Comments on: Do you apologize for your weight? http://ronisweigh.com/2008/12/do-you-apologize-for-your-weight.html One Mom's Journey from Fat to Skinny to Healthy. Fri, 10 Feb 2012 01:50:31 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: KK (Running Through Life) http://ronisweigh.com/2008/12/do-you-apologize-for-your-weight.html/comment-page-1#comment-13558 KK (Running Through Life) Tue, 23 Dec 2008 00:34:25 +0000 http://ronisweigh.com/?p=2196#comment-13558 This is why diets are not successful. In order to shed the weight for good, it has to be a lifestyle change! This is why diets are not successful. In order to shed the weight for good, it has to be a lifestyle change!

]]> By: Trixie Belden http://ronisweigh.com/2008/12/do-you-apologize-for-your-weight.html/comment-page-1#comment-13500 Trixie Belden Sat, 20 Dec 2008 17:32:43 +0000 http://ronisweigh.com/?p=2196#comment-13500 I used to apologize because I was overweight/obese. Now, if someone compliments me on my weight loss, I find myself apologizing for being smaller - not always, but I definitely do it if I am with people who weigh more than me. I have a hard time not being exactly the size whomever I am with wants me to be. Sick, huh? On my couch, at home alone, I'm happy as a clam with my weight, which is not something I could have said before I lost it all. But, surrounded by people, I'm happy when weight NEVER comes up because it just makes me uncomfortable. Do I apologize for being overweight before, or being "normal" now? Ugh! I guess I should just focus on pleasing myself and not other people. I know, easier said that done. I used to apologize because I was overweight/obese. Now, if someone compliments me on my weight loss, I find myself apologizing for being smaller – not always, but I definitely do it if I am with people who weigh more than me. I have a hard time not being exactly the size whomever I am with wants me to be. Sick, huh? On my couch, at home alone, I’m happy as a clam with my weight, which is not something I could have said before I lost it all. But, surrounded by people, I’m happy when weight NEVER comes up because it just makes me uncomfortable. Do I apologize for being overweight before, or being “normal” now? Ugh! I guess I should just focus on pleasing myself and not other people. I know, easier said that done.

]]> By: Michele Dochat http://ronisweigh.com/2008/12/do-you-apologize-for-your-weight.html/comment-page-1#comment-13430 Michele Dochat Thu, 18 Dec 2008 17:52:17 +0000 http://ronisweigh.com/?p=2196#comment-13430 What a loaded question, for so many reasons. I don't recall being aware of apologizing fr my weight, but all that self depricating "humor" is sort of a way of beating ourselves up, isn't it? The more I think about it, the more irritating it is that Oprah's weight is even something we all feel we can discuss. Not that I think WE shouldn't discuss, what I mean is, that the public in general is taking such an interest. Yes, she put it out there for us, but we eat it up (no pun intended), and it suddenly becomes ok to put her down for her shortcomings! Shortcomings that we ALL have!!! Doesn't anyone else see this is wrong? I wish her the best, she's an amazing lady, but I agree, her struggle is NOT unique. She doesn't owe us any apologies. Perhaps to herself, but I think she'll get further or feel better if she focuses on FORGIVING herself. Forgive the failings. And brush it off....get your focus back, even if you fall down a hundred times in the process. It's her humanity that we all love, and it is just another way that she is showing it to us. Truth is, Oprah doesn't owe US anything. Does she think that she does? I wonder. As for me I say this: "Michele, you are not eating so well all the time, and you really should try harder to work out more. You are being lazy and making stupid excuses. Try to think about where you lost your focus and then get it back. You know how good you feel when you are active and eating right. I love you. You are a great person and you deserve the best." As for all of you I say this: "Roni Fans, BTLers, Ladies, Gents - you deserve to be your best. You can be healthy, today, right now. You can achieve your goals, and maintain. You are a great person, and you are loved by many....but don't forget to LOVE YOURSELF! Happy Holidays!" Wow, let me just get over myself now and get off my soapbox. I didn't mean to get all preachy, but I was feeling the moment. I am heading for more water!! Maybe that will help flush out this headcold faster?? xo Michele What a loaded question, for so many reasons. I don’t recall being aware of apologizing fr my weight, but all that self depricating “humor” is sort of a way of beating ourselves up, isn’t it?

