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Ask Roni V13s1 – Meetings Forever, Sharing Online, Owning Accomplishments, Sites I Visit

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A long over do Ask Roni Video Post! Please excuse the shaking and I explain in the video, I’m kind of chilling on my guest bed.

Topics in this video include…

  • Weight Watchers Meetings forever?
  • How do I share such personal aspects of my life?
  • Owning Accomplishments
  • What sites do I visit?

Podcast Version (Audio Only)
[podcast]http://ronisweigh.com/resources/podcasts/AskRoni_v13s1.mp3[/podcast]

Links mentioned or that you may find useful…

  • Scale Habits? Gone Full Circle?
  • Note: I’m currently working on the blogroll and will start a random list on the side bar this week. I will announce it sometime next week!



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Discussion

There are 13 comments so far.

    Inny

    October 15, 2008

    wow…I got my question answered :D I feel starstruck. Seriously :) I even replayed it several times :) Thank you so much Roni, you still keep inspiring me with all you do.

    Check out Innys last blog post..My old life’s in the trash can

    AlliJag (green dog wine)

    October 15, 2008

    Congrats on the relay by the way! I know I’m a few days late – I was out of town! YOU ROCK!

    Check out AlliJag (green dog wine)s last blog post..Home Sweet Home

    Pubsgal

    October 15, 2008

    Wow, Nina’s question is something I’ve been pondering lately, too, as people who don’t know what I’ve been up to are noticing the results. I think that’s why I’ve been dealing with feeling like a bit of an imposter. Nina expresses it well: why should I (or others) view this as an accomplishment when I’m correcting a mistake? And if I could drop a pound for every time I’ve wondered, “How can a smart gal like me be so STUPID about food and exercise?!?!”…well, they’d be treating me for anorexia nervosa instead of type 2 diabetes.

    I think Roni’s responses here are great. Obviously, it isn’t merely about being logical and smart. (Loved the smoking doctor analogy.) One thing that has motivated me (and has allowed me to feel okay about using my blog as a bit of a “brag board,” at least) is that I have been very positively influenced by reading about others’ successes. You see so much in the mainstream media about diets failing, people regaining lost weight, blah-blah-blah that it’s easy to view the whole process as impossible. But the more I read about other real-life people who have achieved far greater successes than me and who are still maintaining, it helps me see that it truly is possible for someone like me to change for the better. That has been a really powerful thing for me this time around. I mean, imagine if Roni hadn’t thought her story worth blogging?…no, banish the thought, too horrible….Anyway, we humans all have some flaw, and overcoming a mistake or a problem requires at least as much courage and resolve as doing something well all along. Both deserve to be viewed as accomplishments.

    Check out Pubsgals last blog post..Weekly weigh-in: -51!

    Annette

    October 15, 2008

    hi Roni! I challenge you to get a day for you and your hair by the end of October. I am challenging myself to do the same including eyebrow waxing :) Loved the video!

    Check out Annettes last blog post..A litte HYC check in…..squeezed in in the midst of morning rush ;)

    Jen M

    October 15, 2008

    You know, Nina’s question struck me as being about forgiveness. It seems that no matter how well she’s done, what changes she’s made, how much she’s rectified what she sees as a mistake in gaining weight, she just can’t forgive herself for having gained it in the first place.

    I’ve not struggled with the same issue. Rather, I feel like you know what, sure I was overweight – a LOT of people are. But EVERYONE says “I want to lose weight” – but you know what, I DID IT. And have pretty much kept off what I lost. I’ve never really even stopped to think about having put myself in that position in the first place. Sure, I did before I lost the weight, but not since.

    I so wish Nina could have a real, honest heart-to-heart with herself, accept what she did (gain weight), accept that she had whatever influences / issues / reasons for it, and FORGIVE herself.

    Is she resentful that she put herself into a position where she had to go through the journey of losing weight? Or can she kind of learn to appreciate it as a life experience that has changed her, helped her grow, and really own the amazing accomplishment and feel joy and pride in her efforts? i.e. find the gold in the experience of having had to lose weight. The silver lining to the cloud, right?

    Because I do think that the journey of losing weight carries valuable gems. Learning self-discipline, learning to love and care for yourself, learning patience and yes, learning forgiveness.

    Nina

    October 15, 2008

    Hi Roni!

    Thank you ever so much for “listening” and your answer! Tons of books could not have done what your answer did: I always tried to find an answer to that question, but I think I have got it now: weight loss is an achievement because it is really not about logics or intelligence, but an emotional/psychological issue I have to learn about. I liked the smoking doctor-example, too, and I wonder what makes us learn things which harm ourselves so obviously.

    I may have made a mistake I could have seen by just my “logical” intelligence if my emotional intelligence also had been developed that well, but it wasn’t – well, at least concerning my own problems. By working on my emotional issues – which are the reason for most of my weight gain or loss in the first place – and ways to care for myself, I am sure I am becoming better at protecting myself from emotional problems which cause me to eat too much food.

    By finding what is wrong, I am not correcting a mistake but learning something I did not yet know or see, and I am moving on. Seeing that it makes it much easier for me not to beat myself up for my past weight gain, even if I still have to learn to pat and brag a bit more. I will also get more involved in starting a blog, I really liked that idea!

