One Mom’s Journey from Fat to Skinny to Confident

ASK RONI Q&A

Ask Roni Video _v04 Session 2

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Second video from my little recoding session the other day. This one was a tear jerker for me.
Barbara askes a question that just hit a little too close to home for me.

Topics covered in this video…

  • Breast Lift
  • Time to exercise
  • Why isn’t unhappiness motivation enogh (this is the tear jerker)
  • Long days
  • Jealousy

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Discussion

There are 42 comments so far.

    Tara

    July 27, 2008

    If you are a fruit cake for crying….. what does that make those of us watching who started crying? LOL! I know you often think you are too emotional, but thats part of all of our journeys and its nice to see that we ALL go through these moments where ever we may be in our progression. I also just watched shepards pie video on GLB…hilarious and sooo real to the life of having kids! You are already an inspirational speaker/writer to all of us! Thanks for “throwing yourself out there” for us, and i’m looking forward to “catching” more of your inspiration!

    Kylee

    July 27, 2008

    First time poster here. I have read your blog for a couple of months and really appreciate all that you do. I cried along with you in this video because I know exactly how they feel. I am glad you post videos, even if you do cry or get emotional because it just shows people that we are not alone. I know that a lot of times I feel alone doing weight loss. Anyways, thank you!

    Christie

    July 27, 2008

    Hi! Hope you are enjoying your mini-vacation right now! Just wanted to say that I loved the video, and especially the quote you read from the toddler’s book at the end. I love finding inspiration from small things like a child’s book. If only we had (ALL OF) the wisdom we try to impart to the children ourselves…

    geri

    July 28, 2008

    Roni, please show all your video posts, especially when you get emotional. Weight loss journeys ARE emotional. I love your pages because they are honest, and if you get emotional, that’s honest, and it’s fine! The difference between you and the success stories in magazines is that the success stories are usually so glossy and happy and shiny, whereas the reality of the weight loss journey has highs and lows, and emotional moments. Please keep posting, even when you get teary.

    Thanks for the posts, I know they must be hard sometimes, but you are such an inspiration. Thanks

    Amanda

    July 28, 2008

    You’re awesome, Roni, and the Ask Roni series is, too. It’s so nice to hear not only your perspective on all these issues but also other readers’ thoughts through their e-mails to you. I actually didn’t think about that second benefit until today when you read the jealousy e-mail. I can’t tell you how many times growing up I wondered why I had to focus on diet and/or exercise to stay in shape and all my step-sister had to do was…be.

    PS: I love the book passage! It made me happy. Also, don’t feel bad about the crying. I cried during Wall-E. How sad is that? Lol.

    Christy

    July 28, 2008

    Another good video. Ya know. It would also be cool if you could do podcasts. I thought of you this morning when I was loading a podcast on my iPod. It would be interesting to hear you chat, answer questions or talk about stuff.

    It is great that you can be emotional with us. I feel special. ( in a good way)

    Viv

    July 28, 2008

    Thank you for validating all of the emotions that come with the desire and journey to lose weight. I just want to give you a hug.

    Angela

    July 28, 2008

    Roni, thanks for sharing your “fruitcake” feelings with us. What you said REALLY hit home….our success needs to come from a place of happiness, not a place of depression, anger, or jealousy.

    Btw…I must be a double fruitcake because I teared up during “The Little Engine that Could”!

    Angela

    July 28, 2008

    One more response……I have some suggestions for the viewer that needed to bring some food with her on long days. I also teach at a university, and sometimes run into the same problem. Or sometimes when you’re stuck at the airport……you get the idea.

    Anyway, peanutbutter is one of the few sandwiches that holds up. Any type of cheese gets nasty. Try some type of bar without icing or chocolate…..the topping will melt.

    Something that works well for me is any type of pasta salad without mayo. Think about using Italian or oil and vinegar with meat, beans, veggies, whatever. The worst thing that will happen is that the pasta will absorb the dressing and the veggies might get soggy. Or you can dress the salad separately.

    Any type of quiche will hold up well. Quiche or a casserole doesn’t have to be piping hot or cold…..both are great room temp. Speaking of which, try rice and beans. I could eat that 2-3 times a week, and it’s great at any temp.

    Try different grains, too…think bulgur, quinoa, wheatberries, whole-wheat couscous. All will make really neat room-temp salads, all are satisfying, and you could make a whole batch and use it for several days.

    Sorry so long-winded!

    Laura

    July 28, 2008

    Roni,

    I cried along like everyone else, i’m still crying! This video was exactly what I needed to watch in the current situation I am in, trying to be slim in order to be happy. I need to watch it again, re-focus and switch my mindset.

