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Weekend Quote: I Haven’t Failed

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Remember the old quite smoking ads? The ones that said the more times you try to quit, the more likely you are to be successful the next time you try.

Let’s think about that for a minute.

The more times you try, the more likely you are to be successful. Why does that that only have to be associated with smoking? Why not Weight loss? Or learning to use "the potty" (can you tell I have a 3 year old?) Really, if we think about it, it applies to everything we want to do in this life. It’s not that different then the old adage of if you don’t first succeed try, try again. Which, I guess I could have made this weekend’s quote, but instead I chose one from Thomas Edison,

I have not failed, I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.

This is such a great way to think and it supports my point on mindset. It is really easy for us to accept failure and let it defeat us. It’s much harder to change your perspective and look at failure as just an attempt that didn’t work. The one thing we have in this life is how we approach situations. Do we give up after one try? Do we accept defeat? Do we wallow if our own self pity?

You know I normally write posts for myself but try to make them relative to everyone, right? For some reason that inspires me. It makes me look outside of myself and approach what I’m going through from another perspective. Hopefully making myself a better person in the process and inspiring you along the way. That’s really my intention when I write for the blog.

Well I’ve been in a funk all day. I can’t believe how much not getting that call back affected me. I don’t know what I expected to happen. Maybe to be "discovered" on the spot? For them to tell me "I’ve made it through the next round" after a 5 minute conversation? Nothing is that easy. The weight loss wasn’t. Maintaining sure isn’t. You guys just gave me a big head with all your fabulously supportive and flattering comments! :~P

I’m not sure where this leaves me. But I’m not going to be down about it anymore. AND I’m sure not going to be seeking any more comfort in food! I actually dug in the pantry and pulled out a bag of chocolate chips just for a "happy fix". Yikes!

I’m over it and you know what? I’m going to do an audition video and send it in to the Food Network. They aren’t going to get rid of me THAT easy! I just have to find another way that works. ;~)




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Discussion

There are 22 comments so far.

    Donna

    October 4, 2008

    great attitude Roni! You go girl! thanks for keeping us all in the loop. I’m so impressed with your ambitiousness and out going attitude. Best of luck to you with your pursuit of Food Network! ;) I say, go for it!

    Alexia

    October 5, 2008

    It’s certainly true for other things — they say it in business all the time! The more businesses you launch, the more likely one will be successful. And that’s definitely the tact I’m taking with weight loss.

    Check out Alexias last blog post..I ran. I RAN. I R.A.N. As in, didn’t walk.

    Tricia

    October 5, 2008

    No matter what, we all still love you, Roni!!

    Amanda

    October 5, 2008

    Go here:

    http://shortstuffruns.blogspot.com/2008/10/video-that-is-all.html

    Me mentioning your awesomeness is like half the video.

    Obviously, the Food Network knows not what it does/misses out on.

    Too bad for them. More of you for us! ;)

    Check out Amandas last blog post..Video! That is all.

    Inny

    October 5, 2008

    You say you post something about yourself but try to relate them to other people…This is exactly what you did for me here. I’ve been having some problems with work but your attitude inspired me. I just thought, “This is how you should react to adversity, take the disappointment but don’t give up, come up with other ways of coping with a problem and remember that there is a way It might be just me but I think, especially after the relatioship question yesterday, that this blog has become more than just weight loss/food/fitness blog. More and more you become something of a lifestyle coach for us.

    Shannan

    October 5, 2008

    I’m thinking about the times I know I’ve NOT done the thing that works for me, and then beat myself up for not doing that thing when the results don’t go my way. I can know what works and how to go about doing it, but still do the opposite. That’s what’s frustrating to me. I can have the answer and yet ignore it.

    Check out Shannans last blog post..20 Minutes…On Cloud Nine!

    christy

    October 5, 2008

    I think you need to keep trying. You can write to Rachel Ray and try to be on her show. You can still try for Oprah. It just takes time. If it is easy to get your big break on the first try we would all be famous. :-) We believe in you.

    pam

    October 5, 2008

    I guess the quote that comes to mind for me is “God never closes a door without opening a window.” Maybe this wasn’t your time or…..maybe it got you thinking about your perspective on food/cooking to help you with your cookbook, or maybe it was to inspire you to seriously look at this opportunity….start small and do radio spots or local news spots etc…… The thing is…..we usually don’t know why things happen the way they do, but in the long run we are all better off for the failures we go through in life. Last quote I promise: “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not upon your own understanding”. I don’t want to be too churchy, but, it is Sunday. ha ha ha For you…I honestly don’t even view this as a failure,
    it may have been a hurdle for you to figure out what is next for you! Trust your instincts!!!! I think it is aweome that you put yourself out there and let us take part in that excitement.

    Ann

    October 5, 2008

    Roni,

    You are awesome and a continual inspiration to all who read your blog. I am glad to see you have not given up on TNFNS. I wish you success…They will be lucky to have you in their midsts.

