One Mom’s Journey from Fat to Skinny to Confident


What IS the question of the week?

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Question of the weekI started doing the Question of the Week series waaaay back in Feburary with the simple question, Why do you want to lose weight?

My thought behind the idea what to get people to think about things, to share experience and to learn from one another. I think, and you probably know this already, the power of community is awesome and sharing our experiences is one way to connect and grow.

I *try* every week to come up with questions that are helpful, insightful and thought provoking. Sometimes they’re funny, or serious, but most of the time I’m just curious and if I’m curious you may be too. So why not just ask! :~)

Anyway, this is a long introduction to nothing as I don’t actually have a question this week. I thought instead I would use to this post to see what questions YOU would like to ask.

Hey…. Wait a minute, that IS a question.

So I guess I have a question, it’s just not a weight loss, health wellness type a question. It’s a more of a "get you to do my work" type question. LOL Noooo in all seriousness, I want to ask questions that are relevant, interesting, helpful and useful to YOU. So I thought I’d go to the source.

Use the comments to post what questions you’d like to see featured as a Question of the Week. I can’t promise to use them all but I thought it’d be nice to start a collection. So if something pops into your head at a later date, feel free to post it then as well. I’ll leave the comments open.

Thanks for reliving me of one "to do" this week! ;~P

I should add these are not question FOR ME, they are questions for my audience to answer. If you would like to ask me a question then use the Ask Roni form

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There are 32 comments so far.

    Michelle G

    October 29, 2008

    What are some of the other “diets” you have tried? What are the pros and cons of those plans?

    Check out Michelle Gs last blog post..Michelle added the blog post ‘Roni’s challenge’


    October 29, 2008

    Hey Roni! I guess the question I would like to hear peoples answers to is “How do you transition into Maintenance?”:. I just reached goal and would like to hear how other people handled this transition period. Thanks!

    Check out Laceys last blog post..Kate


    October 29, 2008

    What do you do for exercise when the weather is bad (if you usually exercise outdoors)?

    What’s your favorite workout video and why?

    Check out Pubsgals last blog post..Weekly weigh-in: -52


    October 29, 2008

    My question is a two-parter…

    1. Do you weigh yourself everyday? and, if so,
    2. How many pounds above “goal” do you consider safe?

    I hit my goal weight about a year ago (lost 145pounds), and I still weigh myself daily. I tend to be obsessive on it, and if I see the scale more than 2 or 3 pounds above goal, I panic. I try to immediately go into “lose-weight” mode, but after being in “maintenance” mode for a while, I resent having to watch every single calorie again. I’d like to hear from others on this.


    October 29, 2008

    How do you stop negative comments about your body from others from affecting your conviction to stay the course?


    October 29, 2008

    OK – This isn’t really “Question of the Week” material but I do have a question – have you noticed that the Lipton/Knorr whole grain sides are impossible to find??/ Did they stop making them? Even this link from Green Lite Bites brings you to Amazon but says there are none available…

    Any ideas?



    October 29, 2008

    I think I might have a couple. Or maybe it is sort of a tiered question. I would like to know about people’s exercise routines. How did you get started exercising in a structured way? Did you focus on aerobic exercise or strength training or a combination? How did you find time in your life to devote to this activity? If you are not a “morning person,” were you able to transform and become one so you could exercise in the morning? (Ok, that’s a pretty darn specific question). How did your approach to fitness and exercise change as you got into more of a routine? Essentially, I’d love to hear people’s stories on their exercise “journey.”

    I know that a great recommendation for exercise is to start by incorporating things into your life throughout the day — a walk at lunch, family play time in the park after dinner, hikes on the weekend, etc., and I do enjoy those things. However, I also really love the way I feel after a hard-core workout and am trying to figure out strategies to be more consistent with my habits and keep things fresh.

    Check out Ellens last blog post..Check-in!


    October 29, 2008

    My question would be geared more towards readers who have either hit maintenance or have lost a significant amount of weight in the middle of your journey. These are all the same – – just phrased differently:

    “What keeps you going after the compliments have stopped coming?”

    “What keeps you motivated to continue to be mindful of what you eat even though you’ve achieved your goal (or a significant chunk of your goal)”

    “How do you keep from going back to your old eating habits when you are finally thin? (and not reward yourself with food)”

    I should probably look back on the blog and see if these types of questions have been asked already. I think you’re been a huge help in terms of following someone who is in maintenance mode and has made lifestyle changes.

