AskRoni_v17s2 - Negative Family Members, Starting to Run, Finding Time and Motivation, Blogging Help
December 29, 2008
Enjoying Mom’s Christmas present! ;~P Before I left I prepped the last video I had recorded. I *should* be posting my food journal here while I’m gone. I’m trying real hard not to through away the end of the year on the diet front just because I’m busy. I’ll be back with a full report!
Topics included in this video…
- Overcoming a negative spouse
- Starting to run
- Finding the motivation again
- Blogging help
- Note sure how useful but I found this article… What to Do When Your Spouse or Your Friends are Negative?
- The Advantages of Slow Weight Loss
- My other video Post with the other running question
- The Couch-to-5K Running Plan
- My weight progress
On December 29th, 2008 at 10:05 am pam said:
Why is it that I can be in COMPLETE control….UNTIL……I go to my parents house! I go back to all the OLD habits that I started there. Why can’t I get passed that? It is soooo frustrating! I find myself constantly stuffing my face! I don’t have this temptation or lack of self control anywhere else…….Just had to vent that ! (thanks)
On December 29th, 2008 at 11:04 am Alexia said:
Cranky Fitness just reviewed a book about boyfriends/husbands who are “diet disasters” and there’s an interesting comment dialogue going on!
As for me, I NEVER had any desire to run. Was convinced I didn’t have the body for it. Bad knees. Wide hips. Overweight. Yadda yadda. But then I did a lazy man’s triathlon and, while I planned on walking, I ran a bit here and there just to see if I could. And then I found Couch to 5K. And I built up. And now I run 5k, like, just for exercise! I want to build up to a 10K next.
On December 29th, 2008 at 12:30 pm Rachel said:
Hi Roni, love your blogs and would definitely be interested in a technical “blog on blogs” :) I’m an instructional designer putting together a health blog and finding the content much easier than the programming since my education was more focused on instruction and less on design, if that makes since. Keep up the great work!
On December 29th, 2008 at 1:11 pm Lyn said:
Roni I enjoyed this video a lot. Especially the “non negotiable” stuff. I need to do that for myself.
And I personally would LOVE a techie help blog to look at because.. well.. my poor blog is so basic and unornamented and I don’t even have any ads up or anything on it, yet I have a pretty good readership so I feel like I should do more with it. So yeah I would love tips on that. SO if you don’t do the techie blog I might just bug you via email :)
On December 29th, 2008 at 1:12 pm Lilbet said:
Negative family members? I would bet that her husband reacts this way with lots of things. Perhaps it would be helpful to address the attitude as a whole and not just how it is directed at her. Would be less threatening that way since it addresses the behavior and not the person.
You handled that question really well. Just thought I would add a little more!
Love the talkies. It’s great to see you shine!
On December 29th, 2008 at 1:26 pm Linda said:
I’m a techy person but have been baffled by many aspects of formatting my blog. So yes I’d be interested in a blog for that.
On December 29th, 2008 at 2:03 pm Benjamin Teal said:
Roni,
I am watching and listening as we type, and not only does Roni say it, most doctors say that 1 to 2 pounds is a safe goal. I am sure I mention that you should only try to lose 1 to 2 pound per week not only because it is healthy, but it also helps to make sure that the weight is mostly from fat, which is the main goal, and not as much from muscle.
Your advice was excellent, and I second the comment from Lilbet, “love the talkies!”
I wanted to make a quick off topic comment…
I love the poster in the background… :-p Gave me an idea for my new year’s eve party!
Ben
On December 29th, 2008 at 2:06 pm Sandi said:
Just had to comment on the negative husband. I was in tears listening to this posters comments. I’ve found that the positive reinforcement type comments help me so much more than the negative. I wonder if she’s mentioned this to him. When my hubby and others tell me how good I look it makes me want to try harder. The negative stuff just makes me want to quit. It’s great that she’s doing so well despite the negativity. One pound a week is fantastic! It’s more likely to be permanent as well.
On December 29th, 2008 at 2:58 pm Kimberly said:
Yay! A new video. Love them!!!
I was just, like 2 seconds ago, telling my coworker that I was actually thinking about turning my walk into a jog because the walking isn’t challenging enough for me anymore. And here you have it as part of Ask Roni. I can’t wait to watch it when I get home tonight.
On December 29th, 2008 at 3:02 pm Pubsgal said:
Love the talkies, too, Roni!
On the negative husband: Grrrr. I think I’d better NOT comment, because that guy’s comments just burned my bacon. You handled it beautifully. I agree: that gal is doing a terrific job in getting healthy. I hope he wakes up to THAT fact.
And yes! I’d enjoy following a tech blog by you. I’m in software myself (tech writer) but I just use the default templates for blogging. Might be fun to get a bit more posh. :-)
On December 29th, 2008 at 3:45 pm Superartsy said:
When i tried the couch to 5 K plan the first time, I kept thinking to myself,how nice it would be if there was an audio training plan to go along with this,maybe with some music interluded.So that I could just load my mp3 player and get going.turns out there was!! A guy from Northern California has prepared mp3 audio tracks for each week of the Couch to 5K plan.More about them http://www.ullreys.com/robert/Podcasts/podcasts/podcasts.html Hope you can share this with the first timers.
On December 29th, 2008 at 3:49 pm Jac said:
I’ve been an occasional lurker here, but decided to finally out myself!
I really enjoy your blog, and would love a tech blog by you also!
