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A "Check Your Negative Comments at the Door" Sensational Sunday

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*sigh* Ya ready? This is a long one….

OK people, this Sensational Sunday was/is an uphill battle. First, I was coming off Saturday’s overeating bonanza, which really wasn’t that big of a deal. As I said, I faced it and I’m moving on (notice I keep telling myself that – I totally believe in repetition, by telling myself something over and over I will change my perception. How many times do we do the opposite? Tell ourselves negative things? Sorry, total side bar.)

So I started my day with one of my famous non-traditional breakfasts. My Mom has always made fun of me because I love dinner leftovers for breakfast. This time is was some of my Roasted Veggie Soup with Black Beans and Bulgur. It’s even better leftover and became really stew like.

Anyway, after breakfast, the toddler and I mustard up enough energy to do a bit of clean up and jammed out to some of our favorite music. As soon as I was getting REALLY motivated I opened the mail from yesterday to discover my appeal to Kaiser Permanente was denied. I didn’t fill you in on this saga, but I was denied family health coverage for a preexisting condition I don’t even have. At least I don’t think I have it! Long story short it was just one of those "gosh darn it, another thing on my long list of things to take care of" things. What I hate worse is that I can’t take care of it today, or at least try to. I have to wait until Monday to start making calls.

Instead of getting angry about it I decided to go for a run. My heart wasn’t completely in it so I only did 20 minutes but afterwards I felt SO MUCH better.

My 2 mile run

Then I checked my email before taking a nice long shower. Last night I posted my relapse post and I expected some comments. Any time you bare your soul a bit you do. One in particular stood out and I replied. The original poster and I continued our conversation in email and it did not end well. Let’s just say I was called mean, angry and nasty which can be nothing further from the truth. I refuse to post the correspondence without her permission because I feel it would be unfair. However I want to bring up the topic of unsupportive or "negative" comments.

Most feedback I receive is positive but I’m not naive. I know everyone does not agree with me or the choices I make in this life. Just like you I’m a human being and I have a lot, if not more, flaws then most. And I realize as I throw my life out there on the "interweb" I will receive all types of feedback. Some people think I’m crazy, some relate and thank me and some have complete opposite opinions on life and health, which I value.

However, there is one thing you have to keep in mind about personal blogs. This is my house. I’m the host of the party and I will respond to these type of comments swiftly. My goal on this site (and BlogToLose) is to foster a positive environment where people can feel as if they can share their perceptive without persecution. So many of us bottle up these feelings of body image and emotional eating which is part of the problem I’m trying to overcome. You may not agree with the lifestyle choices others make but there is a right way and a wrong way of interjecting your opinion. Telling people they "convinced themselves" of one thing or another is condescending (and throws me off the deep end). Assuming someone will fail is also downright negative. If you choose to leave those types of comments please understand I will respond and if you like we can continue the conversation on or offline. I’m open to good constructive conversation where both parties can respectively share their insights and come to a compromise of views or agree to disagree. If you don’t want to have the conversation then please don’t bother to comment, move on to one of the 100 million other blogs out there that may share you perspective. My blog is a representation of me and how I choose to live my life, I’m open to feedback but please leave it constructively, don’t insult me or my readers and not expect me to defend myself.

Enough said, moving on. :~)

After my shower the toddler and I were off to a local farm to pick a pumpkin and go on a Hayride. Well, my poor little guy wasn’t feeling too well and got sick in the car, on two different occasions. I felt so bad for him but he was a trooper, choosing the pumpkin hunt over going home. We salvaged the day and got one mother of pumpkin!

Since he didn’t feel too well we came home and watched some old episodes of Scooby-Doo. He started to perk up and we decided to have some fun in the kitchen. We made Delicata Steak Fries, Butternut Fries and decided to roast the seeds. Just look how cute he is!

the toddler with the mother pumpkinTHe toddler making squash seeds

Well, as predicted by the roller coaster of a day I’ve been having, we burnt the seeds. The toddler was so disappointed as was I. I really started to feel like everything was stacked against me this Sunday.

We salvaged what we could from the cookie sheet and relaxed on the couch. Right now my little man is enjoying an ice pop before bed (I’m just trying to get fluids in him) and the husband and I didn’t get half of what we wanted to get accomplished today.

