As I sit here in my hotel room, in Chicago, at 6AM (don’t ask… I’m 700 miles away from the toddler but somehow I "hear" him – I think he has me trained) and reflect on the weekend so far, I decided to do a little search for a weekend quote.
I wanted to find one about experiences. Something that would be relevant to me being out and about in a new city, participating in all of these interesting events and learning new things. Well, one quote literally jumped off the screen at me…
When I experience and accept myself exactly as I am, then I change.
It’s not precisely the realm of quote I was looking for but MAN, is it a powerful concept. One that I can totally agree and relate to.
In my 3 Steps to a Healthier YOU series I call this the chicken/egg problem of weight loss. I didn’t lose the weight and then accept myself and experience new things. I first accepted ME, body and all. The chubby girl in High School, the weight I regained from pregnancy, the stretch marks, all the failed diet attempts in the past. All of it. I accepted that THAT was who I was… IS. THEN I was able to "see the light", so to say. Then I was able to change.
I think when we hold on to our negative body images we start to feel sorry for ourselves. We are then afraid to experience new things and in essence, to change.
"I can’t do that, I’m too fat."
"I’m too chubby to wear that"
"I’m not trying that, I don’t want everyone to see my fat ass try to climb a wall/walk outside/go to gym/whatever [insert what you are not doing because you don’t like your body]!"
These were all things I used to say. My negative body image became crippling. In essence causing me to gain more and more weight through my teens and 20’s. That’s why my happiness wasn’t enough. My unhappiness was causing the weight problem so it couldn’t be the solution.
The solution HAS to be self acceptance. I agree with Cherie McCoy, I don’t think we can change until we do.