I’m heading out for one crazy, hectic weekend. In summary… Tonight is the husband’s Holiday party, a state away. Tomorrow I’m traveling from there to my Moms for my nieces 5th birthday party on Sunday. Monday, ya ready for this… I’m taking the train into New York City (only my favorite place on the planet!) for an audition! Yikes! Every time I say it, I get freaked out just a little bit more.
The opportunity came out of no where when Lori sent the casting call notice for a new show coming to the states called Cook Yourself Thin. I read it and thought, Oh My Gosh! That’s perfect. I literally did Cook Myself Thin! LOL
So I threw an application together and sent it in. Surprising I heard from them right away asking if I’d come in from an audition. Of course I said yes! But then nothing. No return email, no call. Nothing. Weeks went by, I even sent a follow up and received no response.
I all but gave up on it.
Then I figured, what the heck, You only live once, right?!? So I shot them my latest GreenLiteBites Video. Low and behold! They emailed back and set up an audition time for me!
Perseverance people, p-e-r-s-e-v-e-r-a-n-c-e! :~P
So cross your fingers. I’m super excited to get the opportunity to try out. Right now I’m living for the experience of it.
So before I embark on my few days of hectic fun I want to leave you with an email correspondence I had today. I’m keeping names anonymous here as it wasn’t an official "Ask Roni" just an email asking for help. The writer really struck a cord with me as I truly feel her pain. I’ve been there. I had those same feelings. Please, if you have any advice for her as well, share it in the comments.
Roni, I have 60 lbs. to lose. Where do I even start?? I am realizing my joints hurt from the extra weight. I don’t like what I see in the mirror. I really need some sort of inspiration, some focus, starting point. Can you offer me any words of wisdom? I am at rock bottom without a clue.
I know how you feel and I know my advice will seem cheesy and unhelpful but it’s SO true.
You have to take baby steps. You have to stop focusing on the long term goal and focus on daily ones. When you do that, day by day you’ll get closer to that big goal and time will go by. Then you realize that all those daily goals are starting to build up and you are getting closer to closer to your goal!
I tell people ALL the time.. Give yourself ONE day. Don’t worry about tomorrow, or the fact you have plans on the weekends, that a holiday is creeping up on you. Do what you can today. Stay on plan right NOW. Live in THIS moment. Make the best choice you can.
Once you start doing that you’ll realize you make more good decisions then bad. That the days you veer off plan, are OK. They don’t affect your next decision, they don’t snowball into days, weeks or months like they used to for me.
That really is the key. Once you get that down you have to find what works for you in the eating/exercise front. For me it was Flex and doing something active every day (walk, dancing, etc.). I did my best to stay on plan and I set a goal of something active every day. You can do that! You can TOTALLY do that. Right?!? :~)
I can try. I feel like I’ve been on WW so many times, that one more won’t make the difference, you know? I start off well, but then something in me just gives up and I go bananas one day and eat a whole bag of Hershey Kisses and I figure what the hell, I quit. I work three 11-hour days and on those days I can go to the gym at work (it’s free) but I find it hard to get motivated in the mdidle of the workday. By the time I get home I am done for the day, so exhausted. My days off I could work it in. But my thinking is – what’s two days?? It’s not going to make a difference. I think I am so down on myself right now that I can’t give myself any credit.
I am going to try TODAY to make good choices. I"m not going to worry about the fact that I will be baking Christmas cookies later today, or that my husband and I will be going out to dinner this weekend. I’m just going to try to get through breakfast. Then lunch. I guess I"ll see how it goes. I could try to get on the treadmill today, I know I would feel better if I did – it really is a mental boost when I DO exercise, I don’t know why I don’t do it more often. Both my children (7 and 11) are in school and I have off work today. I have so much to do today (wrapping presents, baking cookies, etc.) that it’s hard to work that exercise in – and by the time I decide to do it, I am exhausted. Jeez, now I just remembered I left my tennis shoes at work!! Joy.
Thank you Roni for taking the time to respond to me. I just feel like I’m starting at the bottom, and there is a large rock tied to my ankle.
You aren’t alone in your feelings. You NEED to know that. I went through and go throw these cycles STILL. Though they are getting less frequent after 3 years, it’s been a journey.
You have to realize (and you aren’t going to want to hear this) it took you a long time to get where you are now. Your eating habits, the lack of motivation to work out. Your decisions not to do what you know will make you really happy. You formed those habits over years. You aren’t going to change overnight. You aren’t going to wake up 60lbs lighter.
You have to accept that.
It’s hard. It will take a lot of mental exercises to do. You’ll have to leave your comfort zone. You’ll have to do things you aren’t motivated to do. You may have to force yourself at first. You can’t expect to do everything overnight. It will take as long as it took you to get where you are to get you where you want to go.
That’s why you start small. You take babysteps. You can’t do it all at once. Pick something. Make it a habit. Make it a non-negotiable thing you do for yourself.
Start to accept that you are never off plan. There is no "quitting". If you eat a bag of Hershey kisses. Accept it and move on. Once you accept it you CAN move in. If you use it as an excuse to quit you’ll never succeed because it’s GOING to happen. I almost ate a whole batch of cookies the other day. The only reason I didn’t was because other people helped! The more you accept it the less you will do it because you’ll start to realize there is no off plan. I ate the cookies. That didn’t give me permission to not go to the gym and to order a pizza for dinner. That decision to eat those cookies was isolated only to the cookies. You can’t let it snowball.
I can’t lie, it hard. It’s much easier to keep doing what you’re doing. Change is difficult. HOWEVER, when you make the effort. You’ll start to notice the hard choices don’t only get easier but they become habits. They become ingrained in the way to live your life.
I hope I didn’t insult you. That wasn’t my intention.
I know you can do this you just need that "a haaa" moment. The more you try, the closer you’ll get to it!