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A Weight (Watcher) Maintainer Rant

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I normally get comments and emails regarding my Tummy Tuck and I’m always more then willing to share my experience. However recently the questions are getting quite disturbing…

“i see you weighed in. i just have to ask.. was all the tummy tuck pain worth it when you arent being good to your weight??”

“are you taking advantage of the fact that you have a flat stomach and mocking your body??”

“I notice you have gained a couple pounds..  I wonder why anyone would go thru all the pain to gain.  is a TT worth it in the end”

“does having a TT ‘allow’ you to ‘let yourself’ not watch the weight as closely?????”

What? Are you guys serious?

I’m going to gain a little and lose a little, gain a little and lose a little, THAT’S CALLED MAINTENANCE!

Please don’t think you hit some magic number on the scale and then miraculously stay there forever. You age, you build muscle, you lose muscle, you retain water, you splurge on the holidays.

It’s called LIFE!

Maintenance is a funny funny thing.  My favorite Weight Watchers leader once said maintenance is like a wave. Your weight should go up and down. It’s normal. Now, my weight is a little higher then I’d like it to be at the moment but that is JUST A NUMBER ON THE SCALE. I feel great. I look great. My clothes fit perfectly. I’m strong. I’m fit. And I’m motivated.

I am a Weight Watchers Maintainer, hear me roar!

OK, that may have gotten out of hand.

Anyway, speaking of Weight Watchers (did you like that transition?), WAY back before Christmas Cranky dissed Weight Watchers (she didn’t really, it was just the title of her post) and their new ad campaign. Apparently some people are up in arms because Weight Watchers is declaring they aren’t a diet they are a lifestyle and this is causing some discussion about my particular program of choice.

Weight Watchers really did change my life and it is a lifestyle for me now.  I’ve read opinions on both sides of the Weight Watchers fence and I can understand why some people don’t buy it.  One size does not fit all when it comes to dieting, oops I mean “lifestyles.”

All I can do is share the 2 big reasons I think Weight Watchers worked for me.

  1. FLOREWeight Watchers has 2 plans, Flex and Core. Flex has you counting points for any foods you eat. The number of points you get depends on your height, weight etc. Core on the other hand gives you a list of foods you eat from until you are satisfied. (Note: the programs are more complicated, this is just an overview)I’m a flex girl all the way. The point system really helped me control portions. Probably Definitely my biggest problem. When you like to eat you tend not to realize you just inhaled 4 servings of pasta. Flex forced me to learn what a serving was and it gave me the tools to track food in an easy way.

    When you do Flex you realize quick enough that you can eat more healthy foods then junk, because healthy foods have lower point values. Well, where can I get a list of good, healthy low point food? Why? The Core food list of course!

    So instead of picking Flex or Core I decided on FLORE! Count points while sticking to the Core food list as best you can. This worked great for me! It really helped me learn how to eat healthier.

  2. The Weekly MeetingsI am super competitive. Did I ever tell you that? I don’t mean I’m not “bum rush the umpire” type of competitive but I like to win. I like to succeed. And I like to impress. Meetings helped me because every week I wanted, no, I needed to raise my hand and say.  “I did it! I lost 1.2 pounds this week!”Everyone would clap and it psyched me up for the next week. (I know you are going to ask about the weeks I didn’t lose, well then I’d work even harder to share my success the next week, it’s just how I tick.)

    Beyond competitive reasons, the meetings kept me focused. Once a week I reminded myself what I was doing. I sat in a room with people who shared my struggle, who understood what is feels like to be me. It’s my ½ hour “AA” meeting and I love celebrating others successes.

Now, these same reasons may be the reasons that it doesn’t work for you.

Who wants to count points? Or sit in a room with other people trying to lose weight?

Like I said one size doesn’t fit all. But when push comes to shove, Weight Watchers is a lifestyle, because if you learn it. I mean really learn it, you live it.

I should say I don’t believe Weight Watchers is the only program that works. I truly believe most reputable ones do IF (notice that’s a BIG IF) you follow them and are able to for a lifetime.  I guess that’s why Weight Watchers went with their new ad campaign. It makes sense to me.

Speaking of me (oh I used that transition already – Didn’t I?), I have been in the zone for the past 2 days, food journaling, working out, getting things done! With all the site updates I’ve been making it’s been hard for me to post my daily menu. I did update my Goals, my Weight Progress, and my Workout Progress. I also recorded a new video post, Cutting Sweet Potato Fries and posted one of my favorite butternut squash recipes, Butternut Carrot Chicken Soup/Stew.  But fear NOT, daily menus will return tomorrow!



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Discussion

There are 75 comments so far.

    Helen

    January 3, 2008

    Boy, people have some nerve to comment on your weight and tummy tuck! Wonder what THEY weigh and how much their weights fluctuate! I appreciate that you were willing to share that part of your journey with everyone. Well, I appreciate that you share ALL your journey with us! It helps when I have an off day to realize others do, too, and still manage to be successful in the long run.

    Alle

    January 4, 2008

    Hey Roni,

    Honestly, I don’t even think you needed to address those comments. Not that I don’t enjoy reading your posts, but from what those people said, it sounds like they are just trying to get a rise out of you or just against the concept of a tummy tuck in general. They sound like bored, angry people who want to nitpick at you because you are a success. Addressing their comments validates them in some way.

