One Mom’s Journey from Fat to Skinny to Confident

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Self-fulfilling Prophecies

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I’m HOME!! When I walked through the door I said, “That’s it! I’m not going anywhere for 6 months!” Then my husband turned around and responded, “don’t forget next weekend we have a wedding out of state.” Geesh! WHEN will it END?

So I have a confession. After I posted last night I did hit the Hershey kisses again, then I made popcorn and THEN I ate about 6 chocolate chip cookies. I’m not kidding. I was out of control! That’s what I meant about my post yesterday. I know my food journal (at that point) wasn’t horrendous it was more the feeling of wanting to eat constantly. I kept it in check most of the day by turning to melon but I just couldn’t shake it. Honestly, I don’t think it would have mattered if I was at Mom’s or not it was one of “those” days. Today was just as bad. Why does this happen to some of us? I know I can’t be the only one.

You know I have to analyze this, right?

Did I post about it being too hard at my Mom’s and then made it true by splurging on the available snacks? I sure wasn’t hungry. Could I have controlled myself or did I, in some way, give my self permission to overeat by saying it was too hard with all the temptations?

Then I started to think about self-fulfilling prophecies and allowing negative messages to invade your mind that slow down your progress and turn success into failure. Don’t we all do this? I know I did it for years. I’m still doing it after reaching and maintaining my goal weight for over a year. The only way I know how to stop it is to accept yourself, what you did and move on.

Back to basics, that’s what I say. Tomorrow I will be starting a fresh week. I will be going to a meeting and weighing in. Facing the music, being accountable and doing what I do best. Expect some new recipes, ideas and updates. I’m hitting it hard core this week! ;~)




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There are 12 comments so far.

    Susany

    July 27, 2007

    Welcome Home Roni! I’m sure this will be a great week:)

    Amy

    July 27, 2007

    Roni,
    The SAME thing happens to me every time I go home to visit my family in MI. It’s something about being home and all the food that’s around that I don’t have in my house. It’s SO hard to not get out of control. And in the past, I’ve always had trouble. But, I think you need to just forget about it and move on. Just like you’re doing. I’ve found that if I dwell on it and beat myself up about it, it’s just damaging emotionally, you know? There’s more to life than what we look like and what we eat. :>)

    Steph

    July 27, 2007

    Amy – what a great comment!!! Roni I agree wholeheartedly – sometimes life is just tough and staying OP is tough but the good thing is that you already know what your secrets are so you can fall back to the “old school” stuff and get right back to where you want to be…….you’re an overachiever and you expect so much out of yourself sometimes – you do so much for so many of us and we fail to even say thank you!! SO THANKS – we are all pulling for you – next week will be positively fabulous!!!

    Kim

    July 27, 2007

    hi there,
    I have been mainitaing for about 1 year (a liitle more) I got this site off another fellow WW blog. I have not read through everything but so fat I love the idea of what its telling me
    http://www.intuitiveeating.com/

    :)Kim

    Anonymous

    July 28, 2007

    Hi Roni, I am having the same sort of problem the past couple of days. I just can’t stop eating. This I think is fulled by my students giving me boxes of chocolates as an end of term gift (Why can’t they just bring me flowers?!?) I am off to the gym this morning and trying for a good weekend.

    Wondering if you still have the recipe for a dessert that was on your old site…it was some sort of pumpkin loaf with apple sauce, not really sure, but i don’t think it is on here.

    Calyn

    July 28, 2007

    Welcome home…and yes, it happens to all of us! The best thing you can do is what you have planned…get back on track and chock it up as a lesson learned! Have a great weekend! And sorry you have to leave home again! GEESH, you definetely need a break! ((hugs))

    Amanda

    July 28, 2007

    Ah… now I get it. :) Happens to everyone, and for me it’s also motivation to hit it hard again. Oddly that is usually followed by a large loss for me, go figure.

    Here’s to hitting it hard this week! Woooo! :)

    Emily Henderson

    July 28, 2007

    Roni,
    I think what really sets the maintainers apart from those that regain is the insightfulness like what you display. You have to know and understand your particular body and situation and find ways to create a weight control plan that works for you (which clearly you have done!) You know that ups and downs will have but you also know that you’re in control of the situation (even after a splurge!) So have confidence that you’ll hit the ground running and turn things around. Being on maintence over 2 years now, I keep myself in check by remembering how hard it was to lose such a large amount of weight (40 lbs for me.) To me, getting back on track before things get way out of hand is much easier than starting the program all over again…and I’ve come so far I know I can do anything I set my mind to! Good luck finishing your hectic summer- try to enjoy the time with your family even if it is spent running around crazy!

    Emily

    Talysa

    July 28, 2007

    Roni,

    You are such a blessing to us when you share your mistakes. We all have moments of weakness (like last night @ Logans when my DH ordered the Brownie explosion or whatever it is called!) But to see someone that has succeeded, maintained, and still going strong slip up and write about it, makes us all feel so normal and helps us to forgive ourselves. I am curious if anyone else has a day or two right before their cycle that they could eat the paint off the walls like I could!?!?!? It seems impossible to get that full feeling during that time.

    Great work! Thanks for sharing and motivating us all!

    Anonymous

    July 28, 2007

    We all go through this – I have been “going through this” for all of my adult life. Thank you for always being so honest and an excellent model for all of us – all we can do is get back on the wagon. I know you will have a fantastic week.

    Courtney

    July 28, 2007

    I think that by giving into eating when you’re not hungry or just because its there is just you being real. I’ve often thought about thin people and have concluded that either a) it really is natural to them or b) they work so hard that they never ever give into anything. Eating and just giving into temptations is you being real. It doesn’t mean you’re going to gain back the (is it 70?) amazing pounds that you lost! You have yourself in check and aren’t turning it into, “Well, I started now, I might as well just keep on eating…” That in and of itself is the victory! Cheers to a kickin’ week!

    Joyce

    July 28, 2007

    I hear you Roni,
    Still 1,000 miles away from home at my mom’s and I’m skipping WI this week.
    Damage control and getting back on track will happen after I get back home next week.
    I certainly FEEL fatter, so for sure the scale reflects it!
    I can’t WAIT to get back home and back to my groove!
    You take care!
    Joy