One Mom’s Journey from Fat to Skinny to Confident


Ask Roni v12s3 – Points Obsession, Staying Motivated, Loose Skin, Relationships and a Veggie Hater

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I almost forgot I had this video waiting in the wings. I recorded over a week ago! I seem to be having audio issues again, the volume and the syncing seems off. Sorry about that. I figured out the audio thing but after I recorded, of course!

I get a little nutty in this one, showing my arm "wing" and talking about relationships! I even got a little too honest about my opinion on the American diet.

Topics in this video include…

  • Obsessed with Points
  • Staying Motivated
  • Loose skin on arms and inner thighs
  • Relationship Advice?!?
  • Another Veggie Hater

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    October 4, 2008

    I chose flex over core because in its structure, I’ve found freedom in having the foods I want and find healthier versions of food/recipes (which is fun to me) because there is that points target to aim for. Having too much “portion” freedom (which was a problem) in other plans made me think too much about the KINDS of food I could eat (Am I doing this right? Is it on the allowed list?), and eventually I got worn out. It was too much of a job to NOT have those points guidelines that go along with the vast array of foods I can have. It’s hard to explain, but flex just fits me better. I guess it’s needing the freedom of types of food but having limits as to the amount that is what works for me. It’s different for different people, and it is about finding your own style.

    Check out Shannans last blog post..20 Minutes…On Cloud Nine!

    madison (follow my weigh)

    October 4, 2008

    aw i really need to get caught up with your videos. i’m not currently having internet at home (stupid at&t) and my work computer (where i’m at now) doesn’t have speakers! haha i’ll have a “ask roni” marathon soon!

    sorry about the not so great news =(. their loss!!!!

    Check out madison (follow my weigh)s last blog post..a nice drop


    October 4, 2008

    Roni, I completely agree with you on the weight training. I feel more confident, and so strong when I am in a weight lifting program. I also have seen amazing results from weight training.
    I also was curious how you make butternut or acorn squash. I recently tried this veggie for the first time, and fell in love. I am looking for new ways to prepare it.

    P.S. I made your Southwestern turkey burgers for lunch and your Beer Can Chicken for dinner. Both the hubby and I loved them. Thanks for the recipes!!!


    October 4, 2008

    Tricia – Glad you liked the burgers and chicken! Here’s a few ideas for the squash…


    October 5, 2008

    Hey Roni–I love your videos!! Thanks so much for taking the time to do them. I have noticed that the sound is really low for many of them, even when I have the sound turned up all the way. I have to strain to hear this one. Hmm. Okay, just an FYI. :)

    Thanks again!!

    Check out Cindys last blog post..Brian

    Tara from Portland

    October 5, 2008

    I have to agree with you 100% on your relationship answer!!! Heck, I may come to you next time ;)
    My fiance and I have been together for 7 years and it is constant work. Everything you listed off about negotiation and compromise is true. In the beginning I never imagined how hard it would be to keep it going, and it certainly has its ups and downs. It is totally worth it though.

    Whoever asked that, thanks! It was a nice change of pace.


    October 6, 2008

    Is something wrong with iTunes again? I went to download this one and it wasn’t there!

    Check out Arlenes last blog post..Caitlin


    October 6, 2008

    For the veggie hater: I have a hard time relating personally, since I have always loved veggies (er, along with everything else…which is why I ended up overweight in the first place). You might try the following:

    – Search the internet for the query “hiding vegetables in food.” This will result in many results geared for adults who are trying to sneak vegetables into their kids’ diets. Ideas like putting shredded veggies in pasta sauce, chili, soups, and casseroles work well.
    – A serving of vegetables is 1/2 cup cooked vs. 1 cup raw, so you might want to develop a taste for cooked veggies at first. Try grilling those veggies, too, they’re really good that way.
    – Perhaps try eating more of your “daily 5” as fruit for starters, and easing into the veggies.
    – I’d also second Roni’s advice from her previous video: Go fresh or frozen, not canned. Canned veggies are, for the most part, repulsive. (I do like canned green beans, and canned tomatoes are good for cooking, but that’s about it for me.)

    For the relationship question: My husband and I have been together 14 terrific years (married 11), and we have a true partnership: we take an equal role in chores, childcare, and supporting each other. I think that’s our secret to making it last. How do you know if he’s “the one”? I’m not sure there’s only one possible “one,” but in my case, I liked him from the get-go; time and time again he proved himself a kind, generous, and trustworthy person. Definitely what I wanted in a life companion, so the “yes” answer was an easy one. (Well, actually my first response was “No way!”….but in the disbelieving sense, of course. ;-)

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    October 6, 2008

    Arlene – YES! this time its me though. I can’t figure it out for the life of me! I’m working on it, sorry for all the trouble. :~(

    Cindy – Thanks for letting me know. I realized it after I published. I’ve since solved the problem. New ones will be better.

    Pubsgal – Thanks for the 2cents! :~)


    October 9, 2008

    I completely agree about the weight training. I started weight training in college and I fell in love with it! It definitely makes me feel confident and strong. At the moment I have slowed down on it because I am pregnant (although I still lift some) but I am anxious to get back into it more.

    I would totally be on board for a women’s weight lifting movement! :) Others need to know that for a woman to bulk up like the body builders you see in competitions, you must be on something else. It’s not in our make up – you just get tone and look great! So don’t be afraid!


    October 9, 2008

    And something else – in regards to the veggie question: I can’t say that I ever hated vegetables, but there have been foods that I’ve thought, “Boy it would really be good for me to like that, because I know its healthy and it would be a good addition to my diet.”

    And many people laugh at me or say I’m weird when I tell them this, but I picked out the foods that I didnt like and I made myself like them. Things like bananas, oatmeal, cottage cheese (I have a thing about textures) I taught myself to like by dedicating myself to eat some of that food everyday for 2 weeks. When I first started with the oatmeal, I couldnt get through a bowl. But as I kept doing it day after day it got easier. And by the end of those 2 weeks, I was craving oatmeal each day. Now all of those foods that I used to hate are staples in my diet.

    I think I read somewhere that it takes 21 days to make a new habit – and my aunt used to tell us as we were growing up that you always have to try the foods you dont like because your tastebuds are always changing!


    October 14, 2008

    I have been on vacation so I am late to watch this video but I wanted to interject my 2 cents.

    For motivation: We all realize that you can’t get motivation from anyone but yourself but the one key for me is that you can help yourself get there by focusing on the good things going on around you and surrounding yourself with positive influence. Like the old idea of creating a gratitude journal. It allows you to see what is good in your life and you can focus on that rather than the negative. For example, I can focus on being thankful that I chose to make a healthier breakfast at home today (instead of going out) rather than focus on the fact that my old “fat” jeans are tight. It’s really all about changing your attitude, finding the positive side, and being committed to making a positive change.

    For relationships: Almost everyone in my family (including my parents) has been divorced at least once and all my friends’ parents are also divorced. But I have one friend who’s parents are still together so one day when I was a young teenager I asked them how they did it. Her advice was this – She said that people always tell them that they are “lucky” but you can’t think of it that way. You have to constantly work towards maintaining your relationship and realize that it is WORK – not luck that makes you successful. Hmm, maybe this relationship thing has more in common with weight loss than we think.

    As far as knowing if he is “the one” I don’t think there is one thing that will tell you that. Roni did a great job addressing that one — I just want to have him around. Also, really listen to that SLOW DOWN tip too. Don’t be in a rush!

    Sorry to be so long…