    I’m glad you didn’t take what they said to heart, though, and you’re standing up for what you believe in. It’s so easy to turn around and say, “hey, really? are they right?” instead of saying, “hey, wait a minute, you’re crazy!!” I’m glad you did the latter. :)

    The thing I like most about you is that you have truly embraced the concept of a lifestyle change and you take the good with the bad, the gains with the losses, and look at the bigger picture. That’s hard to do, but honestly, THAT’S why you’re a success story, and that’s why you have a huge blogging community that is inspired by you.

    Keep it up!! And to all those “haters:” pllllbbbbbbbbttttttt!!!!!! :)

    Anonymous

    January 4, 2008

    I’ve read your blog for a few months now and have it in my list of “favorites.” I am not seriously trying to lose weight yet, though I should be. I would guess that those who comment negatively on your TT would be those green with envy. You got the TT AFTER you lost the weight, not to lose the weight, there’s a big difference there! Also, everyone should remember that you are working out now and weren’t before and muscle weighs more than fat! You are so right, life happens. The scale said you lost 3 pounds overnight. Did you really? No. Does the scale lie? Absolutely! I’ve stepped on a scale 4 times within 10 minutes and gotten a different number each time on the same scale–with as much as a 4lb. spread. Did I really gain/lose 4lbs in 10 minutes? I don’t think so! Give it up people, Roni’s just sharing her success and encouraging others to share their’s. If you don’t like to hear/read about it, don’t!

    Sarah

    January 4, 2008

    Don’t even address these people! They don’t deserve it and they’re just trying to be controversial. You look great, you feel great – that is all that matters. Obviously these folks can’t say the same since they’re spending a lot of time ripping others apart.

    Crabby McSlacker

    January 4, 2008

    Must be a sign of your popularity that you’d get comments from all kind of folks — including those who don’t have a clue about maintenance. Good for you for not letting them bother you and for setting the record straight.

    And thanks for the info on what you liked about WW! It seems like a system that works well for a lot of people–but like you say, no one program or system works for everyone, so it’s always helpful to have more information.

    Anar

    January 4, 2008

    I think the appropriate answer is to just go to gym, do two sets of circuit training and show them your firm, lean, worked out, slim with weight watchers rare view that so perfectly matches your flat tummy!

    They are just jealous.

    Anar

    Joyce

    January 4, 2008

    No they DIDN’T?!
    REALLY?

    Oh Roni, I could SO let loose with righteous indignation, and it’s not even my fight!

    All I can say is, right ON sistah!
    *fist pump*

    BTW, I could have sworn that *I* invented doing core on flex. But you can get the glory. I will be magnanimous. ;~}

    You took the words out of my HEAD when you explained your reasons why WW works. I have that same competitiveness within me. I strive to succeed, to out-do myself, to impress – mostly to impress myself. I love knowing that I CAN DO IT.

    I also thrive on the challenge. This is hard work. But it was hard to be fat. So what that losing weight is also hard work. You choose your hard.
    I feel the same way you do about meetings.

    Some people just to not get into the social, supportive nature of groups. To each her own.

    But to question your TT, after you lost 70 pounds!
    Sweetie, you do not have to take that chit!

    I’m glad you took them on! You GO get’em!

    Joyce

    January 4, 2008

    And to be honest, I would have published their IP address and location of their server.

    You know, the info you get off of any decent stat-tracker.

    Don’t these people know that exists?

    You’re better than me, Roni.
    I’d bust them COLD!

    lava5000

    January 4, 2008

    Too funny. I was on the core ww message board today and they completely bashed me because I said the word flore. They kept saying over and over again that ww does not have flore. No duh! I am overweight because I overeat. I need the points to help me stay on track with my calories but want to learn to eat clean. I was just asking them if they knew of any websites with recipes that use core foods but also list the points. No core sites that I found do that. Anyways, I am glad I found your site, and thank you.

    Dulcie

    January 4, 2008

    I agree with everyone else.. ignore those naysayers.

    yes it is very normal to go up and down. I worry when I see someone weighing in every month and they are exactly the same… actually, it doesnt happen :) Its also why WW gives you the 2lbs over your limit, because it happens.

    As for it being a lifestyle. It is.. if I ever dropped WW, where would I be? I can place money on the fact that I will gain all my weight back. Its not the quick fix diet that makes you lose 15lbs in a week. That just doesnt happen, when it does.. its not healthy. Biggest Loser makes that hard for some to understand. I can always tell when Im weighing in people that a new Biggest Loser has started, because they start expecting those big numbers. Sorry.. just doesnt happen in regular everyday life (unless something is really wrong!).

    formeforlife

    January 4, 2008

    Jealous, jealous, jealous. You are obviously doing an amazing job on maintenance and honesly, anyone who has any kind of a clue how WW works will know and understand that. I think it’s good you acknowledged them, but honestly, it’ll probably do no good untl they truly educate themselves! Keep up all your amazing work Roni!