    Wow, that thought I wrote about was so destructive! I was really desperate and sad when I wrote you that question because nothing moved, neither mentally nor physically. And I have to admit that I cried a little during the answer because I remembered the night I wrote it. So, you are definitely not the only “hormonal wreck” (JUST QUOTING!!! ;D). If you ever come all the way to Germany, we’ll do a crying session together, I’ll bring the tissues.

    For Inny: I agree with Roni that you should see the post-meetings as a safety net, not as a must. It’s the same thing with every problem you have: seek help, no matter how often the problem might reoccur. Ok, the meetings are more important now because you are still losing weight; but maintaining it is THE issue most people have a problem with, so you might find it useful to learn about that, too? You have lost so much weight and surely developed along the way, you will surely find your own way of using meetings for your benefit. And, by the way: Congratulations!!!

    I am going to bed now as it is VERY late over here.

    Love and Kisses!
    Nina

    Aimee

    October 15, 2008

    Roni, Nina and all who comment, thank you for your questions, responses and comments. This is an exceptional site because it really reaches out to so many “regular” people who are genuinely trying to lose weight by changing old habits while facing the psychological side of weight gain and loss. I am relatively new to this site but try to comment here and there. I was so struck by Nina’s question because it made me realize that I’ve beaten myself up over weight gain. I’ve always been a bit overweight, but for the past 5 years I went from being comfortable at around 170 to feeling awful in the 180’s. At the beginning of each new weight loss attempt I pondered why I let myself get this way. I go through the whole conversation in my head about if I had just stuck to Weight Watchers and exercise when I was 170 I wouldn’t have to go through this again and again and again.

    I gained 40 pounds while pregnant with my son who is now 22 months old. I weighed about 225 at the end of the pregnancy. I was horrified by the number on the scale. I quickly shed 20 pounds after the birth but it took me another year to lose the remaining 20 pounds. I hovered between 182-187 for 6 months until June when I decided that it was time to get back to WW and stay on plan for good. I am now 173 pounds and on Sunday I will run my first 5K. It’s slow going but I’m doing it.

    The analogy of the smoking doctor was fitting. I am a nurse. I am intelligent and I did know better when I was eating things that I shouldn’t have, but I can’t look backwards. I am so excited about what the future holds. I can run with my son without getting winded. I actually almost like running now. I don’t want to punish myself anymore. We all deserve credit for losing weight, becoming more active and eating healthier.

    I know that this site has been a large part of my success. Thanks everyone especially you, Roni. Also congratulations on the relay!

    Christy

    October 16, 2008

    I can see where Nina is coming from. I know that I have dieted for a long time and never really had success. This time I am having my greatest success and it is only -9 pounds. I know it is a great thing that I have committed myself to this goal to lose and finally started losing consistantly…but when people that I am not close friends with hear I am on a diet and they ask my progress I feel a little foolish when I say that I have only lost 9 pounds so far. They also don’t understand WW’s and the plans they have. At home, with friends and family I can take pride in my loss…but it is hard when I am out and about with people who just don’t get it.

    I am glad you are creating a big blog list. I cannot wait to read some of the ones you read.

    roni

    October 16, 2008

    Annette – I’m taking you up in that offer! Calling for an appointment NOW!

    roni

    October 16, 2008

    As for Nina’s question I’m glad you you guys are relating as I did as well.

    Giyen

    October 17, 2008

    Roni,
    You really should be on television. Trust me. I pretty picky about what television I watch (and because I am busy), but I try and watch your videos faithfully. Oprah & Roni. And CNN.

    At the Bigfoot Bloggers Conference Chris Pirillo (who has a 24 hour live feed into his home office) basically said that people come to his website for the sense of community that he has built. I think you do the same thing here with your site. You are just at the beginning.

    Giyen aka “the bacon one …”
    (unless you were referring to another blog, then I’m embarrassed again this week)

    Maureen

    October 18, 2008

    Roni,

    LOL – I was introduced to your blog because a high school friend (who has moved across the country) said you remind her of me!

    She and I have both had our battles… I was severely bulimic for three years (and have also had my anorexic stages… although I just can’t stay away from food – um… eating disorder joke.)… and one of the things I really loved about your blog was “how do I share such personal aspects of my life.”

    For me, talking about my bulimia, and talking about my obsession with food, has been hugely helpful. Part of the problem was that it was a “dirty little secret” and after I stopped (I have not binged and purged in seven years!) I began to talk freely about it… talk and talk and talk. But talking about it is what has kept me on track. Talking about it makes me not have those urges, to binge and purge. And talking about it helps take away the shame which is a huge step to recovery. In addition I know it helps other Ladies, and if you can show me a woman who does not have some kind of disordered eating habits in our society, I would be very surprised.

    You are very intelligent and articulate and I will definitely follow your blog! I commend you for working so much for your health and for appreciating your self worth. I think many women do not appreciate and celebrate their self worth and they need to! I am pretty much echoing your words.

    YOU ROCK and keep it up, Girl!

    Maureen

    Charlie Hills

    October 20, 2008

    Hey, thanks for the shout out, Roni!

    Check out Charlie Hillss last blog post..A New Problem