Comments on: Mommy Guilt – Should We Feel Guilty? http://ronisweigh.com/2007/10/mommy-guilt-should-we-feel-guilty.html One Mom's Journey from Fat to Skinny to Healthy. Fri, 10 Feb 2012 01:50:31 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Roni http://ronisweigh.com/2007/10/mommy-guilt-should-we-feel-guilty.html/comment-page-1#comment-1762 Roni Sat, 27 Oct 2007 00:20:00 +0000 http://ronisweigh.com/2007/10/mommy-guilt-should-we-feel-guilty/#comment-1762 Ali - No worries. I didn't mean to start such an uproar either. Like you, I was just trying to tell Michelle how I did/do it. <br/><br/>Congrats on your loss!! <br/><br/>And I totally agree, make the best of this one life! Ali – No worries. I didn’t mean to start such an uproar either. Like you, I was just trying to tell Michelle how I did/do it.

Congrats on your loss!!

And I totally agree, make the best of this one life!

]]> By: Ali http://ronisweigh.com/2007/10/mommy-guilt-should-we-feel-guilty.html/comment-page-1#comment-1760 Ali Fri, 26 Oct 2007 18:38:00 +0000 http://ronisweigh.com/2007/10/mommy-guilt-should-we-feel-guilty/#comment-1760 Ok....I'm very sorry if I hurt any feelings. I just wanted to give tips on things you can do with your child at home for exercise and not have to feel guilty about putting them in day care to go to the gym. And I didn't mean to put down mothers that work at all. I just meant that sometimes the mommy guilt is our inside voice telling us that we would rather be spending time with our children, and I think we need to listen to that. There was a time in my life where I had to ask where the guilt was coming from and do something about it because I couldn't live with it. I deeply apologize to you, Roni, if what I said was harmful and hurtful to others. You have a wonderful site and you have been a blessing to me in my 50+ lb weight loss and now at my goal. Ok, nap time is over. Enjoy your day! And good luck to everyone on this journey we call life....we only have this one....make it the best! Ok….I’m very sorry if I hurt any feelings. I just wanted to give tips on things you can do with your child at home for exercise and not have to feel guilty about putting them in day care to go to the gym. And I didn’t mean to put down mothers that work at all. I just meant that sometimes the mommy guilt is our inside voice telling us that we would rather be spending time with our children, and I think we need to listen to that. There was a time in my life where I had to ask where the guilt was coming from and do something about it because I couldn’t live with it. I deeply apologize to you, Roni, if what I said was harmful and hurtful to others. You have a wonderful site and you have been a blessing to me in my 50+ lb weight loss and now at my goal. Ok, nap time is over. Enjoy your day! And good luck to everyone on this journey we call life….we only have this one….make it the best!

]]> By: Anonymous http://ronisweigh.com/2007/10/mommy-guilt-should-we-feel-guilty.html/comment-page-1#comment-1756 Anonymous Fri, 26 Oct 2007 13:10:00 +0000 http://ronisweigh.com/2007/10/mommy-guilt-should-we-feel-guilty/#comment-1756 I am also a school teacher (4th grade) with a 2 1/2 year old and a 9 month old. I work out after I put the kids to bed and pack lunches and diaper bags. 9-10pm is my time to workout . It is sometimes hard to get motivated, but I feel so much better after. As for checking papers (ugh!!), I TRY to do all of my paperwork at school. My advice it to make it part of your daily routine. I am also a school teacher (4th grade) with a 2 1/2 year old and a 9 month old. I work out after I put the kids to bed and pack lunches and diaper bags. 9-10pm is my time to workout . It is sometimes hard to get motivated, but I feel so much better after. As for checking papers (ugh!!), I TRY to do all of my paperwork at school. My advice it to make it part of your daily routine.

