Most of you know about the little drama we had going on here that all started with a comment I decided to respond to publicly. My reason for doing so was not to cause such a stir but to use the perspective of the commentator to make a point, my point, because after all this is my blog. :~)
Well I didn’t really anticipate the amount of drama that would follow. You can read the posts in order to see the progression of the resulting conversation.
I received an email from Carrie last night and it would be unfair of me not post her sincere words.
I am so so sorry that I started any of this, and not just because it has now crowded into my web space, but because I finally realized that the comment I made (which wasn’t meant sarcastically or snottily at all, by the way) was basically an attack on your and your readers’ safe space. No matter how convinced I am of my own "correctness" in an idea, it’s a smug, presumptuous thing to assume that I have the right to digitally get in your face and give you a piece of my mind. Please accept my deepest apology for taking so long to figure this out. My comment really did come from a good place and I think there is definitely room for both of our viewpoints out there, but I would never expect you to come to my website and tell me how wrong I am and I should have afforded you the same courtesy. Issues involving weight and body image can be so painful and so emotionally charged that it’s no wonder our discussion and my subsequent post produced the reaction it did. I hope we can all now just take a deep breath, go our own ways, and chalk this up to a great lesson in sensitivity and communication for everyone involved (especially me). I wish you and your readers the best in all of your endeavors.
And I apologize for bringing so much attention to your comment and for some of the harsh remarks you received.
I’ll repeat what I said in my original response…. "Live and let live." It’s a concept I value, I think the fact the people have different lifestyles, experience, perspective, passions, and interests is what makes our world a more interesting place. I value your stance and opinion even if I don’t agree. I am reaching out to share with those that happen to relate to me. I learned a long time ago you can’t change anyone but yourself and that’s what I try to project on my blog by just sharing.
Thank you for taking the time to defend and continue the conversation. You are a very strong and special person. Not everyone would bother to reply and follow up again.
I’m not going to rehash my thoughts on the subject, my feelings are all there in the responses. I do want to mention one thing. I think it’s easy for us not to realize there are real, actual people behind these blogs. I also think it’s easier to write a response that is emotionally charged then it is to confront someone in person. A lot of things were said and as I appreciate the support I was a little taken back by some of the aggressive name calling and finger pointing. Those are the kinds of comments that start these flame wars in the first place. And Even though I do chose to respond to negative comments, mostly to learn and start a dialogue but sometimes for personal satisfaction, I attempt to do it in a smart, sensitive way where I can get my point across without personally attacking the person. At least I try to, sometimes I do come across as a bit ‘snarky’. ;~P
I would also like to say WOW, sometimes I forget how many people read my site. I have to admit it feels good to have so many people in my corner. Sometimes when I write I don’t take that into consideration. After all, and I’ll quote my own About Page, ”I’m just a girl who started a weight loss blog to stay accountable during my weight watchers journey.”