One Mom’s Journey from Fat to Skinny to Confident


Why do you want to lose weight?

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Question of the weekEvery week I find myself responding to a lot questions ranging from the personal to generic, the detailed to the broad, the serious to the cute. As I answer each of these questions and formulate a response I started to realize my answers are not only beneficial to the asker but to me as well! They require me to perform a level of self analysis that is helpful on my journey. Sometime the pause to ponder something we may not have considered can point us in a new direction that can be beneficial.

This is the inspiration for a new weekly feature on my blog. I’m planning a weekly question to help you (and consequentially others who may be reading) on your weight loss/maintenance journeys. Feel free to add your answer and insights in the comments or post your response on your blog if you have one (be sure to place the link to your response in the comments so people can find you).  

So the first question may seem simple but it’s one we must ask ourselves as we embark on a journey to lose weight. For years my answer to the question, “Why do you want to lose weight?” was to be “Skinny”.  I wanted to be skinny for as long as I can remember but just wanting to be skinny wasn’t motivation enough to lose weight. In all honestly my wanting to be skinny probably caused me to be fat.  

It wasn’t until I realized it was more then just being skinny, it was about being healthy and happy with myself. My answer to this question changed in June 2005 when I gave birth to my son. All of a sudden being skinny seemed secondary. I wanted to be healthy, confident and a good example for him. I wanted to be an active mom who wasn’t afraid to run in the ocean or build sand castles on the beach because I was so insecure in my skin. My reason for wanting to lose weight changed and consequently so did my success!

So I ask you,  Why do you want to lose weight?

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    February 6, 2008

    Right now it is to surprise hubby when he comes home from being deployed. But ulitimately and really I am doing this because I need to! I know losing weight will make me happier and healthier and that is what I deserve as well as my husband, kids, family, and friends. I want to live a long life and also I want to live a happy life!


    February 6, 2008

    Hmm. I still do want to lose weight to be skinny, but it has been more than that for a while now. My mom died at age 59 after having a heart attack and being diagnosed while in the hospital with diabetes. (We don’t know how long it had gone undiagnosed.) It was after Mom died that I went on Atkins and lost 105 pounds … but I gained back about 70 after meeting the boyfriend and falling off the low-carb wagon. Now I’m doing Weight Watchers and have lost about 30 pounds since last August.


    February 6, 2008

    I want to lose weight to be healthier. I am at a point in my life where I should start thinking of starting a family with my hubby. I am overweight to the point that it would not be healthy for me to carry a child. If I lose…when I lose 50 pounds I will be much healthier and it should not be an issue.


    February 6, 2008

    with 3 kids and a skinny DH, I also want to be the best example, the fun mom, the healthy mom- I want to be the beautiful wife, the fun wife. I don’t want to wear a t-shirt on the beach or say no to a rock-climbing adventure because I’m worried that it will take more than one person to spot me and hoist up. I want to feel good about myself and proud of how I look and not avoid certain stores because I am afraid to be embarrassed if they don’t have my size….I want to have energy and inner peace and…. WOW! I’m down 8 pounds since new year’s on weight watchers and I have about 43pounds to goal- (and my best friends wedding in September!)


    February 6, 2008

    After a deep depression after divorce I will get simply “back to Life”. I want to be some more slim to look some better for other people and in main to keep my health up, cause uncontrolled eating is no solution.



    February 6, 2008

    The answer has shifted over the two years I have done this, but the initial reason was to live…I really thought my life was close to being over. I couldn’t breathe, I was swollen, so tired from any kind of exertion that I could cry. I was on the maximum amount of every drug I was being given to control my hypertension, blood sugar, and blood lipids. In short…I was literally scared into losing weight.


    February 6, 2008

    Everyone around me seemed to be getting diagnosed with diabetes the winter before I started. And then with their diagnosis – they would venture into “healthy living”. I decided that I would make the move to healthy living BEFORE the diagnosis and did.


    February 6, 2008


    So I can wear nice clothes.

    I’m not interested in losing weight to get healthy because getting healthy is its own reward, or so I’m fitter, that too is its own reward for me.

    If I was healthy and fit but overweight (and didn’t care about looking nice in clothes) I wouldn’t try to lose weight.

    Does that make sense?

    Tiffany Windsor, ON Canada

    February 6, 2008

    The reason I wanted to lose weight was I was 214 lbs and 5’4. I never really thought I was as BIG as I was. My first goal was to lose 30 lbs before I turned 30 and I did. I gave myself 3 months. I was so proud. I seen this older woman in her late 70’s at my gym working out. She was fit, but had hanging skin due to age. After that day, I decided that I want to enjoy being fit while I was still young. I know that I will never wear a bikini even if I do get to 150 lbs, but I could look good in a one piece. I love my kids, my fiance and just want to be happy and healthy. One more thing…I am greatful to my fiance for cooking separate meals for him and the kids(even though I wish they would eat what I do) and watching them for me to go to the gym. I love him so much!

