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Ask Roni _v15s1 – Smaller Meals, Throwing Away Scales? Eating Disorders, Time Management Tips

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I recorded a few video sessions before the Chicago trip and now they seem really old to me. Isn’t that weird?!?

Anyway, a phone ring, a couple of odd word usages and just my normal babble. I have 2 more sessions in this recording that I’ll be sprinkling throughout the week.

Oh! and be warned the audio hopes right in.

Topics in this video include…

  • Transition to smaller meals
  • Throwing away the scales/Weigh in
  • Advise for people with Eating Disorders
  • One Last “How the Heck do I do it all” question.


Podcast Version (Audio Only)
[podcast]http://ronisweigh.com/resources/podcasts/AskRoni_v15s1.mp3[/podcast]

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Discussion

There are 9 comments so far.

    Nina

    November 11, 2008

    I’m first! :)

    Great video! Just one small thing: could you mark the beginnings of your questions again? Sometimes I like to come back to a question and watch just that part again, and the mark makes it a little easier.

    To Amanda: I can so understand what you mean and that you feel that someone or something beyond you is controlling your eating habits and you just cannot get a grip. And I can only agree with Roni that you should seek professional help. You don’t need a diet, you need to change other things in your life before you get on an eating plan. I sought professional help a few years ago, and I really looked for a doctor or a therapist I trusted and could work with, that’s the most important thing about it.

    My reason was that I found my overeating had and still has some other reasons than just loving high-calory food, and I couldn’t name them. It was always like “Don’t think of the pink elephants”, and as we all know, the unconscious only understands the positive message; so anything you say with “DON’T” is understood as “DO”. And you cannot stop thinking about pink elephants – or food – all day, until you actually eat the amount of food equal to a big pink elephant…;)

    I also read a lot of books on self-discovery, some connected with eating, some not. Nothing focussed on a certain religion, just all kinds of books which helped me to return to myself again. Which I totally wasn’t, if you know what I mean. I have lost 15 kg since then and I am doing more and more exercise, even if the scale doesn’t always tell me what I like to hear. I still need to lose 40kg but I generally feel so much better that I trust myself enough to lose that weight, too. Even if it takes five years.

    So my basic recommendation is: it’s a journey, and you should start it as soon as possible as you only have one life. Be patient and cherish every small step you can, and reflect if you take yourself in the right direction. It might take longer as the world tells you it should take, but in the end you will find that the critics will cease to criticize soon, and you will feel better so that criticism won’t affect you much. There’s a huge difference between opinion polls and the world directly around you. And stop waiting for someone to save you in spite of you, that person is already there, and it’s you. That was the hardest part for me, but I think I got the idea after a while.

    I would love to write so much more as this is totally my topic but I better stop here to leave some room. :) Take care of yourself!

    And lots of love!
    Nina

    Charlie Hills

    November 11, 2008

    I had one question, Roni. How do you do it all?

    :D

    Check out Charlie Hillss last blog post..Toasted Salami Sammie

    roni

    November 11, 2008

    Nina – Woops! I totally forget! Of course, Markers are being added now!

    Christy

    November 11, 2008

    lol…I want to see a video of you on the sit and spin :-D I think it would crack a lot of us up to see you going round and round and round and round…

    On a serious note though, I think it is great that the toddler has structure in his life. He sees that you guys are hard workers. And you have taught him good life lessons about cooking, eating healthy and cleaning up after yourselves.

    Donna

    November 11, 2008

    Thanks for the great response Roni, :) So cool you got to my question! I appreciate all your great insights. Have a great day.

    Nina

    November 11, 2008

    Thanks a lot!

    I wanted to find the moment when I laughed out loud but didn’t have much time to look for it again. It was the line when you get upset because your food scale-batteries are empty. It’s just the same with me, I just love my food scale!

    Love,
    Nina

    Liz

    November 12, 2008

    About the question about eating disorders, I agree with Roni that it is really important to go get help. A first step can be going to talk to your doctor and if that doesn’t help, than do some research online, there are a lot of websites that you can look up therapist on. I’ve struggled with bulimia for 9 years and the sooner you get help, the better. It is tough because unlike other addictions you can never truly escape food because you need it to live. But in the end, eating disorders aren’t really about food, they are about other problems that we use food to mask our problems. I hope that you get the help you need and find support along your journey!

    Arlene

    November 15, 2008

    Finally had a chance to listen to the podcast … I was anticipating it, since you were answering my question.

    Thanks for the answer. It helped, though I was kind of hoping there was some magic switch that you could flip on to make the switch to smaller meals. But like everything else, it’s just a habit that has to be built.

    mamaV

    November 16, 2008

    Hi Roni: I finally had time to pop over and spend some time on your site (after meeting in Chicago….sorry we didn’t talk more!)

    I saw you get emotional when you spoke about eating disorders…do you know why what was? Just curious, since you seemed to surprise even yourself here.

    As you know, my blog, my life, is all about speaking to individuals with ED’s, and many times a listening ear is just whatt someone needs to make that step for help. I am glad to see your readers are doing just that, you are obviously trusted for your opinion.

    I too always preface my comments with “I am not a professional,” but I have learned that I can still help by just listening and being a positive, encouraging, voice of reason. Blogs have become an awesome forum for real discussion and many are finding their way to treatment and help because of the support they find online.

    Anyway, keep up your great work!
    Take care,
    Heather
    aka mamaVISION