    On another note…mentioning the Thomas Edisons quote and the stop smoking commercial motivates me to keep plugging along. My weightloss journey is an on again off again affair. You’ve reminded me that each time I get on plan I learn something new about myself and my dietary habits. Each time I am closer to my goal and closer to making it a permanent way of life.

    LeeAnn

    October 5, 2008

    I am sure that after typing that, you feel much better already. What a great way to look at things. I am dealing with a funk today also. I can’t believe I have eaten ice cream two nights in a row! What is wrong with me?

    Check out LeeAnns last blog post..Progress!

    amy

    October 5, 2008

    I was down all Friday night and yesterday too! It’s weird because last year I left feeling like I did as good as I could so when I didn’t get called, it wasn’t as sad. This year, I think I was struggling with the feeling of having not done my best. I finally woke up this morning ready to start fresh and I’m glad I read your post today because it put into words what I have been feeling.

    I love this quote from Dr. Pausch – it gets me through the hard times. If you haven’t watched his video – you must! It’s inspirational!

    “Brick walls are there for a reason. They let us prove how badly we want things.” Dr. Randy Pausch

    Gina

    October 5, 2008

    I truly believe when one door closes, another one opens! Hang in there, Roni. My mom use to tell me–“dust yourself off—put your “big girl panties” on and move on”! Something much bigger and better is out there waiting for you.

    Mel

    October 5, 2008

    What a great attitude, Roni!! I truly think you would be a great asset to Food Network. You have such a wealth of knowledge to share. I definitely think you should make that video and share it with them. I’m behind you all the way!!

    Check out Mels last blog post..Five Point Friday – Tomale Casserole

    Cara

    October 5, 2008

    Wow, Roni, this was so insightful: This is such a great way to think and it supports my point on mindset. It is really easy for us to accept failure and let it defeat us. It’s much harder to change your perspective and look at failure as just an attempt that didn’t work. The one thing we have in this life is how we approach situations. Do we give up after one try? Do we accept defeat? Do we wallow if our own self pity?

    We do beat ourselves up over a failure. I was just talking to a co-worker about this very thing this past week. We keep trying to change the place where we work, but every time we do, we get slapped in the face of made to feel that our attempts are not appreciated. So why bother, right? Who needs that kind of rejection on a regular basis. But that’s the easy way out, right. Why EVER stop trying?

    Check out Caras last blog post..the things I think about…

    Aimee

    October 5, 2008

    Roni, I don’t think that you have failed in any way. This was a spur of the moment opportunity which may not have worked out the way you had hoped, but probably will lead to bigger and better things. So many people don’t even try.

    Your quote of the week was meaningful for me too. I had a particularly “bad eating” weekend, didn’t journal and didn’t do as much exercise as I had hoped. It made me feel like a failure until I read your post. It was just a couple of days. I can get over it and move forward. Thanks Roni.

    MizFit

    October 5, 2008

    Ill spare you the DONT FEEL LIKE THAT because I simply want to meet you where you are and, whatever you are feeling is ok to embrace.

    xo xo,

    Miz.

    MizFit

    October 5, 2008

    ok.
    back.
    and had to say I LOVE that despite this:
    Well I’ve been in a funk all day.

    youre sending in.
    Im traveling this week so tried to get ahead and just wrote a post for tues (I know. go me) on NOT TAKING NO FOR AN ANSWER.

    you will get what you want…perhaps it’s through a different door or perhaps it will end up you’want’ something else…but you’ll get it.

    Michelle

    October 5, 2008

    Did I miss something? Did you get a definative negative answer from the food network? Or are you just psyching yourself up with the ‘hope for the best, but expect the worst?’ I may just have missed the post, and if I did I’m sorry you didn’t get it, your motivation is has been keeping me going for the past 9 months along with green lite bites. Thanks Roni! Keep it up.

    Christy

    October 6, 2008

    Any news?

    Check out Christys last blog post..Monday Updates

    Giyen

    October 6, 2008

    Ugh! I know how you feel. I try to detach myself from all outcomes because in most cases, the Universe gives us what we need. Unfortunately, sometimes we don’t realize it until later!

    Look at what you have accomplished, I have no doubt that you will get what you want eventually!

    Meryl

    October 6, 2008

    your post really inspired me today. This morning I was looking in the mirror, reeling from a guilt hangover after my not so healthy weekend. This little voice in my head kept whispering “why are you trying? you have failed so many times before.. why even bother to start again?”

    for a minute, i agreed with the voice… but than it made me mad. I havent failed! i dont need to bother starting again because this attempt isnt over yet. I hit a bump in the road, but its only a failure if I dont learn something from it. I am still moving!

    anyways, i read your post this morning and it affirmed what i was feeling.. thank you for being so honest!

    Pamela

    October 8, 2008

    I needed to read this today. I just did a 3 mile walk and the whole time I was thinking why bother, this has not worked in the past. How many times are you gonna fail. Well, no more. All those other times were not failure, but just didn’t work for me. This time I’ll try something different, but I won’t give up! Thanks for the encouraging words!!