    Tiffany Windsor, ON Canada

    February 6, 2008

    The reason I wanted to lose weight was I was 214 lbs and 5’4. I never really thought I was as BIG as I was. My first goal was to lose 30 lbs before I turned 30 and I did. I gave myself 3 months. I was so proud. I seen this older woman in her late 70’s at my gym working out. She was fit, but had hanging skin due to age. After that day, I decided that I want to enjoy being fit while I was still young. I know that I will never wear a bikini even if I do get to 150 lbs, but I could look good in a one piece. I love my kids, my fiance and just want to be happy and healthy. One more thing…I am greatful to my fiance for cooking separate meals for him and the kids(even though I wish they would eat what I do) and watching them for me to go to the gym. I love him so much!


    February 6, 2008

    Mine are mostly selfish reasons, but I am sure that will evolve over time. I want to lose because I want my body to be relatively the same size as the people I am around. I hate being the biggest. I want to be able to shop at a regular clothing store. I want to not feel this compulsive urge to hide my belly with whatever I can put across it, be it a long shirt, a pillow, my purse etc. I want to be able to sit in any chair without fear it will break. I want my kids to see me happy and healthy with the body I have. My family is genetically screwed for almost every disorder and disease out there. I’d like to not die of one of those diseases before I have begun to live. Yes, I’m almost 40, but I really feel like I haven’t stared to LIVE yet. My but I do go on LOL. just a few of my thoughts early this morning. Good question Roni!!

    February 6, 2008

    When I started by weightwatchen blog last December, I took the time to create a page with all my reasons for change so I could look back at it in rough times.

    Reasons for change:
    1. Exercise gives me a mood boost to blast away the winter blahs, deal with the stress of being a mom to a toddler and juggling school and a better positive outlook on life.

    2. I don’t want to have a have a photo album filled with pictures of my son that don’t include me.

    3. I am entering at least two competitions with my horse next summer (I haven’t done this in almost a decade!). Exercise will help me with my endurance, balance and flexibility.

    4. I want to be a happy size sixteen instead of a miserable size 18 at my sisters wedding this summer. I am a bridesmaid amoung my sisters size 4 to 8 friends.

    5. I want my son to live a healthy active life and not to suffer from a weight problem. This does not seem feasible unless I set a good example.

    6. I would like to have another child in about a year and a half.

    7. Prevent hereditary diabetes. My father who is in lot better shape than myself was shockingly diagnosed with diabetes at age 50.


    February 6, 2008

    I want to be healthy. I have a 17 month old son and I simply want to be around when he grows up. I don’t want to be “that mom” who is never in the pictures.

    Girl on a Mission...

    February 6, 2008

    I want to be skinny for the following reasons:
    – When I get in to my car…reaching for the handle on the door doesn’t seem like a workout at 7am in the morning
    – I’ll be able to cross my legs in a social setting and not feel like its a cardio session
    – I won’t feel winded every time I go up and down the stairs in my house
    – I want to be able to be a ‘fit’ Mom and keep up with my kids (if and when I ever have them)
    – I want to be a bride in a NON-Plus size dress
    – I want my spouse to be able to lift me and not make it seem like he has to do streches beforehand…and without that “argh” sound of exertion!
    – I want to feel like a skinny person in a group of people
    – I don’t want to be known as the ‘token’ fat friend
    – I don’t want to be known as the ‘fat grand child’
    – I don’t want to have to think abot losing weight
    – I don’t want to have to hate food

    This list could go on and on.

    But, I want to lose weight- to be in control of my life!


    February 6, 2008

    This is a tough question Roni. It really makes a person think and dig deep down into their soul to realize WHY they want to lose weight.

    My initial reason was for my husband. I was a size 4 when we met. A size 6 when we got married. A size 8 when I got pregnant….you get the point…I just kept getting larger, while he stayed the same size. Overtime, I had let myself go. When I wanted a second child, he told me that I had to lose weight before we could start trying…so I did it. I lost weight with WW and exercise and I looked really good. Then I got pregnant. I have since had that baby and I am again back down to my pre-pregnancy weight, but my body is shaped differently after 2 c-sections. (youngest is 1-year old)

    Recently, I have started to read ‘The Secret’ and it inspired me to take control over my life. That includes my eating habits and my food addiction. I turn to food for many reasons….all of the wrong reasons. Even though a person might be skinny on the outside, they may feel ‘fat’ on the inside. Our feelings control our lives and I need to have positive feelings.