    Courtney (formeforlife)

    Kathy

    January 4, 2008

    Well, if anyone wants a scene from “Westside Story”, I have your back, Roni! I definitely understand WW as a model for my lifestyle change and the absolute wisdom of seeing and utilizing the common theme that runs between Core and Flex to create the best plan that ever came along! I’ve been doing it for two years and have lost 80 pounds. I also agree that each of us has to experiment and find the plan that works for us.
    When you succeed, you also set yourself up for the criticism of those who don’t. It’s a public forum and they are out there with their baskets of tomatoes to throw…lol…Just pick them up and make one of your great recipes from them!
    You have a whole lot more supporters than you have detractors and you always will!

    kristina

    January 4, 2008

    Those comments were just flat out rude and offensive! Just know that you have helped sooo many people. I look at your blog all of the time for encouragement, food ideas…just a reminder in general that I can do it too. And I have that competitive streak too..we now have a 4 member team for Asheville’s Biggest Loser contest and that accountability is Huge for me!

    Regan

    January 4, 2008

    I am in shock that someone would comment about gaining a few pounds. Like you said, it is called life and maintenance. You have not gained 75 pounds back, nor will you allow yourself to! Continue to do what you do and realize there are still many of us who continue to be inspired by you.

    Thanks for all the encouragement and the real life aspects of weightlos!

    Anonymous

    January 4, 2008

    Morning Roni!

    I’ve seen those comments on your blog and never could understand the intent behind them….you handle them very well! And they really don’t deserve the time of day!
    Weight watchers “lifestyle”….it truly is, but I feel everyone has to make it work for themselves in different ways. Roni…you have given me more tools and encouragement than ww’s has ever given me….and I haven’t given you a dime! lol…I should though! The healthy guidelines are great, the list of core foods and the portion control is what I concentrate on….but the meetings have not been good for me. My particular leader run her meeting without any purpose or direction and it just seemed like babbling! I stuck it out for 6 months but it didn’t get any better. I took what I could from the whole experience and I have lost weight but I still need to keep going. Yes it is a lifestyle but it most certainly is a diet too….still no eating with reckless abandon. Keep up the great work Roni! You are doing great!
    Michelle in Ontario

    Anonymous

    January 4, 2008

    PEOPLE SAY THAT TO YOU? Oh my god…the nerve. Actually, the jealousy and childishness….how freakin silly!!!!! YOU ROCK RONI, and you are an inspiration to so many- never mind the haters.

    Jenn & Ed

    January 4, 2008

    THOSE PEOPLE ARE ABSOLUTELY RIDICULOUS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! They are called toxic people and get their joy from putting others down. Delete their comments and forget about them. For one thing, you have been working out and doing strength training…anyone on earth will tell you that it is perfectly common to gain a few pounds while still getting smaller because muscle is denser than fat. You look amazing, you have done an amazing job and anyone who wants to rain on your parade is just flat out jealous. Everyone has fluctuations, and it can be for a million reasons. You do not need to justify one single thing to us…you have proven yourself already. Perhaps those posters might like to spend a bit more time working on themselves and little less time trying to pick you apart. Give me a break. Do NOT let them get you down or make you question yourself. You have a million opinions on here to the contrary. There are going to always be a sad few who want to hurt others feelings for whatever reason. You are an inspiration to many and we are all grateful for all of your hard work on this site. I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE it!!! I talk about you like I know you to my husband “gosh, Roni had some great ideas on this recipe!” “who’s Roni?” “you know, from the blog…” “oh, right…”

    Keep up the good work and delete the negativity.

    Jenn

    lindsey

    January 4, 2008

    Typing one handed here – but wanted you to know if it weren’t for you I wouldn’t be at the weight I am today, and continuing to go down. You’re awesome:)

    Kate

    January 4, 2008

    People can be so rude, it just floors me!

    I’ve heard people are up in arms over the Weight Watchers Campaign, why should they be? All these other diets are out there claiming they are a “way of life” when really they are just drastic get slim-quick schemes. At least weight watchers really is a way of life, if you stick with it you can lose the weight and keep it off ;)

    I love Weight Watchers, and I’m glad to find someone else who does!

    Anonymous

    January 4, 2008

    Let me just say, i really enjoy your site, it gives me inspiration, motivation, and reminds me that i am not alone in this fight to be fit. some people are so miserable with themselves, that bashing others makes them feel good. i pitty them, and their narrow minds. anyhow, i like the new ad campaign, as a ww maintainer now myself(78 pounds) i am getting a little sick of the comments i still get from a few people, “you’re still counting points?” “when are you going to quit dieting already?” trying to explain till i am blue in the face that iam not on a diet, and that if i dont continue to track my points everyday, i will surely be right back where i started! I applaud ww for their efforts, it is still the most reasonably priced weight loss program that i know of that actually works, it you work it! thanks for your efforts, they are greatly appreciated!

    Jenny O.

    January 4, 2008

    Wow. Considering the stats on how many of us will regain our weight, I say you are to be commended on how well you’ve done maintaining. You’re right, fluctuations are normal. It’s compeltely unhealthy to think that once you lose weight you will never go above your goal weight again.

    Insane. Clearly, these emailers of yours are not based in reality.

    Nicole

    January 4, 2008

    Good For You Roni!

    and i totally agree w/ the whole WW lifestyle thing…it really is a lifestyle for me now as well.