But you know what…

It was STILL a Sensational Sunday. Even with insurance issues, a sick child, unsupportive comments and lack of productivity, I’m checking negativity at the door. It’s all in the way you look at things. The toddler and I spent quality time together, I felt very in control of my food choices (honestly, I wasn’t hungry today at all-I really tried to listen to my body), I got a run in, and overall I’m feeling really good, a little tired but good. Tomorrow’s a brand new day and I’m looking forward to it and what adventures it might hold! :~)


Food Units
leftover roasted veggie soup with black beans and bulgur 4
vitamuffin 1
Activity: 2 mile run -2
orange 1
leftover roasted veggie soup with black beans and bulgur 4
Delicata Steak Fries & Butternut Fries with some roasted seeds on the side 5
southwest turkey burger on a whole wheat slice of bread with baby spinach leaves 3
cup of green tea 0
1/2 orange split with the toddler 1
popcorn 4
Total: 21

Table provided by Roni’s Food Tweet, Eat, Post Generator.



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There are 44 comments so far.

    melissa

    October 19, 2008

    Hi Roni,

    I just want to thank you for all the time and effort you put into sharing your ideas and feelings on the blog. I look forward to every post and video (which I subscribe to on itunes). I wish I could comment more because some of the things you say resonate with me so deeply. I like that bloggers allow all opinions heard, however, it always strikes me as odd that someone would say something potentially hurtful, when they are chosing to read the blog in the first place, if it is not helping you, why read?

    Anyways, the other day you said that you were an eater. I am an eater too, even as a little kid, I was never picky and never had to be asked to clean my plate. I have always felt guilty about this, and wished I was someone who wasn’t that interested in food and ate slowly and could never finish everything. You help me realize that I have to accept who I am and learn to make the best decisions for me life and my health. So thanks! You rock.

    Check out melissas last blog post..Turkey Training!

    Sherra

    October 19, 2008

    Roni,

    I have been reading your blog for about a year now and enjoying it thoroughly I might add!! I have never commented before but felt I had to say something after reading that horrible comment left to you. We as women face alot of pressure within society to “stay thin” at any age, at any price. I have never felt your blog was about the desire to be thin. Your blogs have been about the issues you (we) face in life. For someone to comment about life being too short and the idea to stay thin is in vain…has seriously lost the plot of your website. And let’s be honest….we’ve all said those same words….oh life’s too short, I look fine, I need to eat that chocolate cake, I will always be chubby!! But truthfully it isn’t about how you look, it’s about how you feel….and eating healthy is like an inner feeling of “I’m taking care of what’s important to me.” Roni, I leave you with this thought….I really, really enjoy reading your posts. Thank you!

    madison

    October 20, 2008

    that sure is one mother of a pumpkin! aww i have fond memories of carving pumpkins growing up :D
    you sure had a rough day, you rock for having an awesome attitude and keeping things in perspective!

    Check out madisons last blog post..less loosened

    Caylyn

    October 20, 2008

    Good for you, Roni, for for your courage and confidence in sticking up for your positive choice and lifestyle, and then, in turn, for choosing to have a right attitude about it. It seems apparent to me that the poor lady that left that comment has her own issues and insecurities, and sadly that had to come our directed toward you, so I’m sure that hurt.

    To me, though, you’re so inspiring!

    Check out Caylyns last blog post..Debbie From Austin

    Giyen

    October 20, 2008

    Roni,
    There is that saying, “When you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say it at all.” I think a blog about weight loss should foster a positive environment … otherwise people might not feel safe to share their stories in the comments section. These stories of positive achievement, are really an important part of motivating others.

    And on another note, Asians never eat traditional western breakfasts. It’s basically dinner all the time … or maybe we are eating breakfast all the time. LOL. who knows. : )

    Pubsgal

    October 20, 2008

    Roni, the negative comment you received the other day took me aback too. (It’s what I have come to expect in media blogs I follow like sfgate, but never here.) You’ve always come across to me as someone who cares about her readers and who shows great respect and compassion toward others. It’s one thing to disagree politely, but sheesh…Anyway, I appreciate your work here and on GreenLiteBites–thanks!!!

    Check out Pubsgals last blog post..I ran the 2008 Pumpkin Run 5K!