    I have also started a new job and I am off during the summers. I have 3 very active children and I want to be able to wear a bikini and feel comfortable in my own skin as we spend time at the local pool.

    I also worry about my health. Heart Disease is prevalent on my father’s side of the family and high blood pressure is prevalent on my mohter’s side. I want to be around to see my grandchildren and I want to be healthy enough to be active in their lives. My mother-in-law is obese. Her size and poor health prohibit her from being fully involved in my children’s lives. It is hard for my husband at times to accept his mother’s condition and her lack of involvement in the children’s lives.

    Anyways….there is my soap box about losing weight! For me, I consider it a body & soul transformation journey!!!

    Scrumpy's Baker

    February 6, 2008

    To feel more confident, to be able to run faster, to fit into my cute clothes, to free up my mind to figure out what’s really bugging me and causing me to eat for comfort.


    February 6, 2008

    Roni, great idea for a weekly feature! I want to lose weight to be there for my special needs sons and to feel strong and alive again. My sons are going to need a happy, healthy and fun mom for a long time. Right now, I am not healthy. But, after just 3 weeks on WW I feel SO much better. My energy level seems to be rising daily and yesterday I caught myself several times humming little happy tunes! Humming!?! That just blew me away! I know it sounds silly, but it is very encouraging to me to keep going.


    February 6, 2008

    Hi Roni.
    When I first started losing weight, I wanted to do it because I felt extremely uncomfortable with myself. I felt fat and disgusting. I was to the point where I couldn’t stand my own skin. I wanted to be skinny so that I would feel confident, so that I could love myself.
    Now that I almost to my goal, I want to lose weight so that I can be in the best physical condition of my life. I want to gain muscle and feel strong. I want to prove to myself that I can do things that I set my mind to.
    Also, I’m getting married in June and I don’t want to be one of those people that looks back at her wedding and says “I wish I had lost the weight before the wedding”. I don’t want to have any regrets with my life. I want to live as long as possible, and be as healthy as possible.


    February 6, 2008

    I want to loose weight to feel better about myself. I have lost 20 pounds and now feel more confident and healthy. I was very insecure about my weight before and felt out of control when I was just gaining. I still am overweight but it is a different feeling entirely to be overweight and in shape. My relationship is much better than it was before. I guess it is a state of mind?


    February 6, 2008

    I won’t lie…it’s to look better. But in looking better, FEELING better about myself. Most days I wake up depressed and throw on yet another mumu type outfit that “hides” me from the world.

    When I lost a lot of weight before, I couldn’t wait to get dressed/go shopping/face the day.

    I think this better feeling about myself will result in being a happier mom and wife.

    So, yeah…that’s why. Thanks for asking.


    February 6, 2008

    Is it wrong if I still want to be skinny? I mean I definitely feel a difference now in my thought process as I did when I started WW in Jan. 06, but I still have that nagging “I want to be skinny” idea in my head. I want my inner mind to catch up with my outer appearance. I’m still that “fat girl” on the inside who doesn’t see herself as a “skinny” girl.


    February 6, 2008

    So I can look in the mirror and not feel shame. That’s the big one. I want to be able to respect myself and yes, even love myself. Unfortunately, the extra weight hinders that. It’s such a bad feeling to look in the mirror and hate what looks back at you.

    Also, to be healthier so I can keep up with the kiddos and their energy.


    February 6, 2008

    Mine reason for losing weight was to be healthy. I didn’t have that much to lose (only about 25lbs), but it could’ve become a bigger problem. I wanted to be healthy, happy and confident. And so far, it’s helped immensely with that…and I’m not to goal yet!


    February 6, 2008

    I am 31 year-old female, and from March of 2005-07, I lost 160 pounds. Since, I have continued to maintain my weight loss (my absolute heaviest on scale was 333 in 2004). Much of my weight loss is credited to weight watchers but mainly self-motivation and determination. I knew I needed to lose weight but losing didn’t mean being fixated on a number or to be skinny for me, it was to be healthy – to live longer than my father did (as he died at age 49). So, as I began my weight loss journey, I didn’t want to be unrealistic when I first started losing, therefore, I never set a goal on a number, my goal was do something I would have never done before, in July 2007, I completed a 15K. Something I can say I did because I was healthy enough to do it, not just because I lost weight. Now, many people I have met along my way and of course those close to me say they joined WW and are successful because of me. I tell them it’s because they believed in themselves. Since losing weight, my life has transformed into a very healthy, vibrant, young woman with many more years left to live.