    Anonymous

    January 4, 2008

    Hey Roni–

    Love the whole “Flore” concept–it’s exactly what I did even before I discovered your blog-lost 70 lbs–maintaining for a year now–with the normal ups and downs that goes with maintanence–isn’t it nice to know that with the WW lifestyle program you can live life and still maintain health and fitness! And I’m really enjoying your food blog!

    Talysa

    January 4, 2008

    Roni,

    “What do you think a haters job is…to hate…i guess I’ll let them do their job.” (Katt Williams)

    I believe this means…”You Have Arrived!” :-) Does a tummy tuck have to do with weight loss??? Not in my opinion! It has to do with your own personal choice to change something that bothered you. Even if you were 20 pounds heavier, I’m sure you’d still like your flat tummy! I would love to do it(I’m way too chicken!) and I believe your critics would too…which is completely where their criticizing comes from. Not mentioning the tremendous encouragement you have brought to many many of sitting in our homes on our laptops hundreds of miles away, not mentioning the gift you have for concocting amazing recipes, and not mentioning that tummy tuck or not, you lost 70 freakin pounds…(WHOO HOO!!!) you have taught your toddler to appreciate a healthy lifestyle and to appreciate healthy foods. That my dear is your ultimate accomplishment in my book! You have changed your family tree so to speak! And you seem so stinkin happy!

    Leave Roni alone people! Can’t you see she’s busy inspiring me!!!!

    PS. (Can you PS on a blog comment?)Have you mentioned before the gym you attend? Is it a chain? And have you ever had any feedback on Curves gyms for women? Know of anyone that had any real body changes due to working out at one? They make them look too easy and intermediate I think so I am curious.

    Llama Momma

    January 4, 2008

    For the record, I think you’re totally amazing. AMAZING.

    I dream of a tummy tuck myself someday…after I lose this last fifteen pounds. Carrying twins did a doozie on my belly…can someone say “twin skin”? And weight loss just makes it worse.

    Honestly, what does a tummy tuck and gaining / losing five pounds have to do with eachother? I don’t even get it.

    They’re probably just jealous because you are doing GREAT and you look FANTASTIC!!!

    totegirl

    January 4, 2008

    Some people are jealous! That’s what it sounds like to me. Anyway, I agree with you on Weight Watchers. You can’t get to a good weight and then go back to your old lifestyle. That’s just dumb! So yes, WW is a lifestyle! And I can’t wait to rejoin. Gotta get a little more out of debt though…

    Keep up the good work, and thanks for teaching what the heck to do with a butternut squash! Love ya girlie!

    eurydice

    January 4, 2008

    i like weight watchers because it’s (one of) the only program(s) where you can eat whatever you want. as an overweight person, you see skinny people eating “whatever they want” and you think there is some magic secret or metabolism that they have. but really, anyone can eat whatever they want. it’s just about portion control, like you said.

    Holly

    January 4, 2008

    Rude, rude, rude!

    Everyone else has already said it, but damn it, you rock. You lost 70 lbs AND had a baby. If you want a TT after that, why not?!

    I’m with Joyce, I’d publish their IP’s ;) (But that’s why I don’t have a blog, I can’t take the critics!)

    -Holly

    Liz

    January 4, 2008

    Amen sister! I am a maintaining WW-er and it’s a mindset and a way of life for me. I know that weight fluctuates and I know what it takes to keep myself healthy and on track. WW taught me that, and like you said if it doesn’t work for you or you want to turn it into a obsession well then don’t do it!

    I really enjoy your blog(s) and I can identify with most if not all of the issues you have with your weight. I am very happy you’ve discovered the gym and more importantly weight training. For me it is the KEY to maintenance. If I have one problem with WW it is that they don’t emphasis that enough.

    You’re doing great Roni and good for you getting back on track and feeling great! (For me too, bye bye holidays *whew* !)

    Stefanie562

    January 4, 2008

    Wow… people really do have some nerve. They probably just can’t keep their weight off and need to take it out on someone who is confident, motivated and beautiful!!! Keep doing what you’re doing… You’re a motivation to us all!

    Anonymous

    January 4, 2008

    Wow. I’ve never posted a comment before, but I have to say, wow. People have some serious nerve. I appreciate your pluck and am awed at the effort you put forth for the community you’ve built. I wouldn’t suggest people temper or censor their criticisms/opionions (it speaks well of your cite that they feel free to let them fly and certainly invites a lively forum), but they may do well to consider the intentions of their comments, which certainly can be interpreted as mean-spirited and invidious.

    Anonymous

    January 4, 2008

    Roni, I commend you on the Weight Watchers (WW) Maintainer Rant. I too, have joined and joined and joined Weight Watchers, one time only being 3 pounds from goal weight only to move to another part of Michigan where their Weight Watchers meetings leave the participants begging for better leaders. I rejoined several years ago and it was no better than 17 years ago. I have all the tools to do WW but I found when we did have good informative leaders the meetings WERE successful for everyone in attendance including myself. Then the leaders left, management changed and again attendance has slacked off. Now my local center is pushing people to do WW online or pay monthly with credit card for something called a monthly pass which I refuse to do.