    Sonia K

    October 20, 2008

    Hi Roni,

    I completely disagree with the lady that left that comment. She agrees with you that you have a food problem, but then goes on to completely undermine your efforts on fighting it and pretty much says you’ll end up giving up? She should never be a Life Coach for certain, encouragement is not her gift. Food is an emotional issue for a lot of women, we eat to cope with life, is not a healthy thing to do of course, and it brings us down in so many other areas of our life. So, according to her philosophy, an alcoholic should stop going to AA meetings, should stop trying to overcome the struggles and just drink and be merry right? I’m sorry lady, but just because you have decided to give up doesn’t give you the right to bring everyone down with you.

    Sonia

    Sonia K

    October 20, 2008

    Plus..is she’s not fighting the extra 20 lbs. and has decided to eat anything she wants…why is she reading this blog about weight loss and healthy eating? I don’t get it.

    crazylady

    October 20, 2008

    Well done Roni for fighting the negativity. That’s something I really need to work on big time. I seem to just let it take over and then I wallow in it.
    I feel for you that you had a bad day on Saturday but I’m also partly glad (sorry) because it totally reminds me that I’m not alone in this and that others go through the same stuff. I mean I know this anyway but it’s no harm to be reminded of it every so often. So thanks for sharing everything with us, good & bad… it really makes a difference.

    Check out crazyladys last blog post..Time to recommit

    Nina

    October 20, 2008

    Hi Roni!

    I found the comment on your last blog a bit weird. OK, it was honest, but it was so negative! Especially the “you will finally give up”-part. And you did well by tackling it. It is only because she has given up – as she said at the beginning – and cannot see that other people finally choose their own health and happiness over food. Your nutrition plan is something which will carry you, and of course you still have a food issue if you had been overweight that long! I loved that post yesterday because I saw that life doesn’t change in the essentials when you get thin.

    Let me explain this: I have been feeling “fat” for 18 years and I just could not picture myself being thin or feeling “thin”. And I could not imagine to get thin if I could not finally embrace my goal body image and the feelings connected to it. I was really a little afraid of the future, and it kept me from losing weight. By seeing that Roni has reached her goal, even did so much more, and still has some odd days, I find it easier to picture my life after losing weight. It still is about tackling one obstacle at a time, but you feel better about yourself because you have tackled some big ones.

    And you are doing so great, Roni, and I am sure that in time your “food-problem” will get solved. Just relax a little and enjoy a little break once in a while, it is included in the plan! And learn from the Toddler: he was sick, but he still went to choose the pumpkin with you. You did not follow the plan, so what? Just go on girl! :)

    If the commenter did not have a problem with her body image and had just decided to like herself the way she is, she would not have a problem with your decisions. And even what if you also had the operation for aesthetic reasons? You are not obsessed about yearly makeovers, you did not want the money from her for the operation, and you did something good for you which gave you more energy to reach out to others. And apart from that, skin will get even looser when you age, so in the end you really might get health/skin problems like rashes and inflammations because of surplus skin.

    Phew!

    Have yourself a great day!

    Love,
    Nina

    SeaShore

    October 20, 2008

    People forget that mental health is just as important as physical health. After years of being dumped on for being fat, is it any wonder we want to lose weight? Yes, I started this time for physical health reasons, but I certainly admit I’m looking forward to being treated like an average weight person, and all of the other benefits that come with it. It helps to keep me motivated, and what’s wrong with that?

    Glad you were able to salvage the day!

    Check out SeaShores last blog post..NSV

    Sarah

    October 20, 2008

    Whoa. The line about remembering her post when you fail is kind of sick. Why anyone would choose to be so self-righteous and arrogant about your success or failure is beyond me.

    I’ve never commented before but have been reading for a while. I appreciate what you do and appreciate that you put it all out there for others to learn from/gain inspiration from. I used one of your recipes just last week!

    Check out Sarahs last blog post..

    Alisha

    October 20, 2008

    I love this time of year to go searching for that “perfect” pumpkin for each of my three little ones! I wasn’t quite ready for fall when it hit me in the face, but now I’m looking forward to all the seasonal things. One short comment about the negative comment yesterday….I have learned on blogs that you can respond to the positive comments and help people out and it does more good than responding to someone who is rude and banging your head against the negative ones. I know it is hard to ignore them, but by responding to them sometimes it just fuels their fire….sad to say…..and then all the people who took time to comment positively are sort of ignored. OK, I hope that came out like I wanted it to….sometimes I don’t choose the right words. So I am all for you just telling people to leave those comments at the door.

    roni

    October 20, 2008

    Alisha – What a great point! I just wish I had more time respond to each and every one like I used to! Ever since my email went “capluey” I’ve been slacking. Hopefully this week my move to a new server will solve the problem and I can reply via email again.