    Every post/video/comment or even twitter update you make help someone out there, keep doing what your doing, you are truely an amazing person.

    xxx

    Tara from Portland

    July 28, 2008

    Ahh! I so should not have watched this one at work-I got all teared up.

    Anyways, thanks for posting these Roni!

    rachelle

    July 28, 2008

    we lov you… thank u for bearing your heart. so helpful

    Robin from Tulsa

    July 28, 2008

    Yowza! I needed that one! It is so easy to sit here and think that I am the only person who feels the way I do. But, ya know what? I’m not.
    Thank you for answering the questions that we all want to ask. You are genuine and I appreciate that. Thank you for being here for me each and every day.
    Someone today walked by my desk as I was watching your video and asked me who you were. I almost answered “My friend, Roni.” You (and Ryan) make me laugh and smile. I even enjoy the times you make me cry. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!

    Jess's food coma

    July 28, 2008

    Thank you. You are just such an amazing, honest, and helpful person. I am absolutely buying that book for the preschool I work in. PS you were very brave to post this, it’s nice to see that you are a real person crying and all just like the rest of us.

    Allison

    July 28, 2008

    Hi Roni! Thank you for answering my question on the jealousy piece. :) I teared up too! Mostly I teared up because I’m in such a different frame of mind now than when I posed that question to you. I have come to the realization that this weight loss thing is going to take some time, that I am doing the best I can (happy to note I have lost 9 pounds) and that I am comfortable in my own skin now. I have a LOT of good qualities that I’m sure other people would like to have. I’m no longer resentful or in a negative place. It feels good. Plus, I now feel so empowered eating well and treating my body right for a change. I have you to thank for that because you are so true and such an inspiration. I love the toddler’s book; thank you for sharing that. You are so great, I hope you know how much you’ve helped me and many others!! Thank you!

    sherice

    July 28, 2008

    Wow Ronie, these vidios you are doing are just what I needed. You are so inspiring and I think it’s wonderful that you are willing to share soo much. You have really been an inspiration to me and I wanted to thank you. I was struggling this year but starting last week I got back on track and your site has really helped with that.
    Thanks for all you do.

    Annette

    July 28, 2008

    I loved the video and your honesty and emotion is just refreshing to me. You are a real person and one that continues to inspire us all :)

    Kelli

    July 28, 2008

    You are so not a fruit cake. I cry almost on a daily basis about my situation which is very close to that of your writer. I am 22, 5’3″ and 178lbs. I have lost weight down to 125-135 twice in the past three years and then binge and regain it. I am so unhappy with myself that just as your writer said, it is stopping me from doing the things i want to do. You are an inspiration and your emotion and realness is what makes us all continue to come back to you day in and day out. You know what its like. You have those emotional battle scars and have proven to us all that it is possible to be healthy and happy and to overcome our demons. So thanks Roni and don’t ever change!

    patty

    July 28, 2008

    Hi Roni
    Loved watching your video/”cryfest” today… YOu are an amazing person. I feel like i’ve known you for a 100 years – well maybe not that many. You had me in tears as well. I think you showed all of us by getting that emotional how much you suffered over the years with your weight issue and that is something i feel every one of your readers can relate to.
    I’m so glad you got thru the cryfest and we all love you so much. You warm my heart every day and a day w/o Roni for me is like a day w/o sunshine. Best to you as always.
    Patty

    Suzan

    July 28, 2008

    You are such a refreshing,,uplifting person,,,thank you for the many gifts you give to all of us,,Suzan~

    Suzan

    July 28, 2008

    Roni..Another bright idea..at some point,,given your busy schedule,,can we have a RoniWeigh..Convention..perhaps in Vegas? Thanks

    Chris

    July 28, 2008

    Roni: I love how you just put yourself out there for us all to benefit from. Thank you! I hope that it helps you as much as it helps me ;-)

    Tanya

    July 28, 2008

    Ditto, Ditto, Ditto everything that has been said!! I thank you from the bottom of my heart for your hard work, your dedication not only to your journey but to ours as well. I’m so glad I found your sites and have you as a friend. And that is what you are to all of us!! Thanks for being real, thanks for the tears and thanks for being you!!

    Love the idea of a podcast and a convention!!! Heck even a trip to AC would be great!! Hope your’s is going well!!! Love ya!!

    Laura

    July 28, 2008

    You are amazing. I love your website! I have recently lost 37 lbs…still have about 6 more. I am addicted to your site – i love your recipes and watching your videos…you are truely an inspiration to me. thank you for being you.

    dd

    July 29, 2008

    Roni quote: “I think I’m becoming a motivational speaker”

    Actually, you are a motivational speaker.

    Thank you.