    Don’t pay any attention to the comments others make. They are focusing on your changes to your body because they secretly wish they had the courage to do what you did and continue to do. I read your blog almost daily as I continue on my journey to getting to “my goal weight” without the help of my local center. I’m going to be successful because I’m doing it in spite of them. Chris from Mid Michigan

    MtngirlinCali

    January 4, 2008

    I am just floored by the comments you received about your weight fluctuations. Clearly, they are not right in their head and don’t realize that as humans, with changing metabolisms, that variation happens! Don’t let it get you down…you don’t need to worry about any of us out here in cyberspace….you answer to you. But this unimportant voice just wants you to know that you are doing fantastic and you look great! (And I do feel that sometimes our lowest weight that we’ve achieved may not necessarily be the healthiest— you are now working out and instead of being rail thin and weak, you are toned and strong but still look thin– best of both worlds)

    Anonymous

    January 4, 2008

    Wow! What a popular post. I think that I read your blog daily because I think that I mirror your experience, minus the TT. I would get one if I had the extra $$ lying around. I have lost 60 pounds and maintained it for over a year and a half. I too have had a few fluctuations here and there but after the holidays or whatever event. I get right back on track. I almost feel empowered by the ability to do so. I could not have done that in the past. I also have done it with the “flore” plan. I agree with other posters and yourself that still count points even on maintenance. I just know that I have to. If I didn’t I would take the extra and not be accountable to anyone for it. If that makes me a pt counting geek or a control freak or just a weirdo(all names I have been called) then so be it. This is a lifestyle for me and I am OK with it.
    Keep up the inspiration I thrive on it.
    Thanks
    Rebecca in Kansas
    Keep up the inspiration to yourself and others.

    RunningNan

    January 4, 2008

    They are just jealous because you looked fabulous on the cover of a magazine, and they didn’t! You are a huge inspiration to many people here, and it’s your honesty that keeps us so drawn. Look at Star Jones. She denied her surgery til she was blue in the face, then came out and admitted to it. I would’ve had more respect for her if she just came out with the truth in the first place. So many people struggle with weight, and are trying to find a way to deal with it.

    Weight watchers is what really fueled my major loss. I still stick by the concepts, but had to monitor what I eat in a different way. It is true, it’s a lifestyle change, and one size doens’t fit all, but they sure do try!

    ortal

    January 4, 2008

    wow people have a lot of nerve… don’t let other peoples low self esteem and *cough* jealousy get you down. wonder how much they weigh!!

    and P.S. flore rocks!

    Alisha

    January 4, 2008

    I’m not gonna pay any attention to the TT comments…it’s your body, do what you wanna do!

    As for the WW is a Diet thing….that is really weird to me. I used to see it as such, but after being in this different lifestyle for a year, I know that it is not at DIET. WW has taught me so much in the line of better choices and doing exercise, which for some reason people don’t think that WW emphasizes that enough, but in ALL my meetings exercise is talked about greatly! And they say they don’t wanna pay someone, but they don’t know that it is FREE to lifetimers and, yes, I said LIFEtimers because it is a LIFEstyle change to be good to your health for LIFE!

    uncpdeb

    January 4, 2008

    Hey
    I cannot believe some people. They are just jealous of your success. I agree with you all the way!!! My weight fluctuates, too and I’ve lost 70 lbs just like you have…I always hover between 160 and 165. That’s the way it is…I’m glad you don’t let them get to you. ROCK ON YO!!!! DO YOUR THING! (ha ha…) if you knew me better, you’d know I don’t really talk like that…..
    keep on keepin’ on

    bonnier325

    January 4, 2008

    Roni, Whoaaa….what a bunch of knuckleheads to knock you like that! YOU have been my inspiration, as well as hundreds of others’ inspiration, it appears. I have been successful at this in part because of YOU! I eat your recipes, I also do FLORE, and I am very consciously aware of the fact, because of YOU, that losing the weight in the first place, is easier than maintaining it afterward. Therefore, it’s in my head that,when I get the remaining 40.8 pounds off (I’m 55.8% there), that I will continue to WRITE what I BITE, and continue Curves and pilates and any other way to “be active”, in essense “live this lifestyle”, so that I can remain feeling as good as I already do now…and better. I can see by your generous insight into your every day life, that it is possible to do this, that I don’t have to go back to being fat again, only to have to get motivated again and lose the weight ….one more time. I’m tired of that life. I want to live my life, for the rest of my life, like you’re doing. And I realize that I will be able to have fried chicken again (once in a while, not every day)…and that my weight will fluxuate by a few pounds here and there, and that’s OK…as long as I get right back up on the horse and ride the FLORE!

    You keep up the good work Roni girl! You’re the best!

    Bonnie

    Adriana

    January 4, 2008

    Everyone else has said it and i’m going to add to the list. The people who make those comments are the ones that are unhappy in their own skin. Everyone who is on Weight Watchers, and please correct me if i’m wrong, wants to feel better, look better and be healthier. You did what you did so you can enjoy your success to the fullest and more power to you! An old co-worker of mine had lost over 200 lbs, but because she was so skinny, she had all of this excess skin on her arms, legs and stomach and was embarrassed to wear anything that showed skin. it was as if one obstacle was overcome, but there was still another one. In the end, the only thing that should matter is what makes YOU feel good. If people don’t like it, then too bad for them, they shouldn’t do it.