As for the negative husband, wowza!! Unfortunately, I think spouses get scared of the changes we make and become negative rather than supportive. But… he was WAY out of line!
On December 29th, 2008 at 9:44 pm Aime said:
I love your videos Roni. I had to chuckle when you mentioned your food cravings early on in your pregnancy. During the first few months of intense morning sickness I could only eat starchy carb type foods, bagels, muffins, potatoes, more bread. Aside from that I ate so much watermelon that I couldn’t stand it for about a year after. I gained weight so quickly in the first few months that it looked like I was having twins, one from each butt cheek! I am not kidding, my bum just exploded. I didn’t actually start showing in front until I was almost 7 months much to my disappointment.
On December 30th, 2008 at 2:50 am Tennille said:
Hi Roni! This is my vote for your ‘technical blog’ blog… I would love for you to start one! :)
On December 30th, 2008 at 8:14 am emily said:
thank you so much for your thoughts, but especially the weight loss template! i just finished punching in my stats (i started at the end of Sept. and the past two weeks have hit a minor plateau, but have felt MAJORly bummed about it) and it already makes me feel better!
thanks a bunch, how do u ever find the time to do it all?
On December 30th, 2008 at 12:22 pm Shanna said:
Roni,
Thank you so much for posting this video. It really helped me put things into perspective. I just recently found out I was pregnant. It was not a planned pregnancy. I had just hit my goal this summer and I was very upset to learn I would now have to gain weight. I cried for about a month. I feel like I will just die when my pants don’t fit anymore. Anyways, I have been feeling so out of control with my eating. Like you, french fries seem to be the only thing that help my stomach. I really don’t want to forget everything I have learned this past year as I lost 55 lbs. I just want to be healthy and have a healthy baby. I need to get it through my head that being pregnant doesn’t give me a free pass to eat what I want. Thank you for the inspiration. I would love any other advice you have.
On December 30th, 2008 at 7:20 pm Angie said:
Yes, a ‘technical blog’ would be a great idea. =)
On December 30th, 2008 at 8:06 pm melissa said:
Great vlog! We have such a simliar running stories! I love the challenge of running and that’s what keeps me motivated.
On December 30th, 2008 at 9:56 pm Renee for Phoenix said:
Yes, Roni! Please do think about a techie type blog (more of a 101 type, start at the basics style). I love this blog but want to do a fun blog of my own (just for fun). I am a engineer who has been home with my kids for 15 years and would love to be learning some new techie stuff. We should always be students of life, especially with awesome caring teachers as yourself. The new blog really should start at the very beginning given that I remember typing in commands from the C> prompt (a long time ago). Who knows, you could be the start of a whole new type of Dear Abby … or instead of the Queen of Clean you could be the Queen of Screen…or Blogs-a-weigh (a ronisweigh) or….. I’m sure there are better (less dorky) ideas out there. Thank for your dedication.
On December 31st, 2008 at 12:38 am Trixie Belden said:
Hey Roni,
Here’s my vote for the techie info about blogging. I’ve used blogspot for over 2 years and if I didn’t, I’d have no idea how to do a blog!
I also wanted to say I love your vlogs. I got teary/angry at the husband of the amazing woman who has accomplished so much. I also thought you gave a great answer - focus on the positives and educating him, instead of creating more negativity.
I also meant to comment on your last vlog, I think it was your last one, about the woman who was looking for inspiration/motivation, but does have kids to inspire her to get healthy. I just wanted to say that I think many single women (I being in my 30’s and never married, no kids) postpone taking on new challenges (like weight loss). I realized that life was passing me by in my early 30’s - I was bored in my career, bored in my life - and I did something about it - moved to a new city and spent two years full-time getting my MBA. And in the process, I realized if I was worth the effort to improve my career and continue my education, I was worth the time and effort to improve my health, and I finally was inspired to lose the weight. (I was nearly 225 lbs. at 5′3″ and getting more and more unhealthy by the day). I don’t know which I’m more proud of - of my 80-ish pound weight loss or my graduate degree. But the fact that I achieved both means that there is no reason why - as you said - we can’t all inspire each other, or look inside ourselves for the inspiration or motivation to achieve our goals. I proved to myself at the ripe old age of 35 that there is nothing I can’t do or achieve. And I hope that other single women, or women without kids, of any age, know that they can find that motivation for themselves too!
Thanks for being there!
Trixie
On December 31st, 2008 at 1:25 am Kimberly said:
Josie, Roni’s advise on motivation is dead on. Picking one thing and making it non-negotiable is vital. It can really boost your confidence and allow you to move on to doing one more thing and so on. It is how I built motivation to lose 200 pounds (I’m 85 pounds down now).
Roni, I am a techy geeky person and I would love to see your techniques and ideas in a tech blog.
On December 31st, 2008 at 9:20 am Joli said:
Definitely interested in the tech blog!
On December 31st, 2008 at 6:27 pm Keri said:
I am definitely interested in techy geek stuff. I want my blog to do a little more than what is offered by standard providers. However, I do not have the time to be my own developer. I’m only a geek for fun, not by trade. BRING ON THE GEEK STUFF :)
On January 2nd, 2009 at 7:38 am crazylady said:
I’m a (lazy) techy geek so go for it !! I will most definitely be reading !
On January 3rd, 2009 at 8:24 pm Julie said:
I would also vote for a “tech” blog!
On June 19th, 2009 at 12:48 am Bobby said:
I told my parents I want to lose weight, but my mom got in my face and yelled,”GET BENT”. I can’t do it. :(