I received this comment from Michelle the other day.
I am a school teacher and I just had my baby girl four months ago. I am struggling to keep up with everything and be healthy. How do you manage it? Like getting to the gym. I joined the Abingdon YMCA with the intention of stopping after I pick her up from daycare, but I feel guilty for not going home and spend time with her after she was in daycare all day. How do you get over the "Mommy Guilt"?
Ahhh mommy guilt. Oh I know it well. I definitely have it and I don’t think it ever goes away. Does it? Those with older kids please chime in. My little guy is only 2.
So the question is how do we balance what we need do for us with the needs of our children. I think this is tough for all moms, especially working moms. We are away from our little ones all day so how do we justify leaving them again to go to the gym? How do we balance what we need to do for ourselves with being a mommy?
I’m not sure I have the answer. I’m just a mom juggling too many things myself but I can share my insights. First, when my little guy was an infant I didn’t go to the gym. Remember I just started working out at a gym a couple of months ago but that doesn’t mean I didn’t “workout”.
- I went for longs walks normally carrying or ‘wearing’ the baby. I figured the extra weight would do me good. Not that pushing a stroller isn’t workout enough, especially if you need to tackle some hills! Sometimes I’d even get the husband to come with us. I love family walks.
- I made up my own mommy and baby workouts. Whether it was dancing with the baby (just trying and hold a 20lb child with your arms straight out while dancing to James Brown All-Time Greatest Hits!) or laying down and placing him on shins while bouncing him up and down. He loved it and I was burning calories!
Now, I hit the gym and I love every minute of it. Really, I wish I started earlier. I try t go during the workday but it’s not always possible. I’m not going to lie, there are days where I pick up the toddler and go straight to the gym. It only takes me about 40 minutes and afterward the toddler and I play basketball on the open courts.
Does this make me a bad mommy?
I don’t think so.
In my opinion, I’m setting a good example for the little guy. He already knows what the gym is and enjoys going. We get to be active together as a family and I think that’s great. He will grow up seeing his mom take care of herself and know how important it is incorporate physical activity into your daily life. I don’t think I have anything to be guilty about. Others may disagree, but that’s my take. When push comes to shove, a happy mom is a better mom.
As for today, the same thing happened as yesterday. I’m having a week of nighttime munch attacks!
|Morning Scale Reading: 142|
|homemade stromboli from this weekend (trader joes whole wheat pizza dough, broccoli, peppers, lean ham, turkey pepperoni and moz cheese)||7|
|Beef Stew with Orange Fall Veggies and Orzo||7|
|8 oz light flavored yogurt||2|
|94% ff popcorn big bag||4|
|Whole Wheat Pumpkin Muffin||2|
|4 Halloween Brownie Bites (that’s right, FOUR)||3|
|Daily Activity Log|