    As for WW being a lifestyle, rather than a diet, I completely agree. Maybe this kind of marketing will help people understand WW isn’t something that you do for a few months, lose weight on and then go back to the way you were eating before you attended a meeting.

    Love your site, you’re definitely an inspiration!

    Swizzlepop

    January 4, 2008

    Are you effing kidding me? I would have lost it, you are far better than me on that one and like a pp said, I too would have busted them and posted an IP or email addy or something.
    I hope you just deleted teh email and even marked it as SPAM or blocked them.
    I feel like a broken record but you are great and inspiring and supportive and motiving and helpful, and, and the list goes on. Obviously I’m not the only one who feels this way either.
    Jealousy really is an ugly thing.
    Just remember you are beautiful and strong and powerful!

    kt

    January 4, 2008

    omg. i’m just floored people have the odacity to email you things like that. thats beyond rude. im sorry.

    magnolia mama

    January 4, 2008

    I came across your website yesterday as I just re-started WW after a little break. I’m trying to find WW blogs to post on my blog. I’ll definitely be adding yours to my list.

    Good for you for getting a tummy tuck! I would love to have one!

    Anonymous

    January 4, 2008

    AS A WEIGHT WATCHERS MAINAINER MYSELF I WOULD NOT EVEN CARE WHAT THOSE NEGATIVE LOOSERS HAVE TO SAY. LIFE HAPPENS. I WAS AT GOAL ONE OTHER TIME ABOUT 4 YEARS AGO. I DIDN’T APPRECIATE THE FACT THAT I WORKED HARD AND NEEDED TO LIVE THE PROGRAM TO KEEP THE WEIGHT OFF AND GUESS WHAT??? BACK CAME 40 POUNDS. NOW I’VE LEARNED. I JOURNAL REGULARLY, WORK OUT 4-7 DAYS A WEEK AND I ATTEND MEETINGS AT LEAST EVERY OTHER WEEK. AND I WEIGHT IN NOT ONCE A MONTH LIKE I HAVE TOO, BUT I WEIGHT IN EVERY OTHER WEEK…JUST TO KEEP ME ON MY TOES. ITS A MATTER OF CHOICES. I LOVE WEIGHT WATCHERS. I CAN SAY THAT IT SAVED MY LIFE. SO DON’T LET ANYONE TAKE YOUR SPIRIT. YOU INSIRE SOOOOOO MANY OF US. WE NEED YOU RONI. AND WE LOVE YA!!!! THANK YOU.

    JAMI

    Bev

    January 4, 2008

    Maintenance is a process in itself and I applaud you for your healthy lifestyle!

    Anonymous

    January 4, 2008

    I can’t believe that they would say such things. I LOVE your posts! I find so much inspiration from them, and I read them every day. Thank you so much for sharing your life with all of us. I joined weightwatchers shortly after I stumbled across your posts, and I look forward to losing weight this new year. Keep up the great work Roni!!

    Inhale then exhale

    January 4, 2008

    Boy, shake the haters!
    you look fabulous, in fact I think you are at the lower end of your weight range!
    SHUT UP to those people!

    Marcie

    January 4, 2008

    Roni, YOU were the reason I joined WW on November 10th…since then I’ve lost 22 pounds and I LOVE WW! I check your site every day to see what you’ve posted (oh dear…I’m sounding like a stalker! I’m harmless…I promise!) and on the days when you don’t have time to post, I feel a bit sad but understand. So I’m sorry that others have been mean. You’re still my hero. ((((hugs))))

    Anonymous

    January 4, 2008

    Roni YOU ROCK! Do you know how many days I have stayed ‘on’ because of something you said! You are a real life success and MAINTENANCE story! Thank you for being real with us and to the haters I say “bite ME” LOL!

    Anonymous

    January 4, 2008

    Those comments make me mad for you!! I too am a lifetimer at WW and I understand about those few pound fluctuations. I think you do an amazing job at keeping the right attitude and I try to use your advise not to get caught up in a number on the scale (although its tough). My mother in law just asked me why I was on a diet, “you are so skinny…” Well I agree, WW is a lifestyle and I need to keep to that lifestyle to keep the weight off and my eating in control. Plain and simple.

    anewday

    January 4, 2008

    OH SNAP!! I guess you told THEM! LOL! Good for you….pure jealousy on their part. Forget about ’em and keep on keeping on! MEOWWWWWWWWWWWWWW!!!

    alwayshungry

    January 4, 2008

    I agree with alle-you shouldnt even look at those comments. Remember-these are people who spend their time reading YOUR blog. You are an inspiration to all who have struggled with disordered eating. Remaining healthy is important, remaining happy is the most important however. Life is short-and the balance to life is maintaining happiness and health together-as you do. You are fabolous and people are jealous. Your blog is wonderful-and I love reading it!!!
    Thank you for providing such wonderful blogging!!!

    HappyBlogChick

    January 4, 2008

    You’re an inspiration – thanks for sharing your story. Ignore the clueless folks, and enjoy your awesomeness.