]]> By: Chriss http://ronisweigh.com/2007/10/mommy-guilt-should-we-feel-guilty.html/comment-page-1#comment-1752 Chriss Fri, 26 Oct 2007 11:16:00 +0000 http://ronisweigh.com/2007/10/mommy-guilt-should-we-feel-guilty/#comment-1752 Can't we all just get along?? This is the VERY thing I hate about women-attacking each other to "save face" on an issue that's very near and dear to BOTH of our hearts! To whoever it was who used the play on words, with SHAM-really?? Who are you kidding? Do you really think that's what stay at home moms are or can you really not type the abbreviation 4-5 times in your email? And you're a special ed. teacher? Hmm...<br/>I was a teacher B.C. and I will tell you that I chose to stay home with my children. But that's me. I can also tell you that I know moms that are at-home who absolutely hate being stuck at home, so would their children be better off in daycare?-maybe. This battle will never be won by a side, but give Ali a break already. This is America-we are entitled to speak our opinions about ANYTHING-no?? <br/>Maybe we should all focus on our children more and less about what everyone else is doing. Can’t we all just get along?? This is the VERY thing I hate about women-attacking each other to “save face” on an issue that’s very near and dear to BOTH of our hearts! To whoever it was who used the play on words, with SHAM-really?? Who are you kidding? Do you really think that’s what stay at home moms are or can you really not type the abbreviation 4-5 times in your email? And you’re a special ed. teacher? Hmm…
I was a teacher B.C. and I will tell you that I chose to stay home with my children. But that’s me. I can also tell you that I know moms that are at-home who absolutely hate being stuck at home, so would their children be better off in daycare?-maybe. This battle will never be won by a side, but give Ali a break already. This is America-we are entitled to speak our opinions about ANYTHING-no??
Maybe we should all focus on our children more and less about what everyone else is doing.

]]> By: Ashley http://ronisweigh.com/2007/10/mommy-guilt-should-we-feel-guilty.html/comment-page-1#comment-1750 Ashley Fri, 26 Oct 2007 04:08:00 +0000 http://ronisweigh.com/2007/10/mommy-guilt-should-we-feel-guilty/#comment-1750 Wow, I can't believe how many people had biting comments about Ali. All she said was it's good to spend time with your children. She didn't say don't have a job, she just said don't keep them in daycare all day long, and she even gave some alternatives to what you could do to work out. I also think it's VERY important to spend time with a young infant. When they're that small, they're easy to work out with. All the success in the workforce and in the world won't make up for failure in your home. Wow, I can’t believe how many people had biting comments about Ali. All she said was it’s good to spend time with your children. She didn’t say don’t have a job, she just said don’t keep them in daycare all day long, and she even gave some alternatives to what you could do to work out. I also think it’s VERY important to spend time with a young infant. When they’re that small, they’re easy to work out with. All the success in the workforce and in the world won’t make up for failure in your home.

]]> By: Anonymous http://ronisweigh.com/2007/10/mommy-guilt-should-we-feel-guilty.html/comment-page-1#comment-1748 Anonymous Fri, 26 Oct 2007 03:43:00 +0000 http://ronisweigh.com/2007/10/mommy-guilt-should-we-feel-guilty/#comment-1748 okay hoohah, are you Ali or related to Ali?? I don't believe anyone was trying to attack her. I do believe that very few agree w/ her. okay hoohah, are you Ali or related to Ali?? I don’t believe anyone was trying to attack her. I do believe that very few agree w/ her.

]]> By: Roni http://ronisweigh.com/2007/10/mommy-guilt-should-we-feel-guilty.html/comment-page-1#comment-1747 Roni Fri, 26 Oct 2007 03:21:00 +0000 http://ronisweigh.com/2007/10/mommy-guilt-should-we-feel-guilty/#comment-1747 WOW I don't think I ever started a "heated" topic before! I didn't mean to go all controversial and start a WOHM and SAHM battle. <br/><br/>Everyone has to do what's right for them but I don't think being a mom and working outside of the home is a reason not to work out if you want to. <br/><br/>Michelle, I think your plan is PERFECT! I also try to go Sat and Sun and 1-2 days during the week. And If I go in the evening it's normally a family affair, with quality time on the courts with the husband coming along as well. <br/><br/>Email me if you want to chat! I may see you at the Y! WOW I don’t think I ever started a “heated” topic before! I didn’t mean to go all controversial and start a WOHM and SAHM battle.

