Comments on: Do your friends and family help or hurt your efforts?

By: Tawnya

Tawnya — Fri, 24 Oct 2008 16:52:40 +0000

This is a great question, I have been sitting here forever reading all of the responses. I have been trying to get my fiance to do ww with me. He will do it, but not for long. If we go out to eat, the ww journal goes out the window. I have a hard time getting him to journal. And when he orders something greasy and fattening it makes it tough for me to order something points friendly. He doesn’t do a whole lot of grocery shopping or cooking, but sometimes he still brings home bad stuff….like Ben & Jerry’s pumpkin cheesecake ice cream. It’s absolutely sinful. And he discourages me from going to the gym so that I will stay home and spend time with him.

My sister is also a little bit overweight, she had always been the skinny one until she had my niece. She is constantly wanting to go out to eat or take the kids to McDonalds and pouts if I don’t want to go with her. I have tried to get her to do ww with me before my wedding (she is going to be MOH). My mom is no help either, she has always been skinny. She used to buy us little debbie snacks for breakfast as a kid. She is addicted to chocolate. I have finally made it down to the same weight as her and she keeps telling me that I don’t need to lose anymore. I still weigh in the 160′s there is still room for improvement. And she feeds my kids junk when they stay with her. She knows that I am trying to feed them healthy food because my 5 year old already has a weight problem.

By: Erin

Erin — Thu, 23 Oct 2008 23:39:53 +0000

WOW!!! THis is a weighty issue – pardon the pun. My husband is supportive but the problem is he doesn’t really understand my problem. He thinks I need to just get on the treadmill more. Your typical sort of simple fix perspective because he only needs simple fixes like he can stop drinking soda and lose 10 pounds in a week. (Yes, there are times I hate him.)

He doesn’t like very many vegetables and he loves carbs so I have a hard time meal planning. Our budget is a bit restrictive as well. I often have to stretch the meat we buy etc…

I have had very supportive friends and extended family but I have also had significant problems with some friend and have even lost some friends when I have lost significant weight.

When I take charge of my health and take responsibility for myself some people close to me have had problems with it. It changes who I am in their life from their perspective.

By: Marcie

Marcie — Thu, 23 Oct 2008 18:42:08 +0000

My hubs is very supportive. I've been a WW member since 11/10/07 and he is constantly telling me how proud he is of my weightloss. He does all of the cooking and keeps it healthy. He also does all of the grocery shopping and he'll call me from the store and ask me "how many points is this?" and then tell me the nutritional info. How sweet is that? I'm down 67 pounds and he's lost 57 pounds just "coming along for the ride." Check out Marcies last blog post..Keeping My Word and a Shout-Out

By: Michelle G

Michelle G — Thu, 23 Oct 2008 13:30:22 +0000

My husband is supportive because he wants to see me achieve and knows how much happier I am when I am not lugging around extra weight. It is also good for both of us when I don’t try on everything in my closet in tears because nothing seems to fit. So yeah- he wants me to succeed. But like your hubby- he doesn’t care or pay attention to what he eats so sometimes he “forgets” about my new lifestyle and will say- I am going to make blueberry cobbler or I am going to order cheesesticks tonight with our pizza- both of which are “trigger foods”. When I politely remind him that he is making things harder on me- he reconsiders and apologizes. I hope I can get to the point where trigger foods aren’t an issue but it was only recently that I polished off an entire blueberry cobbler with a gallon of ice cream in 24 hours.

By: John's Weight Loss Blog

John's Weight Loss Blog — Thu, 23 Oct 2008 03:07:31 +0000

I don't think there is any question this would be easier if I was isolated all by myself with no kids, wife and other influences. With more people comes more variety and more food and with that brings challenges. But who wants to be by themselves? Check out John's Weight Loss Blogs last blog post..3 Foods I Shouldn’t Eat

By: Lindsay

Lindsay — Wed, 22 Oct 2008 23:10:40 +0000

Roni, I have SUCH a similar experience with my live-in bf. He has the complete opposite metabolism of me (which would be ultra-fast) AND he works out regularly. He’s in great shape and great health, and me? Well, I am on my way! When I started my weight-loss journey only 6 months into our relationship, I thought a similar thing – that by eating cookies in my presence, he was being unsupportive. But luckily I quickly realized that he should absolutely not have to make the same choices that I do just because that’s what I do. Now that we’re living together, yes I have more control. I do the grocery shopping and I do the dinner-cooking the majority of the time, but he puts up a fight for certain dishes or when I try to make brownies healthier! I’ve come to realize it’s all about the choices that I make for myself, and that’s what will ultimately keep me healthy!!

Great job with the site, and I’m so glad I read this post!!

By: Biz

Biz — Wed, 22 Oct 2008 21:53:13 +0000

Thankfully, my husband loves me unconditionally - he's known me skinny and a overweight (I never thought 163 at 5.2 would be considered obese though!). In any event, he's okay with me eating spaghetti squash, as long as I don't make him eat it! So what do I do? Make him a meatloaf! Check out Bizs last blog post..It’s never too early for snowmen

By: alex

alex — Wed, 22 Oct 2008 21:04:32 +0000

when i first started to get healthy 3 years ago, my husband (then boyfriend) did not accept the new healthy alex, who was trying to quit smoking, eat better, run, and who talked incessantly about all of these efforts. it took a good 6 months of me forging ahead and trying to set a healthy example, while he kind of acted like a child about everything, until it clicked and he started to make changes in his life. he soon quit smoking, drank less, started to eat healthy, and more importantly became my running partner. it was tough going at first when i made these changes, but things turned out perfectly in the end (even though he can somehow lose weight by doing nothing!) Check out alexs last blog post..New Philosophy

By: Mary

Mary — Wed, 22 Oct 2008 20:13:16 +0000

All of you are so inspirational. You should all be proud of yourselves that you made the choice to lose weight for whatever reason was special to you. In the long run, no one’s opinion should matter to you except your own. Yes, we have all encountered supportive and non-supportive people in our journey, but Roni is right – only you are in control of you.

I have been with my husband for 25 years and he has seen me thin, heavy, really thin, really heavy and everything in between. He is like Roni’s husband and has never had weight issues. I don’t worry that there is candy, cookies or ice cream in the house, because it is up to me to make my own decisions and be accountable for my own actions. I have been losing the same 100 pounds for the last 25 years. I am proud that I have taken off 30 pounds since February and not gained it back. This is not a short race, this is a lifetime commitment and that is finally the “Aha” moment I needed to have.

Be proud of your accomplishments, big or small and don’t worry about what others think about you. As long as you are getting healthy and are happy with yourself, others will notice.

Good luck to you all and Roni thanks for the everyday ups and downs you share – it’s nice to know that others are having the same thoughts and issues.

Remember – “Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle”

By: Stephanie

Stephanie — Wed, 22 Oct 2008 20:03:21 +0000

Funny, my husband just offered to pour me a glass of wine. I said no, that I didn't want it and was watching what I ate/drank. He came in the room 2 min later with a glass, put it in front of me and left. On his way out he said, "Ah, it's nothing, enjoy!". How's that for support??? He doesn't mean to do it, but he does... Check out Stephanies last blog post..Here's Hoping