    February 6, 2008

    Honestly…I have a ton of clothes in my closet that haven’t fit in 3 years. I hate always wearing swearshirts and Tshirts cause I’m afraid of what people will think of my tummy. I want to get back to being the thin girl I was when I met my husband. I want to wear summer clothes without feeling like a whale. Yeah, I want to be healthy too, but I really just want to be thinner.

    As someone else said, I want another baby someday. With the first child, I gained almost 60 lbs and it took almost a full yerh (and WW) to get that off. And I was still 30ish pounds overweight. I don’t want to have a second child if I’m overweight to begin with, and I don’t want to gain that much again. So I’m learning healthy ways to eat so next time I gain what I need to.


    February 6, 2008

    I saw myself in a picture & I didn’t even recognize me, I didn’t see me. I was disgusted and repulsed and sad and as a result ate more and more. I was also poorly educated as far as healthy eating was concerned, so when I did try to lose weight I did it by not eating all day and then eating a package of ramen noodles at night for dinner. I know now that I need to eat, and I also know that ramen noodles are one of the WORST things I could eat.

    Now, I lose weight to live, to live the way I want to. To wear the clothes I want, and be able to run and play with our daughter, to be able to walk a flight of stairs without feeling like a fat cow.

    All in all, while my reasons for losing have changed, one thing has remained the same. I have been and continue to lose, and I will maintain all for ME.


    February 6, 2008

    Oddly enough, this is something I have been posting about on my blog for a few weeks now. Once I week I will write a post talking about a reason to lose weight – it is helping to keep me focussed I think.

    But it boils down to: wanting to look better and also wanting to be healthy. I don’t really have many health problems right now and I want to keep it that way. I want to live a long and healthy life!

    Lucinda, Ireland

    February 6, 2008

    Hi Roni,

    The reason I want to loose is kind of complicated. I used to be in a relationship that was immature and unkind, and I felt it necessary to be thin-ish, in order to ‘fit in’. Soon enough that ended and I was lucky to find the love of my life, someone I could be really happy with, and the need to be thin for someone else vanished. It soon became apparent that once I was happy and could relax, my own lack of regard for myself coupled with a very sedentary lifestyle working in front of a computer the entire time let the pounds pile on. Four years later, having conqured some of the life-changing issues that inevitably arise after University, (the who am I and the where am I going), I realised that my extra weight is holding me back and making me feel ill, unfashionable, and somewhat ‘out of society’. The difference a couple of stone can make, especially when I never really put thought into it before, is astounding. I was so lucky to find this blog. You are the same height as me Roni and I am not far off your highest weight, but this online community really encourages me and shows me it can be done, because sometimes it seems like the hardest thing to do, just to say no to that bar of chocolate (and our chocolate is really rich here in Ireland!). I love to cook and bake and transforming those hobbies into healthier methods has been great fun. I only wish that we had egg whites in a carton and spaghetti squash here! (I went into a local vegetable shop here asking for spaghetti squash and he told me that no such thing existed!)

    It’s an excellent question, and the answers above give great insight and really show a common theme within us all. Five pounds down, Thirty five to go!


    February 6, 2008

    Well..after having survived Breast Cancer in 2007 (surgery was in October), it made me more aware of my general “health”. At 43, I definitely wasn’t ready to “check out”. I want to be around to see my kids graduate and get married. So to do that, I need to take away some of the risk factors I face in the future. Your weight and eating habits play a big part in your chances of getting cancer. I got rid of it once and will ALWAYS worry it will come back somewhere else? So I want to lessen those chances…and if that means losing weight..that’s exactly what I will do!


    February 6, 2008

    I wanted to finally lose weight this time for the right reasons. I began working in a nursing home, and saw what happened to those who have many times failed to do the preventative maintenance of being active and eating right… it’s not something I want for myself, and just “being skinny” was not enough for me either because I never saw myself as the skinny person, so it made follow through hard. I still don’t ever see myself in my mind’s eye as getting to be “skinny”, but I do see myself as a person striving to make the right choices to extend my life. Good question, my reasons also changed and I know it’s for the better.


    February 6, 2008

    So that I am confident and feel sexy when I am naked and in front of a mirror!

    (And to practice what I preach)


    February 6, 2008

    When I first joined WW, it was because a friend asked me to do it with her, and I was tired of feeling like I was the biggest person in the room.

    Since then (july), my reasons have sort of shifted as I’ve lost 47 pounds. I can’t lie that being able to go into any store and find clothes that fit wasn’t a big motivation. It was huge! Now that I can successful do that, its getting into single digit sizes at every store (got single digits at a few stores, almost there), or fitting into mediums and larges (there is just something that sounds better about medium then large).