    Ellie

    January 4, 2008

    In the words of Jimmy Walker…you look DY-NO-MITE!!!!!! THat whole being good vs being bad is the kind of black and white thinking that got us hooked on the food to begin with. You have found a great balance and share your life with so many. THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU! You inspire so many!

    Anonymous

    January 4, 2008

    Unbelievable, I cannot believe they could email you such nonsense!!!

    I agree with your veiw of WW, it has to be a lifestyle if you want to maintain the loss, as soon as I go back to my old lifestyle along comes the old weight back :)

    Tina

    January 4, 2008

    Doesn’t shock me that they’re are haters out there. Way to go on being positive and such an inspiration to so many. You definitely have inspired me!

    carolyn a.

    January 4, 2008

    Well, I see there are 56 comments already – and I haven’t read them yet. But I would imagine people are pissed off at the comments you posted about the decision to have surgery. I know they pissed ME off. Let me know where they live. I will beat them up. LOL

    Carolyn A.

    Michele

    January 4, 2008

    Wow, just wow! I can not believe anyone would say such things to you but you know what, some people are just plain old mean and/or jealous. Ignore them, Roni! You did what you did for YOU and don’t let them bring you down. You are so right – life happens! I’m almost at my goal and I hope I can maintain as well as you have when I get there. Just think about how many people you inspire and forget about these negative people.

    amyr67

    January 4, 2008

    Thank you so much for taking the time to welcome me to the community!!! I love reading your posts!! You look WONDERFUL!!! ;)

    Candace

    January 4, 2008

    It’s been a while since I’ve posted a comment here, but I may as well jump on the bandwagon today. You’s hot mama with this one.
    TT: Pffft. What-ev-errr! Sorry – I thought you were still UNDER your lifetime goal with a HEALTHY BMI. Hello??? For-get it!
    Flore: Corrine and the other ladies at Phit-n-Phat actually use this term a lot. Corrine lost weight with WW and now eats clean. A lot of her clients are on WW or WW leaders – myself included (member here with 5.8 to go to goal – woohoo). The big thing is flore. The thing is, a lot of overweight people don’t KNOW when they’re full/satisfied until the hit the ‘stuffed’ stage. They say portions have a tendancy to get bigger over time if you stop counting points and measuring. Yeah, that’s one of the things that got me to pushing 190lbs in the first place. If WW doesn’t recognize that flore is a valid option they are missing out because a lot of people want it. We aren’t missing out – it just takes more effort to calculate the points.
    WW: Definately lifestyle. Someone commented the other day they couldn’t believe how I’d stuck to the diet as long as I have, but before I could respond she said “But it doesn’t seem like a diet for you. More like a lifestyle change.” Bingo.

    Take care,

    wonderwitch121

    January 5, 2008

    Hey Roni…checked out the Rant. After we spoke I thought about the fact that you are going to the gym and using the weights. Muscle does weigh more than fat. You could have a 135 woman, who is 5’5″, but because she is lifting and has tight muscle, she could be in a size 4 to 6. I have to say I actually got a little PO’ed when I saw the comments you were talking about. In addition to the solid muscle gain, everyone has a weight zone. Not to mention you can loose 5 lbs in a week!

    I think the green with envy comment used by another reader says it all. Sometimes those of us that are so unhappy with ourselves and are unable to accept the fact that there are people who have actually acheived what we dream about find it easier to attack others or put digs in because of our own misery. Remember “Misery” loves company.

    You look great, your mood is great and your energy is infectious.

    Oh, and my mind is set, I am going to give WW a shot. Looking to do the 10:30 meeting, I am going to hit the Y first so I feel motivated when I get there.

    It’s funny, I read your New Years entry and had to laugh. When we watched the video of Christmas day and my mother sent me some photos, it bothered me so much that I know my mind was set the moment my stomach turned. I have reached my highest weight EVER! When Tess was little, I rollerbladded with her, road bikes, and played ball with her. If I don’t fix the damage I <<<------ yes I, no one else did this, have allowed to occur to MY body, what memories will Trinity have of me! Your great and it is a pleasure to know you!

    k

    January 5, 2008

    I maintained an 83 lb. WW weight loss for over two years and then injured my tailbone and back and ended up on steroids and limited exercise for 8 months…gaining back over 40 lbs…not by choice.

    People had some pretty cruel things to say on my blog and in emails and it just floored me. The negative stuff just kept coming.

    I love when people say, “life happens” because it’s so true. I too NEVER thought I would gain any of my weight back…NEVER. My health suffered and the steroid injections and pain meds were the only thing that allowed me to work an 8 hr. day…so I was stuck.

    People sometimes don’t understand that people who have had success with weight loss, people that have weight loss journey blogs, etc. are human. You are doing awesome and you will continue to do awesome. I am now off the meds and the weight is coming back off…I didn’t unlearn everything just because I put weight back on. People either get it, or they don’t…sounds like some of your readers “don’t” and never will. Keep up the amazing maintenance work you have been doing, it’s really inspiring.

    beulah

    January 5, 2008

    Whatever happened to if you don’t have anything nice to say then dont say anything at all? . I think you are doing a great job maintaining and cannot even imagine how hard it is. Keep up the good work!!