    Thanks for that perspective!

    Jodi

    October 20, 2008

    I find it extremely interesting that someone who is truly happy with the 20 extra pounds they’re carrying even finds themselves on a website like this one in the first place……

    Roni – I was overweight my whole life, I finished losing 145 pounds about a year ago, and have since had THREE surgeries to remove loose skin and tissue. Like you, I struggle daily with the “eater” in me. Some days, I lose the battle, but most days I win. I appreciate you sharing your triumphs and set backs. It helps me to know I’m not alone. For those of us who fight with a food addiction, we will fight for the rest of our lives. It’s just better to fight from a healthy weight than un unhealthy one. No extra 20 pounds for me. Keep up the great work, Roni. And, thank you.

    Allison

    October 20, 2008

    Roni – I read your blog daily but I think this is the first time I’ve ever posted . . . I too have always been an eater. I lost 25 pounds 11 years ago and have managed it keep it off (give or take 5 pounds) through the years and three kids. Even after all this time, it’s still hard. Sometimes I get in a groove where it’s easier and then sometimes I’m stressed out and I overeat as a response. I don’t think I’ll ever get to the point where I don’t have to stay conscious about my eating. But I’m okay with that. The lady with the extra 20 pounds doesn’t want to deprieve herself of food? If she were a drug addict, would she just keep on taking drugs because they’re fun and she didn’t want to miss out? Some people may think that is an extreme comparison, but when it comes down to it I really don’t see the difference . . . .food addicts are just as self destructive in many cases as drug addicts.

    Anyway, all the to say that the fight doesn’t have to be lost. It’s not like you lopped off 70 pounds on some drastic diet -you have completely altered your lifestyle. At this point, it would probably be more difficult to put the weight back on then it is to keep it off. Thanks for sharing your story and best of luck to you.

    Shannan

    October 20, 2008

    Well, I’m glad you were able to have some fun on the weekend, despite the negative things that happened. Those pictures are precious! (Even if most of the seeds got burned – it was a good experience.) I have fond memories of roasting pumpkin seeds with my mom. He won’t forget you did it with him. :)

    Check out Shannans last blog post..“GO! 5K Trail Run” in Oak Brook

    Liz

    October 20, 2008

    I think your Sunday was very sensational! Some of my favorite memories from my childhood were in the fall and all the fun things that happen during this season!

    On the negative comment, I agree with people who believe our society is too focused on being thin. The diet industry is one of the biggest money earners out there. That being said, I think that your website is a wonderful inspiration on how to be healthy and enjoy it! You not giving anyone a quick fix, but showing that with time, people can become healthier. I want to enjoy food, but I want to enjoy it in a healthy and “normal” way. I don’t want to deprive myself of all things, but some things are probably better to not eat all the time or at all. I think it is all about balance in life and when people start to look at things in black and white terms only, that’s where people’s negative mindsets come from.

    vickie

    October 20, 2008

    I think that when you get those negatives – it doesn’t have a THING to do with you – it is ALL ABOUT THEM. It is amazing that they don’t just “click on”. If it strikes such a painful cord in them that they have to “slash out” – it would seem better if they stuck to blogs that (enabled) agreed.

    Check out vickies last blog post..

    Sheila

    October 20, 2008

    Hi Roni,

    More power to you for being professional, respectful and classy. Bottom line, your site and the info you provide is helpful, motivating and a great resource to many of us. For those who are not mature enough to realize / accept that the world is diverse and there is very little that is just black / white but more shades of grey (meaning depending on the circumstance and the variables each person is going thru will depend on how pertinent the info provided may be to them) then their loss & they should seek out other sites…As life goes though, there will always be individuals who are jealous or just too negative to think of anyone but themselves. Please know you are valued and appreciated for the time and effort you contribute to those of us who really enjoy your site and recognize the info you provide are just maps, suggestions or guidance to help each of us get to our own happy place, since we are all from ‘different places’, we will all take ‘different roads’ yet our connection to you prevents us from hitting traffic jams, road closers & other detours that could make the trip longer and harder (because of your willingness to share)……it’s our decision to select the path best for us. I’m proud of you for not letting the negative few blind you from the praise of the positive many who value you. YOU GO GIRL!!!