The more I think about it, the more irritating it is that Oprah’s weight is even something we all feel we can discuss. Not that I think WE shouldn’t discuss, what I mean is, that the public in general is taking such an interest. Yes, she put it out there for us, but we eat it up (no pun intended), and it suddenly becomes ok to put her down for her shortcomings! Shortcomings that we ALL have!!! Doesn’t anyone else see this is wrong?

I wish her the best, she’s an amazing lady, but I agree, her struggle is NOT unique. She doesn’t owe us any apologies. Perhaps to herself, but I think she’ll get further or feel better if she focuses on FORGIVING herself. Forgive the failings. And brush it off….get your focus back, even if you fall down a hundred times in the process. It’s her humanity that we all love, and it is just another way that she is showing it to us. Truth is, Oprah doesn’t owe US anything. Does she think that she does? I wonder.

As for me I say this: “Michele, you are not eating so well all the time, and you really should try harder to work out more. You are being lazy and making stupid excuses. Try to think about where you lost your focus and then get it back. You know how good you feel when you are active and eating right. I love you. You are a great person and you deserve the best.”

As for all of you I say this: “Roni Fans, BTLers, Ladies, Gents – you deserve to be your best. You can be healthy, today, right now. You can achieve your goals, and maintain. You are a great person, and you are loved by many….but don’t forget to LOVE YOURSELF! Happy Holidays!”

Wow, let me just get over myself now and get off my soapbox. I didn’t mean to get all preachy, but I was feeling the moment. I am heading for more water!! Maybe that will help flush out this headcold faster??

xo
Michele

]]> By: Svanhvit http://ronisweigh.com/2008/12/do-you-apologize-for-your-weight.html/comment-page-1#comment-13387 Svanhvit Thu, 18 Dec 2008 10:26:08 +0000 http://ronisweigh.com/?p=2196#comment-13387 I absolutely and fully agree with all the things you said. I have been there too and am a binger. Having said that, I have stopped making excuses for my weight. I know why it is what it is right now and I am working well to change that. Already, I see some huge changes in my body and my attitude. I have stopped making little "slippers" my excuse to totally flip out. Last night for example. The hubby had some chocolate covered soft marshmallows. With raisins. Yummy. So, I had half, very thoroughly enjoyed it - and for dinner I had my salad as planned. I do count my days as "OP" which basically means I stick with my points. (yes, I am a ww too!). I allow myself a day here and there where I exceed my points or perhaps even use them for sweets etc. But for one thing and then it's back to business. And I love it. Not long ago, any little thing would throw me off. Not so now. I even got the pukers last friday, took two days of eating brezels and other salty stuff to get my body working again. And then dug in again. I feel happy, I feel confident, I am proud of myself and I'm absolutely LOVING it!! Short stats, I have lost 12 lbs in 4 weeks, several inches all over, am getting a lot stronger, feel a lot healthier and better. GO ME!! ;) I absolutely and fully agree with all the things you said. I have been there too and am a binger.
Having said that, I have stopped making excuses for my weight. I know why it is what it is right now and I am working well to change that. Already, I see some huge changes in my body and my attitude. I have stopped making little “slippers” my excuse to totally flip out. Last night for example. The hubby had some chocolate covered soft marshmallows. With raisins. Yummy. So, I had half, very thoroughly enjoyed it – and for dinner I had my salad as planned. I do count my days as “OP” which basically means I stick with my points. (yes, I am a ww too!). I allow myself a day here and there where I exceed my points or perhaps even use them for sweets etc. But for one thing and then it’s back to business. And I love it. Not long ago, any little thing would throw me off. Not so now. I even got the pukers last friday, took two days of eating brezels and other salty stuff to get my body working again. And then dug in again.

I feel happy, I feel confident, I am proud of myself and I’m absolutely LOVING it!! Short stats, I have lost 12 lbs in 4 weeks, several inches all over, am getting a lot stronger, feel a lot healthier and better. GO ME!! ;)

]]> By: Lilbet http://ronisweigh.com/2008/12/do-you-apologize-for-your-weight.html/comment-page-1#comment-13305 Lilbet Wed, 17 Dec 2008 00:15:50 +0000 http://ronisweigh.com/?p=2196#comment-13305 Nope, I don't apologize. But, I feel guilty, ashamed, and I crack jokes about it so I don't have to be the butt (pun not intended) of a joke. I just had a small victory that made me realize that maybe I'm on the right track. I shared a work out video that I routinely do with no problem with one of my skinny chick friends. She tried it a couple of times and couldn't do the whole thing. So, I'll celebrate this small victory, even though she and I still shop in different sections of the department store!! Take it easy on yourself. You have to! Nope, I don’t apologize. But, I feel guilty, ashamed, and I crack jokes about it so I don’t have to be the butt (pun not intended) of a joke.