Everyone has to do what’s right for them but I don’t think being a mom and working outside of the home is a reason not to work out if you want to.

Michelle, I think your plan is PERFECT! I also try to go Sat and Sun and 1-2 days during the week. And If I go in the evening it’s normally a family affair, with quality time on the courts with the husband coming along as well.

Email me if you want to chat! I may see you at the Y!

]]> By: julianne http://ronisweigh.com/2007/10/mommy-guilt-should-we-feel-guilty.html/comment-page-1#comment-1746 julianne Fri, 26 Oct 2007 03:09:00 +0000 http://ronisweigh.com/2007/10/mommy-guilt-should-we-feel-guilty/#comment-1746 I don't think the guilt ever stops. It's par for the Mama course. I like the working out at lunch suggestion or somehow incorporating the baby into the workout, although I think gym time is time well spent. I love going to the Y and my kids love the nursery (that helps ease the guilt). I don’t think the guilt ever stops. It’s par for the Mama course. I like the working out at lunch suggestion or somehow incorporating the baby into the workout, although I think gym time is time well spent. I love going to the Y and my kids love the nursery (that helps ease the guilt).

]]> By: hoohah http://ronisweigh.com/2007/10/mommy-guilt-should-we-feel-guilty.html/comment-page-1#comment-1745 hoohah Fri, 26 Oct 2007 02:54:00 +0000 http://ronisweigh.com/2007/10/mommy-guilt-should-we-feel-guilty/#comment-1745 I have never commented on this blog before, but I felt compelled after reading all the attacks on ali. Listen, ali is entitled to HER opinion, just as you all are entitled to yours. She has her own perspective. If you open up your mind a little, she may even have some valid points. I've even heard of studies out there that have found that QUANTITY time is most definitely AS IMPORTANT as QUALITY time with our children. I know that's not what working moms want to hear, but don't shoot me--I'm just the messenger. Re: feeling guilt . . . my husband has always said to me, "No one can MAKE you feel guilty. You do it to yourself." He has a point. It's time for we women to be accountable to ourselves and stop blaming "other people" or "society" or even our own mothers for "making me feel guilty." If you feel that you need time for yourself or you'll go crazy (or become unhealthy), GO FOR IT. BUT, if you feel that your child needs to come first for a season of your life, GO FOR IT. I don't see why there has to be such animosity towards people with differing opinions. I have never commented on this blog before, but I felt compelled after reading all the attacks on ali. Listen, ali is entitled to HER opinion, just as you all are entitled to yours. She has her own perspective. If you open up your mind a little, she may even have some valid points. I’ve even heard of studies out there that have found that QUANTITY time is most definitely AS IMPORTANT as QUALITY time with our children. I know that’s not what working moms want to hear, but don’t shoot me–I’m just the messenger. Re: feeling guilt . . . my husband has always said to me, “No one can MAKE you feel guilty. You do it to yourself.” He has a point. It’s time for we women to be accountable to ourselves and stop blaming “other people” or “society” or even our own mothers for “making me feel guilty.” If you feel that you need time for yourself or you’ll go crazy (or become unhealthy), GO FOR IT. BUT, if you feel that your child needs to come first for a season of your life, GO FOR IT. I don’t see why there has to be such animosity towards people with differing opinions.

