Comments on: 3 Steps to a Healthier YOU! – Step 2. Stateless Dieting http://ronisweigh.com/2008/10/3-steps-to-a-healthier-you-step-2-stateless-dieting.html One Mom's Journey from Fat to Skinny to Healthy. Fri, 10 Feb 2012 04:26:32 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Jane http://ronisweigh.com/2008/10/3-steps-to-a-healthier-you-step-2-stateless-dieting.html/comment-page-1#comment-32433 Jane Sat, 31 Jul 2010 04:39:09 +0000 http://ronisweigh.com/?p=1474#comment-32433 Thanks for this post. It reminded me that my goal is to lose weight and keep it off, not DIET it off only to regain it because THE DIET is over, and I can eat whatever I couldn't have during the DIET. As complicated as that sentence sounded, it's really quite simple for me: The success of my plan is dependant on whether or not I can manage it without being uncomfortably hungry, deprived of all foods that would be considered "treats," and whether or not appropriate meals can be consumed when traveling and dining out occasionally with friends. If the answer is "no" to any of those situations, I know (from experience) that I am setting myself up to fail. This time (Yes, there have been too many other times.) My DIET is what I eat now, and likely what I will eat after I lose 70 pounds. I appreciate the reminder, Roni, of what my goal needs to be--it's not just about how many pounds I will lose--it's also about how I will maintain. The yo-yo cycle is deadly, and I don't think I have another weight loss in me, so this one needs to be done right--or I should say--right for me. Thanks for this post. It reminded me that my goal is to lose weight and keep it off, not DIET it off only to regain it because THE DIET is over, and I can eat whatever I couldn’t have during the DIET. As complicated as that sentence sounded, it’s really quite simple for me: The success of my plan is dependant on whether or not I can manage it without being uncomfortably hungry, deprived of all foods that would be considered “treats,” and whether or not appropriate meals can be consumed when traveling and dining out occasionally with friends. If the answer is “no” to any of those situations, I know (from experience) that I am setting myself up to fail. This time (Yes, there have been too many other times.) My DIET is what I eat now, and likely what I will eat after I lose 70 pounds.

I appreciate the reminder, Roni, of what my goal needs to be–it’s not just about how many pounds I will lose–it’s also about how I will maintain. The yo-yo cycle is deadly, and I don’t think I have another weight loss in me, so this one needs to be done right–or I should say–right for me.

]]> By: Nina http://ronisweigh.com/2008/10/3-steps-to-a-healthier-you-step-2-stateless-dieting.html/comment-page-1#comment-20509 Nina Wed, 22 Jul 2009 15:33:11 +0000 http://ronisweigh.com/?p=1474#comment-20509 Love the post! I read a book by Julia Griggs Havey, a great motivation, too, and she exactly agrees with you. She once wrote something like this: "Don't diet. The first three letters should show you that it's no good." This may not be exactly the quote, but the essence of her quote still sticks with me. Love the post! I read a book by Julia Griggs Havey, a great motivation, too, and she exactly agrees with you. She once wrote something like this:

“Don’t diet. The first three letters should show you that it’s no good.”

This may not be exactly the quote, but the essence of her quote still sticks with me.

]]> By: Jenna http://ronisweigh.com/2008/10/3-steps-to-a-healthier-you-step-2-stateless-dieting.html/comment-page-1#comment-20502 Jenna Wed, 22 Jul 2009 04:09:48 +0000 http://ronisweigh.com/?p=1474#comment-20502 what a powerful post! I am forwarding this on! I think every woman can relate to this! I am losing weight with this mentality and I really feel confident it is gone forever this time cause its not a diet its a way of life! what a powerful post! I am forwarding this on! I think every woman can relate to this! I am losing weight with this mentality and I really feel confident it is gone forever this time cause its not a diet its a way of life!

]]> By: roni http://ronisweigh.com/2008/10/3-steps-to-a-healthier-you-step-2-stateless-dieting.html/comment-page-1#comment-16827 roni Tue, 17 Mar 2009 13:11:12 +0000 http://ronisweigh.com/?p=1474#comment-16827 Mattison - I JUST got emotional about this topic again... http://ronisweigh.com/2009/03/ask-roni-_v21s3-a-vegetable-hater-loving-yourself-what-i-find-hard.html My advice... If you can... go and talk to someone. I know you don't want to hear this but you are so young and I have no doubt that when you get to be my age you will look back at this time and wonder what in the world you were thinking. Don't start the cycle I did that made me gain and gain more weight just because I thought I needed to be perfect. The funny thing is you ARE perfect. Life is about living not looking a certain way. It took me 15 years and having a child to figure that out. Watch my latest video and shoot me an email if you need to chat. Mattison – I JUST got emotional about this topic again…

http://ronisweigh.com/2009/03/ask-roni-_v21s3-a-vegetable-hater-loving-yourself-what-i-find-hard.html

My advice… If you can… go and talk to someone. I know you don’t want to hear this but you are so young and I have no doubt that when you get to be my age you will look back at this time and wonder what in the world you were thinking. Don’t start the cycle I did that made me gain and gain more weight just because I thought I needed to be perfect. The funny thing is you ARE perfect. Life is about living not looking a certain way. It took me 15 years and having a child to figure that out.