    BTW…thanks for the awesome reply to my question a few months ago.

    Sheila

    pam

    October 20, 2008

    Ryan is sooo cute in this picture. It is one of those pictures that you know he probably wasn’t feeling 100% …..but kids just forge on. When my little guy is like that they get so cuddly. The innocense of kids. AHHHHH

    pam

    October 20, 2008

    Vicky……Sooooo true!! You are funny. Let the negative’s stick to their own group. We got positive, supporting, encouraging, friendly conversation going on here…..go to your own site. ha ha ha

    Amy

    October 20, 2008

    Hey Roni~
    I followed the entire saga (the rude post, everything that followed, and then I posted because I was so upset).
    Goodness gracious, is all I can say. It was totally negative and unproductive- it makes me wonder why those people even participate if they don’t get the vibe of the blog. My husband’s theory is that there are always some people out there looking to start trouble and shake up peaceful online blog communities. They like to see the response they get. Anyway- I love what you’re doing, I totally relate to where you’re at, and I will NEVER quit fighting for better health and looking/feeling good.

    ;) Amy

    vickie

    October 20, 2008

    I see that I haven’t caught you before you carved your pumpkin – but if you guys are carving a second one – check this out, I think it sounds like something you would like to do with your son:
    http://baby-steps-v.blogspot.com/2008/10/estimating-with-pumpkins.html

    Check out vickies last blog post..

    vickie

    October 20, 2008

    if it isn’t too much trouble – would it be possible for you to do your blog roll by categories (maintainers, weightloss, exercise, recipes/cooking)????

    Check out vickies last blog post..

    buddhalite

    October 20, 2008

    thank you so much for writing about this…negative comments is the number one reason i’m so afraid to do my own blog…i know it’s a fear i have to overcome and in a way i’ve come to realize it as an exercise in courage and self-assertion on my part. and you have exactly that courage, which is certainly not as easy as you make it look! the thing that draws me to your blog, even more than the weight loss stuff, is the warmth and openness of your spirit. literally, you glow girl!

    Christy

    October 20, 2008

    I think you have handled the situation really well.

    The pumpkins you and the toddler picked look fantastic! I have never tried to make my own pumpkin seeds…maybe I will try it this year.

    Check out Christys last blog post..I dread Mondays…

    Susan

    October 20, 2008

    I smiled when I saw your photos of Ryan. One of my sons has that exact set of pajamas. Enjoy it while Ryan is still small enough to cuddle up in your lap when he feels bad. My three boys are 10, 6 and 5 and the 10 year old is rapidly catching up to me in height. Thanks for sharing your issues and your approach to a healthy lifestyle with all of us who read your blog. I can relate to many of the things that you say and always enjoy trying your recipes. You inspire me to look for ways to be more active with my children. Continue to handle yourself with respect for others and don’t get dragged down when someone else does not do the same.

    roni

    October 20, 2008

    WOW – thank you everyone! REALLY it feels so great to know that what I’m trying to do is being well received! I mean really, you guys GET IT! :~) and I want to thank each of you for your support.

    Vickie – As for the blog roll…. GREAT idea! It may take me months but that’s what I’ll work towards!

    and the the seeds were actually squash seeds not pumpkin, we didn’t carve YET1 :~)

    Kyra

    October 20, 2008

    Hi Roni,
    I have never posted any comments or messages to you and I’ve been a devoted visitor to your site for over a year. After reading about your “food fest ” this past weekend I felt compelled to write…but didn’t. I too suffer from similar weekend craziness at times. This weekend was one of those times. When I woke up Sunday morning (on the west coast) and read about your pizza, cookies…etc., I was taken over by a feeling of calm. I was no longer feeling so stressed and guilty over my similar binge. Instead I took your advice and put it behind me and made a decision to make better choices on my new day. I still had to go into the closet and try on my new size 6s to make darn sure they still fit though! Weight Watchers has always worked for me since portion control and knowing how much is enough is my issue. I took off 15 ponds for my wedding last June and have put a few back on since. Reading about your journey has helped keep me motivated (not to be confused with obsessed!) I wound up not sending a message that day since you receive so many and I know it takes time to get through them all. BUT after hearing that someone had such negative words for you after reading a post that brought me such encouragement, I had to reply. I know that fro every one of “those” people out there, you’ll meet hundreds of ladies like me. I am glad you put it past you. It helped me to know that even you have days like I mine. Sometimes I feel that I more “bad” than good-but I’ll keep on muddling through! Thank you!