    Of course, in addition, I love how I feel more healthy. I do a lot of swimming, so I love feeling light in the pool. (I know sounds weird, but its true. As a competitve swimmer I could tell when I was up in weight even a few pounds just by how I felt in the water).

    I sleep better, I generally have more energy, and though I wouldn’t say I’m totally pleased with myself or that I feel pretty all the time, I have my moments. That’s better then always feeling like the ugly fat girl, right?


    February 6, 2008

    Hi Roni,
    I love your site. I am down 40lbs now 10 more to go and you are very motivating. The original reason I wanted to lose weight was I wanted to feel “normal”, I was so sick of always worrying about how I looked and what to wear. I wanted it not to be an issue anymore, I wrote a letter to myself dated a year in advance and put it in a box in my room. The letter talks about all my success and how I did and how healthy I am and how great I look. The amazing part is that plus WW plus really believing I could do it and here I am. Would you believe successful! And on top of that I’m starting to love myself, realizing that I have so much to offer. I forgot myself for so long and thought I wasn’t worth anything. I’m proving to myself I am capable of doing ANYTHING I put my mind and heart into. And I’m a great example to my kids and husband, that people can change for the better. Thank you Roni, you give me words of focus every day and I look forward to seeing how you’re doing. It’s not as much as a struggle now, this is my life, but it’s a wonderful life and one that I have the ability to make positive. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

    Lacey Q

    February 6, 2008

    I answered the question of the week on my blog.

    Thanks for doing this, i think it’ll be great for me to get some of this stuff out in my blog. It’s great


    February 6, 2008

    Tell me what fat girl hasn’t dreamed of being skinny. Now in my 40’s its all about health. If you don’t have your health it doesn’t matter what you look like. Love the blog, great question.


    February 6, 2008

    I want to lose weight so I can walk into a room and feel proud and confident before I ever open my mouth. I want to fit back into the cute clothes I already own, and be able to walk into a store and know I’ll find something that looks good on me. Not as front of mind but just as important if not more important, our family has a history of heart disease and diabetes – I don’t want to go there. I want to be able to cross my legs and have my calves be in the same state at the same time. I want to be able to have exotic travel adventures, like going to Peru and climbing the inca trail to machu picchu without keeling over, or taking a walking tour of europe, or whatever my heart desires (I don’t know if I’ll do these things, but I don’t want my fitness to be what holds me back).


    February 6, 2008

    I definitely want to be skinny. I’m tired of having to wear mens tshirts because that’s the only thing that fits. I’m tired of shopping at Lane Bryant and other plus sized stores. I’m tired of looking into the mirror and feeling disgusted. I miss my sex life with my husband, as I have gotten more shy about it since I packed on the pounds (he’s great, it’s all my issues).

    Of course, being healthy doesn’t hurt, and that’s why I go to the gym 4-5 times a week. From years of eating fast food everyday, my cholesterol was way too high for someone my age. I had bad skin from the greasy food. My blood pressure was starting to escalate. we have been thinking about having a kid, and I know I did not want to get pregnant while I was so overweight.

    I’ve got a long way to go. I’d like to lose 90 lbs, and I’m 25 lbs down. I just want to LOVE myself again, it’s been way too long.


    February 6, 2008

    Great question! I posted my response on my blog and then asked a question of my own…lol…gotta love it when the wheels in your head start turning!

    and just in case I did the link


    February 6, 2008

    I have to say the same as you Roni….losing weight to be skinny was frustrating. Then I took a look at my three little boys and thought, crap, I don’t wanna teach them all of these bad habits and bad self esteem junk….so now I am happy with myself and we are active and eat great stuff to fuel our bodies! And my motivation helps me MAINTAIN, too….better than the being skinny motivation!


    February 6, 2008

    I was kicked into doing it now because I want to win the $250 my company is fronting in our office weight loss challenge. But beyond that, I want to be skinny… I want to fit the “norm”, be able to shop in “regular” stores, not be stared at when I eat or made fun of behind my back because I’m obese. I want to like my body. I want to feel sexy for my fiance. I want to be healthy and long-lived, to spend a long time with my daughter, my future children, my future grandchildren. I want to provide my daughter with a model of healthy eating, not a model of overindulging and lack of self control.

    Sheri O

    February 6, 2008

    I am 38 and have been overweight by a little and by a lot since I was 10. I lost 58 lbs on WW a few years ago and quit because I was going through a divorce and of course gained it ALL back. It took 2 years but I gained it back. So, now I want to lose weight to inspire my kids to be healthy. I have remarried and now besides my own 2 kids I have 3 more kids from my new husbands 1st marriage. I am tired of not having enough energy to keep up and have decided to GET HEALTHY NOW! I am really trying this time and have lost 3 lbs so far since last week, but my daughter has been sick and I haven’t been able to work out like I want so I can tell a difference. Sorry that this is so long. Thanks for th einspiration.