    Jennie

    July 29, 2008

    Thank you for sharing with us. I was thin in my teens because I was so active, but I know for a fact the foods I was eating were not good for me. Once I started getting busy with college and being sedentary I gained. I started changing my diet and lifestyle when my cholesterol was 224 at the age of 21-22. I was 126 but I am only 5 foot tall and I have a very small frame, just 5 pounds is a lot on my body. Goal is 112 which is still mid range of the BMI. I hope no one was jealous of me when I was thinner because I wasn’t as healthy as I looked I didn’t eat the produce, whole grains and lean protein I do now. I think my gain was a blessing because I have learned how to take care of my body and I wouldn’t have been motivated to do so if I haven’t had this journey to travel.

    Erin

    July 29, 2008

    Thanks for sharing the video. I don’t mind that you’re weepy. It shows you’re heart and gentle spirit. Thanks for the encouragement and the great message. I want to share it with my family! What a great message – You must be happy with yourself to achieve your goals – and “I knew you could”! I wanna get that book for my son and enjoy it together!
    Have a great vacation!

    crista

    July 29, 2008

    Roni,

    I LOVE your video posts. I know your probably not in town..but that email I sent you about the “last lecture” there is a special tonight on CBS I think..not sure I’ll have to research some more..but it’s about that guy’s life.

    Thanks for being such an inspiration….I cry everytime you do in a video..even if the topic that your ccovering isn’t related to a question that I would have…I know I’m a sap too.

    Enjoy the rest of your week!!!
    ~crista

    Runeatrepeat

    July 29, 2008

    Roni, Your video post was great. Thank you for answering all those questions. You’re not a sap – you are a doll.

    Arlene

    July 29, 2008

    Wow. Everyone has been talking about your latest video on BTL, and now I know why. That was fantastic, tears and all.

    I think I’m starting to come to a place where I accept myself. I spent a lot of my 20s wishing I were thinner. Then, when I had my summer from hell in 2003, and my dad, mom and grandma all died, my brother and his wife moved to Salt Lake City and started the Atkins diet. Now, I’d read the book by that time, and said to myself “no way!” But when he said it wasn’t so bad, I decided “if he can do it, so can I.”

    And I lost 110 pounds in 2 years. It was great. But then I met my boyfriend, fell off the low-carb wagon and regained 70 pounds over the next two years.

    Now I’m doing WW, losing the weight much more slowly (45 pounds in 52 weeks, actually). I can look at myself in the mirror and like what I see (though I still want to see myself thinner). But it’s more about being healthy … at least I’m trying to make it more about being healthy.

    It seems to be getting easier to make the healthy choices, so that’s a good thing.

    Giyen

    July 29, 2008

    Roni,
    That was really powerful. Thank you.

    You are so right about the acceptance advice. It was my biggest breakthrough. Acknowledging that I deserve to be happy RIGHT NOW instead of feeling down about being a “daft cow” gave me the motivation to start making positive changes.

    Giyen

    Journeytoahealthyme

    July 29, 2008

    You are definately not the only who cried at that question!!! I’m 23 and within the same weight as that person and I feel that I can totally relate. For the past 6-7 years I’ve completely struggled with my weight and not being happy and literally obsessing and comparing myself to other girls. I was actually always surprised I never ended up with an eating disorder, but credit my background in psychology as the reason why I didn’t. During my years in college studying psych, I learned about addiction, eating disorders, blah blah blah- just everything that really goes with eating and mentalities of it etc. I had my personal struggles with food/weight, but at the same time appreciated knowing where it all came from (psych aspect) and therefore I somewhat controlled myself (with knowing how rediculous I was being). You are definately right in saying that you really have to accept yourself. After I confessed to my friends my struggles and obsessions and overall problem with myself and food- was I able to move on from that. I think, for me, I had to hit rock bottom before I could start ‘coming up for air’ again. In my experience, I was suffocating myself with my thoughts and food-related actions. Once I gained acceptance and tried coming at it from another perspective, was I able to focus on being healthy and not just wanting to be thin. I can’t say that I still dont have moments where all I want is to be thin, because I do have those moments, but it’s not letting them get the best of me.

    Thanks for your videos. I think we can all relate to the questions. It’s all soooooo helpful and I’m glad you take the time to make these videos :)

    Ashley

    July 29, 2008

    Hi Roni, I realize everybody else already said this, but I love your video posts because it really makes you seem real and relateable, like a real person. I mean, I know you ARE a real person, but sometimes when I read blogs I can’t really imagine the person sitting at their computer typing them, and the video posts are so personal that they really add a lot.