    debby

    October 20, 2008

    Hi Roni, both your posts were good for me coming back from several days out of town (and therefore, pretty full of too much food!) Regarding the lady’s comment, the fact that she is only 20 pounds overweight and enjoys the foods she wants to tells me that she doesn’t have the same problem most of us have. I know from the past few days that if I “enjoyed the foods I really like” I would be back to 120 pounds overweight instead of where I am now! It is a never ending ‘problem’ that we will always have to be vigilant about, and that vigilance is a small price to pay for the good health that we enjoy.

    And regarding your food fest, that also was encouraging to me to see that someone whom I think of as having it all together also makes poor choices like I have done for the past few days…Thanks, Roni, for all you excellent and hard work.

    Check out debbys last blog post..Old Habits

    Ann

    October 20, 2008

    Back again! Posted on yesterday’s entry at the end of the other posts, and would agree further today. As several other readers have pointed out, my friends who are plump and happy (and I have a number of them) do not feel the need to attack those who make different decisions. It is those with lingering insecurities and self-doubts who go after those who make different decisions. Don’t let it get to you! You are a major inspiration to me, and obviously to tons of other readers as well.

    Bonnie

    October 20, 2008

    I’m with everyone else, Roni, in that you give so much of yourself that helps us out here and we appreciate you! I’m not as old as the negative poster, but I’m 53 and have dieted my entire life. The difference in all the other times and “this time” is that I always dieted before, to be thin, to get a boyfriend, in other words for all the wrong reasons. This time, I started a diet, but it quickly became a lifestyle change (probably mostly due to YOUR blog), but the reason I wanted to lose this time, was to get healthy….to feel better. I don’t really care what I look like, however, I do naturally look better, but because I’m so much healthier. Looking better is simply a by-product of getting healthy. But I wanted to feel better as I grow older, and I FEEL FABULOUS! I don’t want to go back to feeling like I did 89 pounds ago….EVER! And hopefully, by staying in touch with your blog and blogging myself on BTL, I will be able to do that, for the rest of my life. I honestly don’t miss eating all the garbage that I used to eat, although occasionally I find myself eating a bit too much of my more healthy snacks. And I’ve been able to reign myself in before it gets too nutso. But I do realize that I am going to have “those days” once I get to maintenance (I still have 3.4 pounds to goal), and seeing that you go through these things and are still able to hold on to your new lifestyle, does nothing but help us all out. So keep your chin up when you get negative posters, as 99.9% of your readers LOVE YOU!!!

    Question–Do you actually eat roasted pumpkin seeds, or is there a nut inside like on sunflower seeds? Honestly…..at 53…I’ve never had pumpkin seeds before. Ryan is one lucky little boy that you give him so many experiences. He will certainly have a bucketload of great memories from his childhood, once he becomes an adult. You are to be commended for being such a great parent.

    Check out Bonnies last blog post..Coleen

    roni

    October 20, 2008

    Again, thank you everyone!

    Bonnie – as for the seeds, I roast all winter squash seeds when I’m in the mood. A cookie sheet, PAM and salt is all you need! We eat them whole not like sunflower seeds where the outside is real tough. Although I usually eat those too, whole. LOL

    Hope that helps and thank you for pointing out the memories I’m making. I rarely think of it that way but you are right. I have a ton of memories do all these same things with my mom and that’s why it is so important to me.

    Jennifer

    October 20, 2008

    I think you are right Roni, its your “house”, your rules. Why can’t people do what they learned in preschool, “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all!”

    Keep doing what you are doing, we all love your posts and recipes, you inspired me to start my own!

    Have a great day!

    Check out Jennifers last blog post..Accessorizing my lunch

    Christie

    October 20, 2008

    Sorry yesterday wasn’t the best day (it wasn’t for me either). I am glad that you were able to change your thinking about it though. Sometimes that helps so much!