    I *had* been at goal back in July — down 30 lbs. and had been close to it for about 9 or 10 months. Unfortunately I got cocky / lazy / or just fell back into old habits and gained back most (but not all of it).

    I’m getting back on track but I’m most interested in topics that related to permanent lifestyle changes.

    I’m pretty positive I’ll enjoy reading future answers to everyone else’s questions!


    October 29, 2008

    I believe that when I say I “can’t” do something that on some level I am really saying that i “won’t” do it (because of fear.) so my question is how do we get out of our own way and do what we know we can do?! I love the quote about we are more afraid of success than we are of failure!


    October 29, 2008

    ditto on some of the maintainence ones…..I understand the WW part of it, but what is your take or maybe the advice from others that read your blog…I am kinda scared going into the holidays and learning to maintain.

    another is like what is your favorite low cal/high fiber recipes or what people eat for meals that are their favorite….can break this up into breakfast. lunch, snack, dinner, dessert maybe…I think you have done a breakfast one in the past….

    ;) all above are good suggestions too, yo!

    Karen in Tally

    October 29, 2008

    What self-talk do you use to keep your spirits up when you have slight set backs? Saying “oh well there’s always next week” doesn’t seem to take the sting out.


    October 29, 2008

    What do other people do to stop their cravings for the junk in their pasts? I tend to have breakdowns when I have a craving. Not literally, but sometimes it feels like it.

    Check out Teresas last blog post..Surprise! I think I’m starting to like working out. Was that me?


    October 29, 2008

    To follow up with what Alisha said: How have readers who have made it successfully through the holidays done it? What are their plans/techniques/secrets?

    They’re coming up and I’m sure we could all use any extra help that’s out there!

    Check out Es last blog post..Superfruits to the rescue?


    October 29, 2008

    How much do you spend on groceries for a week?

    Check out Bizs last blog post..Eclectic Lunch


    October 29, 2008

    What is your favorite meal to cook?

    Check out Annettes last blog post..Deeper and Richer


    October 29, 2008

    I just posted a poll on my blog asking about exercise goals.
    So: What are your current exercise goals?

    And go answer on my poll as well!

    Check out runjesss last blog post..Copy Cat Questions


    October 29, 2008

    Question: What do you think about/tell yourself to conquer a craving, or a “screw it” moment?

    Check out Jens last blog post..Quick Pita Calzone


    October 30, 2008

    Ditto on Biz’s question- how much does everyone spend on groceries each week and do you have any tips to get the bill down (our grocery bill is killing us!!)


    October 30, 2008

    I don’t really have any questions that I can think of now but I really like some of the others’ suggestions. High grocery bills, exercise routines, how to survive holidays, etc.


    October 30, 2008

    I actually wanted to post a quote in response to Anna’s question about how we get out of our own way and put fear of failure behind us. This quote has helped me when I feel like I “can’t” do something:

    When I dare to be powerful, to use my strenght in the service of my vision, then it becomes less and less important whether I am afraid” – Audre Lorde

    Maybe this can breed a question. I am a huge fan of inspiration quotes about anything from strentgh, to courage, wellness, belief in self, success, etc. If there are others like me…What quotes do you use to inspire you, keep you going, or motivate you?

    I have another amazing poem that I found online once that has honestly made me change some very important things in my life from switching jobs, to losing weight, to trying new adventures. I can’t post it here, it’s too long but if you search for “My Comfort Zone” Poem, you’ll find it. It has had such a profound affect on me, more than I could imagine a set of words ever could. I have it posted in my office and at my desk at home.

    Thanks for allowing me to share and be a part of this community of support!! Have a great day all and remember: “Every time we face our fear, we gain strength, courage, and confidence in the doing” – not sure the author :0(



    October 30, 2008

    Well I have two reasons…one is funny and the other is serious.

    My first reason to lose weight is because I think I should only have 1 chin :-) instead of several…haha.

    The other reason is so that I can get to a healthy weight before my husband and I start having a family.

    Check out Christys last blog post..Booyah!


    October 30, 2008

    Hi Roni!

    There is one that has been on my mind ever so often and it sort of relates to your first question of the week:

    “Why DON’T you want to lose weight?”