]]> By: Michelle http://ronisweigh.com/2007/10/mommy-guilt-should-we-feel-guilty.html/comment-page-1#comment-1744 Michelle Fri, 26 Oct 2007 02:40:00 +0000 http://ronisweigh.com/2007/10/mommy-guilt-should-we-feel-guilty/#comment-1744 Wow thanks for all of the great thoughts. I want to be a good role model for my daughter. I grew up over weight and my mother constantly harped on me about it. To this day she still does. When I got pregnant I changed the way I eat (it did not hurt that I threw up three times a day until I was 25 weeks LOL) I ended up losing weight with my pregnancy (I was over weight to start with and I just became very healthy) With in a month and a half of having her, I was 45lbs lighter then when I got pregnant. I have managed to keep it all off and now I want to move back into a losing mode. For the first time in my life I have a real reason to lose weight. My daughter. I want her to be healthy I want her to be happy. I want her to have a happy healthy Mom. That is part of the reason I joined the Y they have so many great family things and it will be fun for us as she gets a bit older. To take advantage of my Hubby we talked and I am going to start going on Sat and Sun and then one day after school. Three times a week is a really good start for someone like me. As I get more into it, then I will start going after school more often. I need to find a buddy, I do better when someone kicks my butt  <br/><br/>Ali- I don’t want to start something on Roni’s journal, but you don’t know my life. I knew a long time ago that I could not be a SHAM. I like being a teacher. I work with special education students and I enjoy it. It gives my life meaning beyond the identify of wife and mom. Being a teacher allows me certain freedoms that other jobs would not. I do not have my child in a baby factory she is with a very nice lady and one other child. I know many parents that spend more quality time with their children and work than some of the SHAMS I know. I also know some great SHAMS. I admire them just as much as they admire me. We all have our lives to lead. The one thing I have noticed since becoming a mom is that there are many other WOMEN out there who are ready to quickly tear other women down. I am glad that you are a SHAM but you know as much about me as I do about you. I could just as easily say that you park you kid in front of the TV while you surf the net and respond to blogs. See how assuming things can work both ways? Roni I am sorry that I went off on this tangent. I felt the need to address this person. Thank you for this entry. I have only been reading you for a few months, but I find you tips a major source for help. Wow thanks for all of the great thoughts. I want to be a good role model for my daughter. I grew up over weight and my mother constantly harped on me about it. To this day she still does. When I got pregnant I changed the way I eat (it did not hurt that I threw up three times a day until I was 25 weeks LOL) I ended up losing weight with my pregnancy (I was over weight to start with and I just became very healthy) With in a month and a half of having her, I was 45lbs lighter then when I got pregnant. I have managed to keep it all off and now I want to move back into a losing mode. For the first time in my life I have a real reason to lose weight. My daughter. I want her to be healthy I want her to be happy. I want her to have a happy healthy Mom. That is part of the reason I joined the Y they have so many great family things and it will be fun for us as she gets a bit older. To take advantage of my Hubby we talked and I am going to start going on Sat and Sun and then one day after school. Three times a week is a really good start for someone like me. As I get more into it, then I will start going after school more often. I need to find a buddy, I do better when someone kicks my butt 

Ali- I don’t want to start something on Roni’s journal, but you don’t know my life. I knew a long time ago that I could not be a SHAM. I like being a teacher. I work with special education students and I enjoy it. It gives my life meaning beyond the identify of wife and mom. Being a teacher allows me certain freedoms that other jobs would not. I do not have my child in a baby factory she is with a very nice lady and one other child. I know many parents that spend more quality time with their children and work than some of the SHAMS I know. I also know some great SHAMS. I admire them just as much as they admire me. We all have our lives to lead. The one thing I have noticed since becoming a mom is that there are many other WOMEN out there who are ready to quickly tear other women down. I am glad that you are a SHAM but you know as much about me as I do about you. I could just as easily say that you park you kid in front of the TV while you surf the net and respond to blogs. See how assuming things can work both ways? Roni I am sorry that I went off on this tangent. I felt the need to address this person. Thank you for this entry. I have only been reading you for a few months, but I find you tips a major source for help.

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