    February 6, 2008

    I want to wear the clothes that I want to wear. I’m tired of settling for whatever fits. I want to take up less space in the world. I want to have more mobility. I want to have a very high quality of life.


    February 6, 2008

    Posted a response in my blog

    Later Gator

    February 6, 2008

    As I said in my blog, I want to lose weight to be healthy for my family. I’m also in a wedding, and I want to be the hot bridesmaid, not the fat one.


    February 6, 2008

    I actually answered this when I posted to your blog yesterday when you pointed to another struggling blogger. I said…..

    “I liked his comment about when he lost the first time, he lost to look for a girl. I am finding that this time, I am losing for the right reasons…because I didn’t feel good, and I wanted to feel better. All my life, and the last time I lost a large amount, I lost because I wanted a boyfriend, and I lost it by starving myself, and when I got 75 pounds off, I thought I was “done”. THIS time, I am losing with Weight Watchers, I am in this as a life change, for LIFE, and I’m doing it for myself…so I feel better, and so I can have energy for my grandchildren. And because of this, I am SURE I will not gain it back, although I am well aware of it being even harder to maintain than to get it off in the first place.”

    I read 42 comments prior to posting this one, and I had 2 thoughts.

    1–I nearly cried listening to everyone’s pain, because I have had the exact feelings at different times in my life…. and

    2–I am SO PROUD of each and every one of you, ALL of you, but especially for you young people, because you’re going to get it under control now, so that you can live a great, happy life, so that your weight doesn’t have to be the first thing you think about, every day of your life. You are good, you deserve to be thin, healthy, and happy! Yayyyy YOU!

    I’m 52, and finally, I’m doing this for myself, and I still have a lot of living to do. But I wish that I wouldn’t have had to live most of my life, wishing I wasn’t fat.

    Along with feeling good and being healthy, and having energy to do whatever I want, you know what I have longed to “get skinny” for? When I lost 75 pounds back in 1995, I remember sitting on a hard kitchen chair, with my butt and both feet on the chair, with knees bent, my knees up to my chest, and being able to sit there comfortably with my arms wrapped around my legs. Isn’t that silly? But yet, that moment in time, I remember how GREAT that felt! And I wanted to always be able to do that.

    Well, I tried that the other night, and I am almost there. I can do it, but it doesn’t feel quite right yet. I’m not quite skinny enough yet. I’ve lost 55.6 (that was a week ago, so hopefully in an hour, at my next weigh in, it will be more!) and have 36.8 to go. But I’m in much better shape this time, because of exercise, so I imagine I will “get that feeling” before I get all 36.8 pounds off.

    Thanks again, Roni, for your WONDERFUL blog! You get us all thinking, and that’s what it takes!


    February 6, 2008

    I must have the most stupid answer to this question.. I want to lose weight for someone else.. and not my child because i dont have any and not my boyfriend either.. I want to lose weight for one of my exes because i want him to look at me and go “Damn.. Why in the world did i give that up?” lol.. He was the type that was embarrassed of what other people might think about him.. And because i weighed 250lbs he let a good thing go =/.. Too bad for him.. but i still want to make him regret it lol.. Dont get me wrong i love my boyfriend to death but im sure you guys have those people that you want to look good when you run into them.. Hes just my person =]


    February 6, 2008

    I want to lose weight so I don’t die from diabetes.


    February 6, 2008

    Holy, Moly, what a question. I think when I first started attempting weight loss it was in middle school. I, of course, wanted to fit in. There is nothing worse than being an overweight adolescent. Talk about insecure, wow. I attempted weight loss through high school and college with every fad diet there was. I didn’t turn to WW until my youngest daughter was born. WW taught me there are many more reasons to lose the weight than to “fit in.” Now, today, the most important reason is health. I don’t want to be on oxygen like my mother and my mother-in-law, I don’t want my kids to have to take care of me at an early age, I want to enjoy my life and be active and, mainly, I need to do it for me. Boy, my reasons are so much more grown up now than they were when I was in middle school! Confession – deep down, there’s a part of me that still wants to be “skinny and fit it.” LOL


    February 6, 2008

    I will turn 40 in two years so if not now, then when? I have spent my 30’s overweight, unhappy and not truly living my life at all. I want to run full blast into my 40’s feeling younger than in my 20’s!


