One Mom’s Journey from Fat to Skinny to Confident

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Following my Own Advice

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AAACK! I weighed in tonight at a disappointing 145.2 lbs.  I know it’s not the end of the world but you all know that feeling when you are trying so hard and the scale just won’t cooperate. So I’m giving myself the same pep talk I give others when they email me with this exact scenario.

Keep doing what you are doing and the scale will catch up.  That number is only one indicator of success, you feel great, you look great and that’s what matters NOT some arbitrary number on the scale. This is a journey, one you will be on for a lifetime. You can’t let one little number affect you so much. It’s just not worth it!

Speaking of feeling great, I had one of the most intense cardio workouts ever today. A coworker asked if I was interested in playing racquetball. ME? Racquetball?  Sure! But I warned her I would suck and I did. HOWEVER, it was a fabulous way to spend a lunch hour and a fun way to get a workout in. I was out of breath in 20 minutes and sweat was pouring down my brow. I looked over at my competitor and noticed she wasn’t even winded yet. I said, “I admire people who have always been active and athletic, you’re in such good shape!” (mind you she about 15 years older then me) and her response was “I was just raised that way.” 

“I was just raised that way.”

EXACTLY!

THAT’S why I’m doing what I’m doing. The toddler will grow up seeing his mom climb walls, lift weights, hike and just be active, happy and healthy. He sees me choose fresh fruit over chips, extra vegetables instead of fries and water over soda. In my opinion this is the easiest way to teach good habits. It’s all about example and I’m trying my hardest.  

Now onto you guys! I get a lot of emails and comments that affect me but I have never experienced an emotional rollercoaster like one I did reading the responses to my first question. I chuckled, I cried, I smiled and I felt so much. I don’t think I’ve ever related to so many people before. Your honestly was inspiring. I truly believe that by asking ourselves questions like that, responding honestly and reading all the insightful answers gets us one step closure to our goals. It helps us realize we aren’t alone.  

We aren’t.




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    Miss July...not...yet

    February 6, 2008

    Roni! You amaze me w/your generosity of spirt and all you share with us. I am so with you on wanting to raise your kids “that way” so they are athletic. I got the great work ethic from my parents but when they came home they just sat in front of the TV. We will be showing our kids how to be active as well as encouraging it.

    Thank you again!

    Liz

    February 6, 2008

    Hang in there Roni – you are doing the right things and you know it! To my mind the most important thing you’ve been doing is sticking to the gym. IMO it is the single most important key to maintenance. Muscle building not only makes your body look better but it gives your body extra burning capacity and who doesn’t want that! ;o)

    I am also back in losing mode for a few weeks, I gained a few over the holidays and I’m going on a cruise at the end of the month! I’d like to maintain on the boat so I figured I’d better not let my little backslide turn into more.

    Keep at it, we’re all here with you struggling with the same day to day stuff!

    courtney walsh

    February 6, 2008

    I played raquetball once. Notice I said once. There was a reason! I was horrible at it. lol – honestly, I loved the running around, but feeling like the ball was going to hit me between the eyes… well, that was scary!! Good reminder that it’s good to try new things, though! :)

    And you know on that scale thing, well, you already said it… it’ll catch up! :)

    Jill

    February 7, 2008

    I find it rather funny, every day you post your weight, I never pay attention to this number; I don’t know what it was last time posted, I don’t remember what you said today! All I know is that I continue to read your journal because it’s witty, inspirational, and thought-provoking. And you have an adorable toddler, that helps too. ;)

    maxx

    February 7, 2008

    I like your attitude and i think that’s the crux of the matter:Belief. what you believe is what you’ll get.does not matter how perfect or even easy your program is, if your mental state is wrong ,forget it.you have to associate with confident, positive people and it will rub off.picture yourself at the end of the road and keep focus,you will get there.thanks for a great article.

    Scrumpy's Baker

    February 7, 2008

    “I was just raised that way.” Oh to have been raised that way! I think it is the best gift to give to your kiddo to be a kick ass mom out there climbing walls and trying new things. I don’t think my mom has ever even ridden a bike!

    Kim

    February 7, 2008

    I agree with you 100%, with the comment, I was just raised that way. Wow. How awesome is that you know, to have the good food attitude your entire life!

    I too was not raised that way. Being raised by a single father meant eating pasta with random things thrown into it, or cookies and crackers for dinner! So many great memories, but I want to keep them at that.