    Anonymous

    January 5, 2008

    Hi Roni,

    I am surprised by people everyday! I just wanted to say how much you have really helped me in my weight loss journey. I started 2 years ago and have lost about 120 pounds. I have between 10-30 pounds to go depending on what I choose as my goal. It is much harder now to lose and be creative with daily meals.
    I, like everyone, lose motivation from time to time and I have to say it is YOU and your webpages that usually get me thru the tough times. I am a foodie, I take pictures of meals I have made and I just like good food. When I found your website it was honestly as if someone read my mind and knew what I needed. sorry so long, but you are a real inspiration and someone I really admire! Keep up the good work, and forget about the JERKS!
    Your Friend, Angie

    Kate

    January 5, 2008

    People post on the message boards asking about Flore, which is kinda funny for a few reasons. Core people are very evangelical about their choice of plan (myself included). So that would be like walking into a temple and asking everyone when they think Jesus is coming back. :-)

    The whole point of Core is to learn to listen to your body. Obviously, portions are important, but if learn when you’re really hungry, you’ll stop eating. I think Core’s just about the easiest thing ever. :-)

    ronji

    January 5, 2008

    Love ya Roni…stop by everyday to see what you are up to. Everyone has something to say, but good for you for not taking it to heart. WW works for some and not for others…oh well :) I am doing very well on WW because I now have the tools and knowledge to make the right choices…and still live my life…I don’t know how that won’t work for some but hey sometimes people just don’t like it when life gets to easy. Anyway, keep on posting and I will keep on reading…have a great day!!

    Angela

    January 6, 2008

    Roni,
    Thanks for mentioning Flore, it really makes sense, and I am going to try that. The idiotic remarks from those pertaining to your TT are out of pure JEALOUSY :) you look Maahvalous :) Thanks for your inspiration!

    Eve

    January 6, 2008

    I am also on WW and I thought it was strange people getting so upset about not calling it a diet. That is the ENTIRE idea of WW really – learning to eat and exercise in a way to optimize and maintain your health. My experience on the WW boards has been that they lose their minds when people call it a diet, since it is about changing your life.

    Congratulations on your continued success! I hope to be maintaining one day in the not too distant future, too. Also, is this an okay time for me to say I made delicata squash fries tonight and they ROCKED!!!! Man, they were good!

    NCChris

    January 6, 2008

    Roni – I’m trying not to sit here and fume about the bonehead comments, but if you can let it go, so can I! ;)

    Everyone with half a brain knows that no one maintains at the exact same weight all the time… even “skinny” folks that didn’t lose a ton of weight and become a inspiration to an entire Internet full of people!

    Keep up the good work and thank you for continuing to share yuor journey with us.

    -Chris

    allijag

    January 7, 2008

    I have been meaning to post on this but things have been so crazy lately. Let me start by being honest and saying what I mean: “Screw them!”;

    Some people are just never happy with themselves and they need to take it out on someone else. Anyone who reads your blog (and who has successfully done any sort of weight loss themselves) realizes that there is fluctuation in weight. Those comments about your TT are just garbage, and I hope you realize it. (I know you do!)

    You look great, you are a true inspiration, and I love your sites, you have helped me learn to cook so much healthier. You go girl! ;)

    No Where to Run ...

    January 7, 2008

    WOW! you sure do take criticism like a real woman!! it just reiterates for me how awesome you are! thanks for all you do…you inspire me!

    Roni

    January 7, 2008

    I said this in a post but I need to say it again….

    “I have to thank you ALL for you wonderful comments the other day. Every one I got put an enormous smile on my face and it makes this all worth it. It really does. The site has become so much more then just my accountability and it truly is amazing.”

    I really don’t know what to say. I am speechless for this kind of support. SPEECHLESS!

    Katie

    January 19, 2008

    Roni, that post just made me cry. I’m always failing weight watchers because I’ll gain or feel bloated and think I failed and then crash on some horrible junk food and then say to myself “this has to be normal” I’m just so glad that I can see that the scale may hold a number, but you’re right if your clothes fit and you feel healthier … THAT is what counts. You are an inspiration.

    Katie

    mandie

    April 25, 2008

    i think you are doing great on WW. i love there program, at my heaviest i weight 270 now am still a chunky girl at 208, but look and feel lots better. i know i have a long way to go, but WW can work for people they just have to give it a couple weeks to feel like you are not starving to death.

    Laura

    January 30, 2014

    For gosh sakes – those people are just jealous; probably never stuck to a plan at all and now want to pull you down to their level. I do Weight Watchers and love it!! I’m lifetime but went off plan and am now back working to get off what I gained back. I have a friend who had weight loss surgery. A lot of people think you have that surgery, lose all your weight, and you continue to eat anything you want. So wrong, WLS is nothing more than a “tool” to get the weight loss started. Yes, you will lose a good bit initially, but you will eat very little and you still have to watch what you eat or else the weight comes back. So WLS surgery is not “the easy way out”. As far as your tummy tuck – hey I wish I had the money to have one done, hate the loose skin that comes with weight loss; but I’ve learned to live with it!!
    You’re doing great – block the naysayers!
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