    I am not using “CAN’T you lose weight” here because of three reasons:

    1. CAN’T feels more victim-like and like it is a source outside of your control that makes you stay overweight. And like you raise your hands to heavens and shout, “WHY ME? WHY CAN’T I?” – which is not empowering. However, if you are generally healthy, there is no outside source you couldn’t get rid of if you set your mind to it with some help. Even the Heavens (if you are religious) need your cooperation on this point, and they made you smart enough to give it to them.

    2. Because I have found that there actually ARE more or less problematic reasons that make it convenient to stay where you are. They may be in the unconscious – none of us would actually say that we consciously WANT to stay overweight, right? – but they are there, and by bringing those reasons out in the open they are easier to control. For me they were and are one of the most important reasons why I trip.

    General examples: anger, punish someone with your weight, fear, commodity etc.

    3. Because I thought WANT sounded more provokingly headlinish ;D.


    P.S.: Just draw lots if there are too many interesting questions. ;)


    October 30, 2008

    Once you’ve made a commmitment to eat healthier, do you feel guilty for indulging in “unhealthy” foods or serving unhealthy foods to your family?

    Becky F

    October 30, 2008

    (I apologize if, as a newbie, I’m repeating questions you’ve already asked in the past…)

    What do you keep on hand for snack attacks?

    How to you handle unhealthy family food-traditions – you know, the “it isn’t Thanksgiving without this salad” type of situation. (I’m trying to encourage my family to add one or two healthier dishes and right now it looks like we’re cooking two meals!)

    How did you get the sweet junk food out of your diet without going nuts?

    Check out Becky Fs last blog post..Tonya


    October 30, 2008

    Hi Becky!

    I think your questions are great, and there cannot be enough repetition of those questions because changing your diet is like learning a new language: repeat the vocabulary until it’s a part of you!

    There are some “words” which are easy to learn, and there are some you have to repeat over and over because they just won’t stick. And at least question 1 and 3 are two things I have to remember over and over.

    Concerning the family traditions: don’t force change, work on it slowly. Maybe offer to bring one side-dish which is normally high in calories and slim it down. This way, you are part of the family


    October 30, 2008

    I have a couple questions I’d like to hear everyone’s input on. (They may have already been mentioned.)
    1) How often to people weigh (daily/weekly/less often) and how does that affect them?
    2) What “weight loss strategy” a.k.a “diet” is everyone using? (Weight Watchers, calorie counting, south beach, atkins, etc.)
    3) I’d love to hear everyone’s ideas of how they buy healthy foods on a budget.
    4) I’d also love to hear everyone’s ideas of what healthy foods people cook when they’re having guests over for dinner (without making everyone say or think, “oh please, not that diet food stuff again!”).

    Check out Janes last blog post..Chocolate and I Had a HUGE Fight . . .


    October 30, 2008

    These are all AWESOME guys! I’m so glad I asked! Don’t forget you can see all the old questions here…

    I look forward to answering and asking these in the coming weeks!


    October 31, 2008

    I think the question of the week should be: “What is your favorite PHYSICAL attribute?”… So often we focus on the negative and I think it would be a good idea to focus on the good!!


    November 2, 2008

    I would love to hear everyone’s strategy on staying motivated…staying on plan, etc. I struggling with this often and have asked you Roni often how to stay motivated…I would love to hear from others as to how they do it…what helps them keep pushing forward…:)


    November 6, 2008

    I love the post about Laughing Cow cheese. I had never heard of it before I visited your site. Now I love it and with everyone’s input, have LOTS of creative and delicious ways to use it. I would love more posts like that one – how about ideas for using pita bread?


    November 13, 2008

    Here is a “question of the week”. I would like to make a music mix–not for exercising, but for motivation, pick-me-up when I’m feeling low. Some examples of songs that could be on it are “good enough” by Sarah Maclachlan, “say hey” by Michael Franti, etc. Songs that may be sad, but also that help to express feelings that are kind of hard to express–the kind of feelings that often lead me to rummage through the kitchen cupboard. So, the Question is:

    What songs would you recommend for my “pick-me-up” mix?


    February 16, 2010

    I am glad you reposted this! I have had some thoughts from time to time. One of them is, “what do you do for fun?”. Eating is often the release and “fun” we get in a day but when you are trying to diet, you need other things to bring you fun and joy because eating is no longer an option. Hope this makes sense!