This quote was inspired by Anna’s comment on my request for Question of the Week ideas. Anna said…
I believe that when I say I “can’t” do something that on some level I am really saying that i “won’t” do it (because of fear.) so my question is how do we get out of our own way and do what we know we can do?! I love the quote about we are more afraid of success than we are of failure!
I never thought about my own history in the terms Anna put it. "Old Roni" (before getting pregnant) would always say things like…
"I can’t lose weight."
"I can’t run."
"I can’t go to the gym."
"I can’t DO A PULL UP!" (sorry HAD to throw that one in there.) :~P
But the truth is exactly what Anna said. It wasn’t that I couldn’t. It was that I wasn’t.
WOW, does that make any sense?
I knew why I was fat. I knew I ate too much. I knew I was lazy. I complained about my body. I had a poor self image. I’d hide in baggy clothes, wishing, hoping, PRAYING that one day I would wake up and just be thin. Where was the magic pill, Damn IT!
Now don’t get your panties in a twist I know how all that sounds. I’m not saying my thought process was good, or right. I’m just telling you how it was to be in Roni’s head circa 1988-2004.
The funny thing is…
I COULD lose weight
I COULD run.
I COULD go to the gym.
I COULD DO A PULL UP!
IF I just tried.
I had no medical reason why I couldn’t do those things. I just wasn’t doing them. Plain and simple.
Why? Why didn’t I just do the work to "succeed"? Or as Anna so eloquently put it, why was I "in my own way"?
“Old Roni” always defined succeeding as being "thin". Having the body of some airbrushed model. If I didn’t wake up the day after I started a diet, thinner, lighter, weighing less, then I must have failed. Right?!? So why keep trying. After all, I was attempting the impossible, wasn’t I?
At that time, I didn’t realize that trying WAS the success. After reading Anna’s comment and doing a bit of (online) soul searching. I found this quote, not sure who said it first but it’s GENIUS!
You don’t try TO succeed. WHEN you try, you succeed.
So, just by trying to be healthy I was successful! It all makes sense to me now. That’s a great way to describe my mindset while losing. I really stopped focusing on trying to be thin. I just wanted to learn what I could do be a healthier person for my child. I accepted myself, made small changes and did my best. That change in perspective was all the difference!
Thanks Anna for bringing me down this road. I don’t know if I even came close to addressing your original question but your comment sparked this whole post and I’m so happy I found that quote.
Hope you are all enjoying the weekend! :~)