One Mom’s Journey from Fat to Skinny to Confident

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Fighting the Feeling

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I weighed in today. BLEH! Up 2 pounds. It wasn’t a surprise considering my candy fiasco this past weekend.  I know I talk a big game with all my motivational self pep talks but honestly, I’m fighting that feeling of “ohhh eff it!” The weekend is here, I’ll probably go out tomorrow night and I already have plans with a friend for dinner Saturday night. Why not just go crazy, eat what I want (which is everything in sight), and start over on Monday?

I’ll tell you why!

“All or nothing”, “start tomorrow” thinking doesn’t work. It didn’t work for the 15 years I struggled with my weight and I know from experience that way of thinking causes the scale to go in the WRONG direction.

Tomorrow is a new day, with new choices and each choice needs to be independent.  I can do this.

First thing tomorrow is the gym and then I’m planning a fun video with the toddler. If it works out I’ll post it on GreenLiteBites tomorrow afternoon!

Until then, have a great night!




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    Mary

    March 27, 2008

    You are SO right. That attitude of starting “as soon as I’m done eating this” never works…that is why I have been overweight for so long as well. I kept saying I would start tomorrow, which turned into next week, which ended up being never. So, good for you. At least you realize what it is that you do and are taking steps to control it…it is why you are such a motivation! Thanks Roni and good luck!

    kyree90

    March 27, 2008

    I agree with Mary. You’re totally right. I’m trying to fight that feeling myself right now … I ate cookies at a meeting and then afterwards, couldn’t stop munching on Cheez-its. I stopped at 7, when I left work to go to a pilates class. Now I’m back to work, and I just ate my healthy, Core-friendly dinner. I will NOT go buy chocolate-covered donuts from the vending machine, because every minute is a chance to start over!

    Red

    March 27, 2008

    To quote Dana Carvey, “who doesn’t get a case of the Fuckits once in a while?”

    Kathy

    March 27, 2008

    I just went through a weekend with house guests and lots of eating and I wanted to carry it on into this week…you know…might as well eat all these leftovers. Can’t waste good food! But I was rescued by a blogger buddy who threatened to come over and kick my heinie and I snapped out of it. It is so easy to let yourself slip into the “I’ll start tomorrow” mood and we both know how well that works for us!
    The maintenance thing is one of the hardest things you’ll ever do and you have been a real trooper…an inspiration to a lot of us. We all understand what goes into doing this every day and we appreciate all the effort you put forth to not only stay on course yourself, but to lead others as well. Thanks, Roni! We have your back and I know a great Heinie Kicker I can send your way if you deem it necessary!

    Lois Anne

    March 28, 2008

    I’m fighting that same feeling, Roni! But I know the only way to feel better is to get back on track. Yes, the weekend is here – which means dinner out on Saturday AND Sunday for me – which means I need to make really good choices for breakfast and lunch this weekend so I can enjoy eating out and still feel good. Thanks, Roni and hang in there!

    jancat30

    March 28, 2008

    I lost 30 lbs put about 5 back on a year ago (when I started exercising) and have maintained that since. I would love to lose 10 more but I have been unable to get over the slump. Keep at is Roni. We all struggle. I told my boyfriend this morning that I am giving up wine until I lose those 10 lbs. I know what is keeping me from losing it and just need to stay focused. You can do it too. One day, one meal, one bite at a time. Thank you for all the great posts and all the recipes on your websites.

    ajays

    March 28, 2008

    I fight that same thinking every day, too. I’m really trying to get back on track today. It’s been a week long binge for me!

    I just wanted to ask what kind of ‘fun videos’ you do with your toddler. My son will be 2 next month and that sounds like fun!

    Thanks!

    Anonymous

    March 28, 2008

    jancat30,

    I had to give up wine when I began. I refuse to give up food so I can fit a glass in with my points. And you will never meet another who loves her glass of red wine as much as I do. I have often said that I have two bed buddies, wine and vanity and they demand monogamy. So my vanity is winning out. No more red wine while cooking dinner. Anyway…now I share my bottles with friends on special occasions.

    TR

    March 28, 2008

    You are exactly right, those “start tomorrow” and “all or nothing” thoughts DO NOT work. Been there, done that and have the big ol’ ass to prove it! LOL However, the moment of surrendering into those feelings is very sweet and that makes it hard NOT to give in. But tomorrow does come and the it’s the regret and guilt that gets ya! If you play, you WILL eventually pay….no free rides or free for all eating!

    akus

    March 28, 2008

    one of my favorite sayings is:
    “tomorrow HAS to be today”

    MizFit

    March 28, 2008

    I think that it why I ADORE the morning so…the promise of a new day and a CLEAN slate from the old.

    M.

    Maggie

    March 28, 2008

    I don’t know… I guess you could look at the 2 lb gain as being Easter Candy and such. Or you can look at it as a lot of hard work exercising and its mostly muscle mass that you really put on.

    I guess it depends on how you look at things. I personally think it’s muscle weight. How can you NOT put on muscle weight with all the exercising you’ve been doing?

    So, I’m wondering if you should factor this into the equation too?
    Plus, aren’t you supposed to weigh yourself in the morning? I would have a least a 2 lb gain each night too, after a day of eating.
    I think you’re looking for a specific number… And that number might change as you gain muscle. So, if you’re eating right for the most part and exercising. I wouldn’t beat yourself up too much. I think you’re doing awesome, from where I’m sitting. You don’t give yourself enough credit for the “good” that you do or have done each “day”. Don’t let one or two days, mess with your head like that… :)

    casmommy

    March 28, 2008

    Don’t be too hard on yourself! 2lbs could easily be water weight. I exercise a lot and weigh 1.5 lbs more now than I did pre-preg. but my clothes fit better and I’m more muscular. Don’t underestimate your new muscle weight! One of my good friends is a personal trainer and she’s adamant about not going by the scale (of course I think all of us who have ever lost weight, have to go by it to stay on track). You have a great attitude! Keep it up!

    Later Gator

    March 28, 2008

    The starting over mentality really messed me up for a long time. Since I rejoined WW, I haven’t been using it because I want this weight to come off soon!

    One of my favorite sayings that’s used on the boards a lot is, “Make your next bite Core.”

    You can do it!

    valeriehoose

    March 28, 2008

    I’m so glad to see that you aren’t willing to toss it all out the window. I remember after a .8 gain (yes, 0.8 as in less than 1 lb), I almost went ballistic. I was so upset I couldn’t stay for the meeting and went through the Popey’s drive thru on my way home. Later that evening, after I felt like I was going to hurl from all the crap I ate, I smacked myself in the head to get it on straight. I counted the nonsense I had eaten and it was roughly 30 points. YIKES. I ate “clean” for the rest of the week and ended up showing a loss of 4 pounds the next week. I could have tossed it all aside and gained again.
    Thanks for all your support Roni! :)

    Anonymous

    March 28, 2008

    That attitude is exactly why I gained back the thirty pounds that I lost last year. I have visited your site lately , and I am eating healthy again. Thanks so much for your site. You are so motivational! I have a very short deadline to lose my weight, so I am keeping busy with exercising and eating healthy.

    ashley

    March 28, 2008

    What a great post- and comments. I’ve kept this tab open the whole day to remind me how true it is!

    RC Ritter

    March 29, 2008

    Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Nothing eaten… Now let’s not get CRAZY! I subscribe to the 80/20 rule. Eat sensibly 80 percent of the time and allow yourself a treat now and then. Seems to work for my wife and I. I also try to get to the gym at least 2 to 3 times per week. Good luck to all.
    RC