    I vowed a long time ago to get my eating in check, and have been working HARD and I don’t ever want my daughter to. I want her to just know to drink water or milk over soda, and eat veggies instead of fries. I want her to just know it. So, I am doing all that I can to make my lifestyle change, influence her, and my husband, in the best way!

    watchinmyweight

    February 7, 2008

    Wow, how true is that! If only I were raised that way. Your attitude is always so uplifting!! :)

    IrishLuci

    February 7, 2008

    Hi Roni,

    Just a thought, could the weight you are gaining be muscle mass from all the gym workouts?

    newday545

    February 7, 2008

    Roni – I did not get to respond to yesterday’s question, but today’s topic is just an extension of it, in my case. My almost 15 year old daughter has recently committed to following WW with me. She has been a challenge to “raise that way” all her life. She is extremely strong-willed and her attitude has resulted in her weighing in at 201 last week (she is 5’8″ tall, thank goodness). It was the first time I’ve been “allowed” to witness her on a scale in years. We also took measurements so she can see more progress than just the number on the scale.

    I’m a WW lifetime member and have tried to make good food a priority for our family (lots of fruits and veggies, no frying foods at home, water or milk as a beverage, whole grains and fiber). I’m praying that this is the time that “takes”. She has been on WW program for 1 whole week (even through a Super Bowl party and remarks from her friends at school that “your mom is feeding you ‘rabbit food’). She seems to be gaining momentum everyday.

    So, the answer to yesterday’s question would have to be: I want to lose weight to be a positive example for my children. At this point in my life, I will have to be completely on program to ensure that my daughter is completely on program. I have only 15-20 pounds to lose, but I want this to be the last time I have to lose even that much. And, I selfishly want this to be the only time my daughter must travel this road (it’s ultimately up to her, though).

    Thanks for letting me say this.

    Holly

    Anar

    February 7, 2008

    Roni,

    I thought you and your readers will enjoy this blog:
    http://www.iwillchangeyourlife.com/

    Cheers,
    Anar

    Tina

    February 7, 2008

    What an inspiring website! I’ll be sure to keep reading!

    Jen Gordon

    February 7, 2008

    Roni, you are the whole reason I started my own blog and journey. And now I’m getting a tummy tuck in April! Keep going. It’s not about perfection, it’s about progress. This journey is so much more complicated that we all thought huh?

    Hang in there!!!

    HappyBlogChick

    February 7, 2008

    You know the drill, so I’m not even going to repeat it. I will say it’s all good. It is all good.

    But I will say that your motivations are worthwhile and admirable, so keep up the good work!

    I’ve never played racketball. Maybe I should try it!

    Amber

    February 7, 2008

    I think you might be gaining muscle! I looked at your progress chart, and I think the pattern of weight gain coincides with when you began working out. Are you measurements the same?

    I think you’ll be fine, and it’s more important that you’re seeting and excellent example for your son. That is the true reward! If only more mothers were as smart about nutrition as you are. Childhood obesity (which tuns into adult obesity) would not be the problem is it today.

    Krista

    February 7, 2008

    Roni: You are the queen of healthy. Keep it up and the scale will catch up with you. You are committed and doing a great job. Don’t forget to tell yourself that every now and again.

    Anonymous

    February 8, 2008

    Roni–
    I subscribe to your site & really enjoy your blog as well as green lite bites. I’ve never posted before, but have to tonight– my scale reading was up five pounds this AM after lots of hard work- eating great and running. I was so discouraged and have been thinking about that stupid number all day. I loved reading what you wrote today & took it as encouragement from a friend. Thank you! I love not being on this journey alone!

    Anonymous

    February 10, 2008

    I just found your site a few days ago and I love it! Our stories are so familiar. I lost 25 pds. on WW in 2002 and luckily have kept it off. However, these last 20 pounds have proved to be quite a challenge! Let’s see…it’s 2008 and I still haven’t got them off? This is the year!

    Your motivation page was very inspiring and so true! I look forward to reading more.

    Christie

    Sandra

    February 10, 2008

    Roni – I think you are amazing! DOn’t get down about your weight- remember muscle weighs more than fast. I think you are gaining muscle so causing a little upswing in weight. Also, go to Self.com to see your happy weight. I think you’ll be surprised with what it would be! By the way, I put in the information you have given us about you and it came up higher than what you are at now! Thanks for inspiring me to keep going!