dec 2008 16:48:41 +0000

When I graduated college, I interviewed for TONS of jobs and everytime I got a rejection, I just told myself, “At least that was more interview experience.” Each interview got easier, I was more prepared and was finally able to wow someone enough to land a job. You got some great face time on a set in front of a camera, so at the next audition(!!), you can have a bigger frame of reference and get one step closer to nailing it! Just keep swimming!

By: Colette

Colette — Fri, 19 Dec 2008 15:39:22 +0000

Reading your post today reminded me of this quote:
“Success is the ability to go from one failure to another with no loss of enthusiasm.”
— Sir Winston Churchill

Keep doing what you’re doing. You have more true success than you realize.

By: Tabitha

Tabitha — Fri, 19 Dec 2008 14:18:51 +0000

Hi Roni! I can totally relate! My friends and family seem to have the same thoughts about me. “You’re so smart.” “I can’t do what you do.” “You’ve got it all together.” I want to wear some sort of newsflash telling people “I worked my tail off to get here. . .I’m smart because I spent HOURS studying every night. . .I made it through school by 21 with a child because I was determined. . .not because I’m ‘just that smart’. . .I stay at a healthy weight because I avoid bad foods. . .etc etc” I too am an insecure girl that is constantly beating herself up inside and I don’t understand how people see me as such a “great person”. . .I’ll try to take some of your advice and ignore that girl. . . .
Enough about me. . .you are awesome and everything happens for a reason! You will land that dream job when the time is right! ;o) Just stay focused and keep doing what you’re doing. . .inspiring all of us, your fans!

By: Trixie Belden

Trixie Belden — Fri, 19 Dec 2008 02:01:12 +0000

Roni, I think the most important thing is that you tried. You went out there an auditioned. Many people wouldn’t have done that. Life is meant to be lived and like you said, you’ve accomplished a lot, but you’ve worked for all of it, it didn’t come easy. You’ll be surprised what doors this opens for you, even though you didn’t get the gig. And it may be unexpected, indirect opportunities. Just keep putting yourself out there and challenging yourself! This is really cheesy, because I’m going to quote The Sound of Music, but sue me :) As Julie Andrews said, “Every time God closes a door, in some way he opens a window.” :)