Comments on: Ask Roni – No Answers Just Self Analysis

By: watchinmyweight

watchinmyweight — Thu, 10 Apr 2008 02:57:00 +0000

How true…how true…I know I am a little late commenting but your post is so true!!

I sabotage my whole way of eating healthy when I feel fat…and I think about it and make a so called “rational” decision to eat all the BAD foods and stuff myself!! :(

I am glad you are feeling better…:)

By: figsandolives

figsandolives — Thu, 10 Apr 2008 02:42:00 +0000

I wanted to comment on this "it’s all about mindset. If you “feel fat” you subconsciously do what you need to do to get fat. That’s what I did all weekend. I just overall felt crappy. I just didn’t feel good in my own skin and consequently,I ate and ate and ate. Like I’m trying fulfill out some self-fulfilling prophecy about being fat. However, the opposite is also true. When I’m feeling good, temptation is easy to resist."

I just wanted to say that you HIT IT ON THE NAIL - at least for me, it's as if you're describing me.
When I'm not feeling "hot" I try my best to find something new to do, like a craft, or read a book, or go do something I haven't done in a long long time. That usually puts me in a good mood and cancels out the negativity which will inevitably come back.

By: Mindy

Mindy — Tue, 08 Apr 2008 23:31:00 +0000

After reading this post and all the comments I started looking around and found two really great blogs about emotional eating talking mostly about being patient with ourselves. Here they are in case anyone is interested:

http://www.lindamoran.net/blog/

http://www.eatingdisordersblogs.com/healthy/

Thanks for being so honest and candid, Roni!

By: Laura N

Laura N — Tue, 08 Apr 2008 16:50:00 +0000

Roni, your self analysis post spoke volumes to me. I’m in a similar place–feeling fat but at my lowest weight since I was 25. Feeling like a failure because I still “need” to lose 15 pounds even though I’ve lost 55 already. Feeling like I am out of control with food at night, that food is in control of me.

I really appreciate you identifying that our feelings are often self fulfilling. I hadn’t put that together in my head, and you’ve given me a lot to think about.

Glad to read you are feeling better today.

By: Michele

Michele — Tue, 08 Apr 2008 03:03:00 +0000

I hear ya, Roni!! When I was in losing mode, I had the most willpower I have ever had. Nothing tempted me. Now that I am on maintenance, I’m finding that I will eat “just a little” of this or that and I don’t like the way I’m feeling because I don’t feel like I am completely in control. I mean, I think I am but I feel that at any time I could just lose it and totally binge. I’ve been wanting to eat things I haven’t even thought about for so long.

Thanks for your honesty. This is a lifelong struggle we will all have to go through. It’s great to know I’m not alone.

By: Christie

Christie — Tue, 08 Apr 2008 01:58:00 +0000

As the others have mentioned, I totally agree with you.

I really think that this is the difference between those who lose and those who don’t and those who keep it off and those who don’t. It really is “between your ears” (as my husband would say).

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Tue, 08 Apr 2008 01:11:00 +0000

Roni,,,You are right on the target..on this….how a person feels about themself is an unreal power,,mind over matter..As an example..I will be on vacation,,and seeing friends I have not seen for a year..its such a rush to go on vacation,,but on all your clothes,,and fit in them comfortably without unzipping after dinner..its that feeling I wish I could bottle,,because it gives me such power and will to eat right..Of course we wish we would always feel that wy..but we can’t and will not,,so the best thing to do is minimize the “out of control” times..sometimes by just literally “talking” to ourselves..Love and appreciate all you do Roni..Suzan

By: Krista

Krista — Tue, 08 Apr 2008 00:11:00 +0000

Roni: I have come to realize that when I’m feeling fat and that feeling happens on a weekend, I’m doomed. Not even Paul McKenna of I Can Make You Thin would be able to pry the bag of BBQ Baked Lays from my death grip. When I’m in the eat it all mode, man it’s eat it all. I, too, would love to know why sometimes I can unequivocally say NO to over indulgences and other times I don’t even hesitate to grab anything that doesn’t move and put it in my mouth. We are all here for you Roni as “we’ve been there, done that.” It only takes one NO I’M NOT GOING TO EAT THAT to get you back on track.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Mon, 07 Apr 2008 22:16:00 +0000

I can relate to it all! I am not on WW but am on another plan and have successfully lost 23 lbs…losing at least 2 a week, and not cheating and although i can fit into jeans i have not worn in 3 yrs…i do not want to get that i look better, feel better attitude, cause i am still not quite where i want to be. you are not being sappy..you are being real, just like every other person that has had to continuosly watch what they eat. we all do it, we sway for a day or a weekend and then come monday we feel horrible.

By: Rebecca

Rebecca — Mon, 07 Apr 2008 21:51:00 +0000

Again Roni I thank you for your honesty. I don’t know if it helps me or not. It was my child’s birthday this weekend so It was me that had the munchies at the party and had a few too many nibbles. I pretty much mirror your feelings. I am also on my 2nd year of maintenance and find it soooo much harder than loosing. I have to constantly tell myself that I can not let my guard down. I am so afraid of gaining back wt and being a statistic that I over think it constantly. I fold my size 6 and 4 jeans and some days I think “boy those look small” and then other days I think they look huge. Why does our mind have to be such a powerful thing? Thanks for letting me vent.