    I worked a job for a year where I had to take lunches with no refrigerator or microwave and my saving grace was tuna lunch packs. It’s a little can of tuna, a packet of reduced fat mayo, a packet of pickle relish, and six crackers, along with one of those little wooden spoons like come in ice cream. None if it requires refrigeration and it totally holds up in a bookbag, so come lunch time you just mix it all up. It’s 210 calories (at least the one I buy is) and a ton of protein with almost no fat, even with the mayo. When I was in grad school and super, super broke, I discovered that you could have this same meal more cheaply if you bought cans of tuna and packets of mayo and pickle relish at Costco and then packed your own lunch pack in a gladware. It’s slightly more trouble, but almost a dollar cheaper per lunch. Yes, there was a time when saving a dollar on lunch was a high priority in my life.

    Jackie

    August 1, 2008

    Hi Roni, how are you?

    Well, I have been reading your site for awhile but never watched the videos, and I just did, and I loved it. You really are so motivating and such a real person! I lost 110pds and regained almost all of it, and am so depressed and I loved the question about why unhappiness is not enough. It spoke to me too. Your answer is kinda where I am in my life now. Trying to accept myself, etc. before trying to lose weight again. Anyway. just wanted to say I really enjoy all your sites!

    Kerry

    August 1, 2008

    Hi Roni!
    Great video, again! Just joined WW, and looking forward to trying some of your yummy recipes!

    Agree with you on the foreign object/birth control thing. I even have an issue with tampons… foreign!
    I love the book “Taking Charge of Your Fertility”. Check it out- great resource for natural birth control. or ccli.org

    Keep the great videos coming!
    Kerry

    Shannon

    August 3, 2008

    I agree with taking snacks to eat all day but I’m wondering why nobody has mentioned taking a freezer pack to keep their lunch items refrigerated? Me, my husband and kids do this everyday. I pack bags of carrots, bags of pre-cut apples, granola bars, low-cal fruit in a can, etc. and eat throughout the day.

    jenny

    August 4, 2008

    I just found your website and Oh My Good THANK YOU!!! I really do think I found what I needed: You! A healthy and inspiring person.
    MANY thanks for sharing!
    Love
    /Jenny from Sweden

    dietgirl

    August 4, 2008

    Oh Roni… well done answering that tricky question, thank you for being so honest :)

    roni

    August 4, 2008

    Guys! Thank you for ALL the kind words! I unfortunately aren’t getting these comments in my email so I can’t reply individually but I wanted to say I appreciate the all the support!

    Lioiaat

    August 4, 2008

    I really admire you for all you do for us and for letting us see “the real you”.

    Diana

    August 8, 2008

    I’m not sure why, but I can’t get this video to play for me. I can see all the others. Any tips?

    Nina

    October 14, 2008

    Thank you so much for your videos! I am such a sap, too, I feel like I am looking into a mirror with a thin me! :D But I like to laugh a lot, too, and I bet you do, too! Don’t worry, it’s just healthy.

    About the question on veggies: I have a friend who also hates them and is doing WW with me, and I think she has found a few tricks. I am a fruit hater, but I also found a few tricks. Maybe I just share them here:

    – Relax about it, do not pressure yourself into eating fruits or veggies. And do not let other people put pressure on you, even if you need fruit and veggies for a healthy diet.

    – Find out if you just talk yourself into hating them or if you have just eaten the ones you do not like. If you really cannot eat them, your body might not need so many veggies of that kind.

    – While doing WW, you realize you are allowed to eat anything, but that you get more out of it if you eat more veggies and fruit. You are just allowed to eat more.

    – The fibres in vegetables in fruit actually make digestion easier, and as activties and nutrients in your colon also influence your immunal system and your emotional well-being (I once had diverticulitis at a very young age, so I read a lot about this topic). If you only eat the heavy stuff, and do not drink enough water, your colon will get very challenged or even stressed or sick in the long run, and your whole digestive system is so important.

    – There is no way you hate ALL veggies or all fruit. None of us likes all kinds of fruit or vegetable either. So take your time and find out about them.

    – You can also find out in which form you like them. My friend the veggie-hater e.g. found that she likes fresh tomato sauce, carrots and green salad. And she likes some veggies rather puréed than whole or raw, so soups are a good idea for her. I found out about types of fruit, too. I am still not a fruit lover, but I know which ones I like now.

    – Cheat yourself into eating them. Maybe you like them better in Asian food, or in small bits in a Sheperd’s Pie, or puréed, or mixed into mashed potatos. Of course, all made on the base of healthy recipes. No one forces you to sit down in front of a platter of crudités. Or even cut them into forms like Smilies, flowers (carrots are good for that). Get out your inner child, and laugh a bit about yourself.

    – Read some pages about children and how to get them to eat fruit and vegetables to get yourself some ideas.

    Love,
    Nina