    We just roasted squash seeds the first time this weekend (trying your recipe for the roasted squash soup with roasted seeds) and they were pretty good.

    Alison

    October 20, 2008

    I just read that other post first (catching up) and really loved your blog that day. I mean it struck a cord with me (and obviously so many other folks!). So remember that!

    I think Joyce is just plain wrong. Even if you or I did give up eventually – the later we do it the better LOL. If I were to eat like I used to eat, I would continue to gain and gain over the years to the point of being morbidly obese. If I can be conscious about my eating over the next 30 years, and then at the age of 60 I give up, I will still be much better off than if I snowball for the next 30 years!

    For me health is about making choices and I will make the good choices *most* of the time :D

    Rebecca

    October 20, 2008

    Roni-
    As always thanks for your honesty. When I read your post the other day, I felt like I had been to an AA meeting.(I don’t drink but I am an eater) I know that I will always always face those demons of being an eater. I am going on 2 1/2 years at maintenance. I continue to think about it every day I do sometimes “take the day off” sometimes planned and sometimes not planned. As far as the negative comments go I totally agree. I come here for support and like mindedness. Even if I don’t agree with you 100% I don’t feel bashing would accomplish anything. Kinda like with family and friends you take it all the good the bad and the ugly.
    Thanks again
    Rebecca

    Nicole

    October 20, 2008

    Roni-

    I have been reading your blog for about a year. I found it one night trying to distract myself from munching. I look forward to checking your site several times a day knowing I will find great info, new recipes and a healthy dose of reality all mixed together with a lot of humor.
    I have a son who is 30 months old. I have lost about 30 of the 35 that I need to. I recently commented to my husband that no matter the progress that I have made it always seems that when looking in the mirror my eyes are always drawn first to the last 5 I need to lose not the 30 that is missing. I look at people like Joyce the same way. Out of all of the encouragement you received it is this one glaring remark that stands out. I applaud your ability to deal with it and move on.
    It is an ongoing uphill battle and reading your honest experience- often good, sometimes bad, and occasionally ugly ; ) are what keep a lot of us going. Thank you for all of the effort you put into this. Judging by the responses you have gotten, knowing that the majority of blog readers probably don’t ever respond I would say you have been very successfull.

    Liz

    October 20, 2008

    I agree, if you don’t have something nice (or constructive) to say, then don’t say anything at all.

    I have done this, if i don’t agree or don’t have anything to add, then I don’t need to. It isn’t like you have to comment or anything.

    Good for you for standing up for yourself though, so many of us love to follow you in your life, triumph or trial, and it helps us lead our lives.

    Check out Lizs last blog post..Overwhelmed

    Alan Turnberry

    October 20, 2008

    Kudos Roni for sticking up for yourself. It’s difficult to stay on track and when we put ourselves out there to help others sometimes it does not always come back positive. Staying thick skinned online is a must have these days. Keep up the blog, keep up the good work and remember, time wounds all heels.

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    Jen

    October 21, 2008

    That comment was unbelievable. But I don’t understand this – What is wrong with wanting to be thin? I realize that health is a great reason to lose weight, but come on, who doesn’t feel better about themselves when they look good in their clothes? When fat rolls are not bulging out everywhere, and when you can wear a great pair of jeans without muffin top? I don’t think wanting to look good is vain. We feel better about ourselves when we don’t over-indulge. We have more energy. And yes, we are healthier.

    Check out Jens last blog post..New Way to Cook Veggies

    Tricia

    October 21, 2008

    Even though this is “your” site, I tend to get upset when I see those types of comments as well. I feel that your site has become home to so many of us, and it’s like someone coming in to attack our family. I totally agree with you that although Joyce may have given up and plans on keeping those extra 20 lbs, that we are still young, and it may always be an uphill battle, but we won’t give up! I think you’ve shown that you are committed to this, as it’s been 3 years that you’ve been maintaining this healthy lifestyle. We all slip up occasionally, but the difference now is that we admit it, realize it wasn’t healthy, and choose to NOT continue those binges. I have complete confidence that you will never “give up” the struggle, because well, none of us would let you :-)

    Check out Tricias last blog post..Sick…and Stuffed!

    Maranda

    October 21, 2008

    Someone sounds BITTER! Good for you by not letting her get to you:)

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