    February 6, 2008

    I don’t think the answer to this question really lies in this question but in another question. Why did I NOT want to lose weight before? Confusing I know to answer a question with a question. For so long, I had told myself that I couldn’t lose weight and I was just going to be content with how I was. Then weightwatchers came along by accident (My mom started, and it worked for her, so I decided to give it an uncommitted “shot”), and suddenly I realized I didn’t have to settle. Somehow, all this time, I had talked myself out of deserving to be healthy and happy. Now I’m remembering all those reasons why I do want to lose weight. I want to look cute, I want to feel like my husband is telling me the truth when he compliments me, I want to feel young and healthy, I want to run, I want to see people I know and not hide, and I want to see a picture of myself that I like. I’m sure there are many more reasons, and they’re helping me work towards my goal. I’m enjoying my journey.


    February 6, 2008

    I’ve been wanting to lose weight since around 5th grade. And, I’m a freshman in college now, so my reasons have grown since then, of course, but I think the basic one is still the same: I’m being held back by my weight. Because I’m constantly thinking about how much fat I look, or how hurt I am because of what my aunt called me at the Christmas party, I can’t focus on living my life! I’m young, and I deserve to be happy like everybody else. And, for me, that includes feeling comfortable and confident in my own skin.

    courtney walsh

    February 6, 2008

    This is an awesome question… when it’s so second nature to want something so badly, it’s hard to remember sometimes why.

    I’ve always had weight issues – I was first anorexic and then bulimic for seven years. I am tired of getting ‘skinny’ just to be skinny… it finally hit me that I really, truly wanted to do it the right way… mostly because I’d convinced myself I couldn’t. It was like a personal test.

    So, I got almost to my goal and then got pregnant again, so now I’m sort of starting over… and with the knowledge that I did it once before, I feel so much more confident. Being able to sit at a table with people eating desserts and just enjoy the conversation and the diet coke… it’s like, finally – finally I’m winning. I’m beating this thing that’s had a hold of me.

    I guess I want to lose weight so I can kick this bad habit once and for all.

    :) Oh, and a good pair of skinny jeans would feel awfully good too! :)


    February 7, 2008

    Oooh, love the new feature hon…a great question to start it off too…..

    The reason I want to lose weight right now is for me and me alone. I used to be in the best shape of my life and felt so happy and confident in myself – I was at peace with me….I loved me and loved my body. Then I went back to school and between work, classes, and my studies, the weight crept on and the confidence I used to feel about myself went away.

    I am doing this because I need to be at peace with myself, knowing that I am doing something for me and me alone. So I can look in the mirror and tell myself “i love you an I am proud of you.” Cheesy? Maybe, but its the god honest truth. Hugs to you sweetie. Thank you for your blog and sharing.


    February 7, 2008

    I’m 25 and I want to lose weight so I can look in the mirror and be happy. I want my boyfriend to genuinely think I’m hot and I want to encourage my overweight friends to shed some pounds too. I’m the laziest eater in the world but now I enjoy making meals from scratch. I’ve lost 11lb so far and I still have about 20 to go. I never thought about weightloss as a journey but I’m enjoying my life now. How can you feel guilty when you know that at least you’re trying to make your life better? It makes me happy and confident to think I’m in control now. And Roni, you have a part to play in that too. Thank you!


    February 7, 2008

    There are two things in life that I’ve always wanted, one was to be a good wife and the other is be a good mom. Now I don’t have children yet but when I do have them I want to bring them up being happy healthy active children and in order to do that I need to become a happy healthy active person. Thats why I started this, to be a good example.


    February 7, 2008

    I’m quickly approaching 33 years old, with 3 children. I want to be one of those women who gets better with age! I want to look better now than I did at 20 or 25. I want to be healthier and thinner. I want to have more energy and be able to wear sleeveless shirts this summer without having fat arms. I want to enjoy my body and have other people know that I take care of myself. I want my kids to see me exercising and eating right. I want to be an inspiration to my husband so that he can get back into shape, too.
    I don’t eat for comfort, or because I have any inner demons that cause it, I just enjoy eating the wrong kinds of food. I also enjoy sitting around and watching TV instead of walking on the treadmill or other exercise. But I’m making conscious choices to get up and get on the treadmill, and to stop eating when I’m satisfied – not until I’m stuffed full and my plate is clean.
    I’m just trying to be the best me!