Watch my latest video and shoot me an email if you need to chat.

]]> By: Mattison http://ronisweigh.com/2008/10/3-steps-to-a-healthier-you-step-2-stateless-dieting.html/comment-page-1#comment-16812 Mattison Mon, 16 Mar 2009 21:17:03 +0000 http://ronisweigh.com/?p=1474#comment-16812 Hi Roni! I've had your site bookmarked on my computer for a long time- I used to read it a while ago, and I just had a gut feeling that I should visit again right now. I'm a 16 year old female and I'm a perfectionist. I've never been overweight, but I've always felt like I should be skinnier, and then I will be "perfect." Even as I say that, I know how absurd it sounds. My main problem stems from fear of fattening food. I get scared to eat, scared that I'll get fat, so it's a cycle of deprivation and then overindulgence. For a few months now, I had been fine. I tried to simply eat intuitively, and it worked really well. However, old habits recently emerged, and I felt like I should diet, just to be in control and to "speed up" the process of me being skinnier and eating healthfully "all the time" (yeah, it does sound unrealistic, but I don't know). I am wishing I could just be a "normal" eater! I think your 3 Steps are things that I should take seriously. I know they will help me. But I don't know how to do the self-acceptance thing without feeling like I still need to "correct" things about myself before I can be happy. Can you please give me more ideas on how to journey toward self-acceptance? Also, I want to do Weight Watchers, but I don't want to have the diet mentality while "doing" it. I want it to become my lifestyle. Do you have any tips about this also? I would appreciate it so much if you could help me!!! I love your site Roni, and I am going to keep coming back, because you are extremely inspiring. Thank you. Hi Roni! I’ve had your site bookmarked on my computer for a long time- I used to read it a while ago, and I just had a gut feeling that I should visit again right now. I’m a 16 year old female and I’m a perfectionist. I’ve never been overweight, but I’ve always felt like I should be skinnier, and then I will be “perfect.” Even as I say that, I know how absurd it sounds. My main problem stems from fear of fattening food. I get scared to eat, scared that I’ll get fat, so it’s a cycle of deprivation and then overindulgence. For a few months now, I had been fine. I tried to simply eat intuitively, and it worked really well. However, old habits recently emerged, and I felt like I should diet, just to be in control and to “speed up” the process of me being skinnier and eating healthfully “all the time” (yeah, it does sound unrealistic, but I don’t know). I am wishing I could just be a “normal” eater! I think your 3 Steps are things that I should take seriously. I know they will help me. But I don’t know how to do the self-acceptance thing without feeling like I still need to “correct” things about myself before I can be happy. Can you please give me more ideas on how to journey toward self-acceptance? Also, I want to do Weight Watchers, but I don’t want to have the diet mentality while “doing” it. I want it to become my lifestyle. Do you have any tips about this also? I would appreciate it so much if you could help me!!! I love your site Roni, and I am going to keep coming back, because you are extremely inspiring. Thank you.

]]> By: roni http://ronisweigh.com/2008/10/3-steps-to-a-healthier-you-step-2-stateless-dieting.html/comment-page-1#comment-13520 roni Mon, 22 Dec 2008 00:35:09 +0000 http://ronisweigh.com/?p=1474#comment-13520 Hi Julie! There is no "late" when it comes to comments! :) I hear you on the waiting to eat and listening to your body. What I meant by... "the previous meal doesn’t affect the next meal." Was in a negative way. SOME of us have the "oh screw it attitude". I ate bad in the last meal so I might as well eat bad again. That's why I said the next choice is a new choice. You choose to pick a salad or not eat at all at the next meal and that's great! That is exactly what I was trying to describe! What you don't do (and what I was trying to get people to realize) is to let that one bad choice affect your next choice negatively. Thanks again for the comment! -Roni Hi Julie!

There is no “late” when it comes to comments! :)

I hear you on the waiting to eat and listening to your body. What I meant by…

“the previous meal doesn’t affect the next meal.”

Was in a negative way. SOME of us have the “oh screw it attitude”. I ate bad in the last meal so I might as well eat bad again. That’s why I said the next choice is a new choice. You choose to pick a salad or not eat at all at the next meal and that’s great! That is exactly what I was trying to describe!

What you don’t do (and what I was trying to get people to realize) is to let that one bad choice affect your next choice negatively.

Thanks again for the comment!