I just had a small victory that made me realize that maybe I’m on the right track. I shared a work out video that I routinely do with no problem with one of my skinny chick friends. She tried it a couple of times and couldn’t do the whole thing.

So, I’ll celebrate this small victory, even though she and I still shop in different sections of the department store!!

Take it easy on yourself. You have to!

]]> By: Mark http://ronisweigh.com/2008/12/do-you-apologize-for-your-weight.html/comment-page-1#comment-13303 Mark Tue, 16 Dec 2008 21:44:51 +0000 http://ronisweigh.com/?p=2196#comment-13303 I think it depends. If an individual is critical of others and gloats there would be a good case for an apology. Otherwise...to be human is, well..... I think it depends. If an individual is critical of others and gloats there would be a good case for an apology. Otherwise…to be human is, well…..

]]> By: Leslie http://ronisweigh.com/2008/12/do-you-apologize-for-your-weight.html/comment-page-1#comment-13301 Leslie Tue, 16 Dec 2008 21:22:07 +0000 http://ronisweigh.com/?p=2196#comment-13301 I think I definitely have in the past, but I sure try not to. You make an excellent point about having to love yourself no matter the size... I hope Oprah can figure that out. I mean, sure she may have food issues, but look at how much she has accomplished in her life! It's just sad that she seems embarrassed when it comes to this one aspect of her life. I think I definitely have in the past, but I sure try not to. You make an excellent point about having to love yourself no matter the size… I hope Oprah can figure that out. I mean, sure she may have food issues, but look at how much she has accomplished in her life! It’s just sad that she seems embarrassed when it comes to this one aspect of her life.

]]> By: Ellen http://ronisweigh.com/2008/12/do-you-apologize-for-your-weight.html/comment-page-1#comment-13300 Ellen Tue, 16 Dec 2008 21:09:39 +0000 http://ronisweigh.com/?p=2196#comment-13300 Roni, awesome post! And, great timing for me to read this. I just ready the-f-word.org's post about Thanking Your Body and along with this post about apologizing and several of your recent posts about loving yourself, I was so touched an inspired to blog about my own experience. It was an incredible release to put those thoughts and feelings on paper (ok, virtual paper...). I want to stop the feelings of anger, disappointed and frustration towards myself and I think I am beginning to. Thank you for this post and your previous posts on self acceptance and love! Roni, awesome post! And, great timing for me to read this. I just ready the-f-word.org’s post about Thanking Your Body and along with this post about apologizing and several of your recent posts about loving yourself, I was so touched an inspired to blog about my own experience. It was an incredible release to put those thoughts and feelings on paper (ok, virtual paper…). I want to stop the feelings of anger, disappointed and frustration towards myself and I think I am beginning to. Thank you for this post and your previous posts on self acceptance and love!

]]> By: ErinErin http://ronisweigh.com/2008/12/do-you-apologize-for-your-weight.html/comment-page-1#comment-13298 ErinErin Tue, 16 Dec 2008 20:11:52 +0000 http://ronisweigh.com/?p=2196#comment-13298 Healthy moderate amounts of food is my medicine. Dieting, overeating, insecurity, obsessive behavior is my disease. Extra weight, exhaustion, depression, cranky behavior are the symptoms. Healthy moderate amounts of food is my medicine. Dieting, overeating, insecurity, obsessive behavior is my disease. Extra weight, exhaustion, depression, cranky behavior are the symptoms.

]]> By: Kristin http://ronisweigh.com/2008/12/do-you-apologize-for-your-weight.html/comment-page-1#comment-13297 Kristin Tue, 16 Dec 2008 20:11:06 +0000 http://ronisweigh.com/?p=2196#comment-13297 I only apologize if I'm around skinny people....I had no idea I did this until it was pointed out to me. hmmm, that was a sad day! Now, with 20lbs to go....I'm better at being happy with the 'NOW' body! I only apologize if I’m around skinny people….I had no idea I did this until it was pointed out to me. hmmm, that was a sad day!

Now, with 20lbs to go….I’m better at being happy with the ‘NOW’ body!

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