    February 7, 2008

    To continue to feel better be a good example for those I love. I want to lose weight – what am I saying – I AM LOSING WEIGHT and WORKING out and KEEPING IT OFF so my heart can be strong/so my body mind and spirt can all connect. So I show the giver of this great gift of life that I don’t take it for granted or abuse it and I am thankful for it. I want to continue to turn my husbands head!!!! I’m 5’7 32 my goal is 160 I’m 28 pds from my personal goal and to think that 7 yrs ago I wore a 22/24!!! I run/I cycle/ I taebo/I firm/I eat veggies and lots of lean meats I have amazing calves from working out – I have quads so strong! I have endurance!…and fish oil lots of fish oil!!!! I am strong because of the changes I have made in 7 yrs…. I will be 160!!!

    Inhale then exhale

    February 7, 2008

    To continue to feel better be a good example for those I love. I want to lose weight – what am I saying – I AM LOSING WEIGHT and WORKING out and KEEPING IT OFF so my heart can be strong/so my body mind and spirt can all connect. So I show the giver of this great gift of life that I don’t take it for granted or abuse it and I am thankful for it. I want to continue to turn my husbands head!!!! I’m 5’7 32 my goal is 160 I’m 28 pds from my personal goal and to think that 7 yrs ago I wore a 22/24!!! I run/I cycle/ I taebo/I firm/I eat veggies and lots of lean meats I have amazing calves from working out – I have quads so strong! I have endurance!…and fish oil lots of fish oil!!!! I am strong because of the changes I have made in 7 yrs…. I will be 160!!!

    Inhale then exhale

    February 7, 2008

    To continue to feel better be a good example for those I love. I want to lose weight – what am I saying – I AM LOSING WEIGHT and WORKING out and KEEPING IT OFF so my heart can be strong/so my body mind and spirt can all connect. So I show the giver of this great gift of life that I don’t take it for granted or abuse it and I am thankful for it. I want to continue to turn my husbands head!!!! I’m 5’7 32 my goal is 160 I’m 28 pds from my personal goal and to think that 7 yrs ago I wore a 22/24!!! I run/I cycle/ I taebo/I firm/I eat veggies and lots of lean meats I have amazing calves from working out – I have quads so strong! I have endurance!…and fish oil lots of fish oil!!!! I am strong because of the changes I have made in 7 yrs…. I will be 160!!!


    February 7, 2008

    i always just wanted to be skinny – it was only during the process that i realized how much i love feeling strong and powerful, fit and active. i love endorphins and the idea that people think of me (me!) as a fit, active person.


    February 7, 2008

    I want to lose weight because fun, cool, stylish, funky fashions look better on a more slender me. I’ll spend an hour (at home) trying on outfits, mixing and matching styles and colors and it’s fun, because everything fits. Of course, in the process, I’ve gained energy and confidence. Next I’m going to work on “getting fit” the often forgotten sister of “losing weight.” I’m looking forward to that challenge!

    Nomad Librarian

    February 7, 2008

    I want to lose weight so that I can look at myself in pictures and not see my round chubby face and double chin.

    Laura Brandon

    February 8, 2008

    i never learned healthy habits as a child, and i don’t want my children to have as hard a time being healthy as i’ve had, so i’m trying to learn the habits now, before i have children, so that i can pass the knowledge on. i’m also terrified of dying, so i want to live as long as possible.


    February 10, 2008

    Wow! What great insight and inspiration! You can find my two sense over at

    Thanks for getting me thinking!


    April 1, 2008

    I want to lose weight so I have more energy and more desire to try new things.


    October 29, 2008

    Well honestly at this point in my life, okay I’ll admit it, I’m 54! I really need to lose weight for health reasons. I lost 35 pounds on WW about 12 years ago and after quitting smoking, gained it all back, plus a few more. So here I am for the umpteenth time trying to get back at it but it is a real struggle. I’ve added exercising recently since I really don’t think I can lose without exercising also. My job is in front of a computer all day so….

    Health is the #1 reason and I would also like to look good in clothes again!


    August 2, 2010

    My whole life i have squandered with out any real direction because I have been a loser. I’m not really fat but losing 1.5 stone would get me down to fighting fit weight, think Brad Pitt in “Fight Club”. Well this goal of 1.5 stone is negligible considering the outcome however I have never been able to achieve it over the years , because I have always been a loser. I think all fat people are losers. It’s not their guts that makes them overweight, it’s not having the guts to overcome life. I include my self in the previous statement.
    So I set out a vanity goal to lose a stone in two months while putting on some muscle. I call it vanity because I probably have got other issues I should be working on but I decided if I can overcome this quest I have desired for so long I will be able to overcome ANYTHING. After 7 weeks have lost 12 pounds and have never been so muscle-y before. This is all just the side effect of realising when ever you meet a challenge in life you have to meet it head on and smash your way through it if you have to.
    I will wait to I achieve my full goal before I raise the bar higher but believe me, I now have others sights in mind.

    Determination, it’s all in your mind… don’t be a loser.