-Roni

]]> By: julie http://ronisweigh.com/2008/10/3-steps-to-a-healthier-you-step-2-stateless-dieting.html/comment-page-1#comment-13497 julie Sat, 20 Dec 2008 16:07:47 +0000 http://ronisweigh.com/?p=1474#comment-13497 I know I'm late to comment, but I think this is so important. I used to have the all or nothing mentality, and I'm quite sure it contributed to most of my excess weight. The thinking along leads me to binge. At this point, I'm losing a pound or so a week, and I do still eat chocolate, pizza, french fries-just not very often. Actually, I eat some kind of chocolate almost every day-though not ice cream or cake, usually just a dark chocolate covered almond or some chocolate soy milk. The one thing I don't agree on is that the previous meal doesn't affect the next meal. If I eat way too much, I'm stuffed, and there may not be a next meal for a good 10 hours. Or maybe a salad. Intuitive eating is teaching me that I don't have to eat if I don't feel like it, another new one for me. Even if it's breakfast time, if I don't want to eat, I don't-the exception being a day like today, when I won't get to eat for another 6 hours, so I'll eat breakfast anyway. I know I’m late to comment, but I think this is so important. I used to have the all or nothing mentality, and I’m quite sure it contributed to most of my excess weight. The thinking along leads me to binge. At this point, I’m losing a pound or so a week, and I do still eat chocolate, pizza, french fries-just not very often. Actually, I eat some kind of chocolate almost every day-though not ice cream or cake, usually just a dark chocolate covered almond or some chocolate soy milk.

The one thing I don’t agree on is that the previous meal doesn’t affect the next meal. If I eat way too much, I’m stuffed, and there may not be a next meal for a good 10 hours. Or maybe a salad. Intuitive eating is teaching me that I don’t have to eat if I don’t feel like it, another new one for me. Even if it’s breakfast time, if I don’t want to eat, I don’t-the exception being a day like today, when I won’t get to eat for another 6 hours, so I’ll eat breakfast anyway.

]]> By: Nina http://ronisweigh.com/2008/10/3-steps-to-a-healthier-you-step-2-stateless-dieting.html/comment-page-1#comment-10180 Nina Sat, 11 Oct 2008 16:20:26 +0000 http://ronisweigh.com/?p=1474#comment-10180 Hi Roni! I love this post and it reminded me of a quote by Julia Havey in which she states that the first three letters of the word "diet" are "die", so what good could come from it? I love that thought in respect to diet related to weight-loss, not nutrition. She is right about it, and I think our souls really die with every failing diet attempt. So I think it is just better to accept that even in a world of abundance we have to learn to select and choose what is best for ourselves, and what is not. Another thought I had was how lonely and isolated every yo-yo dieter feels, and how much are actually out there. I thought you had written about me concerning yo-yo dieting. What a waste of valuable energy! I think there should be more websites like yours to teach people how to do it right, so the energy we spend on dieting can be used for more valuable things. Love, Nina Hi Roni!

I love this post and it reminded me of a quote by Julia Havey in which she states that the first three letters of the word “diet” are “die”, so what good could come from it? I love that thought in respect to diet related to weight-loss, not nutrition. She is right about it, and I think our souls really die with every failing diet attempt. So I think it is just better to accept that even in a world of abundance we have to learn to select and choose what is best for ourselves, and what is not.

Another thought I had was how lonely and isolated every yo-yo dieter feels, and how much are actually out there. I thought you had written about me concerning yo-yo dieting. What a waste of valuable energy! I think there should be more websites like yours to teach people how to do it right, so the energy we spend on dieting can be used for more valuable things.

Love,
Nina

]]> By: roni http://ronisweigh.com/2008/10/3-steps-to-a-healthier-you-step-2-stateless-dieting.html/comment-page-1#comment-10143 roni Fri, 10 Oct 2008 10:43:43 +0000 http://ronisweigh.com/?p=1474#comment-10143 Sabrina - I'm not sure what you mean by "how". Realizing it, working on it daily and having good talks with myself. I still battle with it, it will never completely go away. This site is a representation of "HOW" everything I do/did I write about. It's progression, a daily journey there's no easy answer. Sabrina – I’m not sure what you mean by “how”. Realizing it, working on it daily and having good talks with myself. I still battle with it, it will never completely go away. This site is a representation of “HOW” everything I do/did I write about. It’s progression, a daily journey there’s no easy answer.

]]> By: Sabrina http://ronisweigh.com/2008/10/3-steps-to-a-healthier-you-step-2-stateless-dieting.html/comment-page-1#comment-10142 Sabrina Fri, 10 Oct 2008 10:36:24 +0000 http://ronisweigh.com/?p=1474#comment-10142 Roni I think that you are so right about this, this is what I struggle with the most I was wondering how your broke out of that mentality, and started to think like a person who has a normal relationship with food. <abbr><em>Check out Sabrinas last blog post..<a href="http://binalicious.blogspot.com/2008/10/this-week-has-been.html" rel="nofollow">This week has been.....</a></em></abbr> Roni I think that you are so right about this, this is what I struggle with the most I was wondering how your broke out of that mentality, and started to think like a person who has a normal relationship with food.

Check out Sabrinas